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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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When I was 12 my mother told me that she didnt know who my father was because she was raped. But there is a name on my birth cirtificate that my mother says is just an old friend who was nice and put his name on for me and I cant find that person anywhere then my mother told me last year when she lived in my house that my father was a nice guy and she only remembered his first name. how did he go from being a rapist to a nice guy who would never hurt her. She even went the extra mile to tell me that he was "afraid" when they had sex because he wanted to make sure she wanted it. How do I tell her that I know that she has been lying to me? How do I get her to tell me the truth? Why do you think she is lying? Why doesnt she think that I deserve to know my father and my children deserve to know their grandfather? I dont care if he wants to be in my life I just want to know if there is health problems I need to worry about. I would love for him to be there in my life but the choice is his. What do I do? Please help
hmm well try talking to someone other than your mom. does your mom have any siblings you could talk to them about? what about any cousins you have? neighbors? just ask around and try starting in the beginning like who were her serious boyfriends. I'm assuming she didn't marry your father because they aren't in contact anymore. so just ask around and see if you can find out if anybody knows her serious boyfriends.
Its your mothers decision to tell you the truth, and if she refuses to tell it to you, there's nothing you can really do about that.
Try sitting down with your mother and ask her to tell the truth. don't force her to or get angry at her. just plain and simple tell her its time for you to know the truth because you don't want to be living your life like a lie. If you're lucky, she might tell you. If she doesn't, relax and try again another time. There's not much to really do.
how long will a hickey last
depends on the size and how bad it is. a smaller, less visible one will last 3-5 days. A big noticeable one lasts about a week, maybe more.
So all summer long my moms been complaining about how I haven't gotten a job.
I'm getting really sick and tired of listening to her constantly complain and belittle me because she's jealous that I'm on summer vacation and get to stay home while she works.
Every summer she treats me like crap and it's pretty much like being grounded for 3 months and i'm tired of sitting around because she never lets me leave the house and listening to her scream and whine and complain about how I "never do anything" and she even told me earlier it pisses her off to see me not working when she is and that just seeing my face or hearing me talk makes her angry.
So I went to the Barnes and Noble Website and downloaded an Application and now i'm filling it out and I intend to send it to them and I think I have a better chance at getting the job then most people do since I have a pretty much perfect school record along with being a certified associate of Microsoft Office and the Adobe Suite (they ask on the resume if you know how to work with Microsoft Word).
My only worry is that I'm only 16 (minimum age) but in a month and 14 days i'm going to be 17. I'm very charismatic and I've been a counselor at a camp for the past few years during the summer so I know how to deal with people as well. I'm also a member of FBLA and have the Presidents Volunteer Award among other certificates and I've taken "Leadership Training".
I don't see how it could be a bad idea so I think I'm going to just go ahead and do it even though I haven't asked my mother. I mean she's the one who always complains about me sitting at home "doing nothing" and has told me on multiple occasions that I need to get a job.
I'm filling my resume out on the computer so everything will be neat and tidy but I want to know, should I should put all of my achievements down on an extra sheet of paper and attach it to my resume or would that be overkill?
Any advice helps :)
first of all.. you're 16. You can legally move out in less than 2 years. You're a big girl. You can apply for a job by yourself and you don't need your mother's permission- especially since she wants you to get one and keeps encouraging it.
I say just go for it. The worst that could happen is that you don't get the job, then you can rub it in your mom's face and say "well i tried but they denied me". Its not your fault if they don't accept you because you're underage.
Put all of your achievements on your resume. It will help. Good for you! Good luck!
I just started thinking. When I was little I was climbing this metal bar thing and I ended up slipping and landing down there. (I'm a female) When I got home I was bleeding a little. Not sure where because I was 4 or 5. Maybe even 3. Anyway I'm wondering if my hymen could have broke. It is possible isn't it? Just curious. I'm not planning on having sexual intercourse until marriage. Thank you!
I don't think it could have broke because thats such a young age.. At that young of an age, your hymen hasn't even started to devlop yet. Most girls break their hymen when they're older like 11-whatever. Because their hymen has matured during puberty.
Ok, so my exboyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for about 2 1/2 months. Everything was going great! Since it was long distance, our relationship mostly consisted of texting and a phone call here or there. Well, he got a job and became busy, but it wasn't a big deal because we still talked at least once a day. So anyways, one day out of no where he just breaks up with me just like that. (this was about 6 weeks ago). He said it was because he was just too busy and didn't think it was fair to me, even though I assured him that I was willing to deal with it because we had sucha a great relationship. Long story short, that didn't help. Later I found out that he really broke up with me for another girl (shady, right?). So they were together a day after he left me, and it only lasted a couple days. It was literally the hardest break up I have ever went through. I eventually dealt with it and forgave him and moved on. Now, I have been hanging out with a guy that lives in the next town over. We aren't "technically" in a relationship, but it's pretty much like we are. We've kissed and hang out several times a week, etc. But now, recently, my ex has been talking to me like we used to, and he's asking me to come and visit him and all this stuff. I thought I was over this guy and now, my feelings for him are all flooding right back in. I am just in desperate need for advice. I really appreciate it!
I'm 19 and a female, not that it makes much of a difference, lol.
(sorry it's so long)
alright. I've been in your shoes not too long ago. I made the absolute WORST mistake.. so here's what NOT to do..
Don't lead them on. That was my mistake. I liked 2 guys and I didn't want to make a decision. I felt like everything would be fine if I just flirted with both of them (i thought they wouldn't find out about the other guy, but they eventually did) and all hell broke loose. Both of them got pissed at me and told me to pick 1. I was so overwhelmed and stressed, I had no idea what to do. It got so bad that the 2 guys threatened to kill the other.
soo yeah... don't lead them on. Here's what you need to do. stop talking to both of them for 1 week. Put your phone away, get off facebook and/or twitter. and just focus on yourself. Think about what YOU want. Take 1 whole day and just think about your feelings. Think about your ex and how you felt when you dated. then think about how would you feel if you got back together. would you still trust him? would you feel the same way? or would things change? Then think about your other friend. How much do you like him? Do you want to start fresh and just begin something new with a guy? (NOTE- if you get back with your ex, you must realize that he might be holding grudges and if you guys fight, it will get more complicated because there's more issues you guys dealt with)
After a week of thinking by yourself, make a decision. It's not necessarily who you love more... its more about who are you better with? In my case- I thought i loved the other guy more.. but then realized that I wouldn't be happy with him. I would change for the worse if i stayed with him. So I eventually picked the other guy and maybe it wasn't love at first sight.. but I realized I was happier and better off with him. then eventually i fell in love with him haha.
If you can't make a decision, then I suggest picking neither and just moving on with your life. good luck and inbox me if you need more help!
Hw do i know ma boyfriend love me coz he is always away in college in another town de last time we had sex was in april is this love i feel real or am i lying to maself help
well i'm not you... so i can't really tell if you're in love or not.
how do you feel? do you think about other guys? do you miss him?
Just take a few days to think about your feelings for him and if you feel like you want to be with other guys or even just be alone, then its clear that you don't want him.
A huge piece of advice.. you know you're in love when you can't go a day without thinking about that person. I'm in love with my boyfriend because everywhere I go, he's in my heart and in my thoughts. I always miss him and always want to talk to him. That's love. But if you don't even want to talk to him, or if you don't miss him.. then you're not in love.
PS: you don't have to be IN LOVE in order to stay in your relationship. I've had boyfriends when I loved them but I wasn't IN LOVE. if that makes sense. I cared about them, but i knew they weren't the one. But we stayed in the relationship and I had fun. They weren't serious relationships. SO if you're not in love with this guy, then either break up (if you're looking for something serious) or stay together and just have fun.
I'm not fat, well everyone says I'm not or I'm a twig but I think my legs are fat, well only when I wear a swimsuit. does anyone have any suggestions to make me look skinnier like any colors that make you look smaller? or any good tips on how to lose weight. mostly on your thighs though? thanks ! please help. (:
by the way I'm a 13 yearold girl. you probably think "she's too young to worry about he weight."
no I'm 13, about 5'2 and around 117 pounds. but my mom weighs one 20. is that not good?
its probably just genetics..
honestly.. why are you putting so much effort into a SWIMSUIT...?? umm newsflash.. nobody is going to care what color or what style. Yeah you want to look good.. but who are you trying to impress?? you're 13. You shouldn't have to go through all this hassle to find the "perfect" swimsuit.
Let me ask you this. lets say you did a bunch of research and found a swimsuit that would hypothetically make you look better. Would you be happy?? or are you just doing this to make other's happy?
My point is.. get a swimsuit YOU like and that will make YOU happy. Don't try to please other people. I used to be like you too. I was your age once. I went through all this hell, trying to buy the most expensive clothes because it would "make me look good" and because "everyone was wearing that style".. but in all honesty- I was just trying to make other people happy, but I wasn't happy at all. I actually HATED that style of clothing, I was just buying the clothes because I thought other people would like them better on me.
Then I realize, who gives a damn what other people think about me?? I'm going to buy clothes that I like. If other's don't like them on me, then they can turn around and stare in the other direction.
Buy a swimsuit that will make YOU happy. Don't go through all this research and crap just to find something that will make others happy. Its not worth it.. its a frickin swimsuit... nobody will care.
Well theres this gurl and her friend Who think they can talk behind my back so she said she wants to fight so i told her to bring it on so tomorrow im suppost to fight er and i have fought before but i need advice on some moves
show up. then laugh at their face and say "what do i need to prove to you assholes?" You have nothing to prove to them. When someone is bullying you or harassing you.. all they are looking for is either attention or just to make you feel horrible/mad. So your solution is.. don't let them make you feel horrible/mad. Show up tomorrow and smile. be happy. laugh at their face. then walk away. It doesn't mean you're a "chicken".. it just means you're smarter, more mature, and wiser to turn the other way and let them deal with their problems. (which they obviously have problems..)
good luck and don't do anything stupid/something you'll regret.
14/f
Summer break is finally here! I love visiting my family and going swimming and stuff, but every single one of my friends are out of town for the whole summer! I keep busy playing soccer four times a week, babysitting, and going to my cottage, but my dad keeps pushing me to do something with my friends and get out of the house more. It does get boring just lazing around the house all day.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can spend my summer?
Try some new things you haven't done before. Like go bike somewhere and explore a different place (make sure you dont get lost though). I was like you before summer started. A lot of my friends got busy and I just got even more bored. So i saved up my money and bought a really nice camera and i'm getting interested in photography. I carry my camera around with me everywhere i go and its just fun to walk around randomly and take pictures of things i observe.
A few other things you can try-
-write a journal
-do something artsy like draw, paint (pictures or your room), make a necklace
-start a collection like seashells and then make something cool out of them like a statue
- make a scrapbook of you growing up
- go to the mall alone and socialize with strangers. It boosts your self-esteem and you get to buy stuff
- try getting a job (maybe its harder since you're 14) but try getting a job and socializing and make new friends.
- go to the beach and flirt endlessly with hot guys haha. ask them to play beach volleyball with you or something fun.
- have a garage sale or bake cookies and sell them.
Just be creative :)
Last Friday I went to a party and met this boy. From the moment we met we really clicked. He was showing me off to all of his friends and kind of overdoing it with the compliments. I am not sure if it's part of his game or he really meant it. Anyway we ended up sleeping at the party together. I barely got any sleep because we were talking and kissing all night. He attempted more and would apologize when I rejected him yet still attempted more once a decent amount of time had went by. He was somewhat cocky about himself stating how I definitely wanted him and whatnot which made me want him even less. After our night of kind of cute fun he took me home. He has been trying to hang out since but I am not sure if it's a good idea. I really clicked with him and he said we clicked but then again, he seemed to be using every line in the book. I guess what I'm trying to say is being the messed up girl I am the lines got me along with his good looks and I'm wondering what to do. Should I give him a chance? Or should I just write him off as a player and ignore his texts from now on?
Well its your judgement. If you're second-guessing him right now.. imagine how you'll feel if you guys started dating..
If you want my opinion (I have a lot of experience in the guy department but I have good morals and don't just screw around with guys)- then I suggest you stay away from him. I read this question and immediately I had a gut instinct that this guy just wants some.. meaning he doesn't care about you. All he wants is to get in your pants. unless you're "into" that kind of thing- i would stay away from him. You denied him when he was trying to go further with you, but he insisted to keep trying and kept trying to pressure you and kept trying to do more.. thats a red flag right there.. That pretty much just sums him up.. he's a player. He doesn't care how you feel. Bottom line- you felt uncomfortable with the situation but he didn't care how you felt, all he wanted was to get in your pants. which is not a good quality in a guy, especially if you're looking for something serious.
another red flag- you could tell he is cocky. How long did you actually know him, before you realized he was cocky? a few minutes?? If you can tell he's cocky that soon, then he is a true player and has a large ego.
Plain and simply said.. stay away from him.
I understand that you might want to be with a "bad guy". Trust me i've felt the same way. My dream guy is to have tattoos and have the "bad-ass" vibe.. but this guy is just begging for some attention in all the wrong ways. I really don't think you should spend more time with him, unless you're ready for some heartbreak.
Its up to you hon. Good luck.
17/f
My group of 4 guy friends want me to sing with them in their reggae band, and I'm soo excited because I love singing and its on my bucket list to join a band. They play a show at least once a week at local lounges, clubs, bars..etc (im going to be 18 in a month so I dont have to worry about the age). A lot of the places get pretty packed with people.
My problem, hence the title, is my terrible stage fright. I know I have a really good voice, but when I know people are listening I freak out. I was in the top choir in my school, and even when I was with 20 other people I'd get so nervous. The only reason that the kid asked me to sing is that he heard me when I thought no one else was in the room haha.
Basically, what are some tips on overcoming this fear? Any techniques of relaxation or calmness, or even voice excersizes. Any other advice is also welcome :)
Thanks!
there are tons of breathing techniques that will help you relax yourself. Breathing is also very good for singers because when you sing, you need to use your diaphragm as much as you can. Breathing deeply allows you to expand your diaphragm and it gets stronger that way. Try taking some yoga or meditation classes to help you.
As for the actual singing part- you have to start slow. You can't overcome your fear in 1 night. It takes time. Use the next month (until you're 18) to work on your fear. Baby steps. First try singing when nobody is in the room. Get comfortable with your voice. Record yourself and then listen to it. It will sound different but you, of all people, need to be the one to recognize your voice the best. Once you're comfortable with your own voice, grab a friend and sing in front of them. Again, start slow. Turn off all the lights so you can't see them, and just sing in the dark. Then turn the lights on, but turn your back away from them and sing. Then try singing in front of them facing them in the light. When you do this- make sure its a friend that you trust. Someone who will make you feel better, and someone who you won't feel embarrassed or ashamed by.
Once you are able to sing in front of that 1 person. Keep adding more people. Increase by 1 for the first week. Then after that, increase the number by 2. By the end of the month, you should have no problem singing in front of a handful of people.
One more tip- you gotta have that attitude that says- i'm not scared of what you people think. I KNOW i have a great voice and I'm going to show you. You just gotta have that attitude that shows you don't care what other's think about you.
If you have a good time, it will all be okay and the fears will go away. remember to smile and laugh and just relax and have a good time. remember why you're singing. You're singing for YOURSELF. you're singing because its your passion and you're good at it :)
I have an iPhone 4 that came in the mail July 16th or 17th of last year, so the warranty should still be good.
Lately, the home button has been a little off. Sometimes, it doesn't respond and I have to press it three or four times to actually work.
Also, there's been a few minor issues with the camera (the flash didn't work at all one day, then resumed working).
Are any of these grounds for a replacement iPhone?
If so, how do I get a new one? Do I need a receipt or can they just look up my model number or somethign to see when I bought it? Do I go to the apple store or AT&T store? Also, I probably won't be able to prove that these problems happened, because the camera malfunctions sporadically, as does the home button.
yeah you can trade it in for a new one if the warrenty is still good.
Go into Apple store and explain to them what's wrong with your phone. Tell them its a defect and you didn't do anything to cause the phone to act this way. They should be able to let you switch phones, or at least fix it for free. I'm pretty sure you don't need a receipt. I think they just look your phone number up on their database.
18/f
This is a bit complicated for me to explain, but I'll try to be straightforward. So my ex-boyfriend and I were together for 14 months and he broke up with me for the 3rd time and his reason was because he thinks that we were incompatible. A couple days later after we broke up, we saw each other again and we ended up acting like a couple again, you know; kisses, hugs, holding hands, saying "i love you" things like that. Note that this is what happened the first 2 times we broke up, and the 2nd time it went on for 4 months and then we got back together. So we practically never really broke up. The one thing that confused me was that he said that he was actually going to "draw a line," meaning no physical activity like before... And just like I said, we ended up acting like a couple again.
The thing is, I don't want to be over. I'm very stubborn, because I worked really hard to get him back and when I finally got him he's gone in 2 months. I'm devastated and so many of my friends tell me that things will get better but noticed that I'm getting more depressed each day.
The thing is, I was really insecure when I was with him. I lost my confidence in everything because I wasn't sure about how he felt throughout the whole time. I had to keep asking him, "do you love me?" I hated that. The reason why I kept asking him those questions because I always had to text him first, I always had to say "I love you" first to him, he never really seemed to try to talk to me. And many of my friends were telling me he's taking me for granted, he doesn't seem to appreciate me, and that he doesn't deserve me because I put 100% in the relationship and he doesn't seem to even put in 5%.
We got into a fight 4 days ago, and I got angry because he said "You're too big of an existence in my life. I felt like you could control my life. With you, I can't accomplish my goal." I felt really heartbroken, and I asked him "What are you trying to say?" And he said, "I'm drawing the line again." The last thing I said was "....." And this also made me realize he puts the blame on me when he's not with me, afterwards he asked "btw, why did you keep asking me to kiss you yesterday?" I didn't ask him, he kissed me himself as well so I didn't answer him. Then he said, "I'm an asshole right, all you want to do is make me happy but all I do is hurt you." Didn't answer that either. Then he says, "I'm sorry for being so pathetic, really." I didn't answer that. Then he said, "Good night. The only girl I really loved." (I was his first longest and serious relationship) Then the next morning he called me (first time he called me in the morning since 5 months) and he apologized to me. And he told me to not take what he said that night as if he doesn't love me and that he still did.
Now, today he's been very distance ever since that day. He hasn't been talking to me much or even trying to. I don't have the right to complain because we broke up. But after all of that, we didn't even break up because of a fight. We broke up because he thought we were incompatible. People see that we ARE compatible, and it's just that he's being selfish and he's taking me for granted because all I do is worry about how he feels about me and stuff like that.
My sister told me she thinks I should move on because he's obviously not showing any appreciation for me and that if I moved on, he'll actually see "what he had until he lost it." I called her yesterday crying saying that I felt insecure because I'm not asking him to give me attention, I'm not asking him to see me everyday, it just makes me happy when I get a text message from him knowing that he still loves me, or cares, and whatnot. And a majority of the time he texts me, he just asks how I'm doing such as my health and stuff. And it makes me wonder if he only thinks about me and thinks about even talking to me when it comes to my health. Not because he loves me or misses me.
I asked him if he ever misses me, and he says "sometimes." And I feel like I'm over analyzing things, because I keep thinking does he like another girl? Does he not love me anymore? What does this mean? What does that mean? Because I honestly feel excluded from his life, even when we were together. Now I feel even MORE excluded.
I know that he's busy because he has 2 jobs, he's trying to pay off his tuition for school since his dad is only paying off half, and it's hard for him to get any grants or financial aid because his dad's income, and not to mention that he's the oldest of his 5 siblings.
I feel even more heartbroken because I just told him that I got prank called. Nothing else, and he replied with, "sorry I'm not able to listen to anyone's problems right now." And I just thought, "is there something wrong? Is he stressed out?" And I asked him if there was anything wrong, and he just answered "nothing" to all of the questions, and I stopped asking because I didn't want to annoy him.
Many people understood that he was busy, but they didn't understand how someone can be THAT busy to even not text me at least once to see how I was doing and stuff especially if he went on facebook and commented his friends saying that he's transferring and hoping he will see them on campus, and catching up an old friend of his and stuff.
There was a lot more things that he did, but this is just very brief about everything that happened. Just know that there were reasons why all of my friends thought that he was taking me for granted and he didn't seem to appreciate me. But another thing is, he's very independent. If something's bothering him, he wants to get over it himself, he keeps it to himself. But the reason why it bothered me was because he used to be so opened to me but now he closed himself back up and pushed me out of the way.
So my question is, do you think he still loves me? What do you think is going to happen? Am I over analyzing things too much and that he's just tired or busy? What should I do: Move on or wait? Because honestly, my heart tells me to wait and I do. My brother says he'll help me fight it through again, but he hates to see the way he treats me. I know it's stupid for wanting to wait, and have myself vulnerable and get hurt. But I'm confused about this whole situation. What do you think is going on in this relationship? Should I just give him space?
Thanks in advance!
Alright let me break it down for you.. If you have to type that long of a question to find your answer, well the answer is pretty much in front of you. You wrote 12 paragraphs. That's a lot to say. There's a lot on your mind. I bet you feel pretty stressed out and confused. So my question is.. Why are you putting yourself through all of this??
He's excluding you. He won't make an effort into the relationship. He doesn't seem to care. Why are you putting up with this?? If I were you, I'd seriously be so fed up with his shit and I would just leave him and his problems to himself.
Honey, none of this is your fault. You do realize that right?? I read that entire question and nothing in it says you did something wrong. You did your best. You made the most effort, you tried to fix the problems, you cared. There's honestly nothing else you can really do because in order for your relationship to work- he's gotta do the same thing. A relationship is 2 parts. Yours and his. Both of you have to give effort etc. If you're just doing his part and he's screwing off.. Well then there's no point in staying in the relationship.
Yes he could be busy with his 2 jobs and paying tuition and whatever else. But that is no excuse for him. There's ALWAYS time for a close girlfriend, especially since you mentioned you were his first serious relationship. There's no excuse as to why he should be treating you this way.
If you want my advice, ignore him. Put your phone away for a whole week. Don't go on Facebook or twitter. Put all of the memories away and forget about him for a week. It might be hard. But you have to look on the bright side. You're better off without him and his issues. You can do better.
Make him realize that you were the best thing in his life. Make him do the effort. If he truly wants to fix the relationship, HE has to make the effort. You did enough. The rest is up to him. If he can't do that, then it's time to find a guy who respects you and treats you way better.
Don't put yourself through all of this drama and problems. It's too stressful and wouldn't you much rather just have fun and relax and focus on yourself? You'll feel relieved once his issues are out the window and he's gone :
Inbox me if you have more questions!! :)
I'm 18, and sexually active with my boyfriend for the past 3 months. Last night, I noticed (after using the bathroom) that there was pinkish blood on the paper, It was there for several hours but stopped. THen this morning it turned into a brownish discharge. My period ended 2 weeks ago and I'm not due for it again for another 2 weeks, so it's not my period. What's wrong with me? STD? Pregnancy? Please help!!
It's called spotting. Yes it's normal. Especially for women who are sexually active. If you're using birth control then that's a common side effect which is normal :)
I'm a 13 yearold girl and I hear about people just a year older than me sucking guys dicks and having sex and stuff but I think that oral sex is disgusting. is that normal? I'm not a lesbian I just think that's gross. and should girls shave there down there hair? you all probably think "what is she talking about, she's 13?" but I want to no if I should. It would help if I got advice from girls and guys. and how old were you guys when you lost your virginity? any advice helps. Thanks (:
- Yes its normal to think that at your age.
- Its the girls decision if she wants to shave down there or not. Its her vagina so she can do whatever she wants with it.
- I lost my virginity when I was 18. I'm still 18 haha. And you know what? i'm not ashamed of it. I'm not ashamed or embarassed that I waited so long :) I'm actually proud of myself because I know i'm smart and responsible, and I waited until it was with the guy i'm in love with. unlike other girls who have sex at 13 and don't even realize what could happen..
if you want my advice- wait until you're older. your brain doesn't fully devlop until you're 18 or 19.. you're not mature enough to have sex. Yes you are capable of having sex, but you have no clue what sex means.. its a special thing and its only for people who are mature enough to realize what could happen. Let me ask you this? Are you old enough to take care of your own baby?? No. You're in school. you have other things to worry about like acne and periods. Babies are the least of your worries so don't have sex until you're mature enough to have one.
To all children under the age of 16 and are having sex... i hope you have a baby and realize what a stupid mistake you made and learn your lesson. Karma.
i'm a 21 yr old female and i tend to get mad at ridiculous things and i seem to get angry too fast. i really don't know why i do that, idk if it's me or a female thing. i want to figure out how to control it because it affects my relationship with my boyfriend sometimes. thank you!
what's the opposite of being angry? .... being calm.
The key to being calm is relaxing. Breathe deeply and slowly. In through your nose, out through your mouth. Practice this a few times a day. Sit in a quiet room and just practice breathing deeply. I know it may seem weird at first (you can put some calming music in the background like ocean waves or rain) and just pay attention to your breathing. Don't force it, just listen and breathe.
Once you've learned how to control your breathing, you need to think of something happy. For me, when I get angry, I think of me going on an adventure. Me, my car, my ipod, driving somewhere unknown and just ending up somewhere new and finding an adventure. That makes me really happy :) so whenever i get angry, i just breathe, relax, and think about me going on an adventure.
Talking about the problem can also help. It's not as effective because some people get even angrier when they talk about the problem, but for some it helps clear up the troubles.
You can try things like yoga and meditation to help you relax. Splurge and Spoil yourself a little and get a professional massage, that will help you relax. Light up some aromatherpay candles and take a warm bath and just breathe.
Breathing=key to relaxing.
Good luck!
I really want to try temporarily dying my hair...just like one from the store, not getting in professionally done...so first, what are some reasonable priced temporary hair dyes you can buy at like meijer or a store like that. and then what type of shade should i use for my hair...see the picture :) thanks!!!
http://tinypic.com/r/e9hr0i/7
if you're dying it temporarily, get a color that is 1-2 shades darker than your color. So something like a medium/dark brown. See if you'd like that :)
If not, try getting some blonde or caramel colored high lights and low lights.
By the way- i love your hair color right now :) that's actually close to my natural color and I permanently dyed my hair darker 3 years ago and i've been dying it ever since. I'm craving my natural color back so badly and your picture just reminded me how badly I wish i had my natural color back haha.
My crush recently told me he is moving to another continent.He is like a best friend:he tells me everything, we fool around and flirt(a lot)
And he told me that he wanted hugs but i wanted to do something more for him
like suprise him with something
NOT to over the top plz
Im 12 and im a girl
I think throwing him a surprise "going away" party would be a great idea :)
if you wanted to surprise him even more, take him by the hand somewhere alone and kiss him :) I'm not sure if you're comfortable with it at your age, but considering he's your crush.. you'll never see him again. Take the chance and just give him a little peck on the lips :)
Wat is the best facial cleanser & mask for bad skin wit blemishes & blackheads? My skin isnt really that dry but its not oily either.
Burt's Bee's makes a great acne line. I use their facial wash, toner, acne solution, and lotion. It can get pricey if you add all of them up, but they are worth it because its all natural ingredients and won't harm your skin :)
at my daughters school next year,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls? Also, why are boys allowed to be shirtless in the presence of girls? Why is no sense of modesty maintained
what's wrong with having boys and girls swim together?? Its the same thing when you go to the beach or the pool. How would you feel if someone told you that you weren't allowed to swim with your husband/significant other..? It really doesn't matter..
Plus its 9th grade. Kids that age get more mature.. Its not like they have cooties anymore haha. Honestly, its not a big deal. Plus there's a teacher there. So it's not like its unsupervised or anything.
And would you prefer if guys wore t-shirts while swimming..? Why does it matter if they're shirtless or not? Guys swim shirtless regardless of age. My grandpa is 80 years old and swims shirtless. Thats just how it is now-a-days.
Honestly.. if it bothers you THAT much that boys and girls are swimming in the same pool, transfer your daughter to a convent and an all-girls school. But in my personal opinion, that would make no sense considering she will get the experience sooner or later in life.