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I'm not at all suicidal, but right now I feel like killing myself. My mom yells at me for the simplest reasons, and she says the meanest, most hurtful things. Like today, I needed my cheerleading uniform washed and I don't know how to wash it because the instructions are very complicated, so she told me she'd do it for me, and to lay it on the floor. I didn't want to lay it on the floor because I didn't want the cats all over it so I hung it on the door in the washroom. About an hour later she comes to me and starts banging on the door and when I open it she yells at me. She said. "I told you to lay the unform on the floor, not the fucking door, I didn't see it and now IO have to wash all over again!" And I tried say "Mom, I didn't want to lay it on the floor, the cats would just be all over it." and I didn't yell or anything, I just said it. Then, next she threw the uniform at my face and said "Fuck you! You can wash he fucking uniform yourself. I'm through with you." She says things like this all the time, and it's only getting worse. I can't talk to my father, he just says "You know how your mom is." and I can't talk to my mom, I'm actually scared to talk to my mom...she's even worse when I try to talk to her about what she does to me. I have no one else to tell, if she evr found out I told someone...I don't know what she'd do to me. She's hit me before. And I try to be a good daughter, and to no make her mad. I clean my roon, wash my clothes, I have straight A's, and I never get in trouble...
So afterward I just stayed in my room, but she called me out to get my biology homework on the table and she startes yelling at me about how she wants to leave the house because my dad's always gambling and my sisters always in trouble, and she says that I'm just worthless and trifen, and that we all deserve esch other. I really do feel like dying right now, maybe it would make her happier to have me gone. I don't know how much more of this I can handle before I break down. I try to just focus on school and the clubs I'm in, but whatever I do, she always finds a reason to yell at me, or worse. I'm never good enough for her. (link)
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Your mother has anger management problems and needs to see a counselor.
Thats the simplest, most blunt way to put it.
The harder part is, that more than likely she is not capable of realizing this on her own, justifies anything she does or says, and talking to her about it wouldnt do much good.
At some point you need to talk to her about it. Just realize that its not that you are what shes saying, its not even that she means what she says.
Your mother has a problem that is specifically an inability to control herself when shes angry. When something upsets her she cannot calm herself down and feels the need to lash out at something to release some of her tension so that she doesnt feel so out of control.
When you do something or even when you are simply associated with something that makes her angry, you become an easy target for her to calm down. She then says hurtful things that she doesnt mean.
Do not let the things she tells you affect how you view yourself. Your mother has a problem. A problem she might not be able to fix herself or even recognize that she has.
Its something you should bring up eventually. But definitely not now. At 14 you arent going to be able to talk to her reasonably without her dismissing you.
I dont know what else to tell you. I understand what its like to be in a home like yours. I understand what its like to do the best you can simply so your parents dont make you feel like a failure and degrade everything about you. And to feel like you are being crushed by that burden.
Stay as strong as you can. Realize that you are not the person your mother thinks you are. Keep yourself as together as you possibly can and do not give upon yourself or on eventually making it out of your parents house more or less a whole, functioning person.
For now, the best thing you can do is agree, not argue, and apologize. I speak from experience when I say that rocking the boat is alot harder at 14 when your parents are going to ignore what you say, dismiss you simply because youre their kid and younger.
Build as much confidence in who you are and who you want to be. Build yourself up. Get friends who believe in you and who genuinely like you. Having good friends saved my life. Invest yourself in things outside your house and take joy in everything you possibly can in life.
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Hey, me and my sister got on the conversation topic of donating organs. My sister really wants to be able to help someone and donate a kidney. She's only 16 years old, so I think its illegal, unless you have a family memeber that needs it?
I also wanted to consider something, like bone marrow, but I'm only 14. Any suggestions?
I was reading that a lot of people die because no one will donate Organs.
Thanks. (link)
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Thankfully she has 2 years before she can do something like this without parental consent. Hopefully the intervening two years will allow her to grow up a bit and get some perspective.
If you want to donate something, donate blood and plasma. Unlike a kidney (which you can only donate once) you can donate blood and plasma regularly, helping many, many people. At the same time, you suffer no effects on your quality of life. And the kidney is quite neccesary for keeping blood thats donatable.
You know, removing waste and all that.
Its not that "alot of people die because people wont donate organs"
Its "many people suffer some kind of medical problem that can only be corrected with an organ that probably has to come from someone else who died"
Kidney is the only commonly donated organ that a live donor can give to another.
Usually its liver, heart, lungs, , things like that. Things that one person must die for another to have.
Give blood. Volunteer with habitat for humanity. Dont cut pieces out of yourself to help one person.
I will state that this is my personal opinion. Its what I believe.
I believe that people should be good to one other. I believe we should strive to make everyones life better.
But I think that we should also recognize that there is a point to which it is not worth going to help someone.
Its not worth dying to protect someone from a broken leg. Its not worth losing one of two kidneys (which I use every day) to save the life of someone I dont know.
More specifically, its not worth it to me.
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im a 13 year old girl in 8th grade and i wanna know if it would be slutty or just cute if i wear this for halloween. http://www.wizardofozcostumes.com/sexy_cutie_scarecrow_costume.html
i mean it doesnt show that much.. just legs. and i'll also get the petticoat, and wear short shorts underneath. like at my school we have a dress code and i think its fine on that level.. originally i wanted my friends to be the 3 other costumes from Wizard of Oz for girls (you can see some of them in the link) but nobody wanted to be Dorothy, and Tin Man was kinda too revealing for school. so i'm gonna go as myself, and put on scarecrow make up and who knows, i could still win the halloween contest even if im not in a group.
An incase you wear wondering, yes i do have the boobs to fill it out so that won't be a problem. not that they'll really be noticable like they were with the tin girl outfit anyways. otherwise im completely blank of ideas.. i want to get my costume early cause last year i was stuck with a bee costume= http://www.partycity.com/cgi-bin/parties/costumes.cgi?name=Honey%20Bee&parties=Halloween&productstype=Flirty&products=107645&zoom=1&start=&originaltype= (but i wore a white long sleeve sweater in the bee costume and white tights (well its October and it can be cold)). and like 10 other girls in my school had the same thing, all from Party City. ugh. which is why i'm not getting costumes from there again, cause im just the type of person who likes to be different. i mean sometimes i like the same things as other people but i dont wanna wear the same costume unless we planned it. so i want a diff costume thats cute but not like slutty but not like elementary school-ish. cause if you really dont think this could work, i'll be really greatful for other ideas, and websites to see for costumes. (note that i cant spend like over 50 dollars.. the scarecrow is pushin it) (link)
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The skirt is fine at 13 if you plan to wear shorts beneath it. Its quite cute.
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Um... I keep being told to go to the gynos by some of my friends. I'm 18 and in college and I don't feel like I can tell my parents because they think I'll just end up having sex with people. Is there a way that I can go to the gynos without my parents finding out? I know that they send bills home and if they find one about me and the gynos they'll know I went. What should I do? ...Next semester when I fly out to see my boyfriend, I think we might have sex. We've been talking about it for quite a while now... But I still wonder about the whole gyno thing. If you would just help me out here. I'd really appreciate it!
Serenity
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Go to planned parenthood.com and look for a location near you.
This will help you alot. You can get birth control through them. You can also probably find a respectable gynocologist in your area through them. Theyre the best place to start for you, because theyre going to be alot more patient with helping you figure things like a regular gyno and health issues and such out.
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Okay, so there are some girls at my school who send naked pictures of themselves to guys. And they hang all over guys (even guys who are taken) and talk dirty and stuff. So I've always been told that guys don't really like girls like that. But I've heard guys saying that these girls are hot. And one of my guy friends wants me to set him up with one of those girls. So I'm confused. Do guys like girls like that, or not? (I guess girls can answer, but I'd really like to hear from some guys too). (link)
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Hmm. How to explain this one.
Decent guys want a girl that they care about. In order to care about someone, you have to be able to respect them.
Girls who will allow themselves to be used, or even use themselves like that to get what they want, are not girls whom guys respect.
So, from this we know that these guys who "like" these girls who do things do not actually give a damn about any of them. These guys "like" these girls solely because these girls give them the ghostly specter of possible sex sometime in the future. They want the sex. They are willing to let the girls feel liked in order to get it. Its not that hard.
Im trying to figure out how to clarify this.
These guys do not like these girls. They like the things these girls are willing to do for them, and they are willing to relatively nice, or at least do what they can to avoid conflict, in order to get these girls to continue doing what theyre doing.
I mean, these are guys in middle or high school. Some of them have probably never had sex. Likely none of them have ever experienced anything close to an adult sexual relationship. They want to get laid, or to get as close as possible.
If you ever consider doing this. Do not. Ill give you three reasons.
1) It is not ever, ever worth lowering yourself to have your body or your sexuality exploited for someone else's benefit.
2) It is a very stupid thing to do to give immature boys or high school guys access to naked pictures of you. Much less naked pictures that they can easily text to anyone they desire or show anyone they want. What happens if you stop being friends? Everyone and their brother will see you spread on a laptop screen.
3) As I am absolutely certain that you are under 18, sending and keeping of these pictures constitutes child pornography. If a teacher finds them, some parent finds them, etc, the police will probably be involved, and someone will probably end up getting arrested.
Lastly.
All guys are horny.
The difference between a good guy, and a bad guy (in this area) is that a good guy can control it and not have that be the only reason he associates with you.
Do not ever help a sleazy guy get with a friend.
A final thing to consider. Working on the wording.
When you are young, sexuality is something you are not old enough for. You are just beginning to experience and understand the emotions behind it and dont fully have a handle on things. Plus you arent capable of coping with the results of unwise sexual activity. Be those results a baby or nude pictures of you spreading across myspace. Thats why your parents protect you and try to stop you from doing things.
When you get older, things become different. Its no longer "not ok" for people to be sexual. You've lived enough, are old enough, are experienced enough to make wise (or at least intelligent) sexual decisions based on knowing yourself and the people involved.
That doesnt mean people dont still make tons upon tons of bad decisions involving sex in their adult lives, but just think of it as this is the eventual goal.
The girls who are doing these things? Theyve already started making unwise decisions. Its really hard to learn to do things right when you started doing things wrong, way too early.
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For 1 I AM straight!
I'm really just wondering a couple things... haha idk why they just interest me.
1. Why do they call it a dick?
2. lets say there a lesbian who acts like a boy, and a gay guy that acts like a girl, couldnt they go out b/c they would go together! you know what i mean???
3. Why do they teach us stuff about sex in school, when at home parents dont want us to know about it, but then they put us in school???
thanks! and sorry if those confused you at all! (link)
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1) Even Wikipedia apparently doesnt have the origin in an article. So I dont know.
2) No. The defining characteristic of a homosexual person is an attraction to the same sex. So even if a guy were feminine and a girl masculine, if they both fall under the "gay" category, nether will be attracted to the other.
A common misconception is that guys all act like guys and girls act like girls. Some guys are very feminine, sensitive. Some girls are very butch while still being straight. It takes all kinds to make a world.
3) This is going to be long.
K. First principle. Most people are uncomfortable with sex. In this country we are taught from a very young age that private is private and that means its to be hidden. They arent taught much more than that, because parents arent comfy with talking about something private.
When these people become adults. And these adults are publicly uncomfortable about sex. Moreover, most adults know plenty about it.
So then, these people who are uncomfy about sex with anyone whome they arent actually having sex with have kids, they are uncomfy. Its awkward.
One of the biggest things is trying to figure out how much to tell kids.
Your parents sit there trying to come up with words that dont sound as bad so that they dont have to say things in front of you that would get you suspended if you repeated them in school.
So these parents who dont know what to say to their kids, and feel really uncomfy trying, decided it would be easier to allow schools to teach you about sex. Teachers are trained to do it. They dont turn red when the kids giggle. They actually have answers to alot of your questions that your parents either wouldnt have or wouldnt want to tell you (or wouldnt know how to tell you)
Parents do it because its easier and more comfortable for them to just not have to deal with it all together.
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I'm 17/f, both guys involved are 21.
I've been dating my bf for a little over a year but until about a month ago, I thought this guy was my future husband. Now I'm just not sure. He's absolutely perfect; my "ideal" guy, if I had one. But like I said, I'm just a bit confused and I have been for a while now.
Today at a casual trip to Walmart, I passed by a random guy and we just smiled at each other. After a few min of playing peek a boo through the isles, we started talking. Before long, we were in a back of a what seemed to be an abandoned isle hardcore making out. If it were possible, there would have been steam. It then moved to his car where we continued to fool around a bit. I however stopped it before it got too far, although I already crossed a very serious line.
Now I'm completely dumbfounded as to what to do. My bf is amazing and I've betrayed his trust. This guy is truly wonderful, all way keeps me on my feet, never predictable, sweet, funny, smart, you name it..oh yes and hott. But there's just something that isn't...right. I've talked to him about this numerous times and have felt 100 times better after doing so. I can't however keep having that same conversation with him every other day. that'd be ridiculous.
I'm templed to call up the Walmart man just for fun. I'd never want to peruse a relationship with him, obviously. He doesn't exactly seem like a "relationship type" of guy. But he's all I've been thinking about for the past 10 hours.
So I'm just looking for any advice on what to do. (link)
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I think that the problem you have is that at 17 you arent ready to be married. Possibly to even be committed.
Do not cheat. Its one of the worst things someone can do to a person, and it leaves lasting emotional and mental trauma to most people youll ever meet.
If things arent working with the 21 year old, then figure that out and break it off. Be honest with him and with yourself.
Until you do that, stay away from ... oh yeah, well the other 21 year old.
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I made out with this guy at a party and he gave me his number. He said he'd only give it to me if I'd actually call and not just BS him. So the next day i called him and he didn't have my number so I told him who it was and he hung up. I thought we just got disconnected but he never called back and isn't taking my calls (I only called back once but still). What the heck is his problem? (link)
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Hes probably incurably, incredibly shy.
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can you have sex while you're on your period?
what are the effects if you do? (link)
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You stain things. Save it for the shower.
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I recently saw a movie about drug abuse and crap like that and then I got interested in what happens in real life and not in the movies, and Im not about to try it myself to find out so by WHAT scientists have proven what really happens when someone takes medicine when they aren't suppose to? I mean like WHAT happenes to them? WOULD they get sick or die or what? Theres so much stuff on t.v. about what happens and stuff but then theres stuff that says its completley different. And HOW do you know when your high?
((i put capps on the first words of the questions so that you can tell where the actual question is becuase when i reread it i got kinda confused XP!!)) thanx.... (link)
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I wont detail drug experiences. The curiosity you're showing means you will most likely seek them out on your own time. The unfortunate side effect of making something evil mainstream is that it creates sub culture and subculture breeds curiosity.
I digress.
In real life a variety of things happen.
Some people do drugs and are just fine. Propaganda would have you believe otherwise, but the simple fact is that many people do drugs and are successful. George W smoked pot and did coke. Robin Williams did a number of things.
The reasons people are able to do these things and still be successful varies.
Some people are just that much in control. They can allow themselves vices because they dont allow those vices to control or hurt their lives.
Some people have protection. Lindsey Lohan is a public figure. Instead of throwing her in prison, shes on probation in rehab. She has both enough social standing (fame) and enough money to guarantee that her life isnt completely fucked by something that would destroy another persons life.
Then you have people on the other end of the spectrum. People who are addicted. Who OD. People who spend all their money on Coke and move on to progressively cheaper and more dangerous drugs. People who simply smoke pot all day and work to have enough money to go home and smoke, never getting anywhere in life.
These people lack either the control to manage their habits, or the protection to keep them from hurting themselves.
The common theme here is addiction. Thats what drugs do to you. Especially in light of all the new information about drugs, thats easily available if you know where to look, deaths because of actual overdoses, things like that are much rarer.
However, in many cases it is the addiction that does the most damage to your life, rather than the drug.
Please dont mistake the above to mean that drugs cannot be exceedingly dangerous. Depending on the drug there are any number of possible severe physical side effects. And no, I wont give you which ones and what they can do to you. Thats not info for this website.
Have you ever heard the phrase "all things in moderation?"
This phrase exists because humans have a finite amount of energy. If one thing becomes your overwhelming first priority that takes all of your energy, you let the rest of your life go. Relationships, personal health, responsibilities.
The reason drugs are always put upon is primarily because most drugs are somewhat to severely addictive.
Some drugs are like pot. You wont go through serious withdrawls, but you will miss the habit, the easy relaxation it often brings. And for most people it has a severe negative impact on motivation.
Other drugs (many of the hard ones) cause physical problems because your body gets used to operating with it in your system and if you stop supplying it your body begins to go through withdrawls, which basically can make you very sick for a very long time.
I know this is long. Sorry.
Ill tell you right now, Movies and TV are Movies and TV. The way that anything (including drugs) is portrayed in them is usually quite far off the mark. Sometimes things arent as bad as they show, sometimes theyre worse.
Id point you to a list of good resources, unfortunately none of them are appropriate to list on this website.
My last piece of advice. If you dont know exactly what anything is going to do to you, dont touch it. If you cant find out, dont touch it.
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9th grade female
Ok so well at school like alot of people are like omg are you high? do you smoke alot of weed? and all these jokes about me going to go get drugs and getting high and stuff and like thinking i do weed and stuff and well i DONT! and it's really annoying. But how do people act when they are on weed or whatever? because sometimes i do tend to act really tired in class and drousy because i take three pills a day for medical issues i have and so drousiness is one of the side effects. so how do people act when they are high or whatever because i dont want to act like that around the people that think im high. (link)
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The honest truth is, most of the people who know you have only heard rumors about what people are like when theyre high.
It follows as common human behavior that all these people believe you are high because they want to believe that they know someone who gets high. Because its taboo, and taboos are exciting.
If people ask, tell them why you're drowsy. Tell them that you have to take medication thats proscribed and some meds have side effects. You dont have to tell them what you're taking.
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alright.. so ever since i told my boyfriend that i wanted to wait awhile to have sex.. it seems like things have really changed.. when we first started dating he always called me and when we were together he would tell me that im beautiful and sweet and perfect.. he even told me that he loved me.. but now he NEVER says nething like that.. do you tihnk its because of sex? i mean i know a lot of you girls out there have boyfriends.. and dont oyu think its weird if your boyfriend came over .. played his psp for an hr and then said he had to leave in an hr to play cards.. and said that he would call you later.. and doesnt call you the next day til 3:30? and then we talked at 3:30 for about 5 min and he said he would call me back and he never did so i started callin him around 8:30 and i called him like 6 times before he picked up and was like hey im playin cards and the call was lost.. and i tried to call him back like 5 but he never answered and hasnt called me back? am i just being too obsessive or what bc this really seems like not enough effort to be in a relationship with me.. please help i hate this feeling :( (link)
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More than likely, he is scum. He wanted to get laid, you told him he wouldnt be any time soon, he now has no motivation to spend time with you.
Show him what happens when guys make it obvious they only want sex. Dump him.
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why does everyone have one now?
lol is it "in"?
i want to convice my mom, or my dad into getting one for myself and they always say no because were in a family plan for cell phones under Sprint. i have no job i dont want one yet and since christmas is coming up soon i really want a sidekick. and those things cost alot just to even get one; same with the monthly bill right?
do you have a sidekick?
i wanah know what its like having one :)
like what do you do on it? (link)
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I want you to take a look at this.
I want you to think about it for a second.
You dont know what a sidekick does.
You dont know if its actually any more useful.
But you are already trying to convince your parents to get you one because "all the other kids have one"
Yeah, its "in". Its "in" because its a mark of status. Its something that shows other children "hey, my parents are willing to shell out ridiculous amounts of money for me when neither they nor I are actually sure why"
Find a legitimate reason that you want the thing other than "everyone else has one" and maybe your parents would be willing to talk.
Its ridiculous to sit there planning on how to get something you dont need because everyone else has one when you dont even know what its for.
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Hey!
Im f/17 soon to be 18!
My question is do you think that and 17/18 year old should be datting a 22 year old... like im finishing gr12.. and he's finishing University...
Is that a really big age diffrence to you?
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It is an age difference, thats for sure.
The primary problems that arise in a relationship is simply life experience. The years after high school are just as much a time of personal growth as the years of high school. There will be maturity differences.
If you both accept that, and try to work around them, and are patient with each other, it can be fine.
Age differences do matter in a relationship, but only in that they will cause problems and you have to be prepared to handle them _as_a_couple_. Do that and you'll be fine.
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This guy ive been with for some time used to be good in bed, we'd do it all over the place and it would be wild and fun....but lately its been like 3 minutes of 5 minutes for like 2 weeks straight and im getting sick of it. It does something for him and nothing for me. He says that he's sorry and cant control it and that he "doesnt know whats wrong with him". But Ive talked to other guys and they say that any guy can control when they get off and that he's being selfish and doesn't care about pleasing me. Is that true? (link)
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Some guys do have sensitivity issues, and literally cannot stop themselves from having an orgasm. Also, there can be issues once a guy gets comfortable. As with women, guys usually need to have some level of comfort with the situation in order to climax. At the start of the relationship, the guy is worried about pleasing you. He literally has trouble getting off until you're somewhat satisfied. Later, he knows he satisfies you, and the effort starts to wane. He doesnt feel nervous about it anymore.
Talk to him about it. Tell him that unsatisfactory sex is a problem for you. Be gentle (male egos are often quite fragile) but firm and honest.
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I am 20 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months last weekend me and my boyfriend got into a huge fight, and i thought he was cheating on me, which was friday, so i broke up with him, saturday i had a one night stand, sunday, i got over the fact my bf didnt cheat on me and was faithful cause i found out he was. so by monday we were back together. it has been a week and we were still together. last night someone told my boyfriend they saw me with the other guy. so i told him the truth that i never thought i was going to get back with him, so i partied and it happened. well he broke up with me, and now i am very sad. I love him more than anything and want to get him back. i have explained the situation to him. any advice as to getting him back? or what to say? (link)
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You can justify things however you want to. But you WERE unfaithful. You broke up with him based on your assumptions, not on fact, then slept with another guy, and got back together.
That, to me, is unfaithful to your partner. You showed him that he cannot trust you.
Honestly, your best bet is to throw yourself on the mercy of the court and see if he will forgive you. I dont know him, I dont know if he can, or if he even wants to. I dont know many guys who would still be willing to date you after this, I myself would not.
Just be intelligent and mature enough not to do stupid things like this in the future.
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hello,
iam 26years female from INDIA, this is my first month of pregnency conformation.can you advise me whether my husband and me can have sex? (link)
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Yes.
If he is long enough to poke you in the cervix, be careful, as you want to avoid that.
Other than that, support your stomach and make sure that he knows not to put alot of pressure on it. But sex during pregnancy is quite healthy for you as long as you're both gentle with it.
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16/F I really am motivated to find a religion that will have me feeling purified. I've already taking some quizzes to see which would suit me, but those weren't of use. Here are some of my beliefs which will not change.
-Against abortion
-Abstinence until marriage
-Strongly against smoking and drinking
-Reincarnation
This is for my own practice and mainly to achieve inner peace. I am very self-aware.
I'd prefer if it were a religion that isn't so common because chances are I've rejected it in the past.
Thank you for your help! (link)
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Well 9 Dayz is a little bitter.
Truth be told, you should be alot less concerned with your label than your beliefs. Believe what you believe, and stop trying to put a name on it.
When someone asks you what religion you are, just respond "I am spiritual"
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hey..well, my friend and i are both 15/f. and we have an a.p euro class together. well, there we take notes. the teachers lectures us. and my friend was absent last week for one day. i took about like 45 pages of notes that day. not even kidding. and now she's asking me to scan them and give them to her. should I? I really don't want to. I know she's my friend and all. But I consider this course a strict "only study yourself" course. like, don't help people out, or you're gonna get stuck yourself. I don't know what to do. I would like to help a friend. But scanning 45 pages of the notes that *I* worked so hard on, listening to him and gathering info on. And letting her HAVE it without any effort on her part...well that's not very fair. And plus, when I used to ask her for help, she rarely helped me.
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Yes, you should.
I would give her the notes because her request is not unfair. She was absent, she missed the notes, and you apparently take very detailed notes. Set a precedent for helping her and she can return the favor when you need a little help. Having standards for "only study yourself" is unnecessary.
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I got this relatioship with a boy since last October and we have been going out almost every single day since then. Only one day we did NOT go out last week, and he brought another girl to sleep over. She used to be his ex girlfriend.
He sais that nothing happened but I dont believe him. He admited himself that she slept over.
Can you help me if its the truth, or just half the truth.
Thanks.
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On the one hand, Id like to be able to say "you should be able to trust people in this world"
On the other hand, I have to say "dont be naive"
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