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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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My friend is jealous that this year I made a new friend and now she is spreading mean rumors about me cuz shes jealous what do I do?? Much Luv

~~Mackie~~

Just to tell you, she isn't your true friend. A friend would never do something low like that. You need to explain to her that just because you made a new friend doesn't mean she should do that to you. You all can be friends and just hang out. If she won't stop, just ignore her. She will see it doesn't bother you so she won't do it anymore. At least you and your friends know that those rumors aren't true.

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i'm a really dark brunette.
and i've been considering going blonde

yes or no?

and if i did get it done,
they'd be able to dye my eyebrows too right?

oh and is it true that if you have dark hair
you're eyebrows shld be atleast one shade lighter than you're hair color?

thanks, i rate.

♥

Since your hair is dark brown, dying your hair blonde won't turn out really good and it won't turn blonde right away. You need to start dying your hair lighter shaded and then blonde. Yes they will be able to dye your eyebrows as well. It doesn't have to be a shade lighter, but that's for you to choose. For your hair, it's better to match the eye brows and hair color as close as you can.

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Hey guys..well i have a question..obviously. Im obsessed with the band Good Charlotte, and have been for about 4 or 5 years..but people always tell me stuff. Im tired of them thinking my music sucks more then theirs because its not "poser" music. I feel like i got more balls then THEY DO cause its harder to admit you like music that will get people to tell you crap the it is to be the crap talker. What should i do?

Why do they care what kind of music you listen to?? They are a good band and you can listen and like any music you want to. Don't listen to them because they are being immature people that don't have a clue about what they are talking about. Ignore them. Not everyone likes the same music and there is nothing wrong with that.

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my cousin is getting married next august. im really close to her and we're trying to pick a good song for at the reception when they announce the people and they walk down. she wants a real fun party song like "Here For The Party" by Gretchen Wilson or "Let's Get This Party Started" by Pink. it doesnt have to have the word 'party' in it but can you help us think of any?!?! thankx... &hearts

I'll search for some and then let you know. You should ask a public question for more responces.

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okaii well im goin out with this kid cory adn this other kid chris likes em snd me and cory jsut started goin out and i dont no him to good but last nitte he told me everything adn i fell in love wihtj him and now this other kid chris likes me and i kinda like him because i liekd him before i went otu wiht cory and now chir sis sayin he loves me and stuff and cory didnt call em all day adn i liek both but cory alittle more and i dont kno whta to do ?? help me!!!

You should keep going out with Cory because you seem to like him a lot more and you should see what will happen between you too. Chris had his chance, but right now he needs to accept the fact that you have a boyfriend. You should still talk to Chris and be friends with him and nothing more. You never know what will happen between you and Cory. ♥

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is it possible to like two guys? see i like both alot but i also like one A LITTLE more than the other but i still like both! lol confusing

Of course it's possible. I'm sure plenty of girls were in a situation like this. It's normal. ♥

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ok your rele good @ this you got that other prob. rite on the nail lol but yah neways ok i have this friend and i cant trust her at all. everything i tell her she goes off and tells one of my rele good guy friends. i cant do nething embarassing in front of her because she will tell the guy i was tellin you about earlier or my best guy friend ever(i call him my brother) lol but neways i dont no what to do because i want to talk to her about stuff but i dont know how to do it so i can feel like i can trust her with everything i tell her my other friends think this 2 and i mean she only listens to guys. they could tell her the exact same thing i tell her and she would only listen if a guy tells her. it drives me crazy!! do i talk 2 her about it or just let it go and not say nething just dont tell her stuff?

Well, the thing is when people are like that talking to them won't make them change and it won't make them not gossip more. That's just the type of person she is. You really do need to talk to her and you shouldn't be all nice about it eather. She listens to guys because she thinks they're more serious. I don't know how to exactly explain it, but it's just that guys seem to make it seem like it's a big deal sometimes so don't say anything! Anyways, when you talk to her tell her that she is being really rude telling people stuff and that you wish you could talk to her about things. If I were you, I'd also tell her that she has a big mouth and needs to keep it shut if she wants to keep her friends. What she is doing to you and maybe your friends is really low and mean. Don't put up with it or ignore it because eather way she will keep doing it. If she has nothing to talk about, she will find something.

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I love this guy and I think he might like me but he doesnt say anything about it hes kinda shy and i want to know how to tell if a guy likes you

~Mackie

I answered a question like this yesterday. I'll give you some signs that he might. ♥ Try to catch him staring at you. If he stares and you stear back, he probablly might like you. Now this doesn't mean if he looks at you just once or twice, but often. ♥ Look if he smiles at you a lot. ♥ When you are with your friends, look if he notices you or if he looks for you. ♥ Pay attention if he has payed more interest in your friends. ♥ Pay attention if he has changed his behavior towards you lately. ♥ Start to show him a little more interest and see how he will respond to that. ♥ If a guy likes you, he will usually find any way to get your attention. Guys who aren't shy will talk to you and flirt. He also might find ways to get closer to you. Like anything really. Hope that helped.

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k how do i get my eyelashes darker and thicker and kinda get them to pop out (my eyes)

Use mascara. ;) It works. Then buy an eye lash curler and it will make them curl and look bigger.

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Hi!

Since you also do xanga could you please tell me a site that as good music? All the ones I have a rap & I HATE rap! :)

Thanks *

http://www.xanga.com/musicURL < That website is really good. Also, http://www.xanga.com/Music_Whore__x3

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If you had a choice would you get a BMW or Corvette?

I would choose a BMW. I love those cars and I think they are better.

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my boyfreind is terrible at makeing out, and just kissing in general. is there anything i can do to help him inprove, becuase wow, when we try to make out, its just gross, i hate it, thankss!

The more you keep practacing the better he will get. You can also tell him, but I don't know how that will help him improve. Practice makes better.

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ok so theres this guy and he talks 2 me on the phone and at school a lot and he flirts with me all the time and hes my ex but sometimes he still likes me but sometimes he hates me for really stupid reasons like he is mad at me right now cause i wouldnt sing a song 2 him and he was so sweet to his old gf like a year ago but he never treated me that good and i keep falling for him but then he gets mad at me and my life is miserable so what do i do? i think he likes one of my best friends soetimes but sometimes he likes me and he keeps touching girls rite in front of me just 2 like get me mad or soemthin and i dont no wat to?!? and just now i was talking to him and hes like yah you flirt w/ anthony(another guy i used to like) and im like well you flirt w/ a lotta girls 2 and hes like well dont say shit to me and now he hates me but on monday in english(he sits rite behind me and is always flirting w/ me) hes gonna act like nothings wrong and try to laugh it off when hes makin me miserable. he did this last weekend to and im tired of it but i want to be with him sooo bad what do i do?!?! plz help!!

Wow, if I were you, I wouldn't want anything to do with him. I know that it might be hard for you just to say screw him and not like him anymore, but you really should try and not care if he gets mad at you or not. It's always a stupid reason and it's not even your fault. He gets mad at you because he wants your attention and he just wants you to be like don't be mad at me! Don't kiss his ass for it though and make him feel better. He doesn't deserve to be treated nicely so don't. Tell him if he's going to act immature and childish that he can just fu*k off and leave you alone until he grows up. He needs to loose the attitude! ♥

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The first time you make out, is it 'scary'? I know that sounds weird, but I would imagine it would be that way. How do you know when someone's about to kiss you? Can they usually tell if you've never made out before? Help! :)

If you want to make out with someone you like, then it's not scary. You might be a little nervous if you never done it before, but you just need to relax. You won't mess up and you just go with the flow. When someone is about to kiss you you WILL be able to tell. I mean they will start to make moves and it's something you'll relize once you're in that position. You really can't tell if someone has made out or not before unless they are really bad at it and that they don't have a clue in what they are doing.

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18/f. I have a very close guy-friend. Occasionally when he comes over to mine (or I go to his), and he (or I) can't get home (e.g. he comes to my place on his bike, I don't like him to ride home at 3am, it's not too safe around here) then he stays over. He'll sleep in my (single) bed, and we usually end up snuggled up to close each other (e.g. both lying on our sides facing the same way with his arm around me).
My question is - is this ok for our relationship? - I don't want to date him, I don't want our friendship to turn into something further. We are both single. Is it ok to sleep together like this, or will it damage our friendship in the long run?

It's fine unless you don't want it to be. If you guys find nothing wrong with it, then don't worry about it. It's nothing serious though and it won't ruin your friendship unless you guys choose too. My opinion on this is that it's okay to do it. I mean you're just laying down, not doing anything really. ♥

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im 14f there is this guy i like i have know since i was a baby but we never really talked but now i talk to him like everyday online but when ever i see him in person he is like shy or something to talk iuno if thats true or wateva because a couple people think that he likes me?? i really like him what should i do to get him to talk to me in person or to do something to try to move this faster?

It is always soo much easier to talk to someone you like eather online or on the phone. If he is shy to talk to you in person then he might like you. That's how a lot of people are. If you want to talk to him, just start a conversation first. Ask questions and he will answer and he'll get more comfrable talking to you. Just say heyy, what's up. Invite him to go somewhere with you and your friends and his friends. Just talk more and he will get used to everything.

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hayy i'm mande && i'm a pouplaur cheerleader like the boys always coming on me* my friend is my best friend like forever && she is co -captin she also likes my ex-b/f!! should i let her go out with him>? i'm so confused

If you still like him then maybe it would be a bad idea if they went out. It might make you jelous or make you feel okward. On the other hand, she is your best friend. She likes him and she should have a chance with him. Never let any guy come between your friendship. Just remember that. This is really your decision. ♥

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so tonight i was at a big party type thing..and i notice this guy kind of looking at me from the corner of his eye and purposely turning it seemed to look at me. i picked it up that he was doing it..but i thought nothing of it until later..he started doing "laps" around me when i was talkng to my friends. he went from one part of the room where everyone was all the way to where i was with my friends *it wasnt nearly as crowded..* he did this a couple times! my friends thinks he likes me..when they told him to talk to me he said he was shy. where do i go from here? we dont really talk so help me out from the beginning pleaseee!! this is just new for me because usually the guy likes one of my friends..i happen to have very pretty friends..ok thanks to anyone who tries :)

I think he does like you. It's kind of creepy that he was ALWAYS trying to be by you. Lol. Anyways, since you guys don't really talk, start talking to him. You should start saying hey first since he is shy. The more you talk, the more you will be comftrable with each other and the more you will get to know each other.

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this may sound weird but i have these bumps on my upper leg. they look like shve bumps but i rarely ever shave all the way up there. are they acne? how do i get rid of them? please help.

It's not acne its probablly exama. It's normal and a lot of girls get them. It's nothing big and it's normal. Go to a store or call your doctor and he will give you a cream for it to go away.

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is it a sin to kiss before marriage if your a christian?

No. Having sex is.

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