I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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me and my friends have a so called"friend" named jodi.weve known her for like half a year.at first she seemed cool.but then she got really annoying.she started acting like a bytch and only do what she would wanna do.so should we keep talking behind her baq and acing like were her friend.or confront her and tell her we dont wanna be her friend
13/f (link)
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tell her she's a bitch and that you don't want to be her friend. you're just wasting your time and her time by putting on this sherade.
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i just got my period and its gross and scary and its my first time help me. (link)
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its a crappy part of life all girls go through. look at it this way, its the sooner it will stop! you only have to deal with it for what, another fourty years. yeah i know it sucks, but eh, its not like you can make it stop. I'm sorry you have yours now, because its awful, but its only once a month. take long naps, drink lots of water, and if you start getting bad cramps, motrin is always good.
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ok so theres this new girl at school whos really cool and stuff and she invited me to her birthday party coming up this weekend and i dont know what to get her and when i ask her she just says "oh you dont have to get me anything" which means get me somthing but im not gonna tel you what i want got anyideas for what i should get her? (link)
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flip flop jewlery rocks. i've been buying it for my friends since the begining of summer and so far no one has not liked it.
clothing is always good.
worse comes to worse, get her a fifty dollar gift certificate to the closest mall.
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Ok i dont no what to do i have this guy friend that has been my friend for over 2 years and i really like him alot more then just a friend but i no if i ever told him i like dhim then just a friend he would freak out and i dunno what he would do but i still want our friendship to be there and i feel if i tell him that i like him he wont talk to me or something (link)
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thats not true. i have a really close guy friend and i had a crush on him for a while and i told him, and he was funny (as in ha ha) about it and took it in good humor. i'm sure if you guys are really good friends, it won't be a problem.
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I went to visit my aunt and met this guy and i guess he says he lieks me and when we were in the car he asked when i was going to be his gf and i said i didnt no well i havent seen him for awhile and i call him and talk to him on the phone and i really really like him what should i do becuz i really want to go with him (link)
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yes, you deffinately should go out with him. long distance relationships are tough, but eh, give it a shot.
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i just got contacts on saturday and i like them alot and everything but the thing is i can't really see that good with them on. i don't know if i put them on wrong or my eye doctor gave me the wrong prescription. is it normal not to be able to see for the first couple of days you get contacts? or did i do something wrong?
p.s.- i always put the right contact in the correct eye... i have it in an order so i know that they are going in the right eye. (link)
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you might not have put them in right. i've had them in for almost a year and just this morning that happened to me. take them out and put them back in your eyes again. if thats not the problem, go to your eye doctor.
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I need GOOD grades to get into a certain group, and be consistent about it. Does anyone have study tips or ways I can pull off a good grade by the end of the year? (link)
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pay attention in class, and take very accurate notes. like VERY acurate notes and compare notes with a friend. read the chapter before you go over it in class. then read it after you go over it in class. if you do things three times they sink in better.
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I lost my voice about a month ago when I went to a singing camp. I had basically overused my voice. Usually I am asked to sing at weddings and such, so my voice is important to me as a way to earn money and express myself. However, after my voice came back after losing it, it has changed. It almost seems for airy, or not as strong. I feel like I forgot how to sing in a way. This has never happened before. I can still sing, but it wasn't as good as it was. Any suggestions on how to build my voice back up to its full potential? (link)
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slow steps. sing a little bit more and more every day. sing scales and stuff and drink plenty of water, juice, liquid ect.
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I'm 'sort of' a shy person. Especially when it comes to the guy I like. : p
I don't even know if you can call it shy..I just get nervous around him and just mummble. Whaaaaaaaat can I do? I never have the confidence to tell him anything, and I never know what to talk about. Help? : ] (link)
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alright. shyness is genetics really so you can't just get over it. you can contain it and work through it. take baby steps. start by just waving and saying hi as you pass in the hall. then make small talk and say stuff like, "gee that math test was hard" or like "God its cold out!" and stuff like that. later, ask him to study with you. talk about social events, world events, sports, SPORTS, and stuff like that. with the olympics on, he's gotta be watching that.
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Ok, today my mom called me fat. Well, I don't think I'm fat because I'm 13 (turning 14 in 2 weeks), I'm 5'5, I weigh 113, and I pretty skinny but I don't have a 4 pack. I don't know what to do. I think I'm just gonna stop eating and become anorexic. I don't wanna go on a diet because I get of them in a few days and they are not help. Also, I don't wanna watch what I eat because I usually eat healthy food. Please help! (link)
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yeah i have that problem too. parents suck basically. when she says that tell her it hurts and that she's a bitch. ask her if shes deliberatly trying to give you an eating disorder or just accidently.
113 is really light for someone with that hight. being annorexic would be really bad. don't do it. talk to your doctor if you think your overwieght.
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I like this new kid at school a lot its taken forever to have new people come and hes really hott! We have a lot of fun together and he is my neighbors best freind... so i talk to him wenever i talk to my neighbor n stuff... and hes soo funny and nice, but i dont think he really likes me "that way" like when we're around eachother hes soo funnny and sweet... but i think that he likes one of my other friends and i think she sorta likes him and that makes really mad as happy as i should be for the two of them it makes me mad especially considering im the one that intorduced them... if i would have known they were gonna swoon i would have never done it! But what do u think i should do about him should just continue talking to him or should i like tell him or what? please help! (link)
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stay friends with him. like seriously, people like eachother for a week then are like eh i'm sick of you.
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I have braces and for me its hard to brush them right. so when i get them of (in 6 months) i want to get something that will whiten my teeth so i can get baq on track. do you have any good-cheap ideas of what will work. (cuz i try so hard at doing a good job but it doesnt help!)
thankyou so much! (link)
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its not cheap, but what works the best is Crest white strips. i had the same problem. you'd be surprised how clean your teeth actually are. try doing mouth wash (like listerene) untill then.
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when i was really little, like 4 or so, my babysitters son sat me on his lap and showed me his thing. he told me to touch it and when white stuff started to come out he wanted me to clean it. then he told me to leave his room. well me being young i did what he told me. i didnt kno it was wrong. then i told my mom and she was like dont say anything to anyone. and she didnt do anything about it! i am now gonna turn 14 in october and it has been bugging me since then. it hurts that my mom let me stay there till i was 9! nuthing else ever happened but i mean still. wut could i do to take my mind off of it? i am really happy now and stuff but when i stop and think it just pops in my head and thats the only thing that really stands out in my memoery. i remember it like it was yesterday. (link)
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ok, talk to a school counsiler if you don't have money for a therapist, or a if your the religous type, like a paster or something. see i'm not that religous so i don't know if like theres someone you can go to at a church, but if you are, look into that.
you can also try self hypnosis. heres a site i think can help with that
http://www.geocities.com/thinkwellcorp/
it can sometimes block out memories and stuff. good luck to you and i'm sorry it happened to you.
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Ok, I just started a relationship with a girl that goes to a different school than me. I will probably not be able to see her more than once every 1-2 weeks and I know theres gonna be a lot of guys hitting on her at her own school. Any advice on how I can keep her interested and make this work? I wont be worried after a few weeks have gone by, but this first little bit is going to be tough. (link)
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call her often. and make her feel like she's the only person in the whole world. make her feel special in every single way you can possibly think of. be sweet, and flirt with her AND ONLY HER! girls don't particularly appriciate guys that flirt with other girls. just be a sweety with her and everything will work out.
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Hey. i have a huge problem. see my step cousin that actully has no blood relation to me is actully the perfect guy for me. he wants to be with me and i want to be with him, do you think that is incesed since there is no blood relation to us since it is all by marriage. i mean i really have always had feelings for him even b4 his mom and my uncle met. is it wronge to be in love with this guy please help. I rate!!!! (link)
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nah its not. when (and if) your uncle and his wife get devoriced, you won't be related at all. so no theres nothing wrong with it. in Alabama its legal to marry your direct cousins. so this isnt' really a problem. i hope things work out. you just might wanna keep it quiet from your parets for a while, cuz well, parents will tell you its creepy and stuff, but thats because they're all like oh my little baby has a bf, I WON'T STAND FOR IT! so they'll use the whole cousin thing as an excuse. so its not that important that they know and stuff.
just ya know, be cool with him. pretend it doesn't bother you because its not really that big of a deal.
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When I get my period i get HORRIBLE cramp! Sometimes theres so bad i can't go to school or do anything all day! Do know some way to get relief ? (link)
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theres like super motrin you can get from your doctor.
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Okay well this guy saw my picture in my advice column and started saying I was fat and shit and I was ugly...and well I don't know what I did to him...now I just feel like dying I wrote him back a message and I freaked out after him but not that badly I didn't swear to much well not like f*** or shit like that and well I just feel like dying man it's not my fault I'm fat god I got far with my life like I play pro junior basket ball for my height and force and now he calls me fat I feel so bad...I'mm putting myself down and I hate it...I wanna die can ne one help me?? (link)
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ok, first off, a guy YOU DON'T EVE KNOW is never a good reason to want to die. and neither is being a bit over weight.
well take down the picture if it bothers you. if your life is good, don't worry about it. don't put yourself down, because whats so great about apperience anyway. all the skinny kids die first anyway.
i hope you feel better soon.
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I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.
Desperate for my life back and confused!! (link)
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ok, as tough as it is, the best thing for you and the child is for it to be put up for adoption. i know thats the last thing you wanted to hear, but some one else will be able to take care of her much better, and you will be able to creat a better life for yourself. its really a sad situation your in, and its ultimately your choice. who knows maybe the father wants the child? ask him before you put her up for adoption and if he doesn't then thats the only way to get your life back.
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okay here's my story..i had this realli mean ex b/f who treated me like crap! i cried n cried over him every single day we were dating and somewhat after we broke up! so one day i decided to stop all my crying and get even! he has this g/f that he never even met before! lol but he is always telling me and everyone how much he loves her! haha yea..anyways i got my friend who lives in texas to start talkin n messin around with my ex.. ( i told him that she was my homeschooled neighbor)---like she would say stuff like "ohh your realli sexi..i wanna be with you" and just completely act that way! and my ex was always telling me how he never cheated on me and how he never would cheat on anyone..blah blah blah! so basically i was also testing his skills to see if he is a player! well guess what i found out..he is! he was telling my friend how much he likes her and wants to hang out with her and all that crap! and i have everything saved! so yes he does cheat! and he was also telling my friend that he doesnt have a g/f! what a loser! so anyways..he unblocked me from the computer and writing to me ever since i hooked him up! so we were getting along perfectly..then my friend told him that it was just a joke..she wasn't my neighbor..and everything..and now he's soo ticked it isn't even funny! haha i told him off majorly tho yesterday! but anyways..what should i do?! should i apoligize?..but he's done soo much crap to me before and now i'm in counseling because of him! so i don't know what to do! please help! i will rate you! (link)
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well, if you don't feel bad about it, don't appologize. playing with some one's emotions is pretty low though. like unless what he did to you was so crazily unbelievably horrible, i'd applogize, because now he isn't even going to want to be your friend.
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for a 7 year-old kid who's nice and who would listen to me (easy babysitting) how much shopuld i charge? (link)
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minimum wage, or just wait for them to set a number for you. like maximum, 15 bucks. thats a TON. minimum, 5 bucks. so like anywhere from 7 to 10 bucks is good.
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