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Q: I would 1st like to say that I have never drank through my pregnancy, I know that is very bad. But my question is If you are 40 weeks pregnant and have a small amount of wine like 2 oz. Will it harm the baby or make you go into labor?

it depends on you and the baby .... some people can drink all they want and the baby's ok but someone can have a couple of sips of alcohol and they can go into labor or cause genital defects

Q: Ok there is this guy and he is 25 and i am 14 we were together for a while but then we had to break up because my mom called the police on him.. we still talk but last weekend I lied to him and he started yelling at me about how I can't stop lying to him... I have written him emails saying I am sorry.. But in an email he sent back to me he said he didnt want ne thing to do with me.. he wrote me back saying that maybe he would be with me.. but not for a while.. should I just give up on him or should I still be friends????

if your 14 where in the world would you meet a 25 year old guy to go out with . i'd just forget him . he's a loser if he's 25 and wants to go out with a 14 year old ... if you were ever caught togethet your mother would probably kill you and i dont blame her

Q: My mom seems to think that only black people wear brands such as Roccawear, Baby Phat and Ecko. I like the clothes and she wont let me wear them because on the websites the people who are modeling them happen to be black. So tell me really, do these brands are truly only worn by Africans?

many people who are black wear these clothes but white and spanish people do too .

Q: my friend didn't get a single thing for christmas what should i do? i feel so bad! so should i get something?

get her something

Q: i heard that if u stop eating u will acctually gain weight. is that true?

yes

Q: Is is normal for the average teenager (only child) to cry at least once a day when she's by herself in her room. And being an only child has a big issue. I came to realize that I cry everyday. Sometimes more than once. I do it in private though because I don't want people to see me. I guess my biggest reason is my parents, and the fact that I'm sick of being the center of their lives...I've gotten to the point where I feel a lot of pain in me, but I can't take it out on anyone but myself. It all seems really stupid, because it all comes from my parents. They don't beat me, and they're not necessarily "overprotective" or anything, I just hate being the only one they have to worry about... I've gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. I can't even tell them I want to seek professional help, which is what I really want--thats how distant I feel. I don't know what to do....

sounds like your depressed ... if you go to your school counsleir she can help with your feelings .. the person will also keep what ever you say private

Q: hey this is for guys mostly but if girls want to answer ok. so anyways im going out with this guy we have been dating for 2 weeks and i really need 2 buy him a christmas gift but he wont tell me what he wants. guys when u say that what does it mean. and any gift ideas would be soooo great. thanks.

get him a gift card to best buy and he can choose what he wants

Q: 'i'm being sexually harrassed by this guy i know, and so is every other girl in myclass except for two. His sexual harrassment is getting me in troubel with some of my teachers. It's cometothe point that i'm afarid to be alone with him because i'm afaird of what he'll do to me. He's grabbed by breast slappmy ass, rubbed on my crotch and other things. he's messedwith other girls in my class but he seems to dothst tome the most.Lately he's stop but i'm afarid he might start up and do it again. I tell him what he's doingis wrong but he doesn't care.Iused to think of himas my friend untill it all started.Now i don'tknow what to do.

what you need to do is go to your guidence counsler and that person about it and have the person get the guy and talk to him about what he's doing . you shouldnt need to feel afraid around him . you might even want to go to the police because what he is doing is illigal.

Q: hello! i was wondering how do you get rid of stretch(growing) marks on your breasts or hip/thighs area?

get a special cream that will reduce the redness and the way it sticks out .

Q: Hi I am christian, and I have a friend who is jewish. I want to get her a "holiday" present, but I am not sure what to call it, or if she would think it was rude. I am also not sure when i should give it to her. I don't know when haunaka is. What do you think?

well haunaka is over but you could still call it a haunaka present, you should just get her what you think she would like .

Q: what type of clothes and colors make you apear slimer than you are, and are flattering on someone who is chubby?

black and clothes that dont really have a shape and clothes that arent too tight fitting .

Q: My boyfriend and I had sex about 2 weeks ago almost and on Monday (This passed monday) He didn't have a condom on the first like 10 seconds we did it but then after that he had one on and we didn't finish because I was scared we just stopped. It was a total of about 5 minutes at the most. I woke up on Monday and I went to go to the bathroom and it would burn when I'd pee. So I went to the doctor and she took a urine sample and I just got the test results back today and she said that it was positive for a bacteria. I'm a little scared because I don't know if there is a chance I could be pregnant at all. I was at my least fertile the day we did it but I'm just scared. I've been trying so hard to get information on it and I'm fed up searching countless sites for the answer. Can ANYONE, for the love of GOD PLEASE tell me if coming up positive for a bacteria could be that I am pregnant? I've talked to my boyfriend about and he said that the chances were very low and this was before I got my results back. Can you Please please please tell me if getting your urine sample back as POSITIVE for a BACTERIA could I be pregnant? Thank you SO much if you can help me!!

your not pregnant . If this was your 1st time and you didnt have a condom even for tyhe 1st 10 seconds your boyfriend may have had something on him and you may have gotten a urineary track infection . get meds from doc , should go away in about a week .

Q: Ok, well, i've been looking around advicenators and stuff. I noticed all these kids between ages 13-15 are so damn caught up on sx and shit. Well, for you to know, I'm 13, and in my town people are so layed back. It's a really small town. I know almost like everyone in the middle school which are ages 12-15. No, one does any of that shit. They all think it's stupid at this age. You never have to worry about having sex at the right time and when. Everyone is like a virgin in my school. I was really confused and distirbed about this......do you think 13-15 is to young to be having sex or not? I'm so confused. Is there something in my town that we're not getting?
thnx so much

-roxy-

its what ever people are comfterbal with,i still thinks its better to have sex when your 17 , your town is small and the people there probably tell their kids never to have sex untill there married .

Q: how do you get rid of zits fast...please dont tell me toothpaste, or proactive! thanks xNoS`

if you go to a dermitologist he can give you a shot of cortazone and the next day you'll have no zits

Q: Ok, so I decided that instead of taking the chance having sex with just a condom that I want to go on birth control. Only problem is telling my mom I want to go to the gyno. I know I don't have to tell my parents but I would rather them knowing know then later on. I'm 18 and at college. Any good ways of saying it to them without basically saying I'm having sex?

i really dont think you need to tell your parents about going to the gyno because your 18 and your parents reallt dont need to know it and they probably figure you've already had sex , if you need to tell them though ask your mom to lunch and just randomly say while your asking her to lunch , oh i cant do it on tuesday for example im going to the gyno

Q: Well here's the thing, my best friend(23) has just recently gotten engaged. She has asked me(19) to be her maid of honor and I have said yes. But come to find out she has been lying to this guy(20) the whole time they've been together. I didn't realize what she's been doing until all of us started to hang out with each other. He's really nice and really loves her. But I don't believe she feels the same about him. She is what you would call a user. If you have something that she could benefit from she attaches to you and try's to get you for all you have. She has cancer and is getting a divorce from her present husband now, there goes her medical, this new guy is in the airforce and is form a family with money, (lots of benefits and can take care of her). My question is, should I tell him about all of her lies, cheating and sneaky ways or just leave the whole thing alone and let him find out for himself.

as much as you feel this is really wrong , which it is , its really none of your business why she is really marrying him . if he is happy with her let him be happy , if you really dont like what shes doing i would tell her that you couldnt be the maid of honor because you feel that she is being a user . if he's smart he will realize that shes using him because after their married she wont really want to be around him or act like she does around him because she will be married and her medical will be taken care of .

Q: Hey.. ok I got a lil problem! See.. there's this guy & I really like him but he's already told me that he dont want a g/f right now. Ok.. I was cool with that.. then 1 day he asks me if i would fuck him. I'm like huh? (I'm 14 btw.. he's 16) He's like let's fuck.. ok well I was like umm.. I dont really wanna do that right now but I was really flirty with it like I was playing hard 2 get.. which I kinda was but see.. now EVERYBODY knows that we might do something & he keeps bugging me about it but I still kinda like him.. what should I do?

if you dont want to have sex with him dont , if he's pressuring you i dont know why you would still like him

Q: Okay, I recently had sex and the next day I forgot to take my birth control. (We didn't use a condom and i've been using it for about 4 months) the day after that I forgot and for about the next week after that I didnt take it. Is there a good chance that I could be pregnet??

-Scared :(

if your unprotected theres always a good chance you could be pregenet , take a test to find out

Q: well see in my religion its a sin to pluck or wax eyebrows but the thing is everyone i no who are also muslims pluck/wax their eyebrows except my mom and sister.. im almost 14 years old and i think its my choice wheater i touch my eyebrows ... and tonight my dad is goin to get his hair cut and i want to go w. him to get my eyebrows done wut cud i say to my mom to get her to say okay?

tnxs..ill rate u high

why dont you just pluck the hairs that really bother you and dont tell your mom , if she asks about you eyebrows just say i dont know what your talking about