HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
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well i have been going out with this guy for about a week and he won't make a move to kiss me. we always just hug should i make the move and if i should can someone please tell me how (link)
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Do NOT worry yet. He's probably just shy, or nervous. And it's only been a week, so it's really not a big deal. He'll come around, and if he dosen't, make hints about it.
Good luck.
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this guy basically asked me to have sex with him. he does that alot. we only talk, and i don't like him more than that. i dont know what to do. (i say no of course, but he always asks.) (link)
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Tell him to stop one more time. If he dosen't listen, and keeps on asking, report him to someone. That can be considered sexual harrasment. Just make sure he KNOWS you don't want to do that.
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This kid on my football team, when me and him get in arguments he calls my girl ugly. and it makes me wanna deck him. now my ques is, next time he pulls that crap should i just deck him? Cause this pussy, right when we're bout to fight always apologizes. in a fight i don't know if i'd win bu i wanna deck him so bad. should i? (link)
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Don't worry about what he thinks. It sounds so corny, but if you ignore him, that will annoy him more. It's really sweet that you would do that for your girlfriend, but I don't think she'd want to see any violence out of you anyway.
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This kid on my football team, when me and him get in arguments he calls my girl ugly. and it makes me wanna deck him. now my ques is, next time he pulls that crap should i just deck him? Cause this pussy, right when we're bout to fight always apologizes. in a fight i don't know if i'd win bu i wanna deck him so bad. should i? (link)
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Don't worry about what he thinks. It sounds so corny, but if you ignore him, that will annoy him more. It's really sweet that you would do that for your girlfriend, but I don't think she'd want to see any violence out of you anyway.
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i'm starting to really like my guy friend. he just recently broke up with his girlfriend & told me he wants a new one. i have also hinted that i want a boyfriend. i've flirted with him too. he seems like he's interested, but i think he mostly just likes me as a friend. when he asked my best friend if she knew who would be a good girl for him, she said me and he said "i dunno" & "hmm" ... i guess hes thinking about it. . . i dont really know what to do.
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just really try to continue being friendly to him, and things should work out for the best. try to hang out with him more, even if its with a big group of friends at the moviesw or something.
best of luck
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ok i really dont know know to spell it, so ill just refer to them as shrinks. ok so generelly, when do you think would be a good time to see one, like just give examples E.g. when you cant stand on anythin more than a meter because you're afraid of heights. like that. thanks in advance:) (link)
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they'll most likely try to find out what triggered your fear first (by talking to you about past experiances). then, they'll probably work up your courage, step by step, to be able to handle heights.
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To start off, i'm going through a crazy ass time in high school, i'm sucidial, i'm overweight, i'm bi and i'm bi-polar which is all very fucking bad at the same time. now my grades are slipping, my relationships w/ my friends and family are going away, i'm starting getting i w/ drugs and booze, what should i do? (link)
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I'm really sorry about what it was to trigger this, but really, first off you NEED to stop the drugs and drinking. That will make EVERYTHING worse, and the longer you're doing that, the more you'll get sucked in.
Being suicidal, I'm sure you've probably heard of some ways to not think about that. Keep yourself extremly busy. Be with the best friends you've got, as often as possible. Also, if you haven't heard of it (if you're cutting) try wearing a rubber band on your wrist, and snap it when you've got a problem. It sounds dumb, and even if you've tried it before, try it again. You don't even have to lie to your friends about it, because if they see you flicking yourself, they will know you need to talk to someone. But if you don't want to tell them anything, you could always say that it's there for convenience.
But if nothing like that works, just concentrate on how much you death/injuries would hurt the ones who love you. If you need to, think about every time you hurt yourself, or even think about hurting yourself, you're doing the EXACT same thing to them. Just listen to me when I say there are more people out there than you know who care about you.
About being overweight, there are so many options. Just try not to turn to anything that would hurt you. It sounds dumb, and corney, and difficult, but stay dedicated to a healthy diet. Try to write down everything you write during the day, and think about if you would be proud of writing that down at the end of the day (what you ate).
About being bi.. if it makes you happy to have your options open and everything, then it dosen't concern anyone else. It's your life, and make sure they know that if you have to make it clear. I know people probably think it's odd of you to be bisexual, but really, it's only YOUR happiness that matters.
And with your relationships.. just make sure you try to talk with your friends and family. Be there for them when they're in need of help, and let them be there for you. Don't push them away when you're going through something, becuase they only want you to be healthy and happy. Also, if they're making new friends and seem to be forgetting you or something, don't try to even the score by pushing them away, just make sure they still know you are good friends with them, and you dont want to lose them.
I hope I've helped, and if you need to talk, email me at xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Kat
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hey my friend is 4'9 and she only weighs 85 pounds she eats alot and everything but she wont gain weight. this is a really big problem for her and shes been really sad about it. what are some HEALTHY ways 4 her to gain weight.
tnakyou
p.s dont say to pig out (link)
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Your friend dosen't really need to gain weight, she's pretty healthy at that weight. But if she REALLY wants to, just make sure she knows to eat at all meals and let her body do the work. She dosen't need to worry, cause sh'es not TOO skinny, and if people are saying things about her being too skinny, tell them she most likely has a quick metabolism (your body digests food more quickly, and more easily).
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i have sorta bad acne on my forhead and what not i use proactive, some morning burst stuff, and another face wash but its not really working is there anything thats gunna work really really well ?? (link)
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Be careful about what you use, especially when using two or more products at once. It never works to load up on creams/cleansers/ect. This could dry out your face.
I'd just try to reccomend to ask your mom to take you to the dermatologist, or get your school nurse to talk to your parents about some doctors you could see for it.
Seeing a specified doctor in the area will most likely help, just because he will know how sensitive your skin is to products, and what medications would be good for you.
Good luck!
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I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not? (link)
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I'd tell him. You'll never know what will happen if you don't, so just live and if anything bad happens (fight, ect) at least you wont have to live regretting not saying anything/wondering.
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and he's very mean to me ,usually.
Other times hes nice.
But im going to Kill him with kindness
and ignore most of his casual conversation.
Is this a good idea?
ps dont ask why i like him if hes mean, i just do lol (link)
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I think it's a good idea. He may tease, but that may be his way of trying to make you laugh, or something.
Good luck with 'killing him with kindness' lol.
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how can i get nice long legs? like do i run and excersise or sumthing?
thx =] (link)
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you can't really get your legs to grow by doing anything, specifically. I'd just reccomend wearing things to show off your legs. Shorter skirts, heels (that don't cover the ankles or anything like that)
Good luck!!
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Okayyy. I quit my job that I only had for about a week, because I was completely miserable there. And once I told everyone they tell me that I'm lazy, and that I'll never make it in the real world. and the thing is, I'm not lazy at all, I work my ass off. How can I get this people to leave me alone, and convince them that I really quit that job because I was miserable and unhappy? (link)
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Just don't worry about what they're saying. If you know you're not lazy, then YOU know you're not lazy lol. Just maybe try to get another job, or try to help other people out, and they'll see you're hard working.
Good luck
Kat
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My mate Janelle is a tad annoying in the fact that she always has to have all the guys and flirt with all the guys even if they like someone else she will try to get them to like her. And so then when we're together hanging with our other mates and there are guys there she always has to be all over them and not let anyone else get them. What should I do (link)
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I'd just say to try to act like you're kidding and say something like 'Gosh those guys are always all over you!' Try it a few times and she'll get the message. If not, just let her be herself, I guess. I'ts probably not the answer you'd want to hear, but it may just be best to let her do what she wants in this situation.
Either that, or talk to her, and tell her you don't want her to get hurt by one of those guys or get a bad reputation because of how she's acting.
KAT
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Ok im thirteen years old and i dyed my hair during summer recently as in about .. oh say a month and a half ago i started losing hair i would think a lot since my first time, but i dyed my hair in july i shocked my body i guess recently by eating only dinner and a snack when i got home from school i didnt lose much the first few weeks but in the past oh say....three weeks i have been noticing it when i hold all my hair is one hand and then pull gently with another and some falls out containing about 15 strands...i only have been using shampoo for the past month and a half too and i have been eating salad but sometimes with chicken...please help me and tell me what my problem might be, im also not a woman yet so how can my hair be falling out? also i may be getting this women problem cause i got large breasts early and my period when i was ten so .. any advice? ill love u if u give me good advice, im literally freaking out! (link)
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you're body may be growing ahead of your age.. but that'd be a very major thing. I'd say to see a dermatologist, because there could have been a chemical reaction from your hair dye.
Also, swimming should be alright, unless there's ALOT of chlorene in the pool.
Good luck, though.
Kat
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My boyfriend and me don't talk on the phone I don't know why either. We've been dating since last Saturday. He talk to other girls on the phone plenty of times, but not me. I want to start talking on the phone with him I don't what I should say to him on msn messenger should I just come out and say can I call you or what? Thanks in advance (link)
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I'd just say to act like you're joking around, and say 'Whoa, we never talk on the phone!' Then offer to call him or something.
He may not be talking or anything because for some rason it's different when you're in a relationship. Just act as funny as possible, and let him know he dosent have to try to impress you or anything, since he's already got you. =)
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okay im not like fat fat or anything
but sometimes i cant control how much i eat, ill eat sooo much just because i feel bored and i just do it.
like ill eat 3 small bowls of cereal and then ill eat like 5 granola bars , and on nights when im in a good mood , ill just pig out like ALL night!
help!
but usually i eat very very healthy during the week and i try and control my portions
but the weekends are like always splurges!
help please!! (link)
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Hm.. just always make yourself eat at the table for one. You'll realize how much you're sitting there, and it will make you realize you need to stop. I have this problem, too, though.
Just stop and think about how much you're eating all at once.
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My best guy friend has recently unloaded all his problems; I found out his dad's cheating on his mom, his grandpa died (his grandpa was like his excape from his parents) his parents continuesly fight, his grades are slipping, and he's been coming to school with alot of bruises latley.
I don't know how to handle this. I really like him and I want to help, but what should I say to him? What should I do? (link)
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You really need to sit him down again and especially ask him about the bruises. Don't take 'I don't know' for an answer, get specific answers, and if he cant make sure things are okay (other than the fighting, ect) at home. Really, that's the thing you should concentrate on most. If you do find out he's being hit at home, tell an adult. Don't worry about him getting mad at you, because you're heling him. You'd just be hurting him to leave him in an abusive home.
Also, make sure he knows you're there for him and that you really care about him, to make sure he dosent try to hurt himself or anything. Maybe try to also help him study? That way, he might be able to come to your house (get out of his) and he'll be getting help at the same time.
Really, if you need help if you find anything else out, email me at
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Good luck
Kat
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My friends dont know me anymore. I've changed so much and I don't know what to do. I'm always the "good girl" that would never do anything bad or wrong. I've been labeled that for the past 2 years and I hate it. Everyone know's me as the "always happy, preppy, good girl". But I'm not like that anymore. I love doing crazy things that are shocking. I want a tattoo and my belly button pierced. I want to drink & try new things (haha not drugs though!) I wanna have fun.
See this all started happening when I became close to this one girl. Her name is Erica. She is a senoir and i'm a freshmen. She's really cool and laid back. She's one of my best friends. We hang out all weekend and talk almost everyday on the week days. She is the complete opposite of me though. I'm way preppy and always smile and laugh. She's dresses down and doesn't care about what she looks like. I guess she's a good influence in some way, because she made me learn not to care so much about what other people think (but i still do!!).
My whole life I always knew I was being someone I wasn't. I wasn't this always happy good girl barbie that I was labeled and been labeled. Towards the end of last school year and this school year, I got more into the "f*ck life and have fun" attitude. I wanted to do pot and drink. I wanted to always do something that was crazy and unexpected of me. I fell in love with the old rock classics (60s-70s)and if people hear me listening to that music... they're like "eww chelsey.. you're becoming a druggy?!". (since when did the music you listen to label you as a druggy or non-user?).
But ANYWAY... I've finally opened my eyes and notcied that erica is a bad influence in my life. She's the one who introduced me to all of this. Smoking, drinking, pot, music, & my attitude. I don't know if this is who I've always been and it was just covered up with hollister clothes and california hair or what, but i'm so confused now. I don't know how to say this, but I like this new person way better then the old. I'm so much more opened and dareing (?).
Now the hard part is, my friends refuse to believe this. If I even curse, there like "OMG! chels you cutie, thats mega bad... when did you start using those words!?!!". AHHH im like stfu. And then I think to myself, what if they knew i wanted to drink or try pot... they would like sign me up for therapy. I don't know what to do?!?! I want people to realize that I've changed, and accept that fact that people change, and wanna do different things. Whats your adivce? What should I do about my life? I don't even know where to begin with all my feelings. Thank-you for answering HONESTLY... I really respect your opinion.
One more thing... I kinda started seeing this kid this year and me and him really hit it off. He's mr. popular and stuff so when he first started talking to me I was soo excited! But now that were haning out more often we almost created like a relationship. A couple nights ago, I found out that he drinks and gets high often. When me and him went over to our one friends house (they were having a party). He took me back in their yard to the bon-fire. A couple of my best friends were down there so I started talking to them, but then they went up and i followed them half way and then went back to the bon-fire. When I came down they were smoking and getting high. Now it just wasn't the kid i liked... it was some of my other guy friends too. They offered it to me.. and I reacted quickly by taking the blunt and throwing it in the fire. (hahaha i know right). So now is it that my friends can smoke but i cant? and i get yelled at if i even curse? WTF?!
Please, I need advice soo badly! : ( Thank-you (link)
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Aww, I'm sorry for breaking this to you, but so many teenagers have this problem. Image, according to others usually is something huge, but that shouldn't stop you from dressing how you want to dress along with acting how you want to act. I'm definately not reccomending drinking or anything, but you dont need to have your friends approval to be you. Just remember that. Just remember that it only matters what YOU think about yourself, and it wouldn't matter if you dressed completly goth and were the most innocent little kid in the world, people are still going to see you as how you dress, but really only you and the ones you are really close to will see the real person you are.
If your other friends don't realize who you are now, though, maybe try dressing down? ONly if you want to, though.
Also, just remember how horrible smoking is. I dont know if you'd want to do it for the new image or to be daring or anything, but in my opinion it's just dumb. lol. But I guess the sad thing is that your friends still probably see you as the innocent kid. They're just going to probably get used to it eventually.
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Is glue REALLY made of horses? D: (link)
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I'm pretty sure it USED to be, but I dont think they use them anymore for that. If so, it's probably the hooves, or marrow in their bones.
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