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Question for guys
Okay, so there are some girls at my school who send naked pictures of themselves to guys. And they hang all over guys (even guys who are taken) and talk dirty and stuff. So I've always been told that guys don't really like girls like that. But I've heard guys saying that these girls are hot. And one of my guy friends wants me to set him up with one of those girls. So I'm confused. Do guys like girls like that, or not? (I guess girls can answer, but I'd really like to hear from some guys too).
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Hmm. How to explain this one.
Decent guys want a girl that they care about. In order to care about someone, you have to be able to respect them.
Girls who will allow themselves to be used, or even use themselves like that to get what they want, are not girls whom guys respect.
So, from this we know that these guys who "like" these girls who do things do not actually give a damn about any of them. These guys "like" these girls solely because these girls give them the ghostly specter of possible sex sometime in the future. They want the sex. They are willing to let the girls feel liked in order to get it. Its not that hard.
Im trying to figure out how to clarify this.
These guys do not like these girls. They like the things these girls are willing to do for them, and they are willing to relatively nice, or at least do what they can to avoid conflict, in order to get these girls to continue doing what theyre doing.
I mean, these are guys in middle or high school. Some of them have probably never had sex. Likely none of them have ever experienced anything close to an adult sexual relationship. They want to get laid, or to get as close as possible.
If you ever consider doing this. Do not. Ill give you three reasons.
1) It is not ever, ever worth lowering yourself to have your body or your sexuality exploited for someone else's benefit.
2) It is a very stupid thing to do to give immature boys or high school guys access to naked pictures of you. Much less naked pictures that they can easily text to anyone they desire or show anyone they want. What happens if you stop being friends? Everyone and their brother will see you spread on a laptop screen.
3) As I am absolutely certain that you are under 18, sending and keeping of these pictures constitutes child pornography. If a teacher finds them, some parent finds them, etc, the police will probably be involved, and someone will probably end up getting arrested.
Lastly.
All guys are horny.
The difference between a good guy, and a bad guy (in this area) is that a good guy can control it and not have that be the only reason he associates with you.
Do not ever help a sleazy guy get with a friend.
A final thing to consider. Working on the wording.
When you are young, sexuality is something you are not old enough for. You are just beginning to experience and understand the emotions behind it and dont fully have a handle on things. Plus you arent capable of coping with the results of unwise sexual activity. Be those results a baby or nude pictures of you spreading across myspace. Thats why your parents protect you and try to stop you from doing things.
When you get older, things become different. Its no longer "not ok" for people to be sexual. You've lived enough, are old enough, are experienced enough to make wise (or at least intelligent) sexual decisions based on knowing yourself and the people involved.
That doesnt mean people dont still make tons upon tons of bad decisions involving sex in their adult lives, but just think of it as this is the eventual goal.
The girls who are doing these things? Theyve already started making unwise decisions. Its really hard to learn to do things right when you started doing things wrong, way too early.
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boys like girls like that to fool around with, but not to go out with or be good friends with.
if a guy just wants sexual stuff from a girl, hell go for a girl who messes around alot, because he knows there wont be any attachments or emotional stuff or jealousy.
but if a guy wants a good relationship, hell wait for someone whose more respectable, so he knows shell be faithful and they wont get in fights alot.
so certain guys like girls like that, but not for a long term thing.
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I'm a girl, but from what I can see every guy loves a promiscuous girl, just not for long. Guys find those kinds of girls fun, but they don't really care about them or value them as people.
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