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Q: So the premere of that was on this past Tuesday night on abc family. But I missed it :( So does anyone know a good website that I can rewatch the episodes?

thanks

You can go to abc family and check it out. hope this helps!

Q: Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and a few days ago his friend got on the phone calling me nasty names.

and i figured out my boyfriend got wasted and madeout with another girl.

i love him but i dont trust him.

i am misrable without him. should i give him another chance?

I've always heard "once a cheater, always a cheater." I've never been cheated on but it's up to you. It really depends on the guy. You are in a tough decision. If you are really happy with him then i would give him another chance. But trust is a REALLY big thing in relationships and if you can't trust your mate, then it isn't a good relationship...Hope this helps! Good luck!

Q: I feel so bad about everything about me. My personality, who I am, my life, my race, I just really don't like who I am. Everytime I make a little mistake i go over it again and again in my mind just telling myself how stupid I am and how everyone's going to remember it. I hope I don't sound complainy, but that's just how it is. Could there be something wrong with me?

Aww! Don't be so hard on yourself. You need to have self esteem and confidence. Confidence is what you think about yourself and if you don't have it then you must not like yourself. This may sound weird but everyday look in the mirrior and say something nice about yourself. Whether it be "I have nice eyes." or "I can play vollyball great!" Eventually you will grow more to like yourself and to accept yourself. Hope this helps.

Q: I am trying to earn 100 dollars(USD)to buy a digital camera before August and so far I only have 20 something dollars.I need ideas to help me make money faster.
Heres what I can't do:
mow lawns,have a lemonade stand,babysit,have a yardsale,care for pets,you name it.
So any help?or ideas?

You could ask your parents if you can get an allowance and help out around the house. I get 15 a week and it adds up...Hope this helps!

Q: So here goes:
My dad was in the military for a long time. Several decades you could say. So, my whole life, we'd move around to a new duty station every 2-4 years. I'm fifteen now and my dad finally retired. Now I'm living in my 'permanent house'.
But I'm coming up on my fifth anniversary of living here and I'm feeling antsy. Like, I feel like it's time to just get up and leave you know? This is the longest I've ever lived in one place...
I feel as though I've subconsciously already 'prepared' for the move that just isn't going to happen. I've had falling-outs with most of my friends and I've gone through and gotten rid of stuff in my room that I don't feel I need wherever we're going. But we aren't going anywhere. I stopped caring for my relationships for other people and so on a few months ago. And now looking back, I think it's because I figured I'd have a chance to start over in a new place. But I don't.
It's basically just that my mind I suppose thought I was leaving. But I'm not. So now my life is a mess and I don't know how to set it right.
Is there any way to break this cycle of 'preparing' to move?

Get back together with your friends and tell them about the situation that you are in. Tell them you are used to packing up and you really aren't moving this time. I really don't think there is a way to break the cycle execpt by just not giving your stuff away...etc..you'll get used to the permanent thing soon. Hope this helps!

Q: I have one question-I heard that after one to two years, periods start to get really bad. Is it also true that your breasts stop growing two years after your first period?

It is different for everyone, everyone has a different body type so it just depends on them. It may or may not happen to you. Hope this helps!

Q: Well...I have been declared a friend with benefits with my friend Brandon. But, I told him I wanted to be more, but he has a girlfriend. And just this morning, I found out that he was depressed over something that happened with his gf, this big fight her parents had. He told me he was crying...this was a side that I had never seen of Brandon. And then I realized that I am probably nothing more of a friend to him who is in the way of a relationship. But when I found this out, I didn't know if I should be upset or not. Then I got the news of everything okay between the parents and stuff now, I was happy for him...just because he was happy. But what am I going to do? Should I leave him alone from now on? Stop talking to him? I really don't want to be a problem between the relationship. And it would hurt me so if I did. So I would be grateful if someone gave me some advice.
PS: Sorry it was so long.

Well if he already has a girlfriend and you are a friend with benefits with him, that means his girlfriend dosen't know and he is partially cheating. What if that was you he was doing that to? Good luck!

Q: i was just curious how bad it hurts when u get a tattoo?

My dad has 6 tattoos and he said it depends on where you get it, like if you get it on your foot, the skin is very thin there, which would make it hurt more...etc. Hope this helps!

Q: so when i go to the beach, we always go to these same shops and they always have a bunch of baby turtles you can buy and take home really cheap. they are so precious, and they're smaller than the palm of my hand. my parents always tell me it's dumb because they won't even make the 9/10 hour drive home. but how could they not, if i feed it right and all that stuff? i love turtles and really want to get one this year. anyone had any experience with these tiny ones?

Omg!!! I love those turtles! i have always wanted one and ,y parents would not let me get one. My friend once got one and it lasted a long time! Just make sure it dosen't bump around alot, give it plenty of food and water and don't hit on it's cage. Hope this helps!

Q: What is the best hair straightener? I don't mind if its really expensive.

I have a paul mitchell and it works wonders! i love it to death. It makes your hair straight and shiny! Hope this helps!

Q: I am a 13 year old girl. My only wish for my parents is that they could have been better discipline wise. There is still time for that to happen, but I don't think it will. Now don't think I am some spoiled little brat. I may be a lot of things, but that sure isn't one of them! I never have been as I have a genuine like for people and treat them with respect. Also my parents did not spoil me. I like to earn things. Believe me, I have been punished. And if I feel I deserve more I punish myself. Trust me on this too, if I started sneaking out and sleeping around, they most likely would send me away somewhere. But I just wish when I was younger (like 5-9) that they're punishments were harsher.
Of course, my mom went into deep depression and couldn't really do anything like that.

Now my problem is that I feel extremely guilty even though I have not turned out bad. How do I stop this? I can't stand it anymore!

Aww! Don't be so hard on yourself. Just tell yourself you are a good girl and you act right. Start making good impressions on people by doing whats right! Hope this helps!

Q: does my period last my whole life or what

No, not your whole life. Ususally women 50-60 go through a change of life and that means they stop having their periods. On average a women can have up to 500 periods in their lifetime. Hope this helps!

Q:
hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 and a half months im 19 and so is he when we first starting dating it was great he called me every night he texted me all the time and we always had fun together now he rarely calls or texts if he does call its around midnight and if i call him he is always with his friends and either says i cant talk right now or he talks to them the whole time while i am on the phone listeneing and sometimes he calls me when he is with the friends and i just have to listen to him talk to them and now we are always fighting he never invites me to do anything with him and his friends anymore either he awways teels me wat hes doing as hes doing it doesnt even invite me and his friends are over every night and he says he didnt invite them that they have a key and he doesnt even wanna b there with them we never really go out anymore we just sit at home and watch tv he says he is always romantic but i cant even remember the last time he was wat should i do to help our relationship

It kinda sounds like yall are drifting apart. It can be tough sometimes because my friend was in this very situation and they ended up breaking up over and over again. It was horrible for her. I would give you both some space and try to realize if you really want to be in that relationship or if you are happier without it. Hope this helps!

Q: well so i met this guy and i just moved to a new place and im going to a new high school and everything. im gonna be a sophmore. i used to live here so i still have some friends from when i was younger. anyway my friend introduced me to this guy and a few of us went to the movies and he kissed me. now since we barely knew each other we are getting to kno each other and stuff. the problem is i dont think i actually like HIM i just like the guy attention. a few months ago my bf and i broke up and now ive moved on but now that im single i really want guy attention. the guy acts like he likes me and we do flirt but i dont think i actually like him. i really dont think i like him i think i just like the attention. he says hes been thinking about me a lot and has even brought up us dating in the future but i dont kno what to do. if he only had a casual relationship would it be ok that i dont like him a lot? cause lots of people date people casually that they arent in serious like with. but i also dont think its a good idea to date someone before i even go to the school because i dont want people already making assumptions of me. the guy seems nice and genuine but im still not sure if he is. i have a hard time trusting guys. anyway thanks for your input!! :)

Well if you don't like him 100% then i wouldn't lead him on thinking you may date in the future. I would just be strictly friends. And about the guy attention, you may get a lot of that without even knowing it. Everybody wants guy attention and not everyone gets it but your time will come when it comes when your dating a guy. You'll get all the attention you want! Hope this helps!

Q: I would like to get a head start on a vacation for spring break, any suggestions...no MTV Spring Blings or anything like that, it can be extreme fun like the spring bling but just no television shows or tv cast

Thankx ^_^

You could go to the beach or on a cruise....

Q: Ok, so next year I will be a freshman in highschool. Scary right? ha ha well, I really want to change before so that when I walk in, it's like "Woah! you've changed so much!". I know it's a bit early to start thinking about the first day of school, but if something goes wrong, i'd rather have enough time to fix it :). Anyways, basically, I just want to alter my appearance. Does any one have any suggestions? I don't know where to start... I'll post a pic of me:

http://i240.photobucket.com/albums/ff196/hitoast/002.jpg
(sorry 'bout the silly smile :3 i'm a dork)

and if you can't see it, my eyes are smokey blue/gray-ish and my hair is light brown with blond highlights :) if that helps at all.

Thanks a lot!

Well i think you look fine to me but you could try getting your hair a little darker (even though i like the color it is now) or you could get layers..you could also curl your hair...Hope this helps...

Q: I'm 16 and still have several baby teeth. I haven't pulled one out in probably three or so years, and none of them back been remotely loose thus far.
My top row of teeth are badly aligned with my bottom row, and I have a gap inbetween :(
I know I need braces and I've been wanting them for quite a while, and ultimately, my question is...
Do I need to pull all my baby teeth out before getting braces ? :|

Before i got my braces on, i had to go to a dentist and get 10 teeth pulled so they could put my braces on. This may be the case with you, but before you pull them, go to an orthodontist and see what he has to say about putting braces on you and what you need to do with your baby teeth. Hope this helps!

Q: well i just met this guy and we've been getting to kno each other and i think im starting to like him and he feels the same way. and we went to the movies with our friends and he kissed me and everything. the problem is he used to be bad abd smoke and hes had sex and stuff. not thats not that big a deal because he doesnt anymore but im like really good and everything. like he drinks and thats the big thing between us if we ever wanted to date. he said its not often at all but still... i have a list of what guys have to not do if i date them and drinking uderage is one of the things. hes only 15. im 14. what should i do??? because i mean what if i start to really like him? thanks!! :)

Tell him your feelings about him drinking. Next time he says he's drinking, say "You don't need to do that so just stop." If this guy really likes you, he will stop. Good luck!

Q: ok so I've been wearing make-up forever now and only recently my eyes have become super blood shot. They started doing that towards the end of the school year &+ now. I don't suppose I'm allergic or anything because my eyes didn't do that in the beginning or the middle of the year. I really don't know what it could be. My mom thinks it's my eyeliner (but we're not really sure) and she also wants me to stop wearing make-up altogether. So is there a way that I can still keep wearing eyeliner without it making my eyes blood shot? Maybe I should switch to a different eyeliner brand? or what? Does anyone have any suggestions?

thanks,
Michellemonster

Well, if you have been wearing the same eyeliner all year and it hasn't done that, then i dont know why it would be doing this now. Anyways, you could try a different brand of eyeliner and see if that works. If that makes your eyes bloodshot too, then your eyes are probably sensitive to all eyeliners. Also, you might be accidently getting it in your eye to much. Hope this helps!

Q: What are the IVy league schools in the U.S

Some Ivy league schools are:
Harvard University
Yale University
Princeton University.
Hope this helps.

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