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relationship problem
hi me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 and a half months im 19 and so is he when we first starting dating it was great he called me every night he texted me all the time and we always had fun together now he rarely calls or texts if he does call its around midnight and if i call him he is always with his friends and either says i cant talk right now or he talks to them the whole time while i am on the phone listeneing and sometimes he calls me when he is with the friends and i just have to listen to him talk to them and now we are always fighting he never invites me to do anything with him and his friends anymore either he awways teels me wat hes doing as hes doing it doesnt even invite me and his friends are over every night and he says he didnt invite them that they have a key and he doesnt even wanna b there with them we never really go out anymore we just sit at home and watch tv he says he is always romantic but i cant even remember the last time he was wat should i do to help our relationship
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i can understand where you are coming from because it doesn't feel good to be somewhat neglected. and i think that is how you are feeling. but usually when people spend sooo much time together they start to get sick of it because they are so used to being with the same person everyday. i think right now he just wants to find sometime with his friends and just be around the guys. However, that doesn't give him an excuse to just cut you out of the picture and do the things that he does to you. The only way you can fix this situation is to let him know how you are feeling, just sit him down and tell him to let you talk and make sure he doesn't say anything until you are completely finished. I know how annoying it can be to talk to someone and have them sit there and not even listen to a word your saying. Let him know that you dont feel as though things are the way they used to be. Maybe you guys can come to some agreement because its obvious that he wants time with his friends. So you should be able to go out and do the same exact thing. When he's out with the guys, you can be out with your friends too. It's good to be able to balance relationships with boyfriends and best friends. if he can't handle being a boyfriend then you should take a break. This is def. not a selfish move on your part because it takes 2 people to have a relationship. As long as he can understand where your coming from things will be fine. :]
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It kinda sounds like yall are drifting apart. It can be tough sometimes because my friend was in this very situation and they ended up breaking up over and over again. It was horrible for her. I would give you both some space and try to realize if you really want to be in that relationship or if you are happier without it. Hope this helps!
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I feel that this situation is a really bad one. But next time he calls even if hes with his friends you should talk to him about it. Maybe the best thing to do is tell him that you guys should be friends until he can find time for you. But be cool and calm about it, no reason to loose your cool. You have to rely on how you feel now, when you guys havent talked and your asking for advice, compared to being head over heels you know there is something wrong, also dont neglect your friends through this. Guys come and go but your friends will always be there for you no matter what. You might not think its a good idea but it might be the best for you to just get up and move on? Good Luck i hope it helped
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This sounds like hes being very selfish.
At the begging of relationships guys try harder because they are working on getting the girl. Once they have the girl they try to relax and tend to not try. (marriage is the ultimate form of this)
Tell this guy how you feel. Tell him you feel left out and that hes not the same guy as 6 months ago.
Tell him you like him and you want this relationship to work.
Ask him to hang out with his friends some times. (not too much he does need "guy" time)
But his whole life cannot be guy time you need to be including wayy more then he is including you.
Tell him what you need he needs to fix, and that he needs to step it up.
Hope it helped
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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