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So i'm African-American and I relax me hair every 8-10 weeks. I was my hair once a week. After I wash and condition I roll it and sit under thoes big hair dryers and then when its dry I flat iron it.I No matter what I do, I ALWAYS have split ends. I know I have to trim my hair but
1.) How can I prevent them from coming back? And I'm not going to stop using my flat iron.
2.)does anyone know any good flat irons and where to get them from?
3.) What kinds of foods should I eat and what other things can I do to grow my hair faster and to keep it healthy?
The best thing you can take for healthy hair is pre-natal vitamins. You can find them just about anywhere, but especially in CVS-type places. The only down side is that ALL your hair grows, so expect to be shaving your legs a lot.
Ceramic flat irons cause less damage.
If your iron has a dial to change the heat, experiment and find the least heat that will still do the job.
Try some hair dressing, or moisturizer before you put your hair in rollers, because the heat dryer can be doing damage too.
i usually tan a couple times a week.. and i dont want to be SUPPERR dark but i want to have a nice tan, and i think i do, but ive noticed im kind of orange? why am i getting a more orange color rather than a more brown color which is what i want. any ideas/help?
It probably has to do with the tanning products you are using, especially if you bought it from the tanning salon. A lot of the products claim that they can get you real dark fast, but that's because it has sunless tanner in it that can turn your skin orangy. Give your body a good scrub, buy regular $4.99 tanning lotion or oil, and don't bother with all the bells and whistles they try to sell you in the salon.
So me and this guy have only been dating for a little while and well me and him started to make-out last night and I told him I wanted to take things slow. I don't like to just jump into things you know? Thats not who I am. But he kept pushing and pushing to have sex and I kept telling him no. Well he just started kissing me again and I thought he understood that I wasn't going to have sex but then before I knew it he was pulling my pants off and started having sex with me even though I told him no. I didn't know what to do. I pretty much just shut down.... I feel completely horrible now. After that happened last night I can't stop thinking about what happened and I don't know what to think or what to do. I feel completely used and ashamed..... I don't know what to do now. I feel like it's my fault.
It is absolutely not your fault. You should be able to kiss a guy without worrying about being raped. I know that sounds like a harsh word, but you have been raped. You are feeling as if you somehow invited it by not punching him in the face and trying to fight him off. This is the same bull that has been haunting women forever and allowing men to take advantage of them. Women have a tendancy to blame themselves for everything. When I was a little girl, maybe five or so, I was molested by the old man who lved next door. It felt good, and after the first time, I would go over when I knew he was alone and encourage the sexual activity. I felt bad about it, and I felt really dirty so I never told anyone about what happened, because I felt like I asked for it. It broke my self esteem for a long time. But the truth is, I was only a little girl, and he was a perverted sexual preditor. The number one thing sexual preditors have going for them is our shame. They want us to feel disgusted in ourselves so we won't tell and they won't get into trouble.
You were faced with a situation that put you in shock. You still can't even believe it happened, so why are you now beating yourself up because you didn't handle it like Wonder Woman, and karate chop him, leaving him knocked out on the floor? You were caught off guard and totally by surprise. You were in the middle of a situation that you hear about all of the time, but you never thought it would happen to you. Please try not to beat yourself up about it, because if you do, you will score a point for their side.
There are a lot of things to think about. Do you want to report it-Is he bragging about it all over the place-Are you going to get pregnant-STD-all of these things and more are going through your head and you're overwhelmed. Rightfully so, you have just been through a terribly traumatic experience. I know it is good to talk about things, and this advice line is your first step, but I hope you find someone human to talk to. There are a lot of things to consider, too, because some people may be obligated to report the situation to the police and you may not be ready for it. But you may also want to report what happened because he will do this again to someone else. I just hope at the very least you don't blame yourself. It is not your fault.
16/m
Well i have had several girlfreinds and well it usually never works out for me, im never been in a relationship that last longer than 2 or 3 weeks, i dont know what im doing wrong am i picking the wrong girls, or bugging them too much or am i too quiet i really dont know,
I really need help i met this other girl and i really like her and she likes me but im really scared that im going to screw up im not going last with her, i dont want that i want this one to work out fot once any help at all o appreciate it : )
Also im a really nice guy sometimes people take advantage of me but my one big porblem is i worry too much, like if i see sonething and i think its wrong i think the worst even though its not true. sucks but i cant help it.
Thanks once again and any help id apreciate it
If you have had several girlfriends the problem is obviously not your looks, so it has to be something you're doing to push them away. I don't know you, so I can't tell you exactly what it is but here is the feelings I got when reading your entry...
When you first start dating a person things are supposed to be great. There isn't supposed to be any problems for at least a month, and then they should only be minor. Imagine you are a girl- You have just met this guy who really likes you. He's sensitive and pays you a lot of attention. Things are great. You spend hours talking on the phone, laughing, but also talking about serious stuff. You have never met any one like him your age before-he doesn't buy into all of that macho bull. It seems too good to be true, so you start dating because you feel like you have finally met the right kind of guy. Well, after about two days, he totally changes. You can tell that he really likes you, but now all he does is put himself down, or compare himself to everyone else, including your last boyfriend who you would rather forget. It is almost as if he is purposely trying to convince you to break up with him. Before you started dating, if you wanted to call him, you did, and he was always happy, but now all of a sudden if you don't call him by a certain time, he kind of gets an attitude like he is hurt or angry. He doesn't come out and say he's pissed, but you can tell by the way he's acting. You used to really have fun talking to him because he was so easy going, but now it is like there is so much pressure attached to everything. If you happen to be out with your friends, you can't even have a good time because you are thinking about what he is going to think. You might even have to interrupt the time with your friends so you can step away and call him because you don't want to get him upset, but then when you do step away to call him, he wants to stay on the phone and you want to hang out with your friends, so he gets upset either way. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't. If he would just relax and act like he did before you went out you would be so happy, but now it seems if that boy is gone forever, and you don't want or need the stress of being so responsable for someone else's moods.
Remember kid, relationships are supposed to enhance your life. In your effort to prepare yourself for the worst, you are pushing other people away. You got the girl, she likes you-which is why she wanted to be your girlfriend, so live, let live, and think about things from her point of view without always jumping to the negative assumption.
Also, I could be way off because I don't really know you, so if this all sounds like someone else and not you, please disregard.
14/F My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months now. In the beginning I was so happy but gradually I started to lose my feelings for him, especially once school started again. Most of the time its a chore to talk on the phone every night and I'm just not happy. The only problem is that he's still completely smitten. He's constantly telling me he loves me and how much I mean to him and how he's so afraid to lose me. He doesn't have very good friends and besides video games not many hobbies. Basically, I'm a huge part of his life. I know I have to do this for myself but its going to hurt me so much to do this to him. I still care about him just not in the same way. We barely see each other outside of school and when we do he comes over my house. I've never even been to his. How can I breakup with him in person and make this as gentle as possible? Also, we have a semi-formal coming up in a few weeks and for Valentines part of my gift to him was a tie that matches my brand new dress I just bought. This may be a little awkward? I don't know please help. :( Thank you so much.
First, you might as well go ahead and do the formal thing if you can make it that long. Second, the worst thing you can possibly do, once you finally make the decision to break up, is be wishy-washy about it. You can't go back with him because you feel bad, or try to be his friend because it will lead him into believing that he has a ray of hope getting back together. the best thing to do is to simply say it as plainly as you can. It may be difficult, because when you explain to him that you don't feel as if you have anything in common, he may try to negotiate by saying he will try to do different things, etc. You can even tell him that the scariest part of the whole thing is that he seems to love you more than anything else, and the responsability of his happiness is overwhelming to you. You just want to enjoy your teenaged life. It may sound a little cruel, because then it is almost as if you are turning it around on him, but I have the feeling that he is going to try to search for a reason, then promise to fix it, so be firm, and don't allow him to guilt you into staying with him. Don't let him think in time you may change your mind, anything you do to try to break the hurt may end up leading him on in the long run. If it does turn out that you miss him, don't do anything rash, because these kind of feelings are common. Really take the time to explore, first. Good luck, you're obviously a very smart and caring person.
18 f.
my 2 best friends and I are going to the caribbean over spring break. We planned this trip few months back and were really excited. But over the past months my 2 best friends haven't been talking. One is putting in effort while the other one is not. Now mind you its 3 GIRLS we're talking about, and if we cant all hang out I dont know what we will do. I've been friends with one of them for about 3 years, and the other one about 1 and a half. My friends cant give me advice on it because its such a rare and horrible dilemma. So what do i do? Just try and live through the awkwardness? Try and get them to talk? It seems like its going to end up being a cruddy trip anyway. Oh, and by the way, there's no way one of us could just not go, we all want to go really badly. This is what we get for being so stubborn I guess.
thank you,
scaredredhead
Stick to the one who is trying to work it out, and let the other one know that she is going to ruin this trip, and all of the great memories you guys could have together. Don't yell at her, or anything, just really let her know how you feel. Tell her not to mess up a once in a lifetime opportunity because you guys won't be able to live it up like this when you have responsabilities. If she has a good reason for being pissed, tell her all the benifits of being the bigger, better person. Go for the guilt a little, too, becuase you are the one stuck in the middle, and you haven't done anything.
If all else fails, remind them both that you are going to have fun-no matter what, and you refused to be given any guilt trips about who you choose to hang out with at any given time, so if they want to continue the fight, you'll be the one who always has a friend to hang out with, while the other is sitting alone.
Let me just start off by saying I have kissed guys before, plenty of times. And I've heard I'm pretty good at it but lately it seems my boyfriend and myself haven't really been too into our kissing. I mean we kiss a lot still but its just a quick peck. When we first went together, when we kissed it was beautiful :) you know passionate so I was thinking I want to give my boyfriend this mind blowing kiss, that will make him think "We need to do this more often." lol so I need some new tips...please and thank you in advance.
slow, slow, slow, is the number one tip.
Don't spend the whole time with the tongue, but suck gently on his top or bottom lips.
When using the tongue, don't for too long so things don't get gooey.
Don't forget to use your hands. Run your fingers through his hair, hold him tight, whatever feels right.
To give a mind blowing kiss you must take control. Sit right on top of him, or some other position that reenforces that you are the dominant one.
Back off every once in a while, look into his eyes and come back in.
Kiss his neck, ears, and when you are passing over his ear, breathe heavily (don't blow, but make it seem like you were just breathing and didn't even know you were doing it) into his ear. Don't concentrate only on one side of the neck, move around.
The best way for a guy to totally enjoy the kiss is for you to enjoy it yourself. Imagine if you were kissing this guy, and you could just tell he was lovin' it; wouldn't that make you into it all the more? Let him think know he's blowing your mind and he will want to kiss you all the time.
is there any meaninq to qettinq yer nose peirced on thee left err riqht side ?
ha. juss curious.
It used to be that the left ear was for straight men, and the right for homosexuals, but nobody really bothers with those kind of labels, anymore. When considering your own piercing, you would be surprised about how different things can look from one side of your face to the other. Try putting a little mark there and see which one you like, but you might want to go with the side opposite from the hand you use. This is because most people tend to sling their pocketbooks/backpacks on that side, or use that hand more frequently, which brings a higher chance of a snag.
I've had sex before.. and I guess I wasn't so nervous about this issue because I was with my boyfriend for two years.. and comfortable around him...
but anyways, I'm single now.. and I'm about to hook up with a friend this weekend. I don't want to completely shave and seem like I haven't been through puberty because I hear shaving all the way freaks some guys out... but at the same time I don't want a lot of pubic hair..
I shaved a couple days ago, and I'm seeing him Thursday night, I mean.. I wanna make sure I have no stubble . . but I don't know how to exactly groom myself to make it look nice.. should I just let it grow in, shave my bikini line?
That way it's not too hairy.. but there's no stubble.
I don't know.. any advice would be appreciated.
Choices
1. Shave the area that would be seen if you were wearing a bikini. Go with the grain of the hair, from the leg in to avoid razor burn. Applying deoderant also helps with bumps. Trim all other hair to a neat length.
2. You can also keep the hair on the pubic bone, but shave the outer lips down below, but keep in mind that if you choose this method, you might have to keep it up because stubble can be painful to your partner.
I agree with you; I don't like the totally bald look, either. You say you have shaved recently, so run your hand over the area. If it is prickly, you might have to shave again if you plan on being intimate to avoid hurting your partner, but if it isn't prickly I think neatly trimmed is the way to go.
I am currently a first-year at a UC who is living in one of the newest dorms on campus. The facilities are nice, and there are four people to a bathroom/shower. The dorm is close to class, but my current gripe is that it is extremely isolating and anti-social; practically no one comes out of their rooms, the halls are extremely quiet, and no one tries to say hi to each other. My current roommate has isolated herself from the rest of the people in the hall; she has a boyfriend who also goes here, so she hasn't felt the need to go out and meet new people.
I actually moved at the beginning of the school year from a dorm that was 15 minutes off campus (this was because I originally wanted to be on campus) which had an extremely welcoming and social atmosphere. Although I didn't enjoy the long bike ride to class everyday, people there seemed friendlier and much more open; it was easy to strike up a conversation with a random student from another floor.
Needless to say, the change hasn't been as great as I thought; after the move to my current dorm (it happens to be the scholars dorm, which might explain quite a bit), I felt that I changed from being a sunny and outgoing person to an isolated, anti-social, and unhappy student. People at the current dorm stay in their rooms all day and never leave their doors open. The hall is extremely quiet 24/7; one of my friends from my previous dorm commented that it seemed almost "like a mental asylum."
I'd like to know if I should change dorms. I'd either go back to my old one and deal with the 15-minute bike ride or go to one of the other older dorms on campus. I've heard that every single one of the other dorms is extremely social; it's only my current dorm that seems to be unusually quiet and anti-social. The RA of my current dorm is never there, so it's difficult to actually go to him and ask for advice.
Basically, my only reason for staying in my current dorm is because of the nice facilities and close proximity to classes. I'm 100% sure that I would have a much better social experience if I switched dorms. My studies would not be impacted if I switched because I go to the library to study anyway.
I'm worried that I might seem like a flake if I switch dorms again after having switched to this current dorm at the beginning of the school year, but I honestly don't feel that the anti-social and isolating environment here is contributing to my freshman dorm experience in anyway. Frankly, it seems to be detracting greatly from it.
Any advice on this would be appreciated very much.
This is tricky because you don't want to appear as if your social life is more important than the academic. I wouldn't request a transfer to a new dorm, but there could be some sort of logical reason to go back to the old one. Maybe you can say you had a really great study partner in that dorm, or whatever. Just try to think up a logical reason that doesn't make you come off as a social butterfly. Tell them you have a job, or volunteer, or some other activity that puts you in the area of your first dorm at night time, and you don't want to have to travel back to your new dorm at night.
Hi, I'm a 24 year-old Female.
My question is about the use of Veet Rasera which is a hair removing gel and the razor that comes with it is bladeless, it's for hair removal. I was wondering is it ok to use it to shave the pubic hair "down there" in the private area? or is it not recommended to do so and what has your experiences been with it if you've tried this already? Any advice on how to use it to avoid any possible damage to the vagina?
Thank you.
I have never used any of the hair removal products on my vagina, but I know when I use shaving cream it really stings and makes it tender. I suppose if you are only using it on the torso area to clean up your bikini line it would be OK, but if you go between the legs you're asking for trouble.
Shaving with a razor is tricky and takes practice, but it is the safest way to go on such a delicate area.
Hey there. 16/f
So, I've been in a monogamous serious relationship for a little over 6 months, with my boyfriend. Our normal weekend is, I go to his house around 11 am every Saturday, and I get picked up in the afternoon on Sunday.
We are sexually active, and we have no problems keeping THAT aspect exciting.
But during the day all we really do is watch movies or play stratego.
I was wondering if anyone on here as some ideas as to what we can do when I go to his house.
We don't have money, like at all. And we can't exactly run around outside, bad area. Sometimes we hang out with friends, but since we don't go to school together he mostly just wants to hang out alone.
So any ideas or suggestions would be neat.
Thanks :)
The best place to start when looking for something to do is the newspaper. Usually, on a Friday or Saturday the paper will have a listing of all kinds of events to do throughout the upcoming week. A lot of times the events are free. Also, you can volunteer in something you both believe in, like an animal shelter or something.
Hello, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months but we live in different cities (guelph cambridge) we do however see each other 3 to 4 times a month. Lat night we had a date and it was... AMAZING. we talk every night on webcam but... Now after the date I am loving her more than ever and only being able to see her like 4 times a month well... its just TEARING ME APART!! I don't know what I'm asking for here i just want some advice on what to do we see each other as much as our scheduals can handle but its just not enough anymore so please pleeeeeeease help.
Thanks in advance! Bye
19/M
One of the main reasons you love her so much is because you don't get to see her all the time. The best part is--guess what--she's feeling exactly the same way! I know you feel as if you can't live this way for one more damn minute, but she is feeling exactly the same way. You two have been together for six months, and if you would have been able to see eachother more often you wouldn't feel as in love as you do now. After six months most couples have gotten past the honeymoon phase and are well on their way into taking eachother for granted. Because of the distance between you, your honeymoon phase is going to last a lot longer-believe me-you're really so lucky. Every time you get to see eachother you have a great time. You do fun things together because you actually bother to plan. She is dying to see you. She looks foward to every phone call, every shared moment. If you lived closer she would already be picking up on little things that bug her about you.
I know sometimes it feels a little like torture, but it is a good torture because you are lucky enough to be in love.
ok.... so im 19f in college and ive just recently found out that this guy in my roomies program likes me.
Im not sure how i feel about him, ive never given him and i much thought. Hes not realy attractive, but hes always been nice to me. He seems quite forward, and ive heard alot of him sleeping around. I dont just want to be another count for him.
Im not sure if i should get to know him more than i do to see how i feel...or... take it as the pig just trying to get some more.
I already know hes had a thing for both my roomates... he seems to "like" alot of girls. Yet he says hes just trying to find a relationship. I dont know what to believe and i dont want to get hurt.
what do i do?
It sounds like you are thinking about dating him for no other reason than just because he's there. If you were really into him there would have been some sort of chemistry by now. Plus, he doesn't seem to have any boundaries because he has already had a thing for both roomates.
Why don't you just sit back and see where this thing goes? If he really likes you he won't mind showing you by chasing you for a little while, and the harder he has to work to win you, the more he will appreciate you. I just have this feeling that you will end up getting hurt if you jump right into things because he will end up moving on to the next girl.
Don't rely totally on his reputation because those usually are all blown out of proportion, but I would definately beware. One day, your saying you don't think he's all that attractive, and the next, your mending a broken heart.
One more thing-he is obviously the kind of guy who likes to kiss and tell, so keep that in mind.
Also, if you do end up dating him both of your rommates are going to secretly think you have their sloppy seconds. They won't say it to your face, but they will think "I could have had him first." Is that what you really want?
Hey there, im 16f.
Do you ever wonder why we were put on earth, what is your purpose in life and things like that? Well, im starting to think im wasting my life away. I live in a small town and I just want to get out in the world. I wish I could pursue what I want, but I don't think I can until I get my licence. My life is the shits, i have a family that treats me bad they don't understand me and wont listen to try to understand,I have no friends here, and no one truly cares about me. I don't want to hear anyone say there is people who care because you would think the same thing if you knew the people here and were in my position. I have good grades, an outgoing personality, and I am a caring person. But no one sees that, they look beyond me. I really just want to leave here and do something with my life. Do you really think I can get my licence and then pursue my dreams on my own? Is seventeen a decent age to try things on my own, to get out while I can and be who I am meant to be? I want to be somebody. Nobody treats me like im anything.
How do you do in school? College is truly and honestly the best way to get out and pursue your dreams-and that's the truth. If you hate school, you will have to have a plan. Rent is going to be the constant struggle of your life. If you are good with children, setting up some sort of nanny job is the way to go. You would be amazed at how well you could fit in with the right family.
There are also other jobs that include housing. Why don't you apply for a summer job in Nantucket to get your feet wet? There are stores in the area that will provide housing.
i have never spoken to my father in my life.im almost twenty years old and i live in a third-world country that im am desperately tying to leave.i need my father to sign my birth certificate so that i can legally stay in ireland.he refuses to do so even though he says he will.i am very tired of waiting.what should i do ?
Here are your two options
1. Accept the fact that your father is not going to sign your birth certificate.
2. Do not accept it, and see what your legal rights are. Perhaps you have some standing to try to prove he is your father through a paternity test.
Im having issues with a celeb, well he isnt that popular, but still he's a favorite of mine and he's on a social networking site Im on and Im on his friends list. . Yeah. this is actually the real celeb. I asked for a signed pic of me an my friend and got it in days and answered our interview questions we had. So This issue is about deletion of comments. I mean, I am wondering why he deletes comments from me. Nothing I did offended him and it seems like he's only leaving comments up for people he knows and not fans. I know it's his profile., but I find it rude that he only leaves comments up for his friends/people he knows and ot fans and this hurts and upsets me. I seen other people he knows leave comments but no one else. Not even fans. They either get deleted or ignored. So an email was sent on my behalf. We worked out some of the issues but not all was fixed. So he says to feel free to comment in an email. He didn't say I couldn't. I go to comment on his trivia stuff and all because he says so. The minute I see it there the next day it's deleted. I mean, I dont understand what I did wrong I told him how it hurts my feelings and that it upsets me that he deletes me comments and deletes no one else's an i get ignored. Doesnt seem like he cards, etc. I feel discriminated and feel he doesn't want comments from me and just wants comments from friends. It stinks. I hate to lose respect for the guy. He says to comment and I did, but they got deleted without any reason. Also I tried an email again because he left an email to contact him, but that didn't do as I felt ignored Im doing a letter on this, a friend and I but not sure how that will do which I hope it does and also he ignores me if I ask him a question about stuff about him as well, so is there anything I can do?
well, first of all, he doesn't HAVE to leave on your comments just because you said so. But, I will tell you your strong point. He should leave up comments from his fans. Why do you like him? Is he a good person, who acts with integrity? What are the issues he believes in? How does he project himself? The best way to get him to leave up a comment from you is to think it out well. Consider everything from the picture to the words you say. Be earnest. Think about his personality, and why you think he's a good guy, and tell him so in a well thought out way. If he doesn't leave that comment up, forget about him.
Well to start one of my chorse are to do the landry. For a couple days now when I check in my sisters underwear if there dirty (she puts clean clothes in the landry basket cause she dosnt want to put her clothes away) and Ive noticed that there has been whitish clumpy stuff in her underwear. I have no idea what it is cause it never happend to me. Could some one please tell me what it is and if its bad or not? My sister is 11 if that helps.
Well, the good thing is, she is changing her underwear regularly. When I was a young girl, that happened to me, and I was really horrified for a while, until I talked about it with my friend, and realized it wasn't only me. As long as it is white, it's O.K. It is possible she has a yeast infection, but the body can heal itself. Consider the vagina as a self-cleaning organ, and consider the white stuff the soap.
So, I'm pretty weird. I don't really like going out in the daytime. But I want a day time job. So, what are some dim lit or dark stores? Like there was this one place that used to be at a mall near me, that had like all kinds of austrailian things. It was called Urban something. Oh, and the shoe store Journey's is pretty dark. But I'm not going to work at either of those. So what are some more? I'm 17/f if that helps.
Hot Topic, in the mall. Also, consider loud music as sort of "dim lit" atmosphere. Newbury Comics.
16/f
yeah..so idontknow if youve been seeing my posts, ive been posting a lot that are similar to eachother because i am kind of in a bad situation
right now about this entire thing..so this guy i kind of like [by the way, im pretty sure he is only using me to see what he can get out of me..he even said he wants to become better friends with benefits. he does not like me.] so he keeps on telling me that he wants me to moan when im giving him a handjob. and he wants me to moan so loud and "be a naughty girl and spit on it" first of all, i feel like im not gong to moan, this is because..i dont know..i just cant see myself doing that..sometimes when im home alone i moan so see what it would sound like..definitly fake and it makes me sound really stupid. i dont even know the right way to?! and i know he reaaally wants me to. he always mentions how he wants me to moan so loud. ugh. and then second of all, im not even sure about giving him a handjob, its so risky and stupid of me because he is a freshman im a sophmore, i met him at my friends house, he doesnt go to my school but he used to, and he is totally using me..but i still want to..but i know its a bad idea..but..ugh. and so he wants me to spit on his d*** during the handjob but uhm isnt that..awkward..and im kind of fearing that he'll push my head down onto it when im spitting on it..cause he keeps on bringing up the idea of blowjobs and then he says justkidding but i know he isnt. he keeps on asking and i keep saying idontthink so sorryy and he keeps saying, ugh come on please youll like it
like no..i wont..ill feel like a hoe.
ugh:[ and we havent talked since monday. listen ot this-
monday night we were talking and basically about what were gonna go at our friends house. and then he said he had to leave but then he said, can i get pics of your thong? and hes also asked me to send pictures of my chest but ive said no. and i told him, i dont think so sorryy. then he said okay be on again at 815, go online
so then he texts me and asks again for a pic and i say idontknoww dont get disapointed i just dont think its a good idea. then he said, ok but then im gonna be rough when he do the stuff :] and i said how rough and he said hard haha and i said okay haha and he said yeah and then i said, so what did you do today? and he never answered. and he DID get the text, i saw that he did. so i went online at 815..waited..and waited. he never showed. i texted him at 915 and said, so im on..haha and then he got it the next day and never responded. he was online about an hour ago for a half hour, im pretty sure he saw i was online too. and he didnt facebook IM me..why not...i dont know..ugh..im flipping out. did i do something?! i didnt even do anything! ill be SO SAD if he stops talking to me. and theres no reason to! im letting him do this stuff to me and im doing it to him so..why would he just not answer me or talk to me?! ugh. this whole situation drives me crazy. i just want to cry.
You are only setting yourself up for a heartbreak. You know this. So, why are you doing it? Every time you share yourself sexually under a bad circumstance, is going to be one more hurdle for you to have to overcome with the man who sweeps you off your feet. Right now, you may feel goofy, gangly, and out of sorts, but it usually the woman who felt this who end up the most beautiful in the long run. Do not allow yourself to treat yourself badly.