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Should I keep my distance from him?
Well...I have been declared a friend with benefits with my friend Brandon. But, I told him I wanted to be more, but he has a girlfriend. And just this morning, I found out that he was depressed over something that happened with his gf, this big fight her parents had. He told me he was crying...this was a side that I had never seen of Brandon. And then I realized that I am probably nothing more of a friend to him who is in the way of a relationship. But when I found this out, I didn't know if I should be upset or not. Then I got the news of everything okay between the parents and stuff now, I was happy for him...just because he was happy. But what am I going to do? Should I leave him alone from now on? Stop talking to him? I really don't want to be a problem between the relationship. And it would hurt me so if I did. So I would be grateful if someone gave me some advice.
PS: Sorry it was so long.
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Well if he already has a girlfriend and you are a friend with benefits with him, that means his girlfriend dosen't know and he is partially cheating. What if that was you he was doing that to? Good luck!
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If you fool around with someone in a relationship, that will ALWAYS be a problem.
Nothing can make it okay and nothing can make you feel okay about it.
This boy is using you to support and please him. Dragging you into his personal issues with his girlfriend and her family is every kind of wrong. It also means he doesn't give a shit about the feelings he might be stiring up in you. He is only interested in what you can provide to make him feel better.
Not only is he not interested in being 'more' with you, he is not even interested in treating you respectfully. He treats you like a third-wheel in his relationship.
Trust me, it will hurt you more in the end if you hold in to this one-sided friendship.
Follow your gut. Leave him alone.
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hello there.
I'm sure you've heard this before buuuut:
Friends with benefits usually doesn't work out so well. You can say that you won't get emotionally attached, but usually you do. It's hard not to, and completely understandable if you do. Also, since this guy has a girlfriend, it's not good to mess around with him. I would back off and merely be his friend and there for him for tough situations like this.
Good luck!
Katie
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