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15/f. i discharge everyday a lot. is this normal? i already have my period and everything. like a lot of the time it feels really wet down there, but im not like horny or anything. normal or no?

Yes, it's normal. Some girls discharge more then others. Some girls don't ever discharge, and some do all the time, it's just something us girls have to deal with, unfortunetly. If you only discharge a lot then, I don't think you have much to worry about. But, if it gets itchy or starts smelling down there. You need to tell your mother! :)

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whats the difference between kissing and making out? any tips?

Making out is like using tongue. & Kissing is just like peck on the lips. :)

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what do i do if i really like this guy that might like me but really likes this other girl??

You just wait it out. Although you may think it's the end of the world it honestly isn't. Just wait a while and see if eventually breaks up with this other chick, and if he doesn't make a move and tell him you like him. Maybe he'll like you back?

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I'm married, and my husband and I rent a house from my parents. I'm 20, and my husband is 21. They've been pretty generous by offering us the house over other renters, and giving us a lower rent. They insist of holding a copy of the house key for emergencies, which is fine with me.

Here's the problem. Lately, they've been letting themselves in without knocking. After my husband and I come home from work and put the baby in bed, we tend to sit around...not completely clothed. More than once now, they've caught us like this; once just walking around naked and twice being intimate.

But maybe worse, they let themselves in when we're not home. I don't think they mean any harm, but they come in, look around, borrow our stuff, and clean.

I'm afraid that they'll find something they don't like and kick us out. I feel that we're adults, and we pay rent, so we deserve some privacy. Am I right that we should have privacy? If so, how should I go about talking to my parents? I don't want to make them feel bad, since I think they're just trying to help.

In one sense, you DO deserve privacy, because you have a child, you pay for rent, & you're married. But they are your parents, they probably don't know any better, and they're just trying to do some good by cleaning & helping you out a little bit. Although, in a way they're just making everything bad. You are right, you do deserve privacy. Just explain to them exactly what you said here, you pay rent, and you're adults. - you deserve privacy. They'll understand for sure.

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okay well my mom just bought crest white strips and i was wondering do they work better on dirty or clean teeth? my mom said she heard they work better on dirty but i wasnt sure

I have Crest white strips, and it says, that you should just them when your teeth aren't clean. THEN you should brush your teeth. Not exactly sure why. But it works better on dirty.

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i need to know what do do with my tongue when making out

Your tounge will just meet the other persons' tounge, and you'll work it out from there. Just move it around and like massage the other persons' tounge with your own.

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Okay well, since you've gone through weight loss, I think you are my last hope. I've tried a lot of things to loose weight but I never stick to it.

I want too soo bad!! I have a lot of friends & I barely get made fun of but I would love to be skinny.

I'm 5'0 & weight almost 160. I don't look that much but it's really sad. My mom tried getting me a nutritionist, but my family in Europe needed that money. Anyways, I exercise when I have time but when I get bored I just pig out!! It makes me soo mad because I ♥ food.

Did you used to be overweight? I don't mean that in a rude way, I just need help. How did you get so skinny??

Thank you soo much.

You're probably the person from earlier that I made you ask again. I'm extremely sorry about that. I honestly wasn't trying to be rude at all. I just hate the word fat, when people say it to others, or say it about themselves. It's so unnecessary and it's such a mean word, no matter what context you're using it in. You know? But I am sorry about that. =]

Well, I was really overweight to begin with, and I was made fun of, ALL THE TIME. So, it was pretty easy for me to shed a lot of weight, because of how much I wanted to show all the people who made fun of me for like five years that I could do it.I don't know if you're overweight or if you're just interested in shedding a few pounds. But, if you DO get picked on. You know how much it can potentially hurt you. And getting made fun of from 4th grade to 9th grade about your weight, by everyone including your friends & having no one to stick up for you really DOES suck. Even my family members: my Grandmother would call all the time, living in England she never sees me, and only met me once when I was ten [when I started gaining weight] Would ask my parents if they're doing anything to control my weight, yet. & Would tell me my sisters call me fat behind my back and told her & she was just wondering if I lost any weight yet. I was TEN!! That's the worst part about it. Anyways, basically from that paragraph, I meant that you need self confidence in yourself first. You need to literally stand in front of a mirror and pick out things you like about yourself, just to lose weight. As stupid as that sounds. It works.

Well, basically when I wanted to start losing weight, it was seriously impossible. I was 15, living in a stupidass small town consisting of 700 people. With nothing but a movie store, grocery store, & a pizza shop. NO attractions like where I could exercise or anything. So, I decided to stay in the house & try out Pilates & Tae bo. Don't get me wrong, they both worked greatly. I felt great after exercising. I was eating different portions and everything. Drinking diet drinks. But, I wasn't losing ANY weight at all. I was actually gaining. That's when my rents decided to take me to a nutrionist! They told me I had an oversized uhh shiit I forget what it's called. But, it's something in your throat, that controls your weight, height, and just about everything else. If I remember, I'll leave it in here later. I'll have to ask my parents what it's called. Anyways, since it was oversized that's why I couldn't lose weight to start with. So, I started taking pills that automatically made them smaller. Which caused me to lose 10 pounds to start off with. I don't count that with the 30 pounds I lost myself though, because I didn't lose that 10 pounds myself which sucks.

Now, it was really hard for me to lose weight at the beginning because I was just beginning & I was embarassed to run in front of everyone, even my family. So, I'd wake up everyday at like 4am & go running down the main street I lived on. I came from a shitty ass small town. So when I see Main Street - I mean a street that connects us to ANOTHER small crappy town. So, there wouldn't be any cars that would pass, which would be awesome. :) I stopped drinking soda for one, I just drank water all the time. 10 glasses a day :) Awesome. I didn't eat fast foods anymore. Like McDonalds, which was horrible because I loved McDonalds. :( I wouldn't even get their salads. lol. It was awful. I didn't have to worry about not eating candy & chocolate anymore, because I didn't eat it anyways. I just don't have a sweet tooth anyways. :P

I would have four small meals, a day. I'd wake up & have a bagel. Go to school - @ lunch I'd have a turkey sandwich, when I'd get home I'd have like cereal or something. Then at dinner time I'd have something else small, like chicken or tuna. That helped. Because, eating 4/5 opposed to 3 meals a day can speed up your metabolism. & Helps a lot when wanting to lose weight.

When I moved to this huge city, San Antonio. I knew I'd have to keep up the weight loss, so I joined a gym! It's been helping me a lot, now. Plus, I met a really good friend at the gym who's pretty much been in the same situation as me. And I'm helping her through it :)

To lose that 10 pounds from the pills, it took me about 4 days. But, the other 30, I'd have to say it took me 2 months. I lost about 15 pounds a month. Which is actually pretty good. Seen as I lost about 3-4 pounds a week.

My advice to you, if you're serious about losing weight. You really really really need to see a doctor about it. My doctor helped me SO much with weight loss, and I seriously wouldn't have been able to do it without her. You need to diet, portionize your meals & stop drinking soda & fatty foods. Start exercising, if it's only running around your house, or doing a video exercising program thing. See if you get results from it.

Good luck with losing weight, and seriously YOU can do it. I'm sorry if I forget anything, or if there's anything else you need.

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hi i saw your column and thought you could help me...i like a kid at my school he's really awesome..we're best friends so we hang out all the time...i love being friends with him but i would realy like to be more..all my friends are telling me he likes me..even people who aren't my friends..teachers at our school and even random people think we are going out..but the problem is..he has a girlfriend...i am pretty sure he likes me and he told his friends he likes me but he won't break up with his girlfriend for me...i'm not exactly sure what i'm asking...i guess i'm not sure if i should tell him i like him or not...i know he won't break up with is girlfriend..but he told his friend that if they do break up he's going to ask me out...i like him a lot.and his girlfriend is getting mad at him because me and him hang out so much..him and his girlfriend have also been on and off a lot so i don't think they'll last very long..sorry this is really long..i don't want to tell him and then ruin are friendship but i'm afraid if i don't tell him then if he breaks up with his girlfriend he won't ask me out...i'm so confused...please help

Hey there. =]
I totally know where you're coming from to start off with. I had a best friend, named Charles, and we were best friends from 2nd grade, onwards through present. =] Everyone that saw us together thought that we were the cutest couple & we weren't even dating. Does this kid know that you like him more as a boyfriend then a best friend? If not, you should definitely tell him, whether he has a girlfriend or not. He has a right to know. The problem with Charles & I was that I never told him until about 6 months ago, but unfortunetly I moved away, so we never had an opportunity of being together. Of course I regret it now, but there are plenty of other fish in the sea. And I don't think Charles & I were meant to be together in the first place, because I found someone new.

I think that's really cool that you found someone like your best friend. But try not to get in between his & his current girlfriends relationship. Although he says he'll date you, are you 100% sure? If you are, then you should take a chance & definitely tell him. He maybe in love with you, but is just afraid to tell you because he has a girlfriend, and is afraid that you might not like him back & he doesn't want to ruin the relationship, you know? Basically the feelings you're having. =] You might as well break the ice. Good luck!

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How can you tell if you ave acid reflux?? I think i might have it and i told my mom but she doesnt beleive me and wont take me to the doctor.

The burning, pressure, or pain of heartburn can last as long as 2 hours and is often worse after eating. Lying down or bending over can also result in heartburn. Many people obtain relief by standing upright or by taking an antacid that clears acid out of the esophagus.

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Do you think the whole "skinny" look is going out of style? It should be. Also, what is with the seemingly skinny people asking what they should do about how they look when they sound normal looking? I am the one who should be complaining! What do you prefer, "Curvy-cutie" or skinny "2 by 4"?

I don't think the whole "skinny" look ever was in style. I honestly don't find how so many girls want to look like skinny skinny. You know, like models? ugh, I don't know. But I hate girls that complain like that, they only do it for attention. No boobs, gross showing hipbones, & stuff. It's just nasty. I prefer "Curvy-cutie" Skinny minnys look gross. =/

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ok im 13/f and theres this guy that i really like we'll call him bob. i think he knows that i like him but im not sure. i love hugging ppl and when i hug most guys to me it seems like im hugging an older brother. but when i hug bob he naturally puts his arms around my waist. he compliments me about stupid stuff sometimes but..i dont know!!please help! thanks in advance!!

Tell him you like him? What's exactly your question?

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so my guy asked me out on MYSPACE...
and now we dont even see eachother..
my ? is how do i ask him to hang out.
FAST PLEASE
i rate

Just say, "Do you wanna maybe do something over Christmas break?"

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ok i have diabtes (type 1, im not overweight or anything) and im a little shy about it well i mean i dont like telling ppl about it. only my close friends know about it and some other people who i didnt want to find out about having it. my friends think that its stupid that i dont tell people and they say if they had it they would have no problem telling ppl. but they dont have it so they dont know. its easier to say then do. are they right, should i not be so shy about it?
btw i have had it for about 2 years

You shouldn't be shy about it. It's something you can't control. No one would ever make fun of you, but I understand what you mean. It's not like you want to go parading around about having Diabetes. But, in the same sense, no one would make fun of you, and if they did; they're dumb! It's just so stupid. But, for sure you shouldn't be shy about it, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you having Diabetes.

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Hi, my name is Aaron and I'm from Irvington. I'm a religious person. Can someone tell me how to get a Christian girlfriend and make it last a long time?

Maybe, join like a youth group or something @ your church? And maybe you'll meet somewhere there. Or maybe your school has a bible study type thing? And you'll meet a girl there? =]

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Do dogs have lips? Sorry but I've always wondered that...
♥Sammm

In a way, I think they do. =]

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hey is it wrong that someone who is 14 and wearspads? is it better to wear a tampon? because sometimes i wish i wore a tampon because my pad gets in the way and i always would think that it lecked through. and if it is how do you use a tampon? ill rate 5's....so please help.

There's nothing wrong with you just wearing pads & not tampons. I don't wear tampons too often unless it's completely necessary because I get infections. Ugh =/ & It sucks. It really varies from person to person. Some people think it's uncomfortable, some people can't feel them. Personally, to me I think wearing tampons is better then wearing pads, when I don't get infections. But that's just me.

If you buy a box of tampons, there'll be directions in there showing you how to insert the tampon. I highly suggest any "Playtex" tampons especially for your first. With a plastic applicator, not cardboard - because they hurt. =[

But in case you're wondering, here's a website to show you how to properly insert your first tampon:
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html
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my girlfriend and i have been going out for 4 months and we feel we are ready to make out. i need some tips to making out. im 14 and shes 13. when and where can we make out?

Please help me i need advice ans soon.

It honestly doesn't matter where & when. Probably somewhere anti-public. Just so your girlfriend will feel comfortable. Unless she wants to openly make out with you in front of people, which I highly doubt especially for a first kiss. But just in a secure place, just tell her you love her & hold her and kiss her. So sweet. Like something you'd see off of a movie. :) Yayy.

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ok my girlfriend and i have been going out for 4 months and her dad never talks to me just gives me evil stares. i talked to my girlfreind about it and she says its because her sister was raped at the age of 14 and became pregnant. he doesnt trust me. is there anyway i can get him to trust me more?

Just in front of him, don't hold hands/be all touchy touchy with your girlfriend. You want to show him that you can be a good boyfriend with out doing that kind of stuff, y'know? Show her lots of respect, too. Don't hit on her and call her hot and then like slap her ass and that stuff. Just say, please & thank you when needed. Compliment their house & things you like about it. Say how great your girlfriend is at certain things. Don't be rude or anything. That's how fathers are, seriously. My dad's like that, and my sister was never raped. He doesn't agree with boys - I'm daddys little girl. Maybe your girlfriend should have a talk with her mom & dad about this stuff? Just because it seems four months is a long time, and he shouldn't STILL be giving you evil stares!

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I just started a new job, well, not JUST, I've been working there for about 2 months now.
Well I've always been a little afraid of my boss. I didnt think she liked me a first because she was only giving me night shifts, but then I guess all the other girls I work with told her I was a good worker and then she started being nicer to me and giving me the afternoon shifts. Well we had been getting along quite well but then today, she called me upstairs. She had a sheet of all the times that I had punched out of work at the end of my shifts. We have a computer system where we have to swipe our ID card to get paid. Well she said to me " you've been logging out early". "And make sure that you log out on time or I'll dock you 15 minutes pay".
Well I didnt know what she was talking about because I always log out on time. But when she showed me the sheet it said I had logged out once 1 minute early!!!
I couldnt believe I got in trouble for 1 minute!! She said if it happened again she would deduct 15 minutes from my pay. I told her that I thought it was my watch because I always leave on time. Then she told me to look at the clock on the cash register. Am I overeacting or was that pretty silly?

It's stupid.

Your boss is dumb. But, that's what bosses are right? She's only doing it because you're the "newbie." Although, you've been there for two months, it seems the shortest. Just make sure you clock out a couple of minutes after your shift is actually over. But yes, I think her docking 15 minutes from pay is pretty dumb for clocking out one minute early. & You're most definitely NOT overreacting.

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