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Should I be worried about his past?
Ok, so I don't know what to make of this to be honest. My boyfriend of 8 months has been nothing but good to me, he bought me everything I ever need from books to jewellery, and swears he'd always protect me even if we weren't together.
Anyway, I know he has a violent streak in him, I've never seen it but his family knows and he told me some of the stories from his past, which didn't worry me too much because he's never once hurt me or anything. But last night he told me about his attitude to relationships when he was about 17, and most of these stories involved him treating his girlfriends like crap, dumping them after a day and using them to buy him shoes and give him money etc.
I don't know if it's possible to change from this attitude though, I mean, he's lovely to me, I give him freedom to go to parties and tell him he can chat up girls so long as he's clear that nothing happens, and he says that made him respect me more, but since he told me that I'm worried I'm just going to be another name in a list of people he humiliated and hurt.
Is that something I should let go because it's his past and he's changed?
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It's natural to feel worried about things like that. Every girl feels that way about a guy sometime in there life, sometimes more. My advice to you is let it play out, if he starts treating you different, like using you for gifts and stuff don't let him, set the ground rules for your realtionship. Only buy him gifts and stuff if he treats you good and does things for you, buys you stuff too. As for giving him the freedom, well its good that you do cause guys don't like to be hasseld all the time you know being with you always. just like how girls need a night out guys do too, just to be guys. But NEVER give the guy the ok to chat up other girls because guys are all the same when it comes to girls saying yes to that. Don't be surprized if you said yes to him that he could chat up other girls, then end up cheating on you because for him you sayin yes gives him the ok to do jus that. Be firm tell him if you want me to be with you then don't talk up to other girls. Be with only me. If he can't do that then dump him. He's not worth it if can't be true only to you.
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He is doing great with you and he treats you with respect and love... so he had a sorry past... dont hold his past against him if he has changed... that would be like someone bringing up every mistake you have ever made and even though you learned your lesson and wouldnt do it again they decide you know what you are not worth my time... dont do that to him... it had to be hard for him to tell you the things he has done but he wouldnt have told you if he didnt care about you and trust you... dont leave him unless he gets mean or aggressive with you. :) good luck and best wishes
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Do you really believe he has changed?1st thing is just he buys you things that doesnt mean he will never snap and hurt you. You dont want to live with the somewhat fear cause now you know and its in the back of your mind, you sound very smart and level headed I say move on to a "safer" bf. Domestic violence is a scary thought even if he so far has treated you lovely.
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Well when a person has a violent streak it sticks for them forever. Its something you can't change. I know hes promised you and I know you love but you never know when he could explode for the littlest things. call it off. Its for your safety
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