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bestfriend and i crushing and ruining friendship
my friend(i grew up with and best friends on and off) and I liked eachother off and on but never did anything about it-one time he crushed me now i dont trust people and in depression-I cant stay mad at him-were on spring break and hes gone half across the country-weve exting eachother recently which we never have before. hes all i want to talk to and i think about-he worst two possible things to happen right now is loose him as a friend again OR not do anything and then we move-im hurt either way-he says it gets awkward now that he nos I like him back-hes shy when it comes to girls although hes never been shy around me-last time we lost being friends I couldn’t take it my life was hell whats the right way…? In real life hes usually the one doin the flirting face to face but I do too but over texting or phone he barley talks what can I do he comes back Saturday and we go back the Monday and I doubt he can do anything Saturday. Over texting i asked him to come to the mall when he gets back but he says it smells weird(wtf?) so he don’t like it or go somewere but not sure were or go to either of our houses but last time I had 2 girls and him over for new years and my brother had a lot of people and he ignored me he AVOIDED me when I would come over to him. He had a excuse for last time I invited him over I don’t wana loose our friendship but I love him and his best friend says he loves me but when I mention anything he says he doesn’t anymore what can I dooo?
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You need to ask yourself if this person and the situation is right for you to pursue it further? Why is he avoiding you? It could be that he's very shy and on to the fact you like him more than a friend.
Maybe he doesn't know how to deal with your feelings and his. Maybe this is the first time he's ever been here with a girl. He looks like he's just scared and downright shy and or intimidated by you now that you both see each other differently.
I think you should approach him and ask "Why have you been avoiding me?" and get a straight forward answer out of him. Tell him you want to keep your friendship going and don't want to lose it but that he has to put effort in too.
Lay everything on the table and tell him there's potential here for a boy/girl relationship but only if he's ready and willing to trust you. That's the key thing he doesn't know how to trust you or have trust in what could unfold. You need to make sure you don't come across as intimidating to him as right now he doesn't know how to talk to or approach you. Make it easier on him.
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