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Q: Hii. i was reading what uve been writeing to everyone and u seem like u have helped soo many people so i had a question i have been really confused. i have been dateing this guy for about a year now. he is my 1st bf. we have been in and out of fights and we break up with each other and usually hook back up the next day but this time we broke up and it has been about a week. he tells me he loves me and he misses me everyday and other time of the days hes all pissed and he doesnt say shit. what should i do? my friend say he relly loves me and wants to work things out and he wants to ask me out again what should i do should i just get over him or keep loving him? hehas taken a big part of my life. i know confuseing but i dunno what to do anymore.

On again off again relationships suck!I mean seriously.Get to the root of what you two really disagree and fight about.Once you see what the problem is there try to fix the problem instead of continuing to break up with each other.If you really do want to get back with him give him one more chance and explain that you don't want to fight anymore and your tired of constantly being on again off again.If the problem between you two continues then maybe you two really aren't right for each other and you should move on.Wait about a week and find a guy who you have more in common with or is less likely to pick continuous fights with you.

Q: I think I eat too much food. I'm kinda overweight and I always find myself eating even when I'm not hungry! I know I shouldnt but i just love the taste of food! what to do?

Try to keep yourself away from the kitchen,the food court at the mall et cetera.I'm not saying starve yourself.But only eat when your hungry.And eat regular sized portions.And remeber it's not about the way you look it's about how you feel!

Q: I have a very small room!!! how can I make it seem bigger?!?!?!? ALSO i have green carpet :( what can I do?!?!?!?!?!?!? HELP

First off I tell you how not to make it seem smaller.Don't clutter it.And never paint the walls back.There are probably many more rules but I can't remember them all.To make your room seem bigger paint the walls a pretty color like blue or ssomething that doesn't enclose the room.But being since you have green carpet(I feel for you) make sure the paint color doesn't clash.

Q: I'm not sure if I should dye my hair back to my natural brown, or keep up the highlights in it! help?

Either or is fine really.If you are questioning the color of your highlights go for something darker or lighter.Depending on what color they are now.With brown I love red streaks nothing over the top.....just natural looking.If you dye your hair back to it's natural color that would look good too it'll just take you a while to get used to it.So really it's up to you.If you want to go for a change then dye it back.If you want to keep it the same than thats fine too.

Q: Are tampons supposed to hurt? because i hate wearing pads, but tampons hurt sooo bad that i cant even walk some of the time and im a very heavy bleeder so i can wear the small tampons. also does your eating habits have to do with how heavy you bleed? like if i eat healthy food and fruit and stuff will it make me bleed lighter?

Tampons aren't supposed to hurt at all.Sometimes you forget about them because you can't feel them.(Which is a good thing for pain but bad in the sense of TSS so try to remember they're up there.)I hated wearing pads too.But you just have to try tampons.If they hurt either your not putting it in right,your not relaxing enough,or your not inserting the tampon high enough.I honestly don't believe that eating has anything to do with your flow.Once you get into the habit of tampons you'll never want to go back to pads...trust me!

Q: I am a 13 year old boy, and a friend of mine is really beginning to annoy me. She (Yes, I have a friend who is a girl. No problems there.) keeps on mooning over other guys in front of me, telling me how much she thinks that they're hot, or how good looking they are, or how totally awesome their hair is, etc. CONSTANTLY. I don't think that there has ever been a moment where she's not talking about some other guy.

Sometimes, I suddenly get this weird jealousy feeling, but I don't feel jealous, I just want her to stop talking about other guys, and have us just be friends again.

Now someone out there, help me. I don't know what exactly I should do about this situation.

First of all hun the expression is swooning not mooning.But that's ok.I can think of two reasons why she is doing this.
Reason # 1:She could have started to think of you as more of a girfriend rather then a guyfriend.
Reason # 2:She could like you and is trying to make you jealous.
In either case tell her you want to remain her friend,but you want to talk about something other then guys.Then maybe she will take the hint to find a girl to talk about guys with,and find something to talk about that you can both relate on.

Q: I love to dance..a lot..i do ballet ..pointe shoe...and i do tap, but i have another passion..i love to act and do commercials. when i was younger i audtionend for an agent and got one, i then was on sesame street..for a couple of years and i did comercials. but when i was 6 or 7... i had to quit. now tht i am at a higher age i want to enroll in that type thing...but i do to much dancing, and my mom is making me choose ..what do i do?
please answer to my inbox!

Fist off I just think it is so cool that you act and dance!I do both too.Exact same kind of dancing and everything.Of course I never got to do commercials just school plays and stuff.If it was up to me....and we are talking career decision type thing.....I would go for acting.I'll tell you why.Acting they have a higher need for people.Dancing it's like unless you are planning on getting into a school of it or something it's not really worth it.Plus dancing you can only make a profession of until your like 30.That's not that long.Acting on the other hand most are in the business a while.But really it's mainly up to you.Go with what your heart says!The heart tells all!

Q: ok u see i love my b/f i will do nething in the world for him but right now hes at his moms which is 2 hours south from me ok there was this party n u know no girl is gonna turn down a party my boyfriend wasnt supposed to be home till the next morning. at the girl boy party we were playing spin the bottle it was my turn so i spined it then it landed on my ex n i wasnt gonna turn it down so i went 4 the cheek then he turn his head n stuck his tounge in my mouth every1 thinks i did it to him then at the same moment in time in comes my b/f!!!!?!?!?! wat do i do??

That was a pretty slimy moves on your ex's part. Ecspecially in front of your boyfriend.Explain to your boyfriend what really happened.If he doesn't listen and understand maybe you two should try working on trusting each other a little more.

Q: Hey all my friends think im a total weirdo cuz i love country music ! i dont think i am i only like the new stuff like keith urban and gretchen wilson i hate the oldies tho ! whos with me does ne one else like country music !

Sorry I'm not with you on that.But my older sister loves country music and she can recite any song that comes on the country radio station.So your not a total weirdo....hehe I'm just kidding!

Q: OKAY SEE I WANT CLOTHES THAT MY PARENTS WON'T LET ME WEAR!WHAT SHOULD I DO?

-bubba78

P.S.I'm a girl so please help me!

Design your own.It's fun.....it's something to do.....you save money.....more likely to fit... and it will impress your parents that you put that much time and effort into your clothes.And you will love them even more.If your not much of a sewer take up a class and pull out your mom's old sewing machine.Do I hear i mother daughter project coming on.....?

Q: wat do u do if ure friends b/f is flirting with u??!??!?!??!?!??!?? help me wat do i do!!!!??? quick!!!!!

Being since it is your friend's boyfriend...Make sure he knows your not interested in him like that.Talk to him alone.And say you are glad he and your friend are together but it isn't a two for one deal!

Q: i think i am fat.. (i weigh 130 and i'm 5'6"). i have tried to diet by eating healty and i still do but it isn't working. also, i excercise all the time by playing baseball, running, working out, and playing with my neighbors. i keep trying but i just can't lose weight! does anyone have any suggestions?

That's actually a really good weight with your height.That's not fat at all.But a healthy way... try that new milk research thing 24oz. of a milk a day.(3 cups)See if it helps.That way your not really having to cut anything out of your diet.And also don't worry about it so much.

Q: My friend Marina cuts,smokes, and is threatning to kill herself. I've told her plaenty of times suicide is not the way, but she is not listening. Should I ignore her protests and contact someone? But who?

Please reply, thanks :)

Definately.Don't listen to her.She sounds like she's in a state of depression.She doesn't know what she's talking about.But yes tell someone right away.You could risk your friendship.But it's better than finding your friend dead knowing you could of done something and helped.Who to contact though.....ummmm.....I'm not sure who to call on it.Look around on the internet or maybe the phonebook.Hope I helped on at least the first part of your question.

Q: okay when i started high school, this guy always got ma attention i mean i thought he waz the cuttest thing and we were always looking at each ALWAYS and even smile at each other ( i really started likeing him) and 1 day he came up 2 me and asked me for ma name and everthing but when he found out that i use to go out with his boy that he fighted with (he waz ma ex,they hate each other, they got in this big fight but im still verry coolw it my ex) he always started ignoring me and when he always cought me looking at him he never looked at me or anything. n 1 day he came up 2 me and told me "why r u always looking at me? and i said i duno and he be like do u like me and i didnt say nothin and then i waz like yea and he be like well stop looking at me bc i dont like you and left.---- omg that hurt soo bad. after this i tried not to look at him at all and then he moved to my class and he always staring at me ALWAYSS, i dont get boys at all..idk im still so hurt..can ya tell me why did he do all this? and if he doesnt like me why was he always staring at me... and what does my ex has to do with this??

No offense but this guy sounds like a jerk.If he can't accept people you have gone out with in the past than really he's not worth it.I mean he would be dating you not your exes.And if you are one to be bold I would point that out to him.I think the reason he hurt you like that maybe he was confused or maybe my theory is right and he is a total ass.The reason why he keeps staring at you maybe your one of those people that are hard to read and figure out.Maybe you didn't get your point clear to him.Or maybe you are just really really pretty.Whatever the reason try to move on to someone new get over this loser and don't focus any more of your attention to him.As for how your ex plays into this whole thing.....Maybe this guy is like really shallow.Or it could be he deeply hates your ex and they are completely differnt and he doesn't see how if you went out with that other guy you could go out with him.Whatever his logic is it seems a little screwed.

Q: Ok...I have alot of body hair. It is dark too and it drives me crazy. My face is ok, I'm pretty good at keeping my eyebrows under control and making sure that I don't have any above my lip. But my underarms, stomach, chest, legs, back, bikini area.... theres dark hair everywhere and I'm really self conscious. It really bothers me and I have to shave every day. And then I get razor rash everywhere. And I don't know what to do. I feel really gross and ugly. Am I overreacting?

In my opinion you have 3 choices:
Choice A:Continue to shave......which you don't seem to like so nix that idea.
Choice B:Waxing.....Which is painful but will keep you hair free for a few weeks.In not THAT expensive....but all the places you want to get hair free all added up it might be a little costly.
Choice C:Laser treatment....which I think is pretty much out of the question and cost thoundsands.

Q: can you help me find some books to read?i've read all the harry potters like 100 times, all the lemony snicket books,inkheart by cornelia funk,the traveling pants series,like all the books by louisa may alcott,chasing redbird,and mostly all the royal diary books, a lot of others too. could you please give me some advice on series and books to read?

I'm not real big on series books.I go more for a certain author and read those books. Try books by Sarah Dessen.Each one she wrote was good.Also go to your local library and go searching there.That way no money spent and you still get to read great books

Q: hello im a 14/f goin on 15 in like 6 months ..ne ways i like this guy well call him Jimmy and my friend well call her Julie ...ne ways shes in his buisness class and said that he likes me and i was realli happy cuz i realli like this guy but then i herd that Julie was flirting with Jimmy but i didnt beleive it when i herd it cuz we were supposed to be best friends but then i saw then coming down the stairs and i saw Julie have her arm around Jimmy even when she saw me she kept her Arm around him . i guess she was flirting with him and i was so mad at her i didnt talk to her for weeks and she knoes im mad at her but the thing is is she has a bf should i tell her bf ? cuz if i dont then shell continue flirting with Jimmy and other guys but if i do then he could dump her and i could loose a realli good friend

Don't tell her boyfriend.Unless you are ready for war with your friend.Ask "Julie" if she really likes "Jimmy".If the answer is yes....ask "Julie" is she willing to break up with her boyfriend for "Jimmy"If the answer is no.....ask her if she'll set up you and "Jimmy".Maybe then she'll get the hint that you really want to be with "Jimmy" and hopefully she might back down.

Q: my mom is SO super duper gay.she wont let me stay up late.she says every night i have to be in bed at 10.but i sneak on the internet to chat with boys.she doenst know of course.if i get caugh tho im in trobule.what do i say to let her let me stay up later.

Try to show your mom that you are mature enough to go to bed later than 10'o clock.Don't tell her she's unfair and unreasonable though or she might not agree to well.Talk to her about now that your getting older you would like more priviliges like a later bed time.Take small steps first with maybe upping your bedtime an hour or so and see where it goes from there.

Q: ok my last two g/f i have met through my other friend chris and i went out with one of them, now i kinda like one of his other friends would it be a bad idea if i went out with her?

15/m

I don't think so I mean see if Chris ok with the idea.Just bring it up casually in an alone conversation between you two.Then of course you have to make sure she's ok with it too.If it was me(in the girl's place)I wouldn't care.That's fine you seem like a nice guy and she will probably be going for more of your personality rather then you both share Chris as friend.

Q: when does vaginal discharge stop??

It seems like it NEVER stops.And it probably never does.Except during your period, but then you have even worse things to deal with.Certain disharge though could mean you have an infection.(Depending on color,smell,and the consistency)If you think yours is really abnormal....like you've never experienced it or anything then talk to a doctor.Unless you are a young advice seeker and recently started your period or something and you're just getting used to it.

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