Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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Alright, I am very excited because on january 31st its me and my boyfriends 1 year anniversary (not sure what else to call it). Anyways, i just wanted to know if any of you had any ideas on what to do or what to get him, i have a job so i have some money as well. Please give me some ideas, even you dont think they are good, just please tell me because its only 6 days away. (link)
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Hey. Well, firstly you can treat him to a dinner and a movie (or whatever activity you think will be fun). You can get something personalized with both of your names on it and he'll really appreciate that. You can give him a fake coupon saying "one free ticket to do whatever activity you want" or something like that too. I really hope this helped and good luck, have fun! =)
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i like this guy an i think he feels the same way
we have been best friends for like ver an i have been there for him through alot of things
an well today his friend asked him "1-10 how much do you like her more then a friend"
he said"umm i'd say 8 1/2"
well does that mean he likes me or not?!?!? (link)
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Hey. Yeah 8 1/2 was his way of saying he Really likes you. It would be embaressing to tell someone a ten so he said 8 1/2 which is great! I would definitely get the ball rolling. I hope this helped =)
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15/f
Hello! Just about every morning I'm excited to get up and go to school (I'm a grade ten in highschool). When I am sitting in ANY class I'm just thinking about how happy I am to be around other people. I'm popular, but there's SO much girly drama so I rarely go out anymore.
I'm afraid that this will change when I go to university. Will I still be able to socialize in university? Any advice/insight is greatly appreciated.
Thanks! =) (link)
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Hey. Yup I'm sure that you'll be able to socialize. I know many universities have parties and fun events. You'll still have a lot of fun and socialization (if that's a word). I really hope this helped =)
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i think im not interesting,because i can never make ANYONE laugh! and i dont have any inside jokes,and nothing comes to mind when im talking. how can i make my brain make me think of things? wow,thats confusing,but im so blank now adays,how can i get myself out of my "blank" stage? how can i make inside jokes? it just feels like my semi- friends are never going to become my close friends. there never going to love me as a friend,and we're never going to have inside jokes. how can i change all of this? how can i get into convos. and make people like me? and laugh with them? anything,i have like no friends in my town,and i've been here for 2 years. ;[. thanks,and sorry this is long. (link)
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Hey. Well actually, inside jokes aren't supposed to be thought about. They just happen to come about when you're in a funny situation or just talking about something that turns out to be funny. Don't try to "think" when you're with people. Just be yourself and smile. Be nice and friendly. Show people how much fun you like to have. Think of what an amazing person you are and this will boost your confidence. I really hope t his helped and good luck! =)
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I'm in college now and I kind of want to do things my way. (My family doesn't want me to have a car right now although i had one at home.) I just want to buy a car and work in a decent place where i please. when i was at home I was told where I could work, what hours I could work, where i couldn't drive. And, very overportected and dominated. Am I at the point in life now where i can start making my own decisions and not be wrong. (link)
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Hey. If you're in college now than you're definitely at the point where you can start making your own decisions. Your an adult now. Although it never hurts to get a little advice from mom and dad =). But yeah, you can make your own decisions now. I really hope this helped and good luck =).
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I am over 2 years older then my sister but everybody seems to think she is older than me! It bugs me so much (she has bigger boobs then me, but I am happy with my boob size)but I am not sure what other reasons people think this. I take care of myself really well (I dress nicely, do my makeup nicely, take good care of my hair, etc.) yet for some reason I look younger then my younger sister & I want to look older!! What can I do to make myself appear to be older, like I really am? And please don't say anything about it being good that I look younger, all I want to know is why they think she looks older & WHAT I CAN DO TO MAKE MYSELF LOOK OLDER THEN HER! Thank you! (link)
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Hey. Well just act mature and ignore it. You know that you're older and if you just be yourself you will feel good about yourself. They may even realize you're older if you act this way. Blow it off or say something like "hopefully I'll be glad about this when I'm older" and smile. People may not be able to see in appearence that you're older but they'll definitely be able to tell when they see your manerisms. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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I am a 14 year old female and I am the younger sister. I have an older sister and I live with my mother. Me and my sister are total oppisotes down to the tee. My sister is tall, beautiful, SKINNY, smart, etc. I'm none of those. I am pretty smart but I slack off alot. My mom and my sister have this really good relationship but I don't. My mom makes my sister monitor me. Sure I'm a little overwieght but my mom brings it up everywhere infront of everybody. She makes me feel like I'm a disgrace. She compains about how much I eat and what I do because I watch TV. She always compares me to my sister. She talks about how she eats better and what she was like at my age. I feel so wrong. I feel like I don't deserve to be here. They both go out on dates and I'm left alone which doesn't bother me as much because when they are home they complain about me and what I do. I'm pretty but just a little chubby. But i feel like no one really cares who I am. My mom and sister go through my room together or used to read my diary. What do I do. I don't wan to talk to anyone because I've tried that. Don't tell me to talk to them because I have and they understood and then the next day they forgot even when I asked them. I feel lost and hurt because my family really doesn't care. I need to know how I can make this better or if there are people I can talk to wihtout being there face to face because I'm a little sensitive.
Thanks. (link)
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Hey. Wow, that is a horrible situation to be in and I completely sympathize with you. Your mom probably doesn't really feel that way about you but she's trying to motivate you. A lot of parents do this. Just try and remember that whatever she says really isn't true and that you're a great person. You've been through a lot. Everyone in this world is different so to make comparisons between people is ridiculous. There would never be enough time for anyone to list all of the comparisons between different people in this world. Your sister and mother seem to be happy with whom they are so act the same way. Realize what a great person you are and that names will never hurt you. This may make you more confident and your mom and sister may stop making comparisons. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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My sister has loads of anger problems and for the past six years she has caused a lot of tension in our family. During this time I've always been the 'good one' but recently my Dad has been taking things out on me more and more. I admit that I'm not always as well behaved as I should be, but it's not like I'm worse than any other average teen. Now even when I haven't done anything wrong my Dad will be unreasonable and start shouting and swearing. I always try and be mature and walk away from the situation then come back and talk things through calmly later but 9 times out of 10 he will refuse to admit that he has been wrong and usually he won't even listen to what I have to say.
I know that he's under a lot of stress from work and my sister which has also put his relationship with my Mum has been put under strain but I'm finding it increasingly hard to deal with it. It's got to the point where I'll say something completely politely and innocently and he'll start yelling and cause a huge family argument for no reason.
What can I do? I've tried talking to him, my Mum and my sister many times but it makes no difference. We've also completed several sessions with a family counciller but that only made things worse. (link)
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Hey. It does sound like your dad is under a lot of stress right now but you must be in a lot of mental pain right now. It sounds like you need help from another source that you know. Someone older who knows your family and can really help you. Maybe because you're always the "yes man" they feel that it's ok to say whatever to you now which is not good as you know. I would have another sit down talk with them but be stern (not mean of course) and they'll be able to take you seriously. Not that they don't now but they know you'll always agree. They're your family and eventually they will be understanding once the tension dies down. I really hope I helped and good luck! =)
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MY MOM. grr. she tells me I can switch schools, & then makes these excuses like.. "Well.. lets think about it.. isn't there someone else you can hang out with" & im like omgg. grr. ITS SO ANNOYING. Like, I hang out with the meanest girls in school, the plastics, whatever you want to call them. AND I CAN'T STAND THEM. I want out, like..I just don't want to hang out with anyone else. There either sluts, fake, annoying. & I know nobodys perfect, but see.. its just, I don't know. Its not that these people don't like me & stuff, its just..i'm sick of them all. I've been in school with them for 9 years [private school]
How can I convince my mom to let me out? She keeps telling me how.. 'she hung out with the mean girls & she dealt with it, & it wasnt that bad' but my mom was one of them. & that just isn't mean. I'm not some little stuck up.
AHH just help!
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Hey. I would tell her that being around people like this is really hurting you and you're so tired of it. You can't concentrate on other things and it's really not a healthy enviornment. Say that you just want to be in a nice enviornment and that she should be happy that you don't want to be mean. If you find it hard to do this in person write her a letter. Say how badly you feel that she doesn't understand. And I'm sure she will understand once you get all of this out. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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anyone please this is not that long and i really need help. Sometimes my parents can be complete IDIOTS. im not allowed to go skiing because My dad SAYS that im going to get hurt. I cant do an article for school on RAPE because my mom doesnt like it and now i have to stay up to research another one AND memorize it. (btw im 13/f) These stupid choices of my parents are making me depressed and i even cut myslef because of it. I cant have a boyfriend untill im 17, i cant wear a tampon yet, MY MOM DOESNT ACCEPT THAT IM GROWING UP. IVE TREID TALKING TO HER ABOUT THIS BUT SHE WILL NOT LISTEN. Seriously, My dads decision about skiing. I mean COME ON. IM GONNA GET HURT WTF. i know my parents care about me but they need to let go! They will NOT listen to me when i tell them all this. I cry all the time and i dont know what to do. Sometimes my life is perfect and sometimes i want to die. What i really want to ask you guys is what can i do now? Ive talked to them, that doesnt work. I know a note wont work and they WOUDL NOT go to a counseller or anything. I honestly feel that if i sucide myslef, they might learn something. (Also, im indian if that helps). Is anyone can help me PLEASE do so. (link)
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Hey. Your parents are only doing this because they care about you and don't want anything to happen to you. They love you so much and would feel so guilty if something happened. Right now you may be really upset about all of your restrictions but you will look back in the long run and be so glad that they did this. I know you're probably shaking your head no but it's true =). About the ski trip, there's a lot of parents who don't let their kids go on these things it's only normal. Try convincing them to go on your own trip with them, you'll still have fun and they'll be glad you suggested it. Just gain their trust. And don't cut yourself!! Please, if your parents knew they would be so hurt and you're hurting yourself. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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The other day I was at the mall with my friend and we saw this beautiful formal for only 25 dollars, if you can believe it. It was sleeveless and backless, but when the back is laced up it really doesn't show much skin. I have a few standards of dress that I refuse to bend, so I bought a shawl with the dress to cover my shoulders (it's kinda see-through, but it covers up the skin). I showed the dress to my parents and my mom hates it but my dad thinks it's ok (backwards, I know). How can I convince my mom that it doesn't matter what she thinks about the dress because I bought it and I'm the one who's going to be wearing it. btw, I'm 17 (link)
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Hey. Well your mom is probably just trying to protect you because she loves you so much but you have to gain her trust. Tell her how you bought the shawl and you would never buy a dress for a bad reason. Tell her how much you really like the dress and how nice you think it looks. She should understand since she's your mom. Maybe you can write her a letter (this may sound strange but things are easier in writing) and explain how hurt you were that she didn't like it since you were so excited to show her when you got it. She will probably understand your feelings and you guys can work something out. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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13/f
In the summer holidays me and my family (mum, dad, bruv)are going to Spain. I really want my best mate to come (she wants to come as well).
My mum did mention her coming before but not since. Also, I know she might be able to because 've been to Edinburgh and center parcs with her which is a lot of money, and mum wants to take her somewhere with us. I just don't know about Spain.
But, the question is, what is the right way to ask mum whether my best friend can come? (link)
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I would just talk to her about how much you can't wait for this trip and how grateful you are. Then just ask her about your best mate. She's your mom and she's sure to understand no matter what. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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My dad is an alcoholic and hits my mom all the time. Can I do anything about it even though he doesnt hit me? He calls me bad names a lot though. Oh and Im 16. (link)
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You have to tell the police! Or an older source who can help you. Your mom is probably in a really tough situation and so hurt right now. You're probably getting hurt really bad right now too, mentally. You have to call the police and they can get help for your dad and your family. I really hope this helped you and good luck! =)
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Does anyone know of a good dude ranch with trail rides AND good tennis? Anywhere in the U.S. is fine. I want to know if there is a reliable place with fun yet reliable horses to ride one pretty trails, and tennis courts and instructors/tennis clinics?
Thanks (link)
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Hey, I searched online for ranches with horses and tennis and I found a list of all of these places. I looked at the first one and it looks really fun! Maybe you can try searching these. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Alisal Guest Ranch and Resort ~ Solvang, California
Averills Flathead Lake Lodge ~ Bigfork, Montana
Bishop's Lodge Ranch Resort & Spa ~ Santa Fe, New Mexico
C Lazy U Ranch ~ Granby, Colorado
Circle Z Ranch ~ Patagonia, Arizona
Clear Creek Ranch ~ Burnsville, North Carolina
Elkhorn Ranch ~ Tuscon, Arizona
Flying E Ranch ~ Wickenburg, Arizona
Highland Ranch ~ Philo, California
King Mountain Ranch ~ Granby, Colorado
Lost Valley Ranch ~ Sedalia, Colorado
Mayan Dude Ranch ~ Bandera, Texas
Mountain Sky Guest Ranch ~ Emigrant, Montana
Pinegrove Dude Ranch ~ Kerhonkson, New York
Rancho de los Caballeros ~ Wickenburg, Arizona
Red Reflet Ranch ~ Ten Sleep, Wyoming
Rock Springs Guest Ranch ~ Bend, Oregon
Rockin' R Ranch ~ Antimony, Utah
Rocking Horse Ranch Resort ~ Highland, New York
Sundance Guest Ranch ~ Ashcroft, British Columbia (Canada)
Sylvan Dale Guest Ranch ~ Loveland, Colorado
Three Bars Guest & Cattle Ranch ~ Cranbrook, British Columbia (Canada)
Whistling Acres Guest Ranch ~ Paonia, Colorado
White Stallion Ranch ~ Tucson, Arizona
Wit's End Guest Ranch & Resort ~ Vallecito Lake, Colorado
By the way I went to this website http://www.guestranches.com/activities/29/tennis_ranches.php
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I'm pretty sure some of you teens out there have the same "Mom" problem as I do. Here goes. My mom is a really nice person and she cares about me ALOT but i could NEVER please her. It feels like shes ALWAYS YELLING at me. Belive me i TRY to pick up around the house when i have time and after i do shes happy. A little while later when im relaxing shes yelling at me for something thats not in its right place, something on the floor etc. I try to tell my mom that i TRY to help but she thinks i could do me. I mean when i get home from school im TIRED and when she comes home shes yelling at me for some apparent reason like If im watching tv or something. Im a striaght A student and im very athletic and she doesnt act like shes proud of me or anything. I get depressed about it because my mom sacrificed ALOT to raise my sister and I and I know shes very depressed and she always has pains and everything. I dont know what im doing wrong. I think its my mom on one hand because she thoroughly cleans the house like everyday. I dont believe you NEED to thoroughly clean the house everyday. Picking up around yes but not really cleaning. I dont know what im doing wrong and its making me really depressed. I asked my mom what i can do more and she says clean up around. I am VERY tired when i come home and i also have homework plus volleyball games...i have no time to really clean the house. I try to help her as much as i can but there is something lacking that she is not telling me. I could never please her. Please guys, can anyone tell mer from reading this what is my fault in it or my mother's fault?
Thanks alot and dont worry just for reading all of it i rate high. (link)
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Hey. It sounds like your mom is under a lot of stress right now and she knows what a wonderful daughter you are. She is probably relying on you because she knows you're always there for her. Write a letter to her explaining how you feel (a lot of times things are easier in writing) and say how much it's hurting you that she never compliments you but always complains about what you're doing wrong. I think she feels that if she keeps pushing you you'll suceed more than she could ever imagine but she doesn't understand how you feel hurt that she never compliments you. She knows how good you do so she probably feels she doesn't need to say those things out loud but only the things that will make you do better. I would write the letter and she's sure to understand. I really hope this helps and good luck! =)
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my mother is like a different person than when i first met her. she's like two different people in one body. this week, i went on a retreat, and i left her a letter telling her about how much i hate my school and how stupid that school makes me feel. she said she really liked my letter and that she would seriously consider letting me transfer schools. then the minute my aunt walks into the room, she starts screaming. she told me i could never go another school, and if i have to stay in the school that i'm in now, i sware, i've literally thought of like driving myself to another school when my mom drops me off at school or like have someone come pick me up. like, this lady is bipolar and this is definatley not my mommy. i think my real mother was like ubducted by aliens or something, what can i do about her?? please please give me some advice about the school issue, because this lady, whoever she is, doesn't care about anything i have to say. im not even kidding about the car thing, i'm like totally serious and i've made like my main goal to get out of that school, and no one is going to change my mind, even if like i get myself kicked out. ive considered talking to the headmistress and having her ask me to leave, ?? (link)
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Hey. It sounds like your mommy might have really been touched about your letter but then she thought about it and said no... this might not be what's best for her. Maybe she felt bad saying this to you one on one (or embaressed) and decided that when your aunt was around she had back-up and could tell you her new feelings. Just tell her one on one how you feel and how much your school is hurting you. Say how shocked you were when she yelled at you and how depressed you truly are at this school. She's your mommy, I'm sure she'll understand. If not seek help from an older source but I'm pretty sure your mommy will understand. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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hey. ok this is a tough one and i hope you can help. my boyfriend and i broke up 2 months ago.. and it sucked. and recently weve been talking alot and telling eachother how much we miss eachother. so, last night we hung out in a group and we were kind of keeping to ourselves and talking and cuddling. were hanging out again tonight and idk if i should make a move and put myself back into a relationship that i could be hurt again by him. hes a great guy and was my best boyfriend yet. what should i do? (link)
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Hey. Well first of all let me tell you that I'm thrilled you seeked my advice =). Anyways, if you really like this guy then I would get back together with him. First of all though, tell him your feelings (if he's a nice guy he'll understand) and who knows? He may even feel the same way about you. Does it seem as if he feels the same way about you? Or does he do this with a lot of people. If so this may just be the way he is and it's not you. But, if you feel that you both feel the same way about eachother I would stick with him and talk about your feelings. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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There is this Boy Called Tom*
WE started walking down from school together as he lives up the road. we really got to know each other and talked on msn everynight . one night he asked me to come up the street with him , i did and everything went ok... untill we met people from our school he is a year older than me so the boys were all older. being boys they stated saying stuff etc The day after Tom told a friend that we went up the street , his friend started this rumour about us and Tom started not talking to me as if he did someone would say something. the only problem is i really like Tom and cant stop thinking about him ! I told him i didnt like him though to stop all the rumours now he doesnt like me ! he is kind of a "freak" to all of my friends so telling them is a no do .
Please help !! i know this sounds stupid and its a long message but i do need help ! any will do !! (link)
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Hey. Well he probably got really hurt when you told him you didn't like him and figured that if you don't even like him why go through all this trouble. He was probably mad that all of these rumors started about him over someone who doesn't even like him. I would tell him how you really feel about him and tell him what happened. Say you were really hurt too that this happened to you guys and how much you like him. All the rumors should stop once they see what a great couple the two of you might be. Remember, people who start rumors are really insecure about themselves and want to turn the blame towards someone else. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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i know you get a million of these stupid friendship questions, but who cares. this ones pretty importantt.
14/f
my friends & one who is my BEST FRIEND. tottalyy ditched me. i mean, they keep doing it. like, they all went to disney princesses, well of course i wouldnt wanna go to that, because im not some 4 year old. but, id still like to be asked..yano? anyways, like. it gets me so mad. & thats basically my group. i have like 4 other friends. but those people arnt really my best friends. & like, they dont even like the one girl, they just all lost there best friends, & so there using my best friend. they actually hate her. there so fake, they say stuff about her 24/7. & so shes ditching me now, to hang out with these fake people. & its like.. if i told her they dont really like her.. she wouldnt believe me. she'd turn it around & say that im just jealous, or something stupid likke that.
& idk. like this is kinda confusing i know, & its about to get a little more confusing, but if youve followed along this far, then..yay you! but anyways, they told me a week ago, that they arnt hanging out with me, because im too busy with all my public friends & all the boys. & i dont care about talking to them anymore. [i hang out with reallly popular kids at the public schools.]
& gr. its just retarded, what should i do?
should i try to tell my friend there fake?
or should i get evidence somehow that its true? (link)
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Hey. That does sound like a horrible situation. If these girls are this mean and are ditching you like this than they're jealous and NOT your friends. Even your old best friend. If she can be mean enough to ditch you like this too, I would drop them all and find a new group of nice friends. You don't deserve to be treated like this so just stay with the friends you think are nice (and not mean to others too) and stick with them. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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i don't get it.
my friends..like, when i talk to guys, they flip & get mad at me & wont talk to me & stuff. & its not like im flirting with someone they like or anything i walk over to them & be like.. can i borrow a pencil? & then i walk back over to them & they give me this dirty look, & ignore me the rest of class. & like.. whenever they say like who do you guys think is the prettiest girl in the grade? they always say, some girl that is yeah sure.. pretty, but.. [this is going to sound conceited] i think im prettier. like, hear me out for a second, all the guys in my school & like even at other schools, always say how pretty i am. & im not a slut or anything. trust me. so i know that there not just trying to get inside my pants or whatever. but like, my friends keep ditching me & stuff.. & saying like.. "go hang out with ... " & stuff like that.
i dont get it? whats wrong with them? (link)
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Thry're probably jealous. Those are not friends if they are. Maybe they know you think you're prettier and really don't like this because they think it's really conceited. I know you're not trying to be (I hope not =)) but this may be the case. Just ignore them and if they're mean to you every time you even talk to a guy, that's not normal... and they're not friends. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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