HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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my boyfriend , who i like very very much, tries to get me to sneek out alot. and i dont like getting into trouble very much with my dad because hes the kind of person who does not forget. but when i try to tell my boyfriend that i dont want to sneek out because i dont want to get into trouble, he gets angry at me and tells me that he would do anything for me and that i wont get caught... how do i tell him to not push me into getting in trouble. (link)
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Tell him that you would do anything for him but to understand and respect that you cant sneak out cuz youll get in trouble,tell him what hes doing only proves that hes being selfish and only cares about himself and not about what would happen if your father saw you.Go out with him some other time,plan it out with him.
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i have this project and i need to get 100 people to do this four question survey. me and my friends already got some people, but it will be very helpful if you answered these questions to increase the numbers.. seriously, this will take you like less than a minute to type!~ :]
1.Would you rather eat skittles or M&Ms?
2.What is your favorite kind of chocolate? White, Milk, or Dark?
3.Which would you like to have inside a chocolate bar? Nuts, caramel, or fudge?
4.What is your favorite flavor of starburst? Yellow, Orange, Pink, or Green?
thanks for answering! remember to choose one, and in your answer do something like the sample below:
1. skittles/m&ms
2. white/milk/dark
3. nuts/caramel/fudge
4. yellow/orange/pink/black
again, thankyou! (link)
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1-M&M'a
2-milk
3-fudge
4-orange
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i just made 1,000 dollars from my job and i wanna buy some new jeans. I'm a 35 inseam and a 25 waist..anyone know any good brands for me?? (link)
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juicy couture!!!definetly that brand is for you.Baby phat and rocawear can be good on you too.
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Why is it so impossible to be friends with your ex? For example, my friend is going through a tough time with it. Her ex bf wanted to dump her because she lied a few times and he swore that she never loved him. No matter how much she said she did, he swore she didn't. Okay then, I thought that was a bit weird. He totally blocked all of their communication and basically wanted her away from her for good. He was completely sensitive about the whole thing. He won't talk to her ever and they stopped talking for months now. She's still confused about it. What do you even say about that? He's acting really weird. Did he ever love her or was he the one lying? The way he acts makes it seem like he doesn't because he doesn't want a thing to do with her. But also, if he didn't love her, why would he try so hard to stay away from her and act that way? Thanks! (link)
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i think he truely does love her still.If he didnt he wouldnt try to keep away from her,hes trying to get over her so badly.He thinks that since she lied to him severqal times she wasnt loyaly and dedicated to their love so was lying when she said she loved him.
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I am 13/f, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months. My friends absolutly hate my boyfriend. I can see why though. He is always calling my friends names!! It gets on there nerves and even my nerves quite often! Its nothing bad like, fat, ugly, ect. but its like your stupid, your a loser, and, like blonde jokes. So far all of my friends told me i should break up with him. Isn't that crazy?!? Even some of them say that if i dont break up with him, then we wont be friends anymore. So they are asking me; me, or your boyfriend? I dont know. i really love my boyfriend, and love my friends. i sure am in a mess.
Thanks for all the comments/advice, it is well appreciated. (link)
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ok i think you should have a talk with your boyfreind about respecting your freinds here.If he doesnt listen to you and respect that then hes not willing to sacrifice small things for you then dump him hes not worth it cuz you asked him for a small favor like that and end he didnt listen.as for your freinds tell them that you talked to your boyfreind and hes gonna stop and if he dont your gonna break up with him becuase he doesnt respect you or your wishes.
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i dont know if im depressed but i saw this ( one advicenator put this in her/his answer stating it was 6 major signs of depression)
1-sudden change in eating habits
2-sudden change in weight
3-lack of motivation
4-dont care about self image
5-doesnt care about self anymore
6-doesnt care about others anymore
the problem is that i did gain weight a little, theres lack of motivation in my life but im not gonna comit sucide or anything, i dont care about my self image or the way i dress to school cause i believe im me and i dont need anyone else opinion on things
i have 5 out of 6 of those, am i depressed?
i do care about others(#6) (link)
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ok i think that something happened that made you sad and when you got sad you ate alot and then when you gained weight you got in this mood where you just dont give a fuck anymore to the poin that you probably dont even feel sad about it anymore.You are not depressed im positive,you lost motivation when youi gained weight thats all.You gotta lose weight again cuz seein that sexy gurl you were will make your spirits high again!
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I have 2 best friends and they both hate each other and i cant hang out with both of them at the same time without them fighting and they're both always telling me 2 ditch the other one but they're both are my best friends i don't know what i would do without both of them but im so frustrated that im about 2 end both friendships so please tell me what i should do(14/f) (link)
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talk to each one of your freinds alone,without the other one there.Tell them that you can hang out with the other if you want and not to tell you who to hang with or who to ditch cuz its your desicion who to hang out with and that you love them both.You cant make them hang out together by force just cuz you want them to.Hang out with them seperatley not all together.If they dont listen and still bitch about eachother and tell you not to hang out with the other then dont talk to them for a while and theyll come apologizing
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ok 1st off I'm 13/f..ok well i met this really amazing guy and i never felt this way about someone in my whole life..i think i may b in love w. him..and i don't want to hear "oh your too young to be in love." but the problem is that hes 17 and lives and hour and a half away from me. he doesn't know I'm only 13 either. in the time we got to know each other, he is starting to like me too. one time when we were talking he told me that age doesn't matter, as long as you love them its ok. here is some of the conversation:
me:it really sucks that we're this far away from each other.
him: yeah i no. but you know what doesn't suck? i got a really nice tan today.haha
me: haha
him: and plus I'm talking to this amazing girl who totally doesn't suck.
me: ouu and who might this be?
him: her names kelly ((my name))..do you know her?
me: yeah i might...and I'm talking to this amazing, cute, and sweet boy.
him: whats his name?
me: Joe ((his name))
him: he sounds pretty cool.
him: and how do you manage to always put a smile on my face?
me: i don't know. how to manage to put one on mine?
him: well..i asked you first.
me: i don't know your just amazing...its like i don't even have to try to impress you. i could just be myself and you'd like me anyway. thats what i love about you.
him: =) why do you even have to try? you've already impressed me.
how should i tell him I'm only 13? how do you think he'll take it?
sorry this was long =(
HELP ME !!
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omg why would ypu lie in the first place?NEVER lie about your age EVER when your talking to aguy.Cuz in the end if something happens and he finds out your lying hell leave you!!well,i think you should just.......tell him.You have no other choice if you continue to lie to him more then you already are is going to get even bigger cuz youre going to have loved him more then you already do and itll end up bad.Just tell him and whatever happens happens.YOu must learn to take the consenquences of your actions now.
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my best friend is middle eastren and she is muslim. she is really really cool and so open minded. she's nothing like how muslims are portrayed in the media. she goes out has fun but still respects her tradition and stuff and i respect that. recently she's been worried like crazy though. when i asked her she actually confided in me and told me whats the matter... i didn't know what to tell her so i was hoping you guys can help its very serious:
she fell in love with this muslim guy and they love each other soooo much and are planning to get married soon. in islam a girl has to be a virgin to get married and the "only solid proof" of that is if her hymen is still intact. she'as never had sex before so she IS a virgin. that we both know. however, she does masturbate... and she told me she looked it up and it is allowed in islam for her to do so if it meant not having sex before marriage. so far so good. the only problem is that she broke her hymen masturbating and culture/traditional wise no religion wise she will get in so much trouble for that. if she gets married and she doesn't bleed on her first night retributions will be bad (and i mean beyond european and north american bad... i ddnt even want to ask her about them)
now ignore all that. that was just background. my question is there anyway she can repair her hymen? or fake bleeding or something? can a gyno in the states or canada do it for her (she is there to finish college) is there anyyyyway possible to get her out of accusations she is inocent of?
please help she is really panicking... and she cant talk to her parents about it even if she showed them proof that religion does permit it.....it's her country's tradition..... (link)
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well since she cant tell her parents at all then take her to a gynecologist and tell him the problem and hell tell you where and how to get the surgery done and how much itll cost.Just calm her down more.And dont try to tell her to make up an excuse to her busband that she broke it in a certain way or eles he can go asking her family and thatll get her in deepshit!hope i helped
oh my god,i totally feel your freind because i myself am muslim.And by the way the way muslims are shown on tv is not the truth,the suicide bombing and stuff they do it because they have no other wepons or choice.The war lead them to this.Muslims are NOT terrorists at all if you watched 9/11 youd understand who was behind it,ANy way ill get to that later.Your freind either needs to TELL HER PARENTS or go have surgery to put in another hymen,these surgerys exist you no.If that muslim guy shes marrying finds out her hymen is broken trust me its all gonna be over.The guy will leave her because he will think she lost her virginity to a guy and muslim guys dont respect girls that arent virgins because they think if the gurl did it be4 she will do it again and who knows if shell cheat on me.I suggest your freind talks to her mother if theyre close and tells her so she can get surgery before its too late man.Or is shes not close with them then she can go with a trusted person and get that surgery done!But i really suggest she tells her mom so someone can be by her side and calm her down,i would be freakin the hell out man.Im tellin you again this is mad serious make sure she gets the surgery.Hope it goes well.
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okay well my parents are so annoying
especially my dad and everytime i try to ask him something or talk to him he always ends up yelling at me and when i want to say my opinion he doesnt let me and he just screams at me. and usually hes the one thats wrong and i just dont know what to do (link)
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Your mom might be more understanding then your dad.Tell your mom how you feel and how angry you get when you shut her down when you speak your mind,Even if your opinion is wrong,you should still speak it so they can tell you wether its wrong or right or eles how would you know?As for your dad,if you try to confront him and tell him how it bothers you when he shuts you down and he dont change then its his loss.Hes going to lose the love of his child.And just dont even bother to tell him anything anymore but im sure your mom would understand.
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Last year, one of my best friends, Diane, (we aren't friends anymore) told me that my other friend, Rachel, was just using a guy. She said Rachel told her that she just wanted to be popular and that she wanted him to buy her things, but she really didn't like him. Now the guy that she was going out with ... he was my best friend. So of course, I told him. Except he wouldn't believe me unless I said I was the one who heard her say it, so I just said that. They ended up breaking up. BUT, this year he was homeschooled and same for his sister, so I never got a chance to tell him what I found out. Diane had liked him and she apparently has some jealousy issues and she made all of that up. He possibly could be going to my school next year, so how do I fix this? I mean, he might just say, "Well, you shouldn't believe everything you hear," and get mad at me. What am I supossed to say to the guy? (link)
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dont bother telling him that diane likes him and made it all up.Guys hate girls that talk about people behind their backs and you do that alot and its going to get alot of people against you.And rachels your freind too,you shoulda went and confronted her insteada talk about her and get her to lose the guy she loved!Just drop it and let it go.Dont start drama again next year,whats past is past just forget about it and stop talking about people so you dont get in trouble.If someone tells you something keep it a secret especially if its your freind.What goes around comes around you wouldnt like that happening to you.
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My "friend" and I were freinds for a long time, but then all of a sudden she started acting all differant when we went to new schools. She doesnt talk to me and when she does, she is only there to accuse me of talking behind her back or accusing me of making fun of her, or accusing me of judging her, which i am not. She is always drinking and always smoking, and always wrapped up in her new friends. I dont want to be her friend, but i dont want to make things awkward between us...i mean the other day she accused me of talking smack about her on the bus, and asked me via. comment on myspace. but in the bitchiest way possible. I repeat, i dont want to be freinds with her, but i just want to make things between us not hateful and wishing the other were dead, sick, etc...whenever i pass her in the hall she glares at me evily. so please help (link)
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what definetly happened is that you were once talking to someone about this girl,but not badly,and that person went and told her and might have even exaggerated!If you definetly did not talk about her then go tell her that you have a life and wouldnt waste it talking about her.Someone definetly told her that youve been saying stuff about her wether or not you have
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ok, so today when i was stepping out of the sidewalk from my house, i was listening to mp3 and suddenly this guy pulls up his car, i get really frightened, then he asked me "do you want to get a ride?" and i politely said no, thank you, then he gets out of the car and starts walking towards me, and i didn't want him to ...he asks me my # and name and what school i go to, so i was really horrified at the time and i couldn't think straight so i gave out my actual number and thinking back, i have nooo idea WHY i did that, then he told me he'll call me soon and walked away...
i have a feeling that he's been watching me ever since i was getting out of the house and really creeped out, he might be some stalker, what should i do?!?! any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you! :) (link)
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next time a person does that to you and you start feeling uncomfortable tell him to back off and if dont scream and run.As for your situation,tell your parents and dont answer the phone.Let them do it.Or tell someone you trust.
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this summer.. i decided that i need to change ok first off my attitude is really bad.. at like school and at home with my parents like for example im always talking back.. and at school i always over react to things.. and also im really immature.. so i was wondering how do i change my attitude and become mature? like poeple think im immature because whenevr i talk i don't make sense and i tend to say things without thinking.. and i feel weird and thats why alot of people at my school don't like me... so how should i change all that? help please... (link)
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well im sorry to say if you dont change your attitude your gonna end up losing everyone.Your attitude with your parents has to change,im sure you dont give your freinds that attitude,why your parents?They dont desserve that after all theyve done to you right?Ok to change you have to WANT to change,to be sicka the way you are and change your whole life style.Start by making this list of all the things your going to change about yourself.You need to be more mature and do things yourself,come on your parents have to tell you to brush your own teeth when its YOUR hygen and your health thats at risk not theirs.To gain your moms trust BE HONEST.If you did something bad online show your mom that you wont do it again!The worst thingever is losing a moms trust.Hope you have the urge to change
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we are doing a performing where we need to be scary..and its hard..because we're doing a soundscape..and we need noise that our voice that are freaky..is there anything else that is scary except for whispers tha we can use (link)
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you gotta feel it!dont just act.Put yourself in that position of the act,like its REALLY happening.
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ok this goes here and some other places but i used to be this really happy cheerful little girl but then all of a sudden that changed and my life got turned upside down i mean i gained alot of weight i stopped caring abot myself and even some others but mainly myself and now i dont know what to do because i want to go back to the way i used to be but it seems like evry time i try to i just get pushed right back down i mean i want to lose alot of weight be more healthy and be happy again but i cant seem to get the motivation for it everytime i get pushed back down so how i am ever goona change HELP (link)
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ok what i think happened to you is that something happendd that got you sad so you started eating alot.And when you did you gained weight and everything got worse!Ok if you dont start losingf weight your gonna get thicker and thicker every year and no guy likes a overweight girl.And by the time your ready for marriage how big will you get?You must start now by trying to lose weight!!Do you know how to lose weight?if you need a diet plan i can help you in one.But mailny cutt off all junk COMPLETLY and exersice!!Imagine lookin in the mirror and finding the pretty girl you used to see!YOull get your spirits high again!
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kay so i like this guy and i am not sure that he like me back.and i have liked him for a year and a half. do i give up and move on or wait a little longer and see what will happen.pleezzee help!!!! he hasnt said that he likes me but he also hasnt said he doesnt (link)
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give up on him.He lost his chance man.A YEAR AND A HALF is long enough,stop thinking about someone thats not thinking about you in return..I beilive that theres NO proof of a guy liking you or signs unless he says it.Get over him and find a new guy man
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ok im 19 and i have been with my man for like, a year and a half. the guy hasn't had sex in almost 2 years and i am still a virgin. he knows and respects that. But recently he has become sexually frustrated b/c we live together and he says it feels like we are already married with out any of ther perks ... meaning sex. im scared and i want to sleep with him i really do, but im afraid of the pain. he told me there are only two options for this situation. 1: I allow him to go and strictly have sex with another woman, just to get rid of the frustration (but he said he doesnt want that cuz he knows it will hurt me) or 2: for me to get over my fear and go through with it.
well, it all boils down to im afraid of both options, and well, i don't face fears very well. what should i do? Any kind of advice is welcome please help me out. (link)
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ok look,your gonna get screwed one day so its now or never.If you reaaaly trust this guy and love him to death then go ahead man.Its now or never if you dont hes gonna cheat on you and wont even tell you he did!!!you dont want your WHOLE relationship to ruin because of your cowardice right??its not gonna kill you,you wont turn handicapped if you do it,itll just hurt a litlle for a while then its over!
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I feel really awkward when people ask me about my religion and stuff because i'm agnostic and don't think there is a way to prove if god is real or not. I really don't want to tell my friends that because most of them are really religious and i'm scared they wouldn't like me if I did. Why do people think it's such a big deal if you don't believe in god? I don't know if I should tell them or not. (link)
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its a big deal because god is the reason your here.If there was no god there would be no athests or agnostic ppl riiiite?!When you die it doesnt end it only just begins,God gave you the greatest gift ever,a BRAIN to think with and you should use it.
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I dont know which religion to go with. I dont like christianity because alot of the people around here are fake and they just pretend like they are really good. I know some of you arent going to like me for saying that, but whatever. I dont believe in god. I mean, I believe that there was a man named Jesus and he was a great guy and everything, he helped the poor, and all that. But I dont believe he was sent down from god and all that magical stuff. I just think that the best thing is to love one another and be nice and kind and tolerant. I dont believe in heaven or hell, they were both made up to scare people. And i dont understand why people say god is so forgiving, he will forgive you of your sins and whatever, but then everyone says that bad people are sent to hell. Why doesn't god forgive them?!?! So those I believe were just made up to scare people, "you wont get into heaven if you do this, youll go to hell if you do that." So basically does anyone know of a religion or faith? I just want one that is tolerant of all other religions and one that focuses more on the future than on the past. Supports the wellness of the world and its people and one thats not based all on money. Preferrably one thats liberal, democratic. Oh yeah I have already seen Buddhism and thought about that one... so anything other than that would be great!!! thank you so much, sorry its long
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ok if your going to be athesit think first.If there was no god there would be no athests rite?!ok imma tell you a lil bit about islam.Muslims beilive in God is the creator of the universe and he has no son or anyone to help him create the world.Prophet mohamed was gods messenger that came down to people with the holy quran the book that has all the beilifes of islam.Heaven and Hell are real and God is forgiving.He forgives people if the do bad things but sometimes people just keep doing that bad thing over and over again so god doesnt forgive them because they know what they did was wrong and still continue to do it.Islam is all about forgiving others,not lying,being honest,giving money to the poor,praying to god 5 times a day to thank him for all the blessings he gave us.Prophet mohamed went thru alot to male islam spread through the world.There was this story we had in the quran that said that when prophet mohamed would pray one of his enemys would come and throw garbage around him and the prophet would just continue praying and not curse at the guy or do anything,the guy would do this everyday till one day the guy didnt come.The prophet goes asking where he is and found outhe was sick.can you imagine that the prophet actually visitied the guy and asked him"i heard you were sick so i came to visit you and see if you need something,i noticed you didnt come and throw the garbage around me"The guy was in shock and cried and was like so this is the true meaning of islam and converted because of how amazing islam is.We beilive that there is a day of judgment where everyone gets judged for their actions.EVERY single thing you do gets written down by the angels.Do you think that some things that happen in life are actually forgotten and let go of?nope!like if someone as much as curses at another person,thats written down and youll be judged for it at the day of judgment.That is the day where everyone thats dead awakens to be judged by god and youll either go to hell or heaven.If you dont agree with this use your mind,what actually happens to people when they die?They wont actually stay that way forever,where do they go after?islam has all the answers to that.In our religion we beilive in all the prophets and respect all other religions.Muslim women wear a scarf around their head as a sign of modest and dont expose their bodies to men unless theyre married.Muslims are suppoesd to stay virgins till marriage because god wants no problems to happen,no diseases and no bad reputation among people.If you have any more questions ask me in my inbox,this is just an introduction
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