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hi i am 14 years old and i have not had sex. just saying incase it may help with your answer. I have also never been fingered or anything so i have never touched or put anything down their. So i woke up and found it kinda hurts to wipe when i go to the bathroom. I looked in the mirror at my vagina and found a lump where my vagina opening should be. it looks really gross and is kinda red/grey in some spots. it is really scaring me cause it has never been their before..... or i have never noticed it. their is really no opening in my vagina now cause that is covering it. Also i havent gotten my period yet. It is 4 days late and still isnt here. Also the lumo hurts kinda when i wipe after using the toilet and it doesent look normal. Is their always a lump blocking the whole and it is also like really close to the opening, it is almost out of the opening a little bit. I am really scared it might be cancer or something!!! i havent told my mom yet because i dont know if this is normal! PLEASE HELP ME!!!! I AM REALLY REALLY SCARED!!!!! (link)
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it could be a lot of things but its definitly not normal.you need to go to the doctor to check it out.i doubt itll be cancer.dont worry too much about it.it could be a cyst,which is like a lump filled with fat and water or it could an inplamed gland,or a boil.just tell your mum about it,dont be shy.it could even go away after you get your period.
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okay so for the past three days i've felt horrible.
my throat hurts really bad especially when i swallow. my nose is very congested. i can't breathe and the mucus is like yellow/light green. very tired (slept 15 hours). no appetite whatsoever kinda nausea. but i don't have a fever. and on top of it all i'm on my period and got cramps for the very first time today:/
i can't go to the doctor and i'm taking 2 benadryl.
do you think it's just a cold?
do you think i should go to school tomorrow?
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you have a sinus infection thats why your snot is a greeny yellow colour.you need to go to the doctor to be put on antibiotics before it gets worse and is harder to treat.
im not a doctor but i think thats what youve got.
for the sore throat drink lots of warm tea etc
if you cant go to the doctor then my advice is to stay home and rest up.drink lots of vitamine C fluids,warm tea with honey and a few drops of lemon.most importantly resttt
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im 16/f
hes 20/m
im 6 & 1/2 months pregnant.
(please dont start with the 'if hes such an asshole why are you having a kid with him?' or 'you brought this upon yourself'. obviously i know this)
im having my ex's baby. id really rather not have him around because hes manipulative, controlling, aggressive, & unpredictable. another reason is because hes been selling drugs lately, smoking weed all day everyday, & the people he hangs out with, i dont want my kid around them.
usually i wouldnt have a problem with smoking weed but if hes going to be handling my kid, plus with other people around it just sounds bad.
my parents & i have decided to make him fight to see the baby. based on what hes said, he thinks that hes going to have the baby half the time, so hes gonna get a house before she comes and etc... I DONT WANT THIS AT ALL. does anyone know anything that could help me have full custody over the baby, or he (if at all) has to be supervised by me when he visits her ?
he has assault & kidnapping charges, would this possibly keep him from seeing the child ?
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adding to what the other person has said.i wouldnt write his name on the birth certificate if i were you.well if its possible.then go to the court and get it sorted.talk about him handling drugs etc.and yes the charges will help you win the case.at the end of the day,hes the father of the child and he helped make it so the judge may let you have the baby on the weekdays while he gets it on the weekends.but what id advise you to do is not write his name on the baby's birth certificate
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17 F ok. steph is my cousin and we have been living together for as long as I remmeber. She recently turned 15 in september. And she's like my little sister we do everything together. Play all the time. We r basically insperable. Ok well she moved out like 1 weekago which is weird for me anyway. Well she recently confessed to me that last june she lost her virginity with this kid that she claims to "love". when she told me that i swear my heart dropped. shes like my little sister you know. we would always talk about losing out virginity when we were married. its so weird. like i just dont wanna see her hear me. and she told me not to tell my sister. whose 20 btw. i dont knnow if i should becuase if i dont tell someone and she has sex again and gets pregnant then i am gonna feel guilty becuase i didnt tell someone and we could have avoided this. i dont know im so confused and i feel like i cant have her near it just gets me so mad. she told me that she liked it but that she wouldnt do it again becuase shes afraid of getting pregnant. she was 14 when she lost it she recently turned 15 in sept. seriously i need some advice. she wants to hang out on saturday and i dont know if i can. when i see her i dont see that innocent girl now i see her with different eyes and anger for keeping this from me for so long and pretending that she was a virgin also for losing it. i really wish that she didnt tell me. i feel so dramatized. she was like my little sister, my bestfriend. now i dont know what to do or cant help but to feel this. its horrible. please give me some advice on all of this. thanks. (link)
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you cant stop someone from having sex.its their own personal choice.even if you tell someone its just going to cause big problems for you and her.shell never trust you with anything ever again and you dont want that.eventhough,if you tell someone shes still going to go and have sex.
what you can do is teach her about protection.tell her about pregnancy and maybe even let her know how you feel about everything.but the main thing is to explain the risks of having sex like STD's and stuff like that. dont think about it shes done it and you cant stop her.as we get older we all change,our perspectives change and what we want in life changes with it.our goals change and so do our insights on everything.you like her sister dont let her down because she choose not to go the path that you wnated her to go.shes growing up.you just have to be there for her and protect her if anything wrong does happen.
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I'm 16, getting my driver's license at the end of December, and I've been wrestling for a while over whether or not to be an organ donor. When I got my learner's permit I opted not to be one, but a license is more permanent and I don't want to make too hasty of a decision just because the idea seems morbid. So, any thoughts? Should I be an organ donor or not? Thank youu. (link)
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i went through the samething.i was soo confused.i wasnt sure whether to be and organ donor or not.i finally chose not to be and organ donor and regretted my decision.its a very personal choice.the way i see organ donation is saving a life.i mean technically you dont need those organs once your dead so why waste them?give them to someone thats really in need of it.its a way to plant your seed when youv perished.
another way to look at it is if you think you may need all your organs after youv passed on.some people believe that your organs are yours only and no one elses.ask yourself what youll need your organs for after death?do you believe that youll need them?maybe you want to be burried ful,that is with all your organs etc.
as i said before its a personal question and its what you believe in.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 and a half months and I can honestly say he's my best friend and I love him completely :) Neither of us really has enough money to buy each other something big or fancy for Christmas, but I told him I wanted to make him something. I have an idea, but I don't know if he'll think it's cute or just corny haha... I think it's a bit cheesy personally, but I hope he will think it's cute :) My idea is to get a small heart shaped box and write down 50 reasons why I love him on pieces of paper and put them in the box. Do you guys think he'll like that? If there are any 16 year old guys on this site, I'd prefer if you'd answer this. But input from everyone is good :) Also, if you have any other cool ideas for homemade stuff, I would love to hear them :) Thanks a lot! (link)
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thats such a cute idea!
you could even have a box and put all the things that remind you of him in it.like photos and music CD and have little paper tickets that say "one free kiss"or "free hug" or something..like you get what i mean but your idea is just soo cute!
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Okay, i have a huge problem. I met a guy online (i know how this sounds), and we absolutely hit it off. We talk everyday for hours at a time. We've sent eachother pictures and we are starting to really like eachother.We haven't met face to face, and we live 765 miles away. My problem is that im scared i might get too attached. It would be impossible for either of us to see eachother. Im fearing that if i say 'fall in love' with him that it might be pointless because we may never meet. I'm so scared, and im not sure where this is going. Please help!!! (link)
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ill start with the good news.i have a friend that met a guy online she lived in new zealand and he lived in ireland.they hit it off and really like eachother,always chatting and going on the webcam and about a year and ahalf later he moved to NZ to be with her and are still together.
a chance of this ever happening is very slim.
now the bad news,youv said yourself that theres not chance of you two ever meeting to why get attached?
i mean he maybe be a really nice guy from the words he says online because its always easier to lie to a computer screen than an actual girl standing infront of him.
why build yourself up for a let down?you dont live where he lives and you cant see what he does.i mean he maybe a player or has gfs etc you dont really know for a fact what hes like.
im saying all this to you because i dont want you getting hurt.i met a guy on the internet once and really fell for him but soon i found out about this other life he had behind the computer screen and it really hurt me.dont put yourself in a position that you know already how its going to turn out
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I can't seem to stop itching. It's been going on for a week or two. I'm itchy from head to toe. It's driving me nuts. I think I might rip my skin off. I've tried allergy pills and calamine lotion. Showering works for about ten minutes. I wake up in the middle of the night just to scratch.I have scratched enough to make myself bleed. I'm scratching myself like crazy right now. It can't be poison ivy or oak, I am rarely outside. Please! What should I do. I think I am about ready to scream. Should I go to the ER?? It's getting worse as days go by. I can't stand it anymore. (link)
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go to the ER for sure.it could be something internal rather than external.you could have a reaction to soem foods youv been eating or maybe you have fleas or your allergict to your bed cover.its all a possibility go to the ER and i think theyll get a blood test done and maybe a urine test and see whats wrong.i mean if its getting worse then you should go for sure.
it sounds really bad i feel so sorry for you.i hope it stops soon
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Its my boyfriends birthday a two days after xmas. he is turning 18. what are some good ideas for gifts i can give him? i really need help. (link)
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mmm k im going to just throw some ideas out at you.i hope you find what you like.
you can buy him clothes like a shirt or some jeans etc
you can buy him a silver braclet or a necklace or ring etc
you can buy him a book if he likes reading.there are some good books out there
you can make him soemthing like a box with all the happy memories you shared together like pictures and make him little tickets that say "worth one free hug" or "one free kiss" or soemthing with like lots of little presents that hed like.
you can buy him some sunglasses
take him out to dinner
or you can buy him a voucher from his favourite shop and he can pick out what he likes himself
i hope this helps abit (its always so much easier shopping for a girl)
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ok so heres the thing... i have an amazing bf i love him to death. i really do but i have no idea wat to get him for christmas! i wanna get him something special but i dont really know wat he likes. he said he already got me the perfect gift but i cant think of anything for him and i dont have much money so wat should i do? wat can i get him? something thats a great all-around gift that everyone will like but not ordanary. plz give me some ideas or tell me some things you guys have givin ur past bf/gf that they really liked (link)
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mmm k im going to just throw some ideas out at you.i hope you find what you like.
you can buy him clothes like a shirt or some jeans etc
you can buy him a silver braclet or a necklace or ring etc
you can buy him a book if he likes reading.there are some good books out there
you can make him soemthing like a box with all the happy memories you shared together like pictures and make him little tickets that say "worth one free hug" or "one free kiss" or soemthing with like lots of little presents that hed like.
you can buy him some sunglasses
take him out to dinner
or you can buy him a voucher from his favourite shop and he can pick out what he likes himself
i hope this helps abit (its always so much easier shopping for a girl)
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how much are hair extensions usualy... my hair is to my shoulders and I want about 2 inches added. (link)
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quite expensive.to order them and get them out in your head would cost about 500 NZ$ but the clip on ones would be half the price
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Like in my history class there are 2 guys who poke fun at me. especially this one guy. like this one guy always makes comments to me almost everyday.. hes in a couple of my classes. like he'll call my name pretty loud when i come into class or something. like he actually wouldn't be that bad if he wasnt such a jerk like 90% of the time. so then i think it carried on into history and then now this other guy who sits in front of me does little things and says hes just messing with me. and its annoying cause im not good when people are like that.. especially when i dont know them that well so its like... you think they are being genuine when they arent. and im not always the best at detecting when someone is joking or not and just arent the type to like come up with all these good comebacks on the spot and stuff. im not into drama, its just not me. like if i talk to some guy whos sitting next to me, the guy whos sitting in front of me joins the conversation and is like "no" and then he laughs or something. and the guy whos sitting next to me actually seems fine but its just annoying how the other guy is just trying to make me look bad or something. and i dont know what to say or what to do in that situation. but its kinda embarassing. like theres this other girl in the class who everyone makes fun of cause shes really not smart and everything but still i wonder how that girl can take getting made fun of like 24/7. like i think im confident in myself and what i do.. so when someone else has a problem with me it can suprise me especially when i hadnt done anything to them or anything. idk if they have a problem with me or not, but they say they are just messing. but its annoying when like half the class laughs then. the guy next to me doesnt though.. from what i've seen. but idk if hes now doing it just to be nice. ahh well its better to do that than to not try at all though. but im just like wtf about it cause im not like a total weirdo or anything but its like the 2 guys are trying to make it seem like it in front of the whole class? ugh. i know i repeated in here sometimes but blah.
like other things w/ the guy who sat infront of me.. sometimes he fakes handing papers back to me and stuff like that. like today he suddenly took the book from my desk and put it on his cause he was called to read (we didnt have enough books today). and then when he gave it back it was like in the middle of someone reading and he just dropped the book loudly on my desk and like half the class stared at my reaction and im just like wtf. like i dont prepare myself for that type of thing you know? i dont know what to do. i dont even have any friends in that class anyways.and my teacher is like really laidback and stuff which is actually pretty annoying cause i wanna learn. i dont want to spend half the period listening to him asking people about their weekends ,and then me having to listen to it. like theres this group of kids that the teacher spends a lot of attention on and it just takes most of the day. like his teaching style is so bad and everything, its like teaching us stuff isnt his priority or something. i guess thats what you get for being in a CP course. and then the other guy who called my name and stuff i used to have a crush on him in 7th grade.. i have no idea why since hes not even good looking. he actually used to be nice before he like changed to being super annoying. i didnt even tell him too.. i told like 3 friends and then somehow word got to him and someone said he said that he only liked blonde girls. hes such a ******** anyways. like i hope hes not just trying to act macho cause he thinks i still like him or something when i dont. ughhhh FML
help me out pleaseeee? sorry this is really long, too. (link)
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those 2 guys are just soo annoying.in a class you must have a class clown and thats them.how old are they??they could be picking on you because thats the way to communicate with you.it could be because theyr trying to flirt or have a connection with you but dont know how to do it.
have you tried to show them that your annoyed?in your position id probibly wait for the next time they try and harrass you and look at them and say,can you guys just stop it because this game is getting really stupid.if you think your funny then stop because your not.
you could do that or you could be friends with them.get to know them and have a decent conversation with them.it may sound stupid but if you get to know them theyll think that your actually cool and that your not what they thought you were.soemthing like that.i mean from the signs they probibly do want to get to know you,especially the guy that dropped the book on your desk really loud.he may even like you(maybe).
im just giving you options.the person that sits next to you and didnt laugh.he/she is being nice because thats soemthing id do.if a guy was making fun of you i wouldnt laugh because if i laughed id be encouraging the siituation.so shes a good person for not laughing.
but overall in the end i really do think that they need to know that you think their comments are childish and stupid.if your showing that your annoyed then maybe try another approach to the situation.like maybe ignore them and like dont even look at them.if they make fun of you give them and evil look then look away.just say nothing to you them.
just change your approach to the situation because the way your acting towards them now isnt working.if your not talking to them and paying attention to them then maybe you should try talking to them and saying hi or soemthing.
but in the end just keep in mind that boys like that never change till they get older and mature.just stick it up for alittle while longer trust me iv been through it and it really does hurt you
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im 18 my boyfriends 20..and im pregnant.
we were so careful..we used condoms and bc but we ran out of condoms and thought it would be ok. i took every pill on time but im pregnant. he wants to give the baby up for adoption and i cant, i already love it. does anyone have advice on how and can convince him to keep it? no lectures please. (link)
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trust me once you give birth to that child your not going to want to give it away..look him straight in the eys and tell him that theres a creature inside me that i want to see grow up.i want to be able to tounch, hug, love it.dont you want to see how it will turn out??
if he doesnt want anything to do with it and you want to keep it then you shouldnt have to go through hours of child birth and forcefully give away a child that youve grown to love.itll rip you up from inside.
i say keep it.my friend fell pregnant and the guy didnt want anything to do with the baby so shes raising it on her own and doing fine.if you have the support of your family and friends then why not?ofcourse itll be hard but its always hard raising a family whether your bf is with you or not,its always going to be hard.
in the end the decision is yours just as much as it is for him.once the baby is alive and in his arms he may change his mind
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I met a guy through one of my closest friends, and we've become really close over the past few months, he's my best boy mate, and I've grown to like him as more recently. He knows how I feel about him and we've held hands before, but we agreed on friends only at the moment. He had his heart broken a few days after we met, a girl he liked a lot lead him on and used him, and she was really horrible to him for being upset about it... he said he's trying to move on and that he "just needs to get laid" but he just can't seem to forget her :( I hate that there's nothing I can do to help him and I really like him so so much, I don't know where I stand or what I should do at all... I don't wanna get my heart broken or be used but I just don't know where I am in his head :( I'm willing to wait for him but I don't wanna waste my time either..
(I'm age 16 if that helps at all!) Thanks in adcvance guys :)
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he said that he wants to stay friends and go off and get a rebound in other words. when he says this im guessing that he thinks that your soemthing special and doesnt want you to be that rebound.
what id do is give him time.stay friends with him.some people need the time to think and just have a rest from all the relationship stuff.
there not much you can do.he know you like him and that your there for him.i think he just needs to trust you more and really find out for himself that your not there to hurt him.
what id do is stay being his friend and keep the close contact with him.get to know eachother alittle better.give it sometime because you dont want to be that rebound.
if he really likes you then when hes ready hell make the move.
just keep doing what you do.flirt with him occassionally hang out with him etc.
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Okay well im 14 going to be 15 in like 3 months. Me and my boyfriend make 6 months on the 4th of December so tomorrow. We have been talking about sex for that past few weeks now and I think im ready, but I still have this little voice in my head telling me im not. I know I really love him though and I know he won't do anything I wouldn't want to because he always caring of me. I really know I want him to be my first though, but the thing thats getting me is that im to young I think that's the only thing holding me back. What is your opinion on this and does it hurt your first time I really want to know pretty much everything please? (link)
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usually the voice at the back of your head is always the one thats right.you think your ready because thats your heart talking but that voice in your head is your mind. choose your mind over your heart because its the right choice.
if you do choose to go with your heart make sure you use protection because you dont want to be getting pregnant at the age of 15 do you?
in my opinion your too young.in new zealand the legal age to have sex is 16.that law is there for a reason.
But again if you do have sex just make sure you use a condom or go on the pill
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A girl i go to college with came into my job and gave me a number of hers and told me to call her if i ever wanted to do anything; but the number was disconected as soon as i tried to use it so about 2 months later i end up in her dorm and i go to her room and get the right number, but did she do that on purpose and did not want me to get in contact with her. * WE did ho out to eat together before so it is not like we were total strangers before that day even though we weren't best buddies. (link)
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maybe she really diod give you the wrong number.did she seem uncomfortable when she was giving you her number?was she the one that offered to give her number to you so that youd hang out?if she wants to hang out with you again then i really doubt that she thinks your a pest. just go with the flow dont over analyse the situation,something id do
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Yesterday I had my very first pap. The doctor asked when my last period was and I said two weeks ago. She asked me if I was lying because I was due for one tomorrow (today). Now I'm bleeding down there and it's bright red. My period has never been this colour and the last time my cycle was messed up was the last time I was on birth control. Could the bleeding be because of my pap, or is my cycle hating me again? (link)
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a pap shouldnt do that to you.your probibly just ovulating.i wouldnt be stressed about it.its common for girls to get their periods after 2weeks.this can be triggered by stress, type of food your eating etc.if it happens next month go to the doctor
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Ok so me and my friend were messaging on Facebook and this is the conversation we had: friend "Hey you know what I was thinking" me "Whats that?" friend "Well do you email alot?" me "Yes" friend "We should start an email chain". Well I don't really know what an email chain is so I just said I had to go. So my question is what is an email chain? Is it like chain mail stuff saying you'll die in 12 hours if you don't send it or is it just a long chain of emails that me and her send to eachother? (link)
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its one where you say you will die in 12hours if you dont forward this...its a chain where people keep sending the email around to their friends.when they dont send it and delete the email then they break the chain
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I live with my mother. I'll only be in high school one more year, but I'm wondering if I should spend it and this remaining year living with my father nine hours away by car. If I moved, I would be able to live in a nice house, where I would be taken care of well, and I could attend an art-focused school. These are my reasons for wanting to leave. But if I do move, I would have to leave all of my friends, abandon all the relationships I've made with them and teachers, and leave all the clubs I've joined. I know I'm going to have to leave them all soon anyways but it doesn't make it any easier, especially if I have to leave my boyfriend. I wonder if it's too late for me to leave or too soon. I should also mention the art college I hope to attend is where my father lives, so if I did leave I wouldn't have to leave again. (link)
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well you need to weigh up the pros and cons.make a list of what your going to miss and what your going to gain. you can always make new friends and with your boyfriend thats a hard choice.but youll be with your dad and your going to a school that will help greatly in your future.
i think you already know what you want to do its just the moving thats the hard part.your too afraid to move because your scared you might regret your decision.just be strong and live with no regrets that way youll find it easier to know what you want.
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What's a good idea to cheer someone whose depressed coz they're away from their bf who left. How do you cheer them up? My friend's bf left and she misses him, now she feels depressed. How do i cheer her up?
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well have movie nights with her.keep her occupied.take her out to the movies, dinner, lunch, have a picnic on the beaCh, go for a swim,just keep her occupied.the best thing is for her to know that your there for her.tlak to her she may want to talk about how she feels its better having her tell you than bottling it inside.your such a good friend for asking advice
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