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sorry if this sort of detailed, or gross!
okay so i cant use a tampon ive tried A LOT though.
so today i was in the shower and i guess i used my finger to feel around and see if maybe i was putting it in wrong
so i accidentally stuck my finger up this hole, it mighta been the right one.
but on the tampon package it says put it in towards your lower back
but it felt like my finger was going more towars the front.
alsoo, i guess like when you put a tampon in and take it out and stuff it just seems like itd make you get a little "pleasured". why doesnt it if it doesnt? or do you? because idk.
it just felt..odd when i used my finger (link)
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This link may help mainly because of the diagram. http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html
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is it normal for a 13 year old guy(me) to have never been in a fight, be really sensitive(cry when im angry and when im pissed off/annoyed) and just weird things like that (link)
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Sure, why not? You're human and have emotions like anyone else. Crying is good for and your body's way of releasing all that tension built up when upset, scared, frightened or even in a fight. Just because you're a boy doesn't mean you can't cry.
Keeping stuff bottled up is wrong. So yes, big boys do cry and should but it's that macho BS image thing that makes them think they shouldn't. So, even if you cry a river when upset some time their ain't nothing wrong with it. In fact, if you didn't I would be worried.
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i have the uge to mastrobate and i dont know any other way than use my finger im 15year yearold girl and i want to plese my self and i like like hardcore stuuf with any subject too. any yips? (link)
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NOPE. We can't and won't give out such information as it's a violation of the site's policies. You get banned from the site and can NEVER come back.
Having said that, it's pretty self-explanatory. Figure out what works for you. Even if we could give out such info it would be useless, beyond useless to you. Every guy, every girl finds something totally different pleasurable. I know you're smart enough to try and figure that one out yourself.
Also, you're 15. At 15 you shouldn't be looking at hardcore porn on the Internet or otherwise. It's meant for adults and is not an accurate depiction of sex and relationships. I know you are curious but we cannot and I will not give out information on it to a minor or anyone else.
You'll find that just about every counselor in here will not touch this kind of question due to the rules. I'm sorry if this doesn't help you but rules are rules and for safety as we can't give kids that info. Hope you understand.
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Hey,
I'm working at the moment in a part-time job and find it really hard to have any kind of interaction with workmates . Partly because I am pretty shy and unconfident, I feel like a just have a really boring life and have nothing to talk about. And partly because I worry that I will look like I'm not working hard or will distract people.
I really need to sort this out a bit because I'm thinking of taking a year off study and working full-time,in a bar or something, and moving out of home (where I live with parents.)
Sorry if this is long. Thanks.
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Worrying won't get you anywhere and nor will the belief that you lead a boring existence. You have to chuck that out of your mind and know that you're just as cool as anyone else.
These people will want to know more about you. Just be causal and talk with them on breaks for starters. In fact, your employers will want to see you are socializing with other workers as it shows them you're a team player.
As long as you work hard, do what you were assigned to and give others room to work socializing when it's appropriate should be fine. When it comes to talking to others ask about their interests, don't talk about yourself unless asked questions and see where it leads.
My advice to you is join something like toastmasters or take a drama course that forces you to socialize and work with others and trust them. This will help you out in life a lot as would volunteering.
There's NOTHING wrong with you. You just have to start believing that people will like you and that you have lots of good things to say and have no reason not to have a ton of friends. You see, if you believe anything less than that you're shutting yourself down and off from what you seek.
Just be who you are and let the chips fall where they may. You also should see a therapist to work on people skills, socializing and the fears you mentioned above. If they can give you pointers you can use to succeed that would be ideal for you.
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sorry this is a wierd question and everything but what's a cameltoe?? (link)
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It's when a woman wears a pair of pants that don't fit well or are tight and you can see the outline of her vulva as the clothing bunches up in the crotch area. It's called a camel toe because it looks like one.
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I am 26 years old and just recently started dating a guy about a month ago. We are having major major problems in the bedroom! He is always starting it off by kissing me all over fingering me and licking me, and then when i touch him he is soft.I am used to guy getting hard right away when we kiss passionately or he touches me. This one is a real challenge to get hard. I give him head and he is still soft. It gets pretty discouraging for me, I dont know what to do. I asked him if he has a problem, cause after all he is 36 so it might be getting to be an issue, He said no he has never had the problem before. I asked if he was attracted to me and he said YES. So where is the problem? am i the one doing this all wrong? Please help me. THere is a total blockage in the bedroom and this shouldnt be happening at all.
we are in love, he treats me well, always complimenting me and telling me i am beautiful, he is infatuated by me, so where the hell is the problem? I cant seem to figure it out! He says he is really nervous, and again last night we tried and he said he wasnt horny at all and hung over but that he would make it up to me, but he says that every single night. I cant take it anymore ahhhh we have talked about it numerous times and he knows i am not satisfied but nothing changes. He says that he wants me to kiss him and try to turn him on without going straight to the BJ but I am not usedt o giving attentin like that at all. Anyone have tips (especially guys) on how i can turn him on! I am totally turned on by him but we just do foreplay all the time because he doesnt get hard so having sex with a guy that is soft is no fun at all~.
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It's FEAR of something be it rational or otherwise that usually is what is causing this. He may fear an STD, your opinion of his performance or fear of getting you pregnant.
He also could have a lot of hang ups about sex. Then again he may not have much experience with intercourse. Any chance you're his first? There well could be. Unless he has been injured he should at his age have no problem with erections. But yes, fear can cause them fade.
Talk to him and tell him to be honest about his fears or if there is anything affecting his ability to perform. If he just started a new medication perhaps you're dealing with sexual side-effects. Have him see a urologist.
Don't dump him for this as that would be shallow. Things can get better if you work things out and tell him what you enjoy and coach him. Be patient with him as I'm sure if it's inexperience or lack of confidence that if you're patient it will work out and his confidence and performance gets better.
More or less, unless it's a physical and medical issue it's something in his head that psyches him out. Get to the root of that and things improve. A common fear guys have at first is of hurting their partner.
You mentioned he always does the same thing in the same order each time. That's why I think he may be a virgin aside from those things and intercourse is overwhelming. Again, talk to him and get it out.
Explain that it's hurting and or ruining the relationship. You like him a lot tell him but need to sort out this other important part of a relationship.
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this just happened on friday. so how long do i have to wait (link)
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Honestly not sure as I'm male. The pharmacist can tell you how long to wait to take the test. Usually most people wait for their period to come and if it doesn't then they do the test. However,do go to the drugstore now and talk to a pharmacist privately and ask them that.
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and since i took the morning after pill anyways. then i am just worrying for nothing right?
p.s. thanks for your help (link)
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Probably. But do yourself a big favor and go to a drugstore. Buy a digital pregnancy test. They're the most accurate at about 80% and then you can rest at is. No more worries once you do that. That's all you can do and what's left to do.
Then after that make sure you use protection and be cautious with skin to skin contact unless on birth control which you should get sorted out also. If you're going to be sexually active you ought to be on it. At your age you can't afford a mistake or an accident that leads to life long commitment.
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16/f.
i love to masterbate.
but then i get this really big orgasm, and i dont want to feel horny anymore. i always tell myself before hand that i will continue to masterbate after my orgasm, but i never go through with it. its like i dont have a desire to or i feel like its stupid after i orgy.
:/ is this bad? how can i fix it? i want to masterbate more! (link)
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Everything they have told you below is accurate. I just wanted to add that a lot of women can't or don't want further stimulation after climax. Their genitals especially the clitoris is often too sensitive and irritated for it. At any rate you're normal.
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so if there wasnt any sperm released then i'm fine then right.. (link)
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Should be. Sperm must always meet an egg for conception. If it didn't and there was no release of semen or pre-cum then there's no way to be pregnant.
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my boyfriend and i were fooling around and his penis was next to my vagina but he never pre-ejaculated or ejaculated, nor had he prior to us fooling around. i took the morning after pill that morning just to be on the safe side because i got paranoid. i know its a stupid question cause you need sperm to get pregnant, but i cant get pregnant from that right?
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If you got the morning after pill and took it within the window of time it says you need then you should be fine. There also wasn't any presence of semen or pre-cum that contain sperm so that *may* be alright.
It takes either one for conception. If worried take a pregnancy test. I suggest that if you are going to full around in a sexual manner to have protection as being skin to skin with genitals is high risk otherwise if not on BC. That's my opinion.
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okay so i got my lip pierced last wednesday, the 23rd. today is thursday the 31st. so its been a little over a week. now, if i move it a certain way, theres a dull pain. i've been cleaning it&everything, but i've been having to take it out&put it back in for various reasons. i'm pretty sure it's not infected; it's not burning or pussing or anything. but yeah. is this normal ? also, the backing is cutting into the inside of my lip. (i have a stud) how can i keep it from doing this ? thanks so much ! (link)
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If I were you I would call the body piercing parlor where you had it done. Ask to speak to the person who did it. Tell them exactly what is happening and find out if it's normal. They'll know what you need to do and can tell you what kind of pain or soreness is normal versus not.
That's what they are there for to answer all these things and make you informed before and after the procedure. They should have given you a sheet about aftercare with instructions on what you need to do and what isn't normal or needs to be seen by a doctor. See what's on that again. That's the first place I would look net to phoning them.
Google will have a ton of sites but if you go through About.com they have a site (I forget the link) to body piercing knowledge you need to know. You can always contact their guides who will e-mail back (eventually). All else fails call the shop that did it as they know what they did exactly to you and what ain't right.
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How do I get a clean, completely hairless looking pubic region with little-to-no irritation?
I want a very smooth vaginal area without shaving it. I know there are a few options out there but I'm uncertain which is best (longest, smoothest results with the least irritation). I know there is:
Nair or Depilatory Creams for private areas (but I'm uncertain if it's alright to get near the vagina itself)
Laser Hair Removal (currently I don't believe I can afford this)
Electrolysis (I also believe I cannot afford this either)
Waxing (I have no idea how to do this so if it's the best option please give instructions; or is it best to see a professional for a Brazilian wax instead of trying it at home? Any information please!)
Sugaring (I have only heard of this, so if its the best option please give instructions and details)
I'm simply looking for any information on hair removal, including how long removal typically lasts per method. I'm completely clueless and have never used any of the mentioned methods above (or any other method if there is any more that I am unaware of).
Direction to certain websites are appreciated, along with your personal experiences and opinions on what to do. Thanks! (link)
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If you search Google under how to remove... tons of sites come up with instructions (none are graphic but descriptive in words). Your question falls into a grey area with the policy about being banned if we give how to info on anything related to sexuality.
That's why you may find there's not a lot of people answering--at least not those that know about the how-to rule. Having said that, I've heard horror stories on here and elsewhere about Nair. It's not meant to go near the vaginal area. I know that much is true.
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hes seventeen, I'm sixteen, we're both going to be juniors.. we've been going out since new years day. we'had sex a lot of times, all protected. I'm allergic to latex, so we have to get the non-latex condoms... and I'm on birth control. but, I normally start my period in the last week of each month, and I haven't started yet.
he just told me on Monday he's moving to Texas in two weeks.. (we live in Indiana. ) I'm going to wait a few days before taking a pregnancy test, but i'm still scared. what should I do? I told I'm there's a possibility I'm pregnant, and he said if it comes down to it j can move with him. hes living with his brother abd his wife, and they're really sweet... my mom will literally kill me, because I'm hoping to get a scholarship for swimming to go to college... im really not wanting to get an abortion, but having it will ruin my swimming career.
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Calm down. Right now you have a ton of what if statements running through your head. That's normal given the circumstances but WHAT IF isn't FACT. You don't know if you're pregnant until you take a pregnancy test which you haven't done (yet). You could be perfectly fine.
You used condoms and none broke (I assumed) and you're on BC. You've done all you can do to be safe short of abstinence. It's also possible sometimes to have late periods or even to psychologically scare yourself out of one (or so I read somewhere).
Right now it's best to be calm and not worry about your swimming career or any of that. Head to a local drugstore and buy one of the digital pregnancy tests (more accurate and easy to use) and then get the result. Freaking out before finding out is bad.
You can also get tested at a planned parenthood clinic anonymously or at teen clinics in some high schools these days. Bottom line take the test and find out for certain. As for mom and dad if you're pregnant be honest. They might be pissed off but once that fades they'll always be there for you. When have they ever let you down?
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i kno a lot of these questions are asked.. but my boyfriend just fingered me the other night and i feel like i should repay him n give him a handjob.. but i have no idea what to do.. i mean i understand the overall concept you have to go up and down firmly but not to firm.. but thats not helping me.. i'm too nervous. (link)
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Like the person below said we can't go into detail. However, even if you did get that kind of info which you won't here or went to search engines it would be no good to you. Why? every guy is different when it comes to what is pleasurable and what isn't.
He's the expert ultimately on his anatomy and what he finds pleasurable so you should ask him so there's no awkwardness about this. Also if you are nervous or uncomfortable or unsure you should go about any of this that's fine.
It's indicator you maybe should wait for now and actually talk to your boyfriend first about your concerns. Let him know your idea was to reciprocate but didn't know if you were ready and didn't want to be embarrassed or in a situation both of you felt uncomfortable with.
Remember one thing you don't owe him anything sexually so don't put pressure on yourself to do something you really feel nervous about.
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I have a friend I work with who was raped as a child by family members. Now later in life she has her own family and children, but things from the past keep comeing up and it's very hard for her to deal with.It's affecting her relationship with her husband, both sexually and emotionally. She needs to know how she can talk to her husband about the rape so that she can cope with what has happened and try to move on with the future. Any help you have on this or sites where she could get advice on how to begin to talk about these issues would be very helpful.
thank you A worried friend (link)
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You need to level with her and tell her honestly that if she keeps it in it will destroy her. Tell her she can't let the monster who did this to her as a child continue to victimize her and kill her marriage.
Let her know that talking to a counselor or a psychiatrist is NOTHING to be ashamed of and the sooner she does the better life will get.
As far as telling the husband goes it's difficult and there's no clear cut way. He's going to know that it's not her fault first and foremost and secondly that the problems in the marriage and her disinterest in sex isn't his fault either. A lot of healing will come of her just being honest and letting it out. Do what you can to encourage her to do so.
Incidentally, if you know someone else who lived through the nightmare she did that can talk to her confidentially that may help. If you use Google for your area there will be tons of groups, site, books you can point her too. Offer to attend any of the sessions or counseling if she needs you. You're a good friend as most people wouldn't act or try to figure out how they could.
The therapist or psychiatrist for that matter can help her and him through their intimacy issues surrounding their marriage and what happened to her. Eventually she'll see that her husband would never use intimacy in a way that scares her. He's in the dark right now. If she tells him you can bet their marriage will be ten times stronger over time and she'll trust him enough to enjoy healthy sexuality.
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13-F
I'm gonna be 14 in a few days. I usually masturbate during my showers. I refuse to do other wise. But 2 showers ago I wanted to try something a bit bigger then what I use [I use the handle of my razor] This was a rounded containor onject about the size of the micro-phone from mario party 7 [I hope some people know what im talking about] anyway, it was in a bit and it didnt seem like it wa gonna go anymore. I pushed in lightly just once more time to test it and I had the slightest feeling of a tiny rip and it could go in
Did I pop my cherry?
No blood came out
It didnt hurt
I really wanted to save that for when I find someone I love enough to actually have sex with
How can I tell if I did pop my cherry? (link)
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Hymen's don't actually pop. They stretch. They can be stretched without you noticing especially if you are athletic and do rigorous sports or use tampons. Masturbation can do it as well as penetration.
Just because it stretched doesn't mean you aren't a virgin or won't be viewed as one by your partner. It's more common for the hymen to have been stretched by tampon usage etc.
You have to be careful about the objects you use. This wasn't meant for this purpose and you forced it. You probably cut or scrapped inside the vaginal wall or caused a tear as it's extremely sensitive. It will heal but be sure if you ever use objects that they are meant for this purpose, have no jagged edges, can't get stuck or lost and aren't something you force.
I'm not sure your hymen stretched as usually (from what I've learned) it's accompanied by light blood and or spotting. That didn't happen which leads me to believe you scrapped or tore something internal. Depending on the individual it may not be noticeable or hurt necessarily.
You're fine but are wiser knowing that it's not a good idea to use objects not meant for this especially if they must be forced, aren't clean or rough and jagged.
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Okay. So I don't know what to do as far as organization for school this year. Last year I used a separate binder for each subject, as I did the year before. I was organized, but bringnig that many books home was always a hassle, and my shoulder was strained every day from carring my bookbag home everyday.
I'm going to be a junior this year... and I don't know what to do! I was thinking about getting a notebook for each subject (each about 500 pages) and then 2 of those portfolio-like things that have 5 different folders (i don't know how to explain them, i hope you know what im talking about ) to put worksheets & whatever else in them.
Does that sound like a good idea? If not, any other suggestions?
Suggestions would be very useful, thank you. (link)
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Sounds like you could use a shopping cart to lug all that stuff around. I think what you need to do is get a schedule with all your class times and days written on it.
You can then use that to know exactly what binders to leave at home versus bring every single day. I like the idea of having ONE 500 page notebook divided into different subjects as well as your folder idea. Keep the folder with you in your locker and you should be fine.
All you need is one notebook that size and a smaller book where you list homework assignments to keep you organized and free of all binders and a heavy book bag. You're certainly on the right track.
Ask your friends and fellow classmates what they do to handle all the materials from class and not have heavy backpacks to lug around. They will have tons of ideas. You should also talk to your parents about the weight of your bag and all the books hurting your shoulders, neck and back. They might have a solution.
You should also bring up your problem to your teachers and tell them that it's hurting to lug around all the books and binders at once. They may have solutions also. Bottom line is you only need certain books and materials on certain days. Once you figure out your schedule you can eliminate the need to carry that shit around everywhere.
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i have 4 brothers 1 of them is 18 and a total asshole he blames me on everything and is an idiot to my parents he is deaf and thinks he is special for that he tells my parents there stupid and horrible i dont know what im suppose to do to keep my parents from just becoming emotional any advice? (link)
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Forgive him for his behavior. Let him know how you feel about it. Odds are he's using it to get attention or people to do more for him than they have. He's clearly upset and isn't communicating his frustrations in the right way. All he wants I can bet is for you to listen and take note.
Imagine how frustrating it must be to be him and unable to hear or get things across other than sign language? maybe he feels your parents are stupid and horrible because they aren't paying attention to him like they do with you.
You need to work it out with him and your family and make changes so you communicate better without constant fighting. He's not an asshole. If you think of anyone as such you'll never get anywhere dealing with them.
One day in the not so distant future you'll be proud he is your brother or may need his help. Do what you can to deal with this with him and your family to restore that relationship before you loose it as an adult.
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I am 21yrs my penis foreskin is uncircumscribed please tell me how to make the foreskin of the penis to go back to make the penis head come out?
Is there any problem with the uncut penis?
i am a healthy man (link)
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Read this: http://teenpuberty.com/index.php?section=male&page=foreskin
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