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i have 4 brothers 1 of them is 18 and a total asshole he blames me on everything and is an idiot to my parents he is deaf and thinks he is special for that he tells my parents there stupid and horrible i dont know what im suppose to do to keep my parents from just becoming emotional any advice?
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Forgive him for his behavior. Let him know how you feel about it. Odds are he's using it to get attention or people to do more for him than they have. He's clearly upset and isn't communicating his frustrations in the right way. All he wants I can bet is for you to listen and take note.
Imagine how frustrating it must be to be him and unable to hear or get things across other than sign language? maybe he feels your parents are stupid and horrible because they aren't paying attention to him like they do with you.
You need to work it out with him and your family and make changes so you communicate better without constant fighting. He's not an asshole. If you think of anyone as such you'll never get anywhere dealing with them.
One day in the not so distant future you'll be proud he is your brother or may need his help. Do what you can to deal with this with him and your family to restore that relationship before you loose it as an adult.
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I can't really say why he acts that way, but I'm guessing that he feels that they're the cause of his problem. Was he born deaf? Or did he just develop it? It's a shame that he has that, but that doesn't in anyway justify him acting that way and treating you and your parents like that. He's 18, he's an adult, there's no reason for him to act like a child and blame things on you. How is he around your other brothers - and how old are they? If they are older maybe they can try to reason with him or set an example of how to act- though he is older and shouldn't need that now.
Obviously that must hurt your parents a lot and it's nice that you care about them. I suppose the best thing you can do is show them how much you care and love them and let them know that he doesn't mean it. Is it just because of his deafness that he feels that way, or are there other things bothering him in his life?
I hope he realizes that your parents are doing what they can for him and stops acting that way. And I hope the best for you and your family.
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