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**** I've been gone quite a long time. However I'm still breathing though it's touch and go. Don't expect me to answer or check in much. ****Welcome to the junkdrawer that is my brain! I know something about many things, and I if I don't know it, I admit that I don't know. That I am constantly finding things I know nothing about and correcting that ignorance keeps me busy and happy. More junk for the drawer.
I love and have experience with many types of animals, including the human. I don't offend easy and I am generally cynical and a smart-butt. I love to drive, read, work on the computer and I spend WAY too much time watching Anime and bidding on ebay.
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16 female. I really love my boyfriend but I'm kinda interested in this other boy that i met. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend for the other guy because im afraid that im going to lose him forever even his friendship. But i don't want to lead the other boy on. Some of my friends say i should choose the other boy and some of my friends say i should stay with my boyfriend. I need to know who i should choose. Please help.
This is not a matter of choice. This is a matter of heart. Interest is not love, my dear, and no relationship is perfect. There is an old cliche that states "The grass is greener on the other side." You need to ask yourself if you would still be as interested in this other guy if you were single. Are you just feeling comfortab;e in your current relationship or are you seriously in love with your boyfriend? This is a serious problem. If you don't think long and hard about your reasons for feeling as you do for each guy and then base your actions on understanding yourself and your emotions, then whatever you do will be the wrong thing. No one can tell you who to love but your heart. Luck and Love!
Ok I must be the luckiest person on the face of the planet. I have been sexually active since I was 16 and haven't had anything horrible happen to me. I have been tested for AIDS on two occasions and have come back clean (teenagers can just be stupid sometimes you just pray it wasn't the wrong time).
I have abstained from sex for a year and a half. My period is very regular, but it is really heavy. It has always been that way. I am 30 ish and will be married next year. I have never been on the pill or any birth control other than condoms. My boyfriend is catholic (and I will be soon), and although he says its up to me, I wonder why do I bother with birth control now? Granted I want to be married at least one to two years before we have children, but the clock is ticking. I am very torn on this because everything seems to be in "working" order, but what if taking birth control wipes out any chance I ever had of having a child? And is anyone trying to use the temperature method to decide if its a good day to have sex? I know it isn't 100%, but I can't imagine just going haphazardly into this.
It will not keep you from ever having children if you start it at this age. In fact there is no saying if it will stop you from getting pregnant 100%. If God wants you to have a child you will regardless of the problems involved. It is suggested that when you want to have a child stop taking the pill and use an alternate form of birth control for at least 2 months to remove the foriegn hormones completely from your system. This is to prevent miscarriage and possible birth defects though the risk is slight in both cases. I know nothing about the temp method. I never really had to worry about pregancy. With my personal condition of anovulation, getting pregnant is nearly impossible. You can't make a baby without an egg afterall. I always figured if I got prego I'd just concider it a miracle and rejoice until I had to birth the damned thing. And C is right, it is your choice. I'm glad he knows that. Big Hug D
I got my hair permed but its finally out. But now my hair is all frizzy and puffy what can I do about that? U use garnie frutics milk but it seems like it dont help
There is this awesome stuff called Nexxus Ensure. It's like 7-15 dollars at Headstart Hair salons depending on the size, but it doesn't take much to work wonders. It lasts a long time, and it is well worth a try. I love the stuff!
at the end of the day this one part of my hair always get greasy and i take shhowers everyday and it still gets greasy i use a good name brand of shampoo and conditioner to but it doesnt seem to help i even leave the conditioner in for 1-2 mins like it says on te bottle but nothing seems to work please help me!!!
The other suggestions are also ggod, but here is another tip. Switch shampoos often. Anytime you use the same shampoo or conditioner too long build up occurs on your hair. It doesn't matter what kind you're using. The switch help keep your hair balanced and stripped on build-up.
What is a good brand of makeup remover that is under $3?? and not NYC
Noxema. IT works great, does wonders against pimples and is fairly cheap. Plus keep some in the fridge during the summer for sunburn. It feels great and helps heal the burn super fast.
what does git-r-done mean?? alot of guys at my school use this term.
A Southern slang contraction made popular I think by the comic Larry the Cable Guy. Git - southern pronunciation of get R - we like r's stands for it Done - should actually be dun to sound correct.
I'm from Alabama, this I know. Get It Done
Ok you are reading too many Gothic novels. You have s's sneaking in where your z's should be.
No, historical romances.
My math teacher is really cool, he is really youn
and he's friends with alot the students. I talk to him alot before class, after class, during advisory, and in class.
The other day I was talking to him before class started and I was wearing semi-new pants. I had the plastic thing that keeps the tag on them,on the side of my thigh really close to my ass. It's really small and clear but he noticed it and took it off for me. I'm wondering if this is innapropriate.
He never really makes me feel uncomfortable but it does seem odd that he noticed something that.
Do you think that this is innapropriate?
Mildly innapropriate, but nothing too bad. I probably would have done the same thing, just because the tag thing was annoying me. Some people can't stand anything out of place. It most likely just caught his eye because it wasn't supposed to be there. Don't freak out about it or think he's making some move on you. If he has never done anything else to make you uncomfortable this should be no reason to start worrying about his intensions. Just forget about it. Luck!
Right I have a christian friend who is like really serious about it, and I some times feel like she is constantly trying to convert me when I've told her that I'm not like her i'm not like a church go-er and it's just i've been bruoght up in a different way to her. I don't want to offend her but can any one suggest ways of making it clear that i don't believe half of what she's saying. (Thanks alot, i rate high!)
Listen to Chaos's answer, but here something else for you. She will grow out of this phase. Every new or reaffirmed Christian goes through a stage where they worry terribly about the people they care about. Some are able to keep silent and just pray for their friends, but some can't. She's expressing her friendship for you and trying to relieve her fear for you at the same time. I know it's a pain when you have different beliefs from your friends and they don't seem to respect that. Fact is they do, but they are not able to separate thier beliefs from from thier concern. What you know and feel is how you live your live. How they believe is how they live thiers. Try to have patience. I understand it's hard, but think about this: I am agnostic which means I have doubts. My sister is a reaffirmed Christian. We live together. I'm still agnostic, and she has finally after a year quit trying to get me to go to church with her. It takes time - Luck and Love!
hey im a 17 year old girl i have a boyfriend how is to much with me but i think hes a woosse... in the way that if im not with him every minute of every day he gets bitchy... if i ask for a night off he bitches... cryies you name it... he does it.. and it just makes me feel bad... and he wins... i feel like im in jail... he says he dosnt mind but the next day he says i hated it and makes me feel bad like i dont what to do... hes driving me insane... and when i try talking abt it he just makes me feel bad... i need help
This is called CONTROLING BEHAVIOR and is not to be tolorated! If he can't respect your needs dump his ass and ignore your feelings of guilt. I had a ex who called every thirty minutes while I was out with my best friend (who USED to be a friend of his too.) This was after three years of marriage. He started with the little things and kept getting worse. End this while you can. Luck and Love!
ok im a girl and i get turned on very easily i guess because anytime i guy touches me in the right way or kisses me or sometimes holds my hand i get really wet "down there".. is that normal for girls to get really wet at the smallest things an to even get wet?!
Totaly normal. As you get older it will lessen. This is one of the main reasons for a high teen pregnancy rate. Your hormones are on a rampage and most EVERYTHING can get you hot.
when the slop of a line is 12/0 (12 over 0) is is 0 or undefined? when the zeros on the top is it 0 or undefined?
There is no division by zero. Invalid operation, therefore undefined. Zero on top I think the answer is 1, but I'm not too positive on that.
If your not supposed to put your hands behind your neck when you do crunches, where are you supposed to put them?
The best I've found is to put your arms straight out beside each raised knee. You can put the across your chest as mentioned by someone else, but that makes then too hard in my opinion. Repeats are better than difficulty to tone these muscles.
REPS - repetition/repeats means how many times you do the exercise, not how hard you make the exercise. Tone means the the firmness and health of a muscle group. Bulk means size. Reps build tone. Difficulty builds bulk. Hope this clearifies.
is it safe to have sex with my wife when she is pregnant?
Yes, and she will enjoy it more during some times of the cycle. If you have specific concerns, talk to your wife's doctor. They will be able to give some basic guidelines for what to expect and when sex is no longer safe for her.
Wow, where to begin...I hope i don't babble too much but, i think it's the only way i can communicate this to you in the shortest amount of time(basically, not having to think about everything i just typed over and over to make it sound good...). I used to have a bad case of Social Anxiety disorder. It was most likely from smoking too much pot too often and i eventually gave up pot because of my depression. I ended up secluding myself in my house for about a year until i finally went to go see a doctor. She helped the social anxiety part by prescribing Lexapro(and it has worked wonders)but, I decided to leave her because she seemed disinterested or something and wasn't pushing me to give her some answers for the questions i hoped she would ask(hope you followed me there). Now im having lots of internal conflicts in relation to ADD and short term memory loss i think. For example: If i had just started going to school and had some HW to do that was fairly easy i would be eager to get it done and look forward to the benefits of my actions but, only for maybe a couple of weeks and then i would gradually slack off. EX2 If i get a term paper or something to write i have major difficulty trying to decide how to start it and even more difficulty forcing myself to finish it(by the time i completed it it would have a good beginning and a horrible ending because i just didn't care).Now im a college drop out and i still want to learn to apply myself the best that i can but i don't think i can do this on my own. My study habits are even worse now that im out of practice and i can only physically take notes and study for maybe 30 min. without becoming so disinterested in what im doing i can't even force myself to concentrate(or so it seems).TV and pot were both what i turned to when i had difficulty in life. Now, it's only TV. But, im trying to cut back on my tv time and trying and do more mentally stimulating activities ie video games, reading, studying...
So, i guess my main questions are these:
What can i do to focus better?
What can i do to increase my short term memory(because that seems to be a big factor in all of this esp. when trying to remember what i just said, names, dates,...etc...etc...)
Why am i able to rember a name or date so easily sometimes and other times completely forget about that name or date and then rember the name or date another with ease again??
Are there an sites that i can visit that would help me with my problems(preferabley free advice sites but and site name given is appreciated)
Thanks for listening to me and for any advice you have given me.
signing off
Dave
Oh, I SOOOO understand your question and your problem. OK, go to a regular physician and get back on your antidepressant. I take Lexapro, I know how it feels when you are out for awhile. Talk to the doc about your adult add, there is medication that may help. As for your first doctor, try a councilor instead. If the first doesn't help seek another. Finding the right councilor is a lot like finding a friend. Not everyone will be compatible. There are different styles and schools on therepy. It takes time unless you are REALLY lucky to get the right person on the first try. The first councilor I went to needed more help than me. He kept calling me by the wrong name, the whole session. I reminded him everytime and he still f'ed it up. That by the way is burn out. He needed a job change. Anyway, how you were describing some of your study problems seemed more like signs of depression than ADD. I have serious trouble remembering names and dates. I can't tell you the date of my sister's birthday even though I know its a few days before Christmas. I forget what day Christmas is. I mean I THINK it's the 25th. That sounds right, but I'd need to look it up on a calendar to be sure. However, I can remember just oddball stuff that has no practical application in real life. Vincent Fernier, is Alice Cooper. Leigh Nichols, Owen West, and Dean R, Koontz are all the same man. Diamonds have a MOS hardness of 10 and Talc 0. The fine for parking on the sidewalk in downtown Mobile, Alabama was $50 in 1996. (Ok, having that information in my head could have helped in 1996.) I wish I could help you more on how to study better, but there is a means of improving. Study in short spells. Don't cram everything in at once. It helps. The tv watching is an avoidance behavior. It deadens you from having to think. I can't really help you correct too much of the problems or direct you anywhere. I have just accepted my quirks as part of me and only get annoyed about them. Not enough to actively seek help. Good Luck!
what are crunches? and how do you do them
See the previous answer for how, except that you should never put your hands behind your neck. It makes doing them easier, but it can seriously damage you spine. It is called a crunch because when you do it, you are using your stomach muscles to lift you from the floor. This contraction of the muscles makes your belly look like a crunched beer can.
Today my dog fell down the stairs, and she can't really walk. She can, but she falls over and stuff. She keeps throwing up flem and foam. We're taking her to the vet in a few hours. I was wondering, they won't have to put her to sleep right? Like, the worst they could do is give her fake legs?? Thanks =(
This sounds more like your pet has a concussion and a pierced lung from a broken rib or two. Depending on how bad her injuries are she could make a full recovery, but it will be extremely expensive. The worst thing about having an injured pet in this last case is can you afford treatment? With a human there is a legel obligation for care. A vet can refuse to treat your pet if you can't afford the treaments. Many times loved pets are put down not because they can't be healed, but because their owners can not afford to pay for the medical bills. Fake legs, would not be a good option in anycase. A three-legged dog can have a great life, and some dogs do well with both hind legs missing. I don't think that is the case here. Yes, she may have to be put down. Just pray she has no internal bleeding and that her lung does not collapse. If she requires surgery you may have some hard choices to make. I wish you luck, please let me know what happens. Big hug!
I was wondering what the world would be like with out those loveable gorgoues fur balls called pets?
Speaking from experience, a no furry pet policy for four years in college, I can tell you it would be sheer HELL> No one to cuddle or make innocent demands on your affections. Nothing to love you when you are at your worst and mad at the world. Nothing to take care of that wouldn't grow up just to hate you. I'm so glad they exist!
Well ok im going out with someone but i like a lot of other people alot, and is this bad, does this mean im cheating or watever if i like other guys a lot?
Thanx I'll rate!!
It depends on the nature of your dating relationship adn the way you act with others you like. There is nothing wrong with likeing lots of people. Everyone has different things about them that can attract someone. What is wrong is if you HAVE a serious, eclusive, "I'm only dating you, BF/GF kind of thing" and you make an active move on someone else. This isn't casual flirting, this is like going on a date or kissing or knowing you don't want to be with your current guy anymore. If you find yourself unable to resist another man, then you are cheating. There is always temptation, you just need to learn to trust yourself and know what is most important to you. Luck and Love!
Here is the thing I have this one friend that seems to always be ditching me for other people or her boyfriend like for example sunday we planned we would go shopping on tuesday and come to find out she went monday with some other people and didn't even tell me or invite me. And now today (tuesday) she is doing something with her boyfriend that she planned yesterday and didn't tell me she wanted to do that then go to the mall cause if she told me I would be fine with it. But i found all that out on my own. And I am always inviting her places ( that she drops out on), I tell her when i can't do something with her, and i don't ditch her for other people with out atleast telling her and I even invite her with us ( when she never does that for me) so all in all i feel like she is using me but the thing is I really like her as a friend we are almost best friends at times but i just want to know what can i do or say to her about this with out her getting mad. HELP thanks i will rate high if it is good.
P.S. she is always turning things around so it is my fault or problem and it makes me look bad
Sweetheart, she is running a con on you. Confidence Game for the spell out. I hate to be the one to tell you, but this girl is a totally selfish user. I bet the times you feel you are best friends is when it turns out she needs something from you or you are about to dump her as a friend for good. She turns situations around to make things seem like your fault? Manipulative using 101, the basics. This girl will suck you dry and only be your friend when she has something to gain from the effort. You can't say anything that will not make her mad, because your opinions don't really matter to her. She uses her anger as another tool to control your behavior. She knows you want to be her friend and she is using your kindness against you. You seem like a great person and I have been mixed up with too many people like this not to know he signs. Don't let her get you into a postion where she can use you. If you lose her "so-called" friendship, you are soo much better off. You are a great person, don't let her drag you down. Big Hug and Good Luck!