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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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Well I have this friend and I thought he was pretty decent but now on Facebook he is sexually harassing me and asking me all these inappropriate questions. I don't wanna be mean or anything but its making me very uncomfortable. How do I let him down easy?

Just talk to him... tell him you do not want to make him feel bad in anyway but he is making you uncomfortable, and that you would like for him to stop with all the inappropriate questions and comments... if he doesnt stop then block him good luck and best wishes

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I'm 11 yrs old and I love kids. I have taken care of my lil sister who is 9 and took care of my 3 yr old cousin. I'm pretty mature and an honor roll student. I already have a trillion ideas to entertain kids with?

Do you think I'm good babysitting material?

Well it depends on the parent... you sound like a very "together" young girl who is responsible... but with my kids I would need you to be a little older and be cpr certified but that doesnt mean it wouldnt be this way for other parents good luck

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Hi, I'm in a situation. I have no job, car, home, money, and no one to turn to when I feel like I need some one the most. I live with guy and his family- he doesn't really support me with my struggles. My step parents will no longer let me live with them and they are not very helpful with what they could help with. My dad is psycho- he harasses me when I'm not at his house and had recently harassed my friends on facebook regarding me. When I found out, I blocked him. He has the mind of an immature ten year old. I've grown apart from most of my good friends. Only a few I still keep in contact with but they are not really supportive or helpful in any way. I have no one. NO support. NO anything. My boyfriend isn't really there for me. I don't think he knows how to be even though I tell him what I want and need. He doesn't do anything even proactive to help me with all these burdens on my shoulders. He usually goes on a tirade about me always wanting something when he's not in a mood to help and says "There's nothing I can do." He doesn't know how to be the supportive type. My step parents who have helped me all these years by giving me a home and taking care of me have the idea in their heads that I didn't care about them like they hoped I would. I did but they didn't know how to be supportive of my emotional struggles at school or with my peers back in my grade school years. They always had a negative approach towards me and it had always brought my mood all the way down. Instead of helping me understand how to deal with my mental troubles, they always nagged about something such as my grades dropping or me leaving a cup on a table for ten minutes without putting it in the dishwasher. When there are times when I really feel the need for some attention regarding my issues and no one is there or even tries to help, I get very agitated and negative towards everyone. My needs are Never met. They are always moved behind and neglected then everything gets worse and my head starts to feel like it's going to explode. I just want something some of you out there have, Someone out there who actually cares about how I feel and someone who could help. Someone to hear me out once in a while instead of just waiting for their turn to speak or to tend to their systematic schedules of their lives.

We all need someone in our lies that we can turn to and talk to about anythign someone we can trust not to tell a soul about our secrets and someone we need to vent to... if you would like you can email me at stephiesadvice@aol.com I would be happy to listen to your problems give you advice and most importantly be a friend... good luck on everything

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Last school year my parents home-schooled me, and it was okay. But because of my mean and rude personality I'm not so sure that we should do it this year. I really want to go back to my old school since there will only be one class, and I'll get to spend some time with my friends. The one thing that worries me is that I'm not exactly social, active, or any of the things needed for school (P.E., typing class, that sort of thing. Oh yeah, there is no art.). And I get really worried that I'm not going to be able to find my way around the school. Should I stay with being homeschooled and risk losing almost all of my friends, or go to school and be overflowed with homework, and not learn as much as I could?

Going to school and making friends is an important part of everyones childhood... but if you feel that your personality or you not wanting to be active may cause a problem you may want to just stay home with your parents you can still hang out with your friends outside of school good luck and best wishes

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Ok, so I don't know what to make of this to be honest. My boyfriend of 8 months has been nothing but good to me, he bought me everything I ever need from books to jewellery, and swears he'd always protect me even if we weren't together.

Anyway, I know he has a violent streak in him, I've never seen it but his family knows and he told me some of the stories from his past, which didn't worry me too much because he's never once hurt me or anything. But last night he told me about his attitude to relationships when he was about 17, and most of these stories involved him treating his girlfriends like crap, dumping them after a day and using them to buy him shoes and give him money etc.
I don't know if it's possible to change from this attitude though, I mean, he's lovely to me, I give him freedom to go to parties and tell him he can chat up girls so long as he's clear that nothing happens, and he says that made him respect me more, but since he told me that I'm worried I'm just going to be another name in a list of people he humiliated and hurt.

Is that something I should let go because it's his past and he's changed?

He is doing great with you and he treats you with respect and love... so he had a sorry past... dont hold his past against him if he has changed... that would be like someone bringing up every mistake you have ever made and even though you learned your lesson and wouldnt do it again they decide you know what you are not worth my time... dont do that to him... it had to be hard for him to tell you the things he has done but he wouldnt have told you if he didnt care about you and trust you... dont leave him unless he gets mean or aggressive with you. :) good luck and best wishes

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i just want to know what can be the most unpainful way to commit suicide , I know some of u will try to convince me not to do it … but i’m afraid a won’t change my mind .my life right know is a living hell I really can’t bare it anymore , the thing is that I have a mom who’s driving me mad even though I’m really sensible and a kind of mature no drugs no drinking and certainly no smoking cause I’m really interested in sport , school report aren’t bad at all I don’t know why I have to stand all these things , I’v been really patient but it’s just getting worst I’v never thought I’d end up like this …. However I just want some answers because I can’t afford a gun or anything like that so… by the way I’m 17 years old ps: sorry for my bad English

You have so much to live for... life is hard now but trust me it will get better... also think of what you will do to your family.... they love you and need you around.... dont kill yourself it will get better... if you need someone to talk to a friend talk to me... email me anytime at stephiesadvice@aol.com please please dont hurt yourself you are smart and wonderful and just reading your little bit of text I can tell you will do great if you just give life a chance... best wishes

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A kid from school that I've been hooking up with on and off with is coming to stay with me this weekend because my mom is going out of town. my question is what can we do. my house can get really boring and i dont want him to be bored but I dont have any ideas!

ove all the answers fron the first post but I just want you to know that usually when you invite a boy over with no parents he has the idea that this means sex... now I advise you not do this but you are going to do what you want so make sure that you have condoms you dont want to end up pregnant at such a young age trust me I know it is not easy I have two I had my son when I was barely 17 and my daughter not long after ... its hard and you may not get lucky like me and the babys daddy may not stick around so stay protected

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Just got your comment and I am sorry If I offended you in any way... You did not mention you age, you said a kid from school, and its at your parents house... If it were the other way around I am sure you would have assumed the same.. I honestly thought you were a younger teen... again sorry... I didnt mean to offend you I was just trying to help

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How can I stop myself from eating so much? I dont have time to go to the gym. How I can I stop eating? food is so good.

Well this is a big mistake that most people make they cut back on food and stop eating... when you do this your body feels like it is being starved... the best thing... instead of 3 big meals try having six small healthy meals and lots of healthy snacks this way your body doesnt go in panic mode and store fat... you can so it good luck

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I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for four years he has younger sisters one is my age and the other is 17. Anyway when me and my boyfriend first started going out we would always go out with them and i would notice him staring at their butt but i didn't think much of it since i really liked him and he would stare at mine too. We stopped going out with them as much due to we all work and go to school so now we don't have time.But i always notice him looking at their butts when we go to their house they wear really short tight shorts
(sometimes part of their butt even comes out a little when they walk) all the time and their butts are like amazingly big, like kim kardashian im not kidding haha. Mine is just normal size and it has recently starting to bother me, because i noticed he never stares at mine anymore but always checks out theirs, is this normal, and what should i do? sometimes i let us walk in front of them purposely but feel foolish its starting to make me feel insecure.

This definatly is not normal... they are his sisters... thats gross... my brother and I love each other (in a sibling type way) but if you would ask him if I was hott he would tell you I was gross and ugly and vice versa thats the way it is you are supposed to think your siblings a unatractive... its odd for him to be checkin his sisters out like that.. My advice leave the wried boy to love up on his sisters and you find someone else who doesnt have the hotts for his fam good luck

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My boyfriend and I get along great, and our relationship is very strong and built on a powerful trust and emotional attachment and perfect chemistry. Because I've been grounded we haven't seen each other since last Wednesday although I will see him Saturday.

but sometimes I get the feeling he is losing interest in me. I am getting this insecure feeling that I shouldn't have. I'm getting scared that I'm not making him happy and he's drifting away from me. I don't want to mention it because I don't want him to get upset and make the situation bigger than it already is, so I don't know what to do.

You probably just feel this way because you have been grounded and you avent been able to see him... but if you are worried just talk to hiim all relationships need communication he needs to know how you feel if you want him to fix it... talk to him... good luck

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Im married with 2 kids and there is this male co-worker who would joke that we are soulmates everytime we wore same color of shirt. His bestfriend sometimes teases us too. There are some instance where he would stare into my eyes n hold it for a second. I think im in love with him now? is it love or attraction?

You are just attracted to the carefree life... sometimes (especially with kids) you can feel a little trapped in your marriage... its totally normal... try spending more time with your husband.. and definatly find a new job before you get too involved and make a mistake... dont do something you are going to regret... your hubby and your kids are what you want and if you do something with this guy you are going to lose the one you have good luck and best wishes

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Okay, i have no idea what i want to do for my 16th birthday party. i want to do something entertaining but not for like an extremly large group of people & i dont want to spend a lot of money. So please give some ideas of ways i could entertain my friends & not bore them to death. Thanks :)

You can invite just a few freinds over and have a sleepover party... Lots of music, makeovers, and girlie stuff... have fun and happy bday

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Me and my ex gf were in a long distance relationship for like 5 months and we decided that it was to hard to keep a long distance relationship at our age, were only 17 and couldn't see each other in person, so like less than a week after we broke up she had sex with a another boy and she knew i wanted us to loose our virginity together but i guess she couldn't wait. so I started to think that she was talking to this boy for the longest and was secretly cheating on me, but i don't know for sure,but were just friends right now and she texts me everyday, so should i just ignore her and leave her alone or just be her friend cause i don't think i'll get back with her any time soon.

I am so sorry that she put yu through something like this... but if you have forgiven her and you are okay woith being her friend that is okay my ex and I are still good friends and we had to have a long distance relationship too after I had to move away... this was when I was 13-14 I am 20 now and we still talk but just as friends.... if you are not comfortable with being her friend thats okay too... if you feel weird talking to her it would be best to leave her go... this is entirely up to you.. follow your heart... do what makes you happy! I wish all the best for you

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I think my friend is anorexic. She wasn't really that fat in the first place but she's lost a lot of weight. Don't get me wrong i'm happy for her but also worried too. She also never ate lunch at school which was really weird because everyone eats lunch! She even stayed after school everyday from 3:30-5:00. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I'm worried about her. What should I say or do?

anorexia is a very dangerous eating disorder is you believe this is going on then you need to talk to her... let he know that you are not trying to offend her in anyway but you are worried about her... if she doesnt want to hear it and you still think she may have a problem you need to talk to her parents immediatly... if she is anorexic she can die from it get her help good luck best wishes

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if i had sex with out no condoms 2 days before my period and my period was 5 days late is thier a chance i can be pregent .?

You had your period so you are not pregnant but it is very important you wear a condom when having sex... not only will it protect you from pregnancy but it lessens your risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease

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I am in a rut. I am going to be a senior in high school, female. I am in the marching band. Back from my 7th grade year to my, I guess 9th grade year, I have had a music mentor. He was my teacher but he's helped me grow as a person and as a musician that I classify him as my music mentor. This guy was a great guy, he was lenient but I learned a lot from him. Now, I am going on a trip with the music classes my senior year, the choirs, orchestra, band and color guard. I am just skeptical as to what is going to happen because, more than half of the band thinks that I am secretly dating this teacher. To many people think that we are now, so much to the point that I can't even bring him up to my mother without her questioning it. I would like to list a few things and maybe you could tell me what you think of the situation?

-he notices small changes in me, such as styling my hair a different way
-he always let me have my phone out during the school day
-he used to ask me what songs to play with the band
-back when I still had him, he would sit with me at lunch until my friends came but then would quick walk away because he knew what my friends thought about us
-we talk about his life outside of teaching
-he allows me to call him by his first name
-he watches in on the sr high band and sometimes substitutes when our teacher is out and he always looks at me
-i went to one of the jr high band concerts to see how they play and how well they are doing and when he got before the crowd to speak, he got nervous and he found me in the dark crowd and looked at me when he talked and he seemed calmer
-one time when I was visiting him, jazz band practice was going on, it was over and everyone was leaving so he went into his office to do paperwork, I guess he didn't know I was still there so when he was walking out to his car, he saw me and asked if I needed a ride home
-I was showing him a picture on my phone and when he went to take my phone out of my hand, he touched my hand and kept it there for a while
-a teacher had made him snacks one day and after school on my walk home I stopped in to say hello and he offered me some of the snack and we ate together

What do you think and what should I do on my trip?
Thank you so much, you are awesome at giving advice to my other questions which is why I asked you (:

Sometimes teachers pick a favorite student and to be this seems like what he is doing... you are nice to him, and he seems to have a good friendship which is okay... As long as you are not seeing him outside of school I dont think your friendship is inapproprate at all.... I had a teacher friend too... but mine was a girl.. so people didnt start nasty rumors like that.... as long as he is not comming on to you and like flirting with you its fine he is just a friend... as for your trip dont let the other students stop you from having fun go on your trip and have a blast... they are just angry because they cant be the favorite student :) good luck and have fun and congrats making it through school

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thanks a lot you're really logical, and he is trying really hard to earn my trust back and it wasn't really harmless flirting it was a really dirty coversation between him and this girl as well as explicit pictures of her which i saw on his phone, so do you think that it is worth forgiving and moving on from?

Having very dirty conversations and explicit pics of this girl is very bad, so yes this boy has done wrong... In my opinion if you truly believe he has cheated and done more than what he says, then it may be time to move on and not be with him anymore. Once a cheater always a cheater thats what I believe if he does it once he will do it again... and you deserve better than that.
if you want to make it work though he is definatly going to do a major turn around to earn your trust... but if you notice most people that try to make a relationship work when someone has cheated, end up in the end apart... I think that if someone is low enough to cheat they dont love or care about you and they will be back in the old habit once you turn your back good luck

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So, like the title says, I have a terrible memory. It's really bad. I've just turned seventeen, and I'm a girl. Okay, so it's bad to the point of where someone will ask me a question, and 3 seconds later it will fade away, and I won't remember what they asked. Or, I'm in mid-sentence or story, and I'll forget what I was talking about. I also can't remember things from two or three years ago. It's all a fuzzy blur. I'll read a book and forget some of the plot. I'll get up to get something, and when I get there, I'll forget what on earth I was doing. Or, I'll put some water on the stove to boil, and a minute later I'll forget I'm cooking, and then in 10 minutes smell something weird and realize my water is all evaporated and burned. Or, "Hey Ashley, (Made up name.), can you unload the dishwasher for me? Thanks." -Twenty minutes later- "ASHLEY, you didn't unload the dishwasher!" "I didn't what...? OH crap I forgot!!". I'm known among my friend's for having a terrible memory, but it's like, really scary sometimes. If this has anything to do with it, I don't drink pop a lot, but I do get head aches A LOT, and I get dizzy often. I don't want to make a big deal out of it, so I haven't asked my doctor. I have told my mother, but she waved it off as just me being me. But it's getting to the point where I put something somewhere, and I come back and it isn't there, but no one has touched it, so I must've done something with it! And it's happening way too much and too often now... It's gotten worse over the years. So, I'm just wondering if I should be concerned, or if it's just a normal teenager thing. Help would be appreciated, thanks!

My little brother does the same thing he has ADHD and that causes you to forget easily I suggest you call your doctor and let your doctor know it is not normal... but they will give you a medication and it helps a lot with my brothers memory good luck

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me and my bf really really liked eachother befor we started dating, his fb relationship stadus said "in a relationship" . Now we started dating and now it says "single" ????

haha this is kind of cute he is a little slow on changeing his status but its ok just change it on yours and he will get a notification asking him to change his

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Let me just start out by saying, I am a firm believer in God. He is my life, and I love him so much. :D But, you see, I was raised in a Christian household. I grew up being told that Jesus was my savior, and God was my Father. I never questioned anything. Until now. I am known amongst my friends as the religious one, the one they know to NEVER offer a drink or cigarette to. Ever. ;D I have strong ideals of what is right and wrong, and a strong conscience, of which I believe to be God guiding me. So being known as that person, my friend not long ago once came to me with a dilemma, asking me all these questions about Jesus, God, etc. I had not the slightest clue of how to answer. All my faith in Him wasn't born, it was always there. I hadn't been convinced of his presence. There was never any question. So therefore, I have no facts or anything. No shield against the questions of curious people! I only have/need love, and feelings of His presence to convince me. You can't really debate with feelings, lol. Anyway, I've recently realized; All these years of just assuming and stuff, and only dealing with God, I have no idea what the Holy Spirit is! I also have no relationship with Jesus. Which has made me realize: I'm a lukewarm. I'm a poser. I've gone through my life believing I was a true christian, and now it's sorta hit me like a ton of bricks. So after all those words, here's my question: How are all three really connected? Are Jesus and God the same thing? But, why did Jesus refer to God as "The Father" if he WAS God? If they're all the same thing, what's the point of having three different things? I'm so confused. I pray to God like he's my best friend, and my dad. We're pretty tight. But when it comes to Jesus... I don't understand! When I pray to God, am I praying to Jesus too? But the Bible says if I don't know Jesus, I might as well not know God. So according to the Bible, it doesn't matter that I trust and believe in God as much as I do if I don't have a relationship with Jesus? I mean I know Christ is the only way but... UGH. -Face/palm- I've looked it up on Google, The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit thing? But I've only gotten either huge, complicated answers, or useless historical answers. I've prayed to God about it, and I think Advicenators is where He's telling me to go to. I need a human to human ANSWER, ya know, that ANSWERS my question? So can someone simply answer my questions without any unnecessary crap or anything, like stupid Wikipedia? LOL. Thank you, my sanity depends on you! OH, side question, when I'm worshiping God in song, this unknown wave of emotion flows in my chest, and all my questions fade away, and it's as if He's looking down on me, and it's calm and serene... Is this rational, and normal? My brain's not making that up, is it? xDDD!

I believe in God, love God and I am a Christian but I am still learning a lot on this... this question I over looked at first and was not going to answer because I didnt know the answer myself but it drove me crazy I couldnt get it out of my mind and I talked to my best friend who is a pastor and asked him about this... and I figured now that I have some information I will share with you... First question... What is the Holy Spirit... from what I was told the Holy Spirt lives inside you when you get saved and he guides you like becomes your conscience (like your own personal Jiminy Cricket, we used as an example) He guides you and lets you know if you done something that you need to pray about and also kind of tells you what you need to pray about... How are all three connected? Well you have the Father the Son and the Holy spirit... they are not one person but they are all the same God... I know what you are thinking here "HUH?" same thing I thought... but I am going to use an example this is what my friend used to help me understand.... Think of an egg there are three parts you have the yolk, the whites, and the shell.. all three very different things and sometimes needed individually for different recipes or taks, but all grouped together in one name "egg"... the way I found it easy to think of is they are like a family a family of only 3.... You have God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit... All three different people but of the same last name (God... but meaning this as they are all God with the same power) and your next question was answered with that... Remember in Genesis when God the Father said let US make man is OUR image, its not that He has multiple personalities, its that He was talking to The Son and the Holy Spirit... Jesus (THE SON), God the Fater, and the Holy spirit are all God they all have the same equal power, so when Jesus refered to God as the Fahter it was because 1 he was his father, as is all of ours, and also because that is what he is he is God the Father, he was talking directy to God the Father...

Now when you pray to God you are supposed to be praying to God the Father, so no you are not praying to God in fact my friend said we are not supposed to pray to Jesus, we thank Jesus for what he did but we pray to God the Father...

You have a relationship with Jesus by knowing what he did on the cross to save us from our sins and by being thankful to him for paying OUR (not his) debts... Jesus is your ticket to The Father, with out him we dont get to talk to God the Father... the only way we can have a realtionship with God the Father is by having a relationship with Jesus and you have the relationship with Jesus by knowing and accepting and being thankful for what he did on the cross and asking him into your heart and being saved... Remember the story of moses, the part where the angel of death claimed all the lives of the first born? The angel did not enter the homes that had the blood of the lamb on the door because this meant they were in a way saved.... We dont have to sacrifice animals anymore because sadly Jesus was sacrificed to save us, we no longer have to go to hell because of Jesus... he gave us a great gift... think of him like the blood of the lamb on the doors... His blood is on our hearts and we are saved from hell... And yes the same thing happens to me when I sing to God... I feel relief, this is the Holy spirit inside you saying its okay, we got this, I am here with you! I hope I helped as much as my friend helped me... keep faith and love God... good luck best wishes and God bless you!

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