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My mind keeps thinking I'm moving soon....
So here goes:
My dad was in the military for a long time. Several decades you could say. So, my whole life, we'd move around to a new duty station every 2-4 years. I'm fifteen now and my dad finally retired. Now I'm living in my 'permanent house'.
But I'm coming up on my fifth anniversary of living here and I'm feeling antsy. Like, I feel like it's time to just get up and leave you know? This is the longest I've ever lived in one place...
I feel as though I've subconsciously already 'prepared' for the move that just isn't going to happen. I've had falling-outs with most of my friends and I've gone through and gotten rid of stuff in my room that I don't feel I need wherever we're going. But we aren't going anywhere. I stopped caring for my relationships for other people and so on a few months ago. And now looking back, I think it's because I figured I'd have a chance to start over in a new place. But I don't.
It's basically just that my mind I suppose thought I was leaving. But I'm not. So now my life is a mess and I don't know how to set it right.
Is there any way to break this cycle of 'preparing' to move?
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Moving is something you have grown accustomed to as you have stated here but now you must live in one place for at least a few more years (you may move away after high school). Slowly you will find the idea of living in one place normal but for now you could really use this as an advantage. Your life is a clean slate, you need to meet new people and redecorate your room in a new way. Take this as an opportunity to improve yourself and your life, it will be a challenge but very rewarding if you commit yourself.
If you can, try to meet new people. Join a sports team, get a summer job, volunteer, or join some sort of a club. Maybe you`ll meet some new people that you never had gotten to know before. If you are into this you could give yourself a makeover before school starts again. Maybe get a new outfit and style your hair in a different way - as far as you want to take it. You can also work on your personality, build your self-confidence and let your true self shine through. You won`t have actually moved, but you can still enjoy the 'fresh start' opportunities.
Your room is a place that you can go to relax. You should make it welcoming and somewhere you feel comfortable. It`s time to settle in and make your room a place you enjoy spending time - you no longer need to worry about leaving it.
Once you really settle into your room and develop your personality and life you may never want to leave. Your old friends may be attracted back to you, if they`re not you really don`t need them. Reconnecting with them may take time but could be well worth it. Good luck, let me know if you need clarification on anything I said, or anymore help. =)
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Get back together with your friends and tell them about the situation that you are in. Tell them you are used to packing up and you really aren't moving this time. I really don't think there is a way to break the cycle execpt by just not giving your stuff away...etc..you'll get used to the permanent thing soon. Hope this helps!
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