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Alright well, my friend C and K fake make ouut and kiss all the time. You know where you put your hand over there mouth and kiss it? Well, the other day C kept doing it to K. And put her legs all over her and was all into it. She kept touching K. K looked really uncomfortable. I'm thinking C is lezbo-curious or bi-curious whatever you want to call it. By the way she is only 12.!. What do you think?? I would love to hear your comments. I just think it's wrong 'cause she is only 12.
It's not really wrong at all. They are just curious& experimenting..everyone does it at some point in their lives. But if "K" is uncomfortable, she needs to tell "C" that she is. Other than that it's pretty much normal. Hope I helped!
I broke my wrist lyk 2 years ago and sometimes it totaly gives out on me is that normal?
-kla
Ps.I wear a brace to do tumbling.
and im 13 so i was 11 when i did it so ya!
It sounds like it's not 100% healed,& i honestly don't think it will be. It's prolly b/c of all the stress that's put on it whenever you do stunts or whatever it is you do. Yes it's pretty normal, that happens to alot of people when stress is put on it. Try not to put too much weight or pressure on it whenever you use it. Go get it checked out by a doctor as well to see if they can give you a better brace or something. Goodluck!
hey everyone ok im gay for starters and i have been made fun of my whole life for it and now people at work are starting too and i think im going to kill myself so please talk to me.:(
Whatever you do..DO NOT kill yourself!! That is definately NOT the answer! There is nothing wrong with being gay at all. There are people who may think that there are reasons to hate gay people, but there isn't. You seem like you're a REALLY great guy..just try& ignore it..I know a few gay people& that's what they do. I understand that it will be hard at times but there's not much else you CAN do. People can be such jerks these days, they need to get a life. As for you, just go on with yours. A nice, long happy one. Try really hard not to let those jerks get to you ok? Hope I helped..Goodluck hun! :/
if u no the truth...what types of girls do guys like, like personality, clothes etc. And is it true that guys like girls that r "easy"?
thnx i rate
Different guys like different types, it's always different for everyone. For some guys who don't give a crap about the personality& all, certain guys do like girls that are "easy". But I don't recommend those guys unless you're looking for one night stands. The type of guy that cares about the girl for who they are on the inside& not who they have sex with or how "easy" they are, those are the guys that don't care about how easy a girl is. Hope I helped!
ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...and he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..and i said "no" then he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl" and i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..and i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he wont listen to that...and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...and he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...im suppose to go to the movies see him later today w/ one of our best friends..who goes to my school..who used lived down the street from him...so can u help me? -thx in advance *i rate*
Well, you were giving him the right advice..to be himself. That's the best way. Have him drop a few hints to her that he likes her& then being a girl, she should get the idea. But he was very wrong about it being easier for us girls to ask a guy out& all..it's just as hard, if not harder. He should really just ask her how she feels about him. He asked you "how do I ask out a girl& not get turned down?" That's not the type of question he can just go& ask you b/c you're right..it's NOT something you can predict. He just needs to understand& realize that there's always going to be the chance of him getting turned down. It's life, shit happens. Hope I helped!
I have short legs which look even more stumpy with my fat calves . i know i can't do anything about the length of my legs , but how do i get my calves smaller ?i don't wear skirts anymore ,cuz it's embarassing .my thighs are fine , but my calves are really rounded and fat . not muscular . FAT > please help !
Well you can start by doing calf raises. You stand on your toes& slowly go up& down without letting your heels touch the ground. You can do about 20 of those, stop for a minute or so, and then do another set. I do those alot just b/c they're fun to me and they give great results! Hope I helped!
ok I like this one guy named Ben and he likes me also and weve been friends since the first day of school and Ive liked him since then well it slowly turned into love. And I still am in love with him. Sounds like nothings wrong right>> Problem I just got asked out by this guy named Ryan and I dont like him because most of my feelings are for Ben and Ben and Ryan are friends and Im going out with Ryan. Ryan is so much different from Ben. Ryan smokes pot, hes weird to hang around with, and im never happy around him
On the other hand Ben hes cute,funny, and Im happy when im around him, gives me hugs all the time!! And is such a sweetie. So this should be easy but its not!! I dumped Ryan yesterday (thursday) and got back together with him today OUT OF GUILT and then before 6th period I felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I was planning on telling Ryan that I dont want to be his girlfriend because I dont know him all that well and WHAT ELSE CAN I SAY O i dont want to go out with you because Im in love with your friend even though u say you love me Ok bye! what should I do and I would like guys to answer this but girls are fine TOO!1
please dont delete this I really really need help
LOVE Ash
You really need to talk to him, going back out with Ryan b/c of guilt prolly wasn't the best thing to do. Tell him you really don't know him all that well& you don't share mutual feelings with him. It is gunna be really hard though when he eventually finds out you like his friend.:/ But you really can't help how you feel, so he will have to get over it. Just talk to them both, Ben seems like you'd have more of a relationship with him. Goodluck!
hey its X Lissa X ..Okay ive felt like crap all day. you know that feeling you get in your stomach when you havent ate anything all day or your really really hungry? well ive had it all day, even now and ive ate stuff too but it still wont go away and it HURTS! idk what could be wrong. does anyone know? and how cani stop it cuz i wont be able to sleep.. thanks a lot.
Ouch! I get that alot sometimes& I still have NO idea what it is. To me it feels like someon is just squeezing my stomach from inside my body, it really sucks. Try talking to a doctor or your parents about it, or maybe take some Tums, that's what I usually do! Hope I helped!
this kid i like b4 i met him seemed like this reeally nice kid really umm perfect...he still seems that way he just swears alot...dont get me wrong im notlik goodie tooshoes...but i didnt think he would so im kinda shaky about everything else unless hes changing to sound tough to impress me..idk..? help please
Alot of people in this world cuss, it's not the end of the world. Try to get past that& talk to him& find out if he likes ya! Maybe that IS the reason he changed? Goodluck hun!
Hay.. i once when out with this guy Hayden.. we went out for 5 months...im only 13 years old.. yeah really young to have any thing SERIOUS* well.. one time we went swimming.. we went into the house... n he was touchin me n places i didnt want him to touch me.. rite b4 he left.. he fingered me.. n i didnt want this to happen.. im affraid he is going to tell everyone at school what happend.. cuz if this gets out, they mite think imma hoe.. n im not the kinda girl who wants to be n this situation.. also.. i broke up with Hayden because he was a sick perv... i found a much better boyfriend named Justin! He is so great! *not a perv* but he heard about this rumer... i didnt want to tell him what Hayden did to me cuz i didnt want him to think i wanted Hayden to do this to me or that im that kind of person.. should i tell Justin what happend? or should i keep it to myself... Also.. what should i do about Hayden? i told him the real reason i broke up with him is because i didnt like him any more... should i tell him the real reason or keep it to myself.. Hayden and me broke up July 7.... i need help! answer all my questions please!
That right there is sexual harassment. You really should tell an adult about that..I'm really glad you found someone better! But if Justin heard the rumor and you feel like you can trust him, then I think you should explain what happened& if he tries anything with you..don't let it happen..you don't need to be dealing with that at your age! Don't listen to the rude comments people might have to say about you b/c of that situation, they don't know what REALLY happened so they have no room to talk. You're NOT a hoe. I hope everything works out for you! let me know how it goes! Goodluck hun!
My friend amy has a boyfriend named Beau! They are what like 13 years old and 13 years old.. They havent been going out very long, but Beau wants to go n a shower with her n i dont want this to happen.. what should i do
Talk to your friend& tell her how you feel about it. I can understand why you're worried about her& all. Alot of guys are like that, it's just their hormones..but it can get serious, especially at that age, that's kinda young for stuff like that. Tell your friend that your worried& you don't think it's such a good idea. Goodluck!
Okay so I have this friend. Let's pretend her name is *Amber.* Every day at lunch when I'm about to sit down she sticks her head out of a classroom and is like "I LOVE YOU MORE(las)" and I'm all like "wtf? No she doesn't!" WHAT DO I DO?
*Short Shit #1
Dear Short Shit #1,
HAHA! How many fricken times do I have to tell you..I LOVE YOU MOSTEST! I honestly think you should stop arguing with *Amber*& just agree with her that she loves YOU more, because believe it or not..I think she does love you wayyy more than you could EVER possibly love her *LAS*..xoxo! MUCH LOOOVVVVEEE
HOPE I HELPED!
-Short Shit #2
ok people at my school make fun of me and call me fat cuz im a size 3 n not a 1 like them. this makes me upset cuz i dont think im fat n people liek make me cry cuz their so mean to me. what shud i do?
Stand up to them. If you can't do that then just ignore it. People always talk down on others to make themselves look& feel better..they have no life so they bring down others to feel important. You're NOT fat. You're perfect the way you are, don't let anyone make you think/believe otherwise. As long as YOU know you're not fat, you have nothing to worry about. Hope I helped!
I'M HAPPY BUT SAD.. the guy i really like has been trying to ask me out, but can never find me after school. He also likes my best friend. He's like "She's going out with ____? Maybe if i ask her out she'll dump him and go out with me." Right AFTER he was trying to find me to ask me out.. But yeah.. so today he was looking for me again, but I couldn't go meet him because my ride was coming and plus I didn't know if I should because he likes my best friend, too. I think I am just his second choice, but my best friend says that he likes me more... but he tried kissing her yesterday! She pulled away though because she has a boyfriend.
I'm going to see him tonight. I think he's going to ask me out, but I don't know what to do. He seems to like my bff more than me, but then again I barely see him.
Should I go out with him? I just don't know..
I think you should just let things happen the way they are meant to. Sorry to be the one to break the news to you, but I just don't want you& your best friend to get hurt from a guy. It sucks, but if youre closer to him as a best friend, let it be that way. Just see how him& your friend work out& then maybe give it a shot later on if you still like each other. Hope I helped!
wats the easiest way to get a six pack without goin to the gym...i can kinda get the top ones but not the bottom ones...and my love handles...
You can start out by doing 50 or so crunches a day& work it up slowly..like after you get used to that then go for 100 a day..that's what I do, and I'm gettin better results every week or so, as for your love handles, do sideways crunches or situps! Hope I helped, Goodluck!
Well me and this guy were "talking" or w/e. And we stopped i guess or i dunno. but the other day i told him i liked him and i asked him n what kinda way did he like me and he said "im not sure" and then i signed off. well what does this mean? and was it a mistake 2 tell him that i liked him?
No, you would have regretted it if you wouldn't have told him anyways. He means exactly what he said..he's not sure how he feels about you. I know how that goes as well, it's not very fun. But when he knows for sure how he feels towards you, I'm sure he'll tell you. Just be patient, Goodluck!
you probabaly know who this is cuz i like fighting alot... cough cough lol well n/e wayz i was just wondering... my gurlfriend cheated on me a while back and i am dating her now but n/e ways she cheated on me with on of my friends... i threated to whoop his butt... i think i should've .. but n/e wayz ... my gurlfriend is always hanging out with him and i know he likes her again1... should i whoop his butt or just let her go and start likeing him again and get cheated on AGAIN i dont want this to happen becuz i reall seriously love this gurl...ammer whut should i do...?
Yea, you're right I do know who this is. Well, that's good that you can forgive her for what has happened in the past..you're answer is..don't "whoop his butt" ..just keep a sharp eye out for things he might say or do! Trust her hun, if you really love her, then you need to be able to trust her! If she loves you like she says she does, she won't ever do something like that..*Always have faith*...that's your own saying c'mon hun, HAVE FAITH IN HER! Hope everything goes great! Goodluck! ;-)
Okay I asked the question about being 13/f and my breasts hurting size 38c. Well today i was noticing that my right breast kinda feels like it has lumps in it. I think I might have breast cancer. But I am confused. If I do I don't know how to ask my mom to take me to the doctor to find out or even tell her that I think I do.
DEFINATELY ASK HER! That's a big deal hun, just bring up the fact that they are hurting& then she should take it from there. It's possible they are just growing,though! Trust me I know ALL about this..but just to make sure talk to your mom for sure. Hopefully everything's okay! Goodluck!
Ok, so there is this guy that I think I'm in love with. I can't really say that I am in love because...I've never been in love before. Today at school, my band class was out on the football field going over the marching show we are going to do, and me and a bunch of other people were talking. Then all of a sudden my friend...let's say his name is Juan, says that I'm in love with the guy that I really, really like. So I go and get all embrassed, but the thing is that right after Juan said that, he (name is...Frank) said that he loved me. He said that he truly loved me. And the look on his face was extremely serious, but the sound of his voice was kinda a smart alec-y voice. I want to know what you think he ment. Was he just playing around, or was he being serious? If you can help at all, thanks in advance.
Signed-
Confused Heart
Confused heart-
Only YOU know when you're falling in love. To me he sounded like he was serious, but I'm not completely sure. Talk to him& ask him what his feelings towards you are, and then if he really does like you or "love" you back then you should maybe start dating. But believe me, you WILL know when you're falling in love. Sometimes guys talk in a way where the girls don't understand where they coming from or what they're getting at..ask him if he really& truly meant it when he said he loved you! Goodluck hun!
There's a girl in my Social Studies class who is really cool. [by that I don't mean "she's sooo popular I want to get to know her"; i mean she's just really cool...] I met her a month before school started when I started basketball. I'm the new girl too. Well, since she's in my class, that means I have an advantage and that I can talk to her. The thing is, she really intimidates me. I don't know why but I'm afraid that if I start talking to her she won't want to talk to me or anything, or she'll think i'm this huge loser. We have occasional small talk with each other but it doesn't really getr any farther than that. [Like, we talk about basketball for a second or I say her shoes are awesome..] I can't really talk to her about stuff like, erm, shopping or something because she's also a tomboy. I don't know WHY she intimidates me, but she does. I really want to get to know her and be a friend but I can't, because I'm not the best with socializing. [things like, We should go to the movies sometime or Hey, what's up and taking it from there never work for me. I can't ask them to the movies because I don't know her well enough to ask her that. And after what's up I'm just..black.] Please help.
Well start off by asking her what she's been up to& what she's interested in..I've been through the same thing& I know it's not that easy, but once you start talking about something, other things will come to mind& it will help start off the conversation. Ask her what other kinds of things she's into& whatever else you wanna know about her. Hope I helped!