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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



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Before I start I'm a sixteen year old girl.

Well I have been depressed for a while. Sometimes it is better but sometimes the urge to end my life is overwhelming. I have seen many counselors, pyschologists, and mental health physicians but onthing seems to help. A lot of my friends think I'm bipolar. My counselor says I'm not but when I read about all the symptoms it makes sense. I have 10 of the fourteen symptoms that the website said. I have really good days where you can't put me down but then again I also have the excet opposite kind of days. My counselor said that if I start having more suicidal thoughts or if my appetite keeps dropping then I should get in touch with her. About three months ago my appetite basically disappeared. My friends thought I was trying to lose wieght but I just wasn't hungry. I never eat breakfast and so I constantly feel weak or sick. I'm just so confused about what I should do. Can anyone help me?

I think you should ask your mother if you would be able to see a psychiatrist. If they think something is seriously seriously wrong, they can perscribe drugs. Counselors and psychologists can't do that. Ask your psychiatrist if you could be tested or if she knows the symptoms. If they apply to you, then you should tell her you're worried, you're scared. She'll help you.

I would ignore the people who say, "Well, WHY are you depressed?" because I know that most of the times, it's nothing. Sometimes it's just lonliness or the feeling of being unloved. Here's an idea for the meantime, however.

Get a piece of paper and fold it in half. One side is for positive, the other for negative. Once you're finished with your list, rip off the negative side and put it in a safe place. Begin to work on those things until they're positive. Then post your positive things on your ceiling above your bed. It'll make you feel good waking up. It worked for me when I was depressed.

That being said, don't undergo things to change your appearance or something that doesn't really matter to you, but it matters to someone else. Learn to love you for you, not for how someone else loves you.

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I just started skool and i forgot to put pads in my bookbag and the second day of skool i wore WHITE capris and i started .... there was a big red stain on the back of my paints... i didnt relize it os i walked down the hall.... luckily i only went pass 1 guy and the next 1 was my best friend.... she gave me a sweater and i acted like i was sick and i went home..... I know this boy will tell every1 and i kno theyll make fun of my.... wat do i do if some guy does this to me?

I think that if he says anything just be like "Dude, I sat in ketchup, gotta problem?"

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Hey guys...do you have any good websites that would have a shirt for my homecoming dance? I want to get something online because I want to have something different and cuter than everybody else's!! I could get away with just about anything...it's a mix between casual and dressy. I've already tried like, American Eagle and Abercrombie...so if you have any different, cute sites...let me know!

Thanks!
*SARA*

No brand names, everyone will have them. Forever21 is the best store for glam. www.forever21.com

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I just started my period and i have a very difficult guesion to ask every1....
WINGS OR NO WINGS

i rate high

Wings. They're fabulous. The only time they're ever annoying is sometimes they stick out a little within the first ten minutes that you have them on. But.. wings, yes.

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What is a good teeth whitener in your opinion? I'll rate good

Crest. White. Strips. Enough said.

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14/f
Hi! I need to do a temporary makeover on myself and need some tips. First of all, everything has to be as low budget as possible. Now, here's what I need. I have red hair and I need to make it look brunette or at least darker. Then I'll also need it to look somewhat blonde. Or a lighter shade of red. If anyone knows any cheap ways to do that that won't effect my hair long term that would be great! I also have really white skin and I want to make it look tan. Chest and up. I don't want to turn orange or anything... And I don't want to actually have to tan in a tanning bed. Any ideas? I hope I made sense! Thanx! Luv ya!

I think that if you have red hair you shouldn't touch it! Red hair is so rare and gorgeous.. But if you have the need to fool around with it I'd reccomend Loving Care by Clairol if you just want it for a little while. If you want it for around a month or so, use Natural Instincts by Clairol. However, this doesn't wash out in a month if you dye your hair darker.. I've got personal experience with that. DON'T USE COLOR PULSE, THE COLORS ARE REALLY INTENSE! They look so unnatural and fake. But if you want a fun temporary color, they're fun. But they're fake. Loving Care and Natural Instincts are more natural and pretty.

As for tanning cream.. I have no clue. Sorry.

Good luck with everything.

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hi im 13 and i have had a stedy b/f for about 5 years... we have been fooling around since i was 11 and now i just started my period and i wanna kno...... should i stop... or just started beindg a little bit mor proctected??

I vote stop having sex. You're too young for that. Seriously, you have your whole life in head of you and you don't want to be a mother at that age. You just started being a teenager!

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my mom is kinda a control freak...
She won't let me shop with anyone but her. .not my dad, any of my friends.. or anyone.
She has to even be in the same department with me...
I only have a pair of jeans and two pairs of (very very ugly) capris that don't fit right.. so I really need to go shopping. She always says that she's too busy or that i don't need anything. I keep explaining to her that I need to go shopping because I am lacking in things to wear.. and she always makes up excuses. I'm also afraid that if we go shopping that she won't let me wear what I want to wear (low rise jeans and form-fitting baby t's) because she wants me to wear things from the girls section still. And when we went into aeropostale (once) she made me buy everything a size too big so I pray that it will shrink. I just don't want to look like i'm too poor to buy clothes.
HELP ME!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!
13/f (if it helps size 1/3 and shirts small)

Maybe your mom is afraid that you're growing up too fast, but in reality you're probably not. If you only have one pair of jeans and two capris, you're going to have to tell her that you need to go shopping because you don't have enough clean clothes to wear.

If she says, "I'm too busy to go," you can reply, "Well, so-and-so is free today, I could go with her. We could even carpool if that makes it easier. After all, I haven't gone out shopping in a really long time."

If she doesn't let you wear what you want to wear, then you can tell her it's uncomfortable for you. Tell her that it's not fitting and you will constantly have to pull them up if they don't fit.

Also, if you're a size 1/3 and thirteen years old.. you're probably really skinny! You've got a great body to show off, and you should feel free. If you need to trick your mom, here is how you do it. Bring the size that you wear and the size that she wants to wear into the dressing room, and take out the one that you want with you. Tell her it's the one that she wanted.

Good luck.

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So, suddenly, my friend, let's call him Ian, starts completely ignoring me. It used ot be when he saw me, he'd get excited, make a face, run over and hug me, but now it's nothing. I'll be standing with a group of people, he'll come over, and he won't even look at me. I asked him about it on AIM, while his away message was up (my first mistake), but I don't know if he got it. He never mentioned anything about it or changed what he was doing.
This may be a coincidence, but it seems he started acting like this afterhe became friends with this one girl...
What do you think I should do about it?

Ian sounds like an idiot. Sorry, I couldn't help myself. I had to say it.

Anyway.. Maybe he likes this girl and is afraid that if the girl seems him with you, she'll think he's unavailble. Or maybe he's just goofy.

Talk to him about when he's there, why would you do that when he's away? He might think your mad, which is why he continues ignoring you. Or maybe you're just making it seem like it's this big huge deal that he's "ignoring you" when he might just not get in full "OH-EM-GEE-IT'S-MY-BEE-EFF-EFF mode".

Talk it over with him. If he's a good guy, he'll make you worth his time.

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Okay, well i like this guy, and i dont know if i should tell him. My best friend also said he was hot. I dont know if that means she likes him. But we are in the same gym class, and he sits next to me at lunch

If your best friend said he was hot but didn't say that she liked him.. Than she probably doesn't. I'd say flirt on and see his reactions..?

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do you get blood after the 3rd day of your period?

Me, sometimes. You, maybe. If you are just starting, than probably not.

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I would love to get more intimate with this girl I know. And as fun as making out is, I still want to go farther. As a girl, would you rather I feel you up, finger you, or just have sex? And when is the right time and place for that?

I think that I'm thirteen and I wouldn't be interested in that. That's just me, however. But uhh.. right time and place? Not in public when she's horny. lol

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what do you do when you have sex?
what is head?
what does it mean when you fuck someone
how do you hump something
what is it callllled when a lady is like on a man naked and is moving like foward

sorry.i'm confused

Sex is when a guy puts his penis inside of a girl's vagina.

Head is when a guy eats you out while a girl gives oral to a guy at the same time.

Fucking is sex.

Humping is when you move your body in a hump formation I guess.. that's a hard one to explain.

And I have no idea what you're taking about.. Sorry.

Hope this helped...

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okay .. so i've just started to wear thongs a lot. i get the xS. but those make my area down there itch like crazy when i take them off and wear normal panties. and i've tried the small.. but those are way to big. and its not like i can just wear normal panties, because you need to wear thongs some time.

what should i do?

Itching down there mean you might have a yeast infection. I read in a magazine that thongs can start yeast infections. The good news? The infections are WAY easy to get rid of. I use Lotramin AF and within a few weeks, the infection goes away. I know on the cover of the medication it has a foot, but don't be freaked out, the medication is also used for athlete's foot.. Haha. But just read the directions.

Good luck, kiddo.

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How much should a 11 year old way that is around 5'1

If I were you, I wouldn't go much under 100 or much over 130. If you're around 125/130 you're probably getting too heavy. Check out this web site to see how healthy your weight is. http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/bmicalc.htm I'd also ask your doctor because the BMI calculator doesn't say anything about age or sex in there.

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On Sunday I'm going to the beach wwith my family and another family who has a 14 year old son. He's a year older than me and he's cute!!! I have these one pieces that i look good in, but i also have some bikinis. The problem with my bikinis is my nipples show through the fabric!!! Yuck!! Should i wear the bikini anyway or go with a one piece?

Easy. Go to a drug store/supermarket and buy little inserts. They're like little cups that you put in your bathing suit. Totally flexable.. awesome. Just check them out every once in awhile so that it doesn't float away or come out.. hahaha.

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Do you wear bras with your bat mitzvah dress? What kind? I'll describe my dress...

It's not a gown really. Gowns sort of hold it in for you but mine doesn't. It has spaghetti straps and the body is sort of "scrunched". At the waist starts the skirty part. It's sheer and stops at my calves. The under layer stops at my knees. (not that you needed to know)



Uhhh, I'd wear a bra if I were you. I don't know what color your dress is, but it's always safe to get a skin colored strapless bra. If you want to be safe, I'd get a strapless bra with the clear attachable straps, because you're going to be dancing.

Good luck with your Bat Mitzvah, aiight?

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how are you supposed to respond to guys when they open up to you and tell you something personal... like that their dad has cancer, they are still in love with their ex, or their parents are getting divorced? i know how to comfort my friends that are girls, but guys, i dont know what to say... i'd really appreciate any ideas.

The same way you would with girls, minus the whole, "And you're so beautiful." I mean, what's the difference other than their penis and no boobs? Exactly.

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I was in the kitchen making cookies when I discovered that I had no vanilla extract. The cookie recipie that I'm using calls for only 1/2 teaspoon of the extract, but I'm worried about how they would turn out.

Is it ok to leave out the vanilla extract, or are there any substitutes for vanilla extract?

Thank you very much for your advice!

I say refridgerate the dough and buy the vanilla extract as soon as you can. Add it, mix it, and then make your cookies. No need to ruin a whole bunch of batter and waste your time on bad cookies. Ingredients are there for a reason, they're all important.

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what kind of food are healthie that make your body in perfect shape

I will rate high I promise that is if you give a good answer please help me I really need it please

No food can make your body in perfect shape. Food isn't magic. Just eat a whole bunch of fruits and veggies and lay off of the snack foods. Exercise, that's the key.

Edit:
And to answer your feedback ''what do you think models are?'' I think they are plastic, border-line eating disordered, airbrushed women.

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