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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!

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I have a boyfriend who i see every other weekend.i just saw this kid who i havent seen in three years and i still like him. wat do i do? do i stay with my boyfriend who ive known for a month and have been together a week or do i break up with my boyfriend for the kid ive liked for three years? some1 help please

Personally I would go out with the guy I had known for three years. Obviously you are going to know him better. Plus, it isn't fair to your boyfriend if you date him and like someone else. I'm in that sticky situation right now. So choose the one you like the most which I'm guessing is the one you've known for three years. :) But I think you should talk to the other guy you aren't dating first. Catch up with him before you decide you want to be with him. He could be very different from the last time you talked and stuff. If you need anything else just ask me in my inbox.

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Okay I asked a question before about boners before. :/ Please dont delete this question, I need some opinions. When a guy gets a boner is his penis supposed to go up or straight. Somone told me its a sign of cancer. :( Is that true? Or does it have something to do with age? Help please!!!!

Whoever told you that is cracked, lol. It isn't a sign of cancer, its noting to worry about.

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Alright, so a kid named Brian asked me to go to homecomming so I said yes b/c we've known each other for a while now and I figured..well that would be fun. I liked him a little and he started liking me and all that fun stuff. Then like today he just showed up at my work and expected me to go hang out with him and I couldn't just say no. Then he called me his g/f to one of his friends and I asked him why and he got all pissy. I don't know why though. Then he went on about how he's lonely, and he feels theres something between us. And the reason I won't date him is b/c I'm not over my x. Well not the only reason. Now he's driving me insane though. He's just one of those people that get on your last nerve you know? So tonight I eventually told him that I didn't feel a lot between us...I mean I do sometimes...but the majority of the time I don't. But now I think I hurt him...but I'm glad I told him so I don't lead him on. But what do I do to make it so he knows I just want to be friends like for sure...and I still have to go to homecomming with him...and I don't really want too, but I'm not that mean....sorry its so long.
-Zero

Just tell him. Tell him that you aren't over your X yet and you just really aren't into having a b/f right now. Let him know. Then just say I would love be your friend and just hang though. Explain it and break it down for him. Tell him you didn't mean to upset him in any way it's just how you feel. Obviously you don't think he's a bad guy, you just don't feel anything there so tell him that stuff. :) Even though you don't want to go to homecoming with him I still would as you have said you would.. It can be on a friendly basis, right?! hehe. Hope I helped a little

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Okay, I was going out with - lets call him "Michael" - for a month. Then one day at school "Micheal" told - lets call him "Bob" - to break up with me for him since he was in my next class. Well "Bob" didnt tell me first "Ian" did. So then I went into 3rd period, but I forgot my hoodie so I went back to my locker. "Micheal" was in the hall so I went to ask him if he really broke up with me. He said "yeah sorry" and kind of laughed, but it was his lil 'im sorry but i dont really care laugh'.
This was on a Friday, and there was a high school football game that night. I told my friend Erin to go ask him why he broke up with me. But he wouldnt tell her. So then I went and took his hat (a great way to get guys to talk to you) and asked him. He said that like 7 (which is my least favorite number) people told him that I was going to break up with him, so he broke up with me first. Then my other friend went to talk to him and he said that he might ask me out again but he doesnt know since he likes someone else and he thought I was mad at him or something. But then Alicia and I went over to talk to him again later and I dont remember what we said, but he said "im sorry" and I said no your not and walked away from him. Then he kept following me and saying hes sorry but i wouldnt look at him, just kept walking away. The rest of the night was downhill from there.

He said he just wanted to be friends but he still liked me. And of Course I still liked him too. About a week later I cut myself. I told my best friend and she told Jeremy, one of "Micheals" friends. Jeremy told "Micheal" and then at the football game that Friday night, he came over too me when I was talking to my friends and said "We need to talk" So I went to talk to him and he said did you cut yourself? and I said maybe. and he said I dont want you hurting yourself over me. and i just shrugged my shoulders and he was like..whatever..and walked off. then later that night we were talking and then i said well im not good enough for you..im just a "cutter" remember? and he said NO IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU AND I WANT YOU BACK then blocked me (this was on AIM) I really got my hopes up after that.

Then about a week later he asked out my other best friend and they went out for like 3 days. Then about another week later he asked out this girl named Kelsey. Ive always hated her. She thinks shes the best and shes a b****. Their still going out now and I have no idea what to do. I love him he means so much to me. I still cut myself. I really need him to care. MY parents no and only said to stop, but i neeeeeeed him to care. what do i do? -confused one-

Ok, this guy is being a jerk. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't go and date all those other girls, especially a best friend of yours. It's really not worth your time sweetie. You don't deserve to be rejected like that when you didn't do anything. Try telling him how you feel first. And see what he says. Personally I would just try to get over this guy. But if you really care for him, talk to him about it and let him know. And please, please stop cutting! PLEASE! It's very dangerous. I've been there and done that, it's not good for you. Good luck and if you need anything, just ask me and I'll be there for you. I know a lot about relationships.

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Anyone know where I can get songs to put on my web-page? If you do, thank you very much for telling me!

I would reccomend any of these sites I have listed below. If you need any help concering these sites leave a message in my inbox. It's pretty self explanatory though. You just copy the codes. Although on ceruleanddream.com it has directions you must follow! And if you like rap I'd suggest the Draztikbeats.com
http://www.ceruleandream.com/music/
http://members.migente.com/xplicitbeatzx
http://members.migente.com/DRAZTIKBEATZ/#knoliab01

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I have a big poster of aaliyah on my door and its getting kind of old ive had in since i was in 7th grade. what should i do with my door? i dont want it to be empty! nothing i have to go out for just stuff @ home. thanks!

With my door I get posters and pictures of my favorite singers and rappers and stuff and make a colage. (I spelled that wrong). I would leave the Aaliyah one there though. She died in a plane crash so that poster is special. Just leave that one there and add more pictures and stuff to make your door more creative. :)

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ok when my boyfriend tried to kiss me last night i didnt wanna kiss him cz my bestfriend (his cousin) was sittin right there and it was our first kiss and he didnt care but i wanted to be alone (i didnt wanna do it in front of ..lets call him "T" because i cheated on my boyfriend with "T") and so now my friend is like how come you'll do things with "T" but not your boyfried?!..anyways he was like "oh ill remeber that...were not gunna kiss ever.." ect.. well at the end of the night i was goin up stair hopin he would follow me so we could be alone and kiss but im not sure if he was foreal about that "were not gunna kiss ever" cz he didnt follow and now im really sad and now i dont think he wants me to go to his football game this friday..an i miss him ..hes the only guy i really loved..

Call him or somehow talk to to him. Tell him why you didn't want to kiss him. He's just upset right now. Help him understand that you wanted the first kiss to be special and memberbul. And let him know how much you love him. :) He should understand this. Show him what he means to you! Good luck, if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox

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ok well when i rate people, sometimes it changes. like someone else got my password or something but i know no one did. and they make me sound like a real bitch. any idea why this is happening?

Level two moderators can do it. Like if you were being rude or did something uncalled for, they can change it. Their doing this to hint to you that you need to shapen up. I'd know. :)

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ok i just saw my boyfriend last night and i wont be able to see him til next friday if that an i really wanna go to his football game!! on friday night but im not sure if he wants me to go i mean his cousin asked if he wanted us to go and she said no he didnt but then she dont rly wanna but i miss him soo much!! last night i was with him for like 5-5 1/2 hours and it was grreat and i just really wanna be with him bcz we dont go to the same schools...what should i do and or how should i ask him ...its not as easy as it sounds..
signed,
MiSSiN HiM

If you both miss each other then go. It's better than not seeing each other at all, right?! :) I know those kind of relationships are hard so just go and have a good time.

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okay yesterday nyte i went skating and my brother friend is 18 and he was all hitting on me and shit and i was like okay .. i didnt care at 1st but then he asked me out and i was like umm.. yea i guess ... this isnt the 1st time i went out with him and stuff i mean he is a really great guy and i love him to death . . .then my friend lets call her emily . . is close to this one guy jason and he came over to her and started talkin to her . . then he left and i said dammn is he hott. . she went over to him and his 1st words like who is she so my friend goes Nicole and he goes dammn she fine and madd hott and he is in 11th grade and i am in 11th and he was all talkin to me and stuff and was hitting on me too . . but then the 18 year old guy got all madd and they got into this huge brawl . . JUST OVER ME . .. i dont kno what to do or who to choose . . i mean i really like them both and they are really nice and both hottt helpp me please !!!!!!!!!!
ooo yea by the way i am 16 turning 17 on dec 10

thanxs so Much NICKY

I tell everyone in a situation like this to try this. Sit and think or write it down. Think/write everything you like about each guy. Then think/write everything you dislike about each guy. Then think/write what makes you like each guy as in what makes you attracted to them. Is it there personality or their looks or something like that. Then decide, who is better for you?!?! Then choose. I'm making it sound so easy which I know it isn't. After you've chosen then tell each guy. Be nice about it and break it to the one you don't want to date easily. I've had two guys fight over me before. It's a icky situation. I tell them if they really care about me, then they won't fight over me for my sake because I can't handle that stress. And then I made them promise me that they would not fight anymore. So they didn't fight and I made my decision. The guys don't communicate with each other so we all never have to worry about confrontation.

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Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks.

Confront him. Ask him why this keeps happening and if he really wants to meet you. Tell him how you feel, if you don't then only God knows when you two will meet... And if you guys do meet I would suggest taking a friend a long. No matter how much you trust someone online and no matter how well you think you know them you never know.

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OK i guess ive had a couple pimples or watever on my chin n now tha skin on my upper chin kinda under my lip is red n inflamed in a way. does anyone kno how to get rid of this?! thankz!

Well, try to keep oil away from it. As in oil from your skin. It makes it worse because it clogs your pores. Wash your face every day with a acne treatment. If you want a REALLY good treatment get proactiv. It's awesome! It works for just about everything. If you don't want to get that then get Stridex, clean and clear, nuetrogena, or something of the sort. :)

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I have no lessons at all with my boyfriend and only one lesson with my two best friends. The only times I can see them all is at breaktime (20 minutes) and lunch (1 hour) My boyfriend and his friends (who are my friends too) don't hang out with my best friends, how can I divide up my time during school so that I can spend time with all of them?

Just alternate it.. Like spend lunch with your boyfriend one week and break with your friends. Then the next week spend lunch with your friends and break with your boyfriend. Or maybe just every other day switch it. :)

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ok my friend was talking to me online and she kept saying that she hated her life and wated to kiss herself and she said that she wanted to cut herself again and that she was fat and stuff and i dont know what to do and im scared for her!

I have friends like that and I am like that myself. You need to talk to her and be there for her to the best of your abilities. Don't tell anyone about it unless you have okayed it with her or you think she REALLY REALLY is in great danger. The best thing you can do is be there for your friend. Help her see the great things about herself and show her that she doesn't need to cut herself.

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ok well im really unhappy with my life and ive thought about sucicide but never really wanted to do it because i know that that is just a permanent solution to a temporary problem, but i was wondering if anyone can help me be...happier, or give me some tips

I've been there, done that: many of times! Find things to get your mind off of your problem. Turn to your friends for comfort or just chill with them so you forget about it. Try meditation. I write poetry and it makes me feel better because I'm puttin it all on paper. Scream, if you need to. Anything to let your pain out. Just don't harm yourself or anyone else. If you feel you could, you could go to a doctor about it. I'm not calling you crazy by saying that. They can really help. I didn't feel it was an option for me but maybe you do. Try listening to music you can listen to. It helps you vent. Talk to friends and family about it. They will always be there for you if they care. :)

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I have been on here before and like i said before is i really like this boy.I've known him for 4 to 5 years.He likes me and i like him but i really dont know if i should go with him because of my parents.But one day we were talking and he told me his number and that i was his lady.Now,should i call him and tell him how i feel or not tell him.

You really should call him and tell him how you feel. If you keep it as a secret you never know what could happen. You need to tell him. If he really cares about you, then he won't mind it.

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