Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Hi...just wantd an advice.i was gng out wid a boy for 3 yrs n i really loved him.in our 3rd yr i didnt hear abt him for abt 2 months.i tried contactng him bt he didnt reply to any of my calls.then one day he told me he had sme serious health probs n that he is fine now so we started gng out together.Now in jan 2007 we broke up again bt he still wants to meet me only to make love bcoz he has again some health prob.i told him no.he told me he wont b able to walk in sometime thats y he broke up wid me..he was quite serious wen tellng. i dnt kno whether to believe in him or not...i need advice :) thnx (link)
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Hey,
Well you never know, but if you cant trust him you should go out with him. If you think that he's just saying that to get you to sleep with him that don't. Yeah he may feel like he spared you by mot making you deal with his health problem, but who knows what it is and he could be contageous, if he wont tell you what it is then I wouldnt sleep with him. He sorta sounds like one of those guys that fades in and out and doesnt keep you posted on whats going on in their life, and is that someone you really want to be with? It's your choice, and we cant make if for you, but you have to decide.
If you want some more advice and want to go into detail a bit more I dont mind helpping, however, I must say, that this is one of the only occaisons where I will answer someones question that has so many spelling problems. You know how to spell, and you spell bcoz and gng? I don't understand how someone can ask for our help and yet not follow one of the main rules "Use proper grammer and spelling" if it was an accident I would totally forgive you for it, but you are just delibertly doing it, and I want to help you, but I can't stand that, so know that if you want more than three people to answer your questions, or you want valid advice from me, spell wid with.
I hope I gave you some advice, and I hope you took what I just said as advice as well, if you want to get somewhere in life, you'll have to grow out of that, and it'll just be easier if you start early. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Lots of love,
Angie91
P.s. I already answered this question but I came back because I felt bad for what I said, and I was going to change it, but you know what, if you want to give me a bad rating for it I dont care, because I tried hard to give you good advice, and I dont care about ratings I care about the people who ask the questions. If you want to take my advice it is there for you and you can choose to take it or not. I hope I didnt ofend you by anything I said, but I also hope that you learn a thing or two about how to respectfully ask for help. Good luck.
P.S.S
I don't know if you'll ever read this, and I wish I had some other way of telling you, but I would like to apologize for correcting you liek that. I didnt read Tina_duh's message and if I had I wouldnt have treated your message the way I had. I just do not like when people treat this site as a chat room to spell words wrong and stuff. I'm sorry for being so sturn and I hope that you don't leave this site liek you said you would, because really we arent all bad people and I shouldnt have put it that way. I'm sorry, and I hope you can forgive me and On behave of Tina_Duh as well. Good luck, and I hope you feel better.
Yours,
Angie91
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im freaking out. it's almost the end of the marking period, and i have a C in one of my classes. im retaking a test in that class so it will hopefully bring it up, but i also have 2 bs. i used to be such a good student and now i get distracted by the social stuff. how can i be more focused on my school work during the week? how can i imporve my work ethic? (link)
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Hey,
I actually just answered a question like this, except the person had problems being motivated, do you think that might be one of your problems? If it is, you can check out my column and it was just liek three or four questions down from this one.
If it's just a problem with organization I gotcha there too, but you think it has to do with social stuff. And I can understand that, but usually a school problem has to do with more than one thing. And I think it probably is socail & motivation. See if it were just social ie: "I don't have time for school work" then you would skip your socail life to study for your quiz, but instead your motivation is off. So check that out if you want.
(Also, I'm sorry, but I dont know what 2 bs is... hope thats not too important)
Retaking tests is a good start, it shows that you care about your mark.
So heres what we have to do, we have to get you set on some goals. I'd say about ten.
OH! 2 bs means 2 B's ahhhh I seee. class marks. Wow. I'm so out of it today lmao sorry.
kay back to the goals. well make them like bring up grade in science (thats just an example) but do other things like spend more time with little sister or clean room twice a week. Then beside each goal write three things that you can do to bring it up.
Then writ eout all of your courses and write which mark you got in the course (or a similar course if you changed since last year) last year, and if you were satisfied with it or if you want to strive for better than that. Then talk to your teachers and see if they have any ideas to bring your mark up, if its near the endof the marking period theres a chance you wont be able to do anything, but if there is anything they'll know.
AS far as social life, set your own limits. Say you need an hour (at least) for homework and you want to go to bed at 10 then you need to be home by 8:30. or opposite say you have to do all your homework after school and you cant leave until its done. Don't let yourself skip out on studying in order to hang out, and if you start doing it alot, ground yourself, and say that you cant go out on school nights any more. You have to be your own parent and kep a check on your homework, or ask your parents to do it, it'll be annoying, but if your heading out and they say, have you done your homework, and you fel you have to lie, then you will feel guilty and have to go home early to do it. If people say haha just fail the tst tell them that your parents will kill you if you get another c or tell them that if you fail this test you'll be grounded for a wekk or something.
That should help, but if you need more ideas, let me know, I hav a pretty good work ethic, but we all slip sometimes, so I know how you feel. Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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so basically this is wut happened gonna be breif.I had to be freinds with some girl because people felt bad for her and made me. Then she starts to lie and act weird and basically cause alot of problems in my relationship with a girl that i love, so i stop talking to her. After that she started spreading some lies about how we talked forever and did stuff, honestly i wuz never realy freinds with her but she liked me and all and i guess shes crazy. lastly after everything cleared itself up shes still going back at it and spreading lies...honestly i dunno what to do because i no the girl i love is losing trust in me and its just really annoying to be accused for somehting and especially by someone u love for something u never did...please i need advice on this problem (link)
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Hey,
What yourtrustyhelpline said was good, but tyou also need to talk to your girlfriend. Tell her that this is driving you insane and that you are trying to fix it, and that you love her, and you dont want to lose her. You need to make sure shes filled in on whatys going on. Then talk to the gilr, like mentioned, and tell her that this is not funny, so she shouldnt be laughing. It's not a very nice thing for her to do, and you dont understand why she cnat be mature and let you live you life. Tell her that you deserve to not be included in this, and you dont know why shes doing it, but you want her to stop. Tell her that you work hard to keep up your relationship with your girlfriend, and what is she going to get out of the two of you breaking up because of it? Tell her she'll just feel guilty and that you wouldnt date her because she ruined your relationship, but if shes willing to stop, you'd be willing to still be her friend, but thats all you'll ever be, and theres no point in trying to ruin that. Tell her you dont think highly of liars and that no one does. IF she wants to change her ways you're there.
That should help, let me know if it doesnt, I've had to deal with this before.
Good luck, you'll need it, love ya,
Angie91
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Does anyone know where I can buy some pretty camis in Canada that's less then 5 bucks maybe? (link)
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Hmm, thats tough because different parts of Canada are different.
I got one for I think it was about five bucks at Sears I think. But I cant remember how much it was exactly. It was actually sortof a fluke. You could tyr going to one of those more expensive stores liek Garage and stuff and find them for a little bt more expensive, but they have them at Sticthes for like 10$. It's hard to say because alot of stores change, but you can always go into different stores and ask them what price their camies are and what colours and sizes they come in and then go to another store and check it out there. Um, try smart set, bootlegger maybe, ohh Its tough I live in Winnipeg and it kinda sucks here, we dont have alot of stores like toronto has, so really it depends where you live. I hope I gave you an idea though good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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My crush likes my best friend
and she might like him back
i dont know..
i dont want to talk things out because where i live that doesnt work.
help? (link)
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Hey!
Well its difficult when you cant talk about it, but I understand, I think that you basically have two different paths you can take. You can be a potentially bad friend and make a move on him, or you can move on.
Both are difficult and neither are fun, but if you cantt alk it out then there isnt much else of a choice.
So lets say you make a move on him, I would suggest talking to your friend, but you already mentioned thats not an option, so instead what tyou have to do is just ask him out or whatever you want ot do to get him to go out with you, and hope he says yes. (IF you want some more tips with that I can help you, I just want to keep this simple). If he doesnt thats okay, you still should commend yourself for trying and taking a chance.
If he says no, then you can go straight to the other option. Well this option is moving on. Basically you just have to get over him, A few things that you can try are getting involved (joining a club) making new friends or trying to find another guy to concentrate on. I have a billion of those, so if you need some more, I can go more into detail.
This is a tough situation, and I can help you with it if you want. It sucks that you cant talk things out, but I understand, some places and people are just liek that.
I really hope I helpped, and this works out for you, I can help youmore if you want, lots of love,
Angie91
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I'm a sophomore in high school, and lately my grades have sort of been dragging, and I feel like I'm spread out pretty far, although I don't think that's the case.
All I want to know, is if it's normal to feel this way and if I'll ever get over it? I've just sort of lost my motivation. In 9th grade, I was rolling out a 3.6ish GPA no problem, but now I'm struggling along with a 2.7ish. I don't know if it's the material or what, I just feel like my brain has no interest in learning the difference between preterit and imperfect verbs in Spanish or other subjects. My only As are in PE and Photography.
Help please. (link)
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Hey,
Sophmore is like grade ten right? Yeah that makes sense, sorry, I'm from canada, anyways, I'm in grade ten too, and I have noticed the same thing. WE dont really have GPA and stuff at my school, but my grades hav been slipping a bit. It's the same thing that happens in the eighth or seventh grade depending on what grade your school goes up to. It's like that feeling that you dont care because this is not a defining year in your life, these marks arent going to effect you. My teacher called it grade eigth brain, and it happens in the spring of that yar, but I've noticed it lately too with some of my friends. So basically, you just have to work hard, even if you dont think that you're making any progress and try and bring up the grade a bit and then once you get through the year try and figure out why that happned to you and then not let it happen next year.
Do you like gym and photography? DO you find them interesting? Thats probably why you're doing well in them if you are. You have motivation, so you just need to create your own motivation. Say if you get a certain grade in science, then you can buy a new cd or whatever, but if you fail the next quiz then you have to stay home and spend an hour studying. You know? It's tough, but if you find something that works it may work for the rest of highschool. Hope I helpped, let me knowif you need more study and motivation ideas,
love ya,
angie91
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ok since my last few questions i finaly made up my mind about who i should ask out, but this girl shes realy quiet and the only times i could ak her is going to my home room or PE so my problem is how should i go up toher and ask her? (link)
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hey!
Well thats awesome taht you made up your mind, though I didnt read you other questions, so I dont really know your histroy, but thats okay.
Well theres two routes you could take, you could become her friend and start to talk to her a bit, and give her the hint that you like her and then ask her, or you can do something cute to get her attention.
for an example of the cute thing, Well in homeroom, you could ask her quicky to borrow her pen. Then write her a note and tape it to her pen then give it back and on it, you should write hey, was just thinking about maybe going out with you this weekend. What are your thoughts on the matter. And then draw a happy face on the bottom. Then let her give it back to you and see what she says.
Or you could go up to her and be like hey, ____ I have a secret for you, but you cant tell anyone okay? and then she'll nodd or say okay or something, then you can say: "I'm thinking about going out with this girl, shes about your height and has your hair colour and hey she has the same name as you what a coinsidence eh? What do you think you, I mean SHE might say if I asked her out? It'll be super obvious, but it'll be cute.
OR you can be bold and just ask her, which seems easier, but it's not as much fun for the girl lol. So you could be running in gym say, and then be like hey what are your plans for this weekend, and then she'll probably be like oh not much you? And then you can say oh well I was wondering if you wanted to GO out. Dont say hang k, say go because other wise theres this little chance that she'll be confused.
That shoul help you out a bit, if you want more cute ideas, I have a billion, but you can always choose the other path too, as long as you are straight forward then she should be able to say yes and you should be okay. Good luck, lots of love,
Angie91
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I'm a 17/f and when I was 14, I went out on a limb and asked my crush to homecoming. I think I scared him away because I was overconfident and he ended up not talking to me and avoiding me. Which is understandable I guess. Now, a few years later, we have a few classes together, we've been lab partners lately, and we're starting to be... idk... like school friends I guess? Now, I have a boyfriend and everything and I'm happy, but I wouldn't mind being friends with this guy. I can't help but wonder if he thinks I'm a weirdo or if he thinks I still like him. Whenever we're having a conversation, even about homework, I can't help but think that we're both thinking about how stupid I was a few years back. Any ideas for conversation starters to avoid awkward moments? (link)
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Hey,
Well you can talk like youre friends and just try to forget what you did when you were younger, but theres a good chance he still has that flicker of wonderment about whether or not you still like him.
See this same sort of thing happened to my friend. She use to liek this guy back in elementary school and she transfered schools (Not because of that lmao) and then she we all ended up going to the same high school and she sat between him and me in English and one day she was like hey, remember when I used to like you? and he was like HAHA yeah that was a long time ago eh? and she was like yeah I cant believe I used to like some of the guys I used to like, and she just played it really cool, careful to not insult him, but just to bring it up so he knew for sure she didnt like him anymore, but you dont want to make him think that you think likeing him was something stupid you did when you were a little kid. But you could bring up that you cant believe you had the courage to randomly ask crushes out to the dance and stuff, and you wish you were the same way now or something, thats kinda not the best example, but if you keep talking and building up your friendship and then casually throw that into the mix then you can reminis about all of those old times, and you can casually throw in how you liked some random guy and laugh about that or something. Just be casual and pretned you just remembered it.
As far as avoiding awkward moments in regular conversation, you can just bring up things that the teacher said that are stupid or funny, or switch the conversation back to a question you have about your homework, or try and find little things to bring up liek the movie you saw last weekend. And throw your bf's name into the mix sometime too, becuase that wil make it obvious that you are happy with him and dont like your old crush any more.
That should help with your problem, if its easier to just not bring up the old years then thats okay, but then you have to live with the thought that he may think that you stil like him, so isnt it better to just get it out in the open?
Its up to you, hope I helpped, love ya.
Angie91
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I know it's long but PLEASE help!
Okay so i'm always there for my friends. Even if they're against each other. My friend Sarah doesn't love her b/f anymore and he knows that she likes this other boy. [The boys hate each other] and i'm there for her because she is confused and doesn't know what to do. She is 13 turning 14 and he is 14 turning 15. They have been together for a year. On and off and on and off. But now she doesn't love him anymore. Drove him home tonight, told him not to do anything stupid and hes liek why what does it matter. I gave him my number and told him to call me later. I got home and he called me. I told him don't do anything stupid she still does care for him. And hes like no she doesnt shes gonna break up wtih me for him. I was like but if you do something stupid then she'll feel guilty and I care and I dont want to lose another friend. He doesnt think she cares. And I know that she was his life. And the bad thing out of all this.
I kinda like him, I feel terrible because I know he doesn't like me, maybe as a friend but I think thats all...
I'm trying to help them both. Its so crazy...
any help ? (link)
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Hey!
Well you're in a sticky situation, but it's okay. Honestly, it would have been better if you hadnt gotten involved, but A) sometimes that isnt a choice, and B) sometimes you can't help it (I'm totally guilty of that like 24/7 lol)
So what do you do? WEll I think you should talk to him and see what he really wants to do. Like is this going to hurt him bad or is it just going leave a dent. Depending on that you can give him some advice. He knows the enevitable, so he should step up and do it himself. IF she still wants to have a friendship or at least end it on good terms then he should break up with her now. Theres no point in staying with her, and it's your job to help him see that. Your friend will hopefully understand. If this is a super big deal, then you have to be there for him and give him some moving on techniques, and show him how to get over her. If you want some help with that let me know (I'm the queen of moving on tips).
Then for your feelings for him. Don't feel bad about having them, but you will have to keep them quiet for a little while. Just be calm and collected about it and be there for him. Eventually you can talk to him and tell him how you feel but for right now, just try to help him thrugh this. He wont be looking for another girlfriend at the moment, so theres no point in going out there and making things awkward right?
As far as your friend, well you need to talk to her, and even if she doesnt want to break up with him, one of them has to end it now, theres no point in them staying together and going through hurt again and again everytime they get together and break up again. They're young, they can find other people don't worry. You need to be there for both of them, and if you feel like they need to talk let them, but if they cross the line and start talking about the other person in your presence, tell them that you are uncomfortable, and that they should write their feelings down instead.
Other than that there isnt much you can do just yet. Keep your eyes open and watch how they are responding and then try to let them work it out as much as they can themselves with minimal infulence yourself. If you need anything else let me know!Hope I helpped, good luck, Love ya,
Angie91
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what happens when you eat too many vitamin tablets in one day? i just ate 3 and i wanna eat another becuause they taste so good! lol its the childrens ones.. its kinda like the flinstones tablets but they are kinda bigger. it says to only eat 1 daily though.. what could the side effects be? idk.. (link)
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Hmm, well I dont know what the side effects would be probably nothing, but I wouldnt suggest it. I knew a woman who took too many of some kind of thing and they build up in her immune system and she had to keep taking more and more because she was deficient. The safest bet would be to talk to a doctor, but that would probably be awkward. You could call the help line on the back of the bottle, or go to the site. Like I Said, theres probably nothing that would happen, but theres always a chance that you culd have a problem with your immune system like that and if its something as silly as taking too many vitamins wouldnt that suck? So I would take the high route and find out the possibilities, before taking too many. Worst case senario, you can only have one a day. Thats not too bad is it?
I hope I helped. Sorry I dont know more about multivitamins. Love ya,
Angie91
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Ok I like this guy lets just say his nme is Bob.
So i told BOB i like him then he sent his friends to talk to me
they were like sooo BOB has a thing for u and what would you say if he asked you out? i told them i would say yes. But that was the week of valentines day.he also told like all my friends he was gonna ask me out after Vday because he didnt wanna buy me a present!(GURRRRR)But about a week ago this girl asked him out HE SAID YES!
i really want to date this kid! but hes dating someone else! theres no way im going to get over him unless i like move skools wich isnt an option
What should i do????
HELP!!! i luuuuv BOB (link)
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Hey,
Well that sucks. But lets look at your options, you can think positively, and hope things wont work out between him and the girl or you can gt over him, which, btw is not impossible, I can help.
SO lets say you wait it out, wait a few weeks and then if it seems liek they are really getting along go to the next step, if things seem to be hitting the rocks, do some detective work and see what his friends are saying, who knows maybe he;s going to break up with her. BUT there is still the chance that he wont want to date you even if he did break up with her, (ouch eh?) well then move on to the next step.
Okay, well there are a million ways to get over a crush, though some of them are good and some of them are bad. I have a billion of them, and I have helpped other people get over 2 year long relationships, so I can help you with this. Just stick with me. K Well first involve yourself. Join a club volunteer get job. Anything to keep your mind off of him. Yeah thats classic and yeah you're probably busy as it is, but try and get something new, something achievment based, because that will let you to look as losing him as a good thing.
Hang with your friends. Hang out in places he wont be liek _____'s house or your house. IF someone brings him up, go to step three.
Step three, is a new guy. No you are ready for a new guy. You arent ready to date anyone, but what you have to do is develop(or build on an existing) crush on a guy. It doesnt matter who, just the guy next to you in science or the boy in your gym class. Yes this will be hard, but no one said it was easy. Just pick a random guy and involve yourself with him. Think about what his last name might be. Who is his older brother. Does he have a cat? Stupid little things, and try and find them out. This will help you to concentrate on someone else. Everytime someone brings up bob bring up the fact that theres a new guy you have your eye on, and make up a guy (not this one) and say things like his fave colour is red and he has blue eyes, and let them look for this imaginary guy for a little while. Mean while you can keep getting over Bob.
Keep a diary. This will help you with your feelings. If you think about how you are feeling and try to write it out on paper, it will help you to decide where you are emotionally, and afterward you can read it and see what torment this guy put you through.
Those are just four steps that you can take. But you have to take them all. No skipping number two or switching number four for something else. IF you stick with this, it will help you. If you have any problems, or this doesnt work, like i said, I have a billion of these. And even if you run me dry, I'll think of something else. I am the moving on tip queen. So its all good. I know this is tough, but if you try to stick with it, you will get over him, I promise. I hope I helped and I hope this works out okay. Lots oflove,
ANgie91
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Ok. So my boyfriend is one of them guys who will kick anyones ass and win. He likes to flaunt it to...and i know he can ive seen it. But the other day ago this one dude was pushing me around like i was a guy. And he pushed me in the wall (in front of my boyfriend) and my boyfriend didnt do shit. But its like if my boyfriend sees someone else in the hall way getting pushed around like that by a dude it seems like he'd say something. I was really pissed at him about it so you think i had a reason or i was just over reacting? Because being he's been my boyfriend for 6 months id expect him to stick up for me. (link)
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Well I cant tell you whose side I'm on, or anything, but you should talk to him, calmly about it and tell him that he's like you're protector, and when guys push you around you would like it if he saved tou from it. See what he says, and then you dont have to be mad at him anymore. He probably just didnt think about it. Yeah, you might have overacted abit, but I understand, I think I probably would have done the same, just try to talk to him calmly. He will probably just shrugg it off, or he might realize that he didnt d anything. IF you already got mad at him, which it looks like you did, appologize for over reacting first, and tell him, you love him, but you would like to see him stick up for you, just like he does everyone else. Try and get him talking abit.
I hope I helped a bit, thats a sticky situation, and you handled it okay, but you can make it all better if you go in calmly. Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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You know how people say if you have a positive attitude, good things will come your way or whatever? Well yeah it seems like whenever I'm in a good mood and I'm confident, I'm really happy and good things happen to me. But half the time, I'm in a really bad mood and bad things seem to happen to me. It's so annoying. I wish I could be in a good mood all the time instead being in a bad mood half the time. The littlest things put me in a bad mood, too. Like if I get a lot of homework in English class I'm pissed off for the whole day. Argggg. Is there anything I could do to, like, help me get out of a bad mood when I'm in one? I also get really mad at everyone when I'm in a bad mood too lol. Help? (link)
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Hey!
Well what youre basically asking is how to stop being pessimistic, and be optimistic instead. That is a hard question, but what you have to do is think of the positive side to everything, like you said a lot of english homework, well what would you be doing instead of english homework, sitting in front of the tv bored as hell? well now you have something to do. Thats a horrible example, but you see what I mean? You just have to take the negative and look for a better side to it. Think of other things, like that hilarious thing the guy beside you just said. Yeah ot doesnt make up for being upset about english homework, but if you try and put on a smile anyway then your mood will automatically change. Try and plan fun things to look forward to. So say when you wake up and youre like damn school today think hey well at least I'll see my crush in the hall or at least I can go to the movies afterward. Think of fun things that will be happening in class or fun days too look forward to, only three more days till Friday type thing. Get a phrase that suits you and put it in your head and repeat it everytime youre upset, like I'm a poliet positive person, who is smart and creative and doesnt have to worry about too much homework or getting up early, because she is too god for all that.
Think of things as a dull moment in your super exciting life and try and be peppy. If you dont have energy, peppyness brings out the energy. Put your hair up in pig tails and wear a bright coloured shirt. Try and have spirit when stuff is going on at school and instead of saying: "ugg I have way too much english homework tonight" when you're talking to your friends and instead say, " Tomorrows _______'s party I cant wait!" Even if you dont really care. When someone says:"I'm tried" or "this is so gay/retarded" whatever insult people use, instead say, what? this is fun you just have to be positive.
As you can see, this will switch your position, you'll go from being the person who brings people down to the person who helps people up. And try not to be sarcastic (though, I'm such a hypocrit when it comes tot hat one) and say things that keep your mind in a positive place rather than one thats sinking you down.
If you dont have stuff to look forward to, then join some clubs or volunteer, yeah its more work, but you can think hey I'm helping someone, or I'm having fun. Even if you dont think you're having fun, then you can still try right? It's pretty simple really, you just have to change how you see things. If that was too complicated let me know, and I'll give you some more ideas. I'm so peppy I'm sure I can think of something. Good luck, hope I helpped. Love ya,
Angie91
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I care about my boyfriend ALOT im love him soooo much. We have been together for 6 months. The problem is that he does stupid shit to piss me off ALL the time. We fight what it seems like everyday. When i get pissed at him i think that i could find someone who treats me so much better but then i think i love him so much. What should i do? Because i dont want to loose him but he doesnt listen. And its like hes using it to his advantage that i wont break up with him. (link)
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Hey,
kay, well this is a difficult situation. You have to decide what love it worth and thats extremely hard. But you're right. there is someone out there who will treat you better. Whether you find it in the next 20 boyfriends or not is the key. Heres what you have to think about. Are you going to marry him? Likely no, sop why waste time being treated badly?
On the oposite side, couples fight, it's there way of figureing things out and learning really. SO if it's little things hes doing that pis you off, then think about what those things are and if they are a big deal. IS he hurting you or just making you feel bad. Is he doing something that really is a big deal or is it just a simple little thing that bugs you. Does he treat you like crap? Well I think you can tell the difference between these things, but you just have to think about it and figure out make your decision. I wish it was easier, but it's not, so you just have to think about it. Take all of that into concideration, and talk to him about it. If he messes up again, then tell him its over, and then its over, dont go back to him, because then he'll think you arent serious about it. Stick up for what you believe in and dont take any crap, but out line the rules, and if he tries to follow them, then give him credit for that. Good luck, and I hope I helped. Love ya,
Angie91
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a few months ago i lost my viginity to this guy who i met from a friends friends' brother. A lot of things happened and we all just stopped talking to eachother but i'm still not over them. yea i was kinda passed around but i still have feelongs for them and the other day i saw them again and i couldn't take it so i looked away but it killed me inside that we didn't say one word to eachother.
i know i still care for them and i know i need to get over them but i don't know how. i mean i don't under stand it. they hurt me so much, they lied, cheated and just let me fall to save them selves, but they have some kind of hold on me and i don't know what to do i mean what can i do.
after me and him were over i was asked out a lot but i couldn't say yes to any of them because they got in the way and made me rethink you know?
what do i do and how?
thanks a million!! (link)
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Hey!
Thats totally natural, don't feel bad about it because thats how you're supposed to feel. Yeah break ups are portrayed as something that people get over in a week or twoo, maybe three episodes of a show, and they're onto the next guy, but in life thats not how it is. And this was particularly different because this was a special guy, you did something with him, you havent done before, and thats what makes it different.
SO how do you get over him? Well there are lots of different ways to do this, and btw I wouldnt date for a while anyway, so dont worry about it.
K well there are the obvious things to do to get them off your mind like joining a club or a team, but what it seems to me is that there is something deeper there. Something that is scaring you away from moving on. It doesnt seem like you feel like its a mistake that you had sex for the first time, at a young age, but if it is, I have an answer, you can go to a church and get a purity ring, and they basically can do a ceremony to make you a virgin again in the eyes of god anyway. That might help, but if you just plan on doing it with the next guy, then its a waste of time.
But you seem to have anxieties when it comes to new guys, so we have to get over that. You need to build up trust with men again, because not all men will do that, so build up friendships rather than relationships with guys and once you learn to trust guys again, then try and date again. Sometimes getting over a guy takes a long time, so if in a couple of months you still arent over them, thats okay, but if you want some more tips let me know. I am the queen of moving on tips, so I'm sur eI have something that will help you out!
Hope I helped some, Lots of love,
Angie91
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hey, i'm back again. i asked you a couple questions earlier about my crush ;; how we were taking this dancing class and he asked me to be his partner and stuff, do you remember?
okay, well. he and i are okay friends now. he says hi to me in the halls at school and smiles at me a lot. i catch him staring at me sometimes too. he flirts with other girls in front of me sometimes, but idk if he's trying to make me jealous or not, because sometimes i talk to other guys in front of him?
well, i've had a couple friends of mine ask him who he likes, and he's told every single one of them that he doesn't like anyone. the thing is, i have a feeling he likes this one girl, we'll call her zoey. he liked zoey earlier this year, but she was going out with this other boy at the time. well zoey and the other boy have broken up now, and my crush is commenting her myspace and talking to her a lot again, which is kinda upsetting, you know? i mean, i've liked this guy for a while and i'm pretty sure he knows i like him, too, because one of my friends sort of hinted at it when she asked him if he liked this slut that goes to my school, let's call her marie.
the conversation went something like,
my friend - "do you like marie?"
crush - "no, she's tight and all, but i don't like her"
friend - "oh, good"
crush - "why?"
friend - "i'm just looking out for some of my friends, like *my name*"
so, i'm pretty sure he knows i like him. i guess my question to you is :
what should be my next move with him?
am i wasting my time, since he might like zoey?
how should i let him know i want to go out with him?
sorry this is so long, and thank you for your amazing advice, it really means a lot to me. (link)
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Hey!
Yeah I totally remember that, mostly because the same thing happened to me. Well I'm glad you're back, but it sucks nothing has happened since last time.
Okay, well first thing you said was you thought he flirts with other girls to make you jealous. Well thats definitely a possibility. But more likely than not he is just flirting with them because you flirt with other guys. Like, he's not really thinking about it too much. As far as I know, with most guys, flirting isnt a complicated thing to them. They just flirt to flirt you know? But he could be killing to birds with one stone.
K, then you talked about how you got your friends to ask him who he likes, now that works well at times. But unless they are really tight with him, then he isnt going to just announce that he likes you because they are just going to report it back to you. Then that leads to possible embarrassment. See guys are smarter than we give them credit for, but they often take the easy way out so that they dont have to come off as smart. At least most do. :P. Also, if your crush's friend came up and said hey, who do you like? Would you automatically say his name? You might and thats cool,but most people dont make their crushes publically known, so its not uncommon for him to say "I dont like anyone" lots of girls do that too. (Ie me lmao). And I guess theres that tiny possibility that he doesnt like anyone. But thats probably not the case.
Kay, well there are two possibilities of things that could be happening now. Theres the chance that he likes you, but doesnt want to make the first move, and theres the chance that he isnt interested.
Now depending on the type of guy that he is, there are two different things that you can do. You can make an obvious move and flirt with him and hope that he sees it as your last attempt to get him to notice you, or you can take a real step. Taking a real step eliminates the chance of him not wanting to make the first move, and that leaves you with the only other one that he isnt interested.
So to answer your other question, you arent wasting your time. Just because he's flirting with Zoey or whatever, you still have that one try left. You can try and get his attention, but if that doesnt work, then move on because then yeah you're wasting your time.
K so what do you do? Well you can try the less obvious approach (aka flirting,) but take it to the next level. Hmm.. You have to say something that is obvious flirting, but makes your point, because if you just continue what youre doing now, well it wont work right? So talk to your friends abit and ask them what kinds of things you can say that are obvious and hot. I really cant think of an example sorry, but basically just flirting. Don't worry about sounding like a slut, just make it obvious. Like too obvious, a dog could figure it out obvious. It doesnt make you sound desperate dont worry, just show him thats what you want if he wants it to let you know kind of thing, but if you arent prepared to do that type of thing, no worries, you can do the other one. This one is more going out and telling him. So far your friends have done a bit of the dirty work for you, which is nice, but its your turn. Now it's awkward to go up to a guy and tell him you like him, but thats all you have left. So which is more awkward saying, "Hey I like you wanna go out sometime" (I know easier than it sounds) or flirting with him insanely. So pick one of the two and go for it. But really if you chose the second one, dont make it sound like you're desperate for a guy, just say it calmly and casually, and smile and pretend you totally arent nervous at all, have a date and time and place in your mind, and a back up too. (for your back up pick something different say 1 was dinner and a movie, then 2 should be a little different, but not durastic, like a movie and hanging out with friends) then ask him and see what he says, if he says well... then dont jump to conclusions, and dont feel down try to make it easy for him to say no if thats what he wants but not too easy. Like say well I was just trying to plan my friday night, and I was wondering if you'd like to go to a movie with me. Then go by his answer, if it sounds likehes not interested dont bring up the back up but if he sounds enthused but busy, then try it. If he has two excuses hes not interested.
Never give up on a guy because he's interested in another girl, you never know whats going through his mind unless you ask. And never worry about long questions, I dont mind at all. I hope this works out for you, and let me know if you need any more help. I'm glad my advice means so much to you! :D. Good luck, and I really hope I helped. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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ok i really like this one guy i mean i really like him i went out with another guy but then broke up with him when i realized i still liked this other guy so what do ido to get this other guy who is scared of commitment and also he likes me and i kissed him when i went to a dance with him a few weeks ago.please help (link)
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Hey,
okay, I'm alittle confused, for further reference, i would have been easier if you'd given the guys nams or numbers or letters or something. But thats okay. so theres two guys and one you dated and broke up with and want to get back together with, and the other one is just there and broke up with now to get the other one. k, so you want to get back together with one of the two, I think the first one, but you can't because he has commitment problems. Okay, well first thing, commitment problems means either they just wanna be friends or they wanna be friends with benifits. Either way ew. Don't get into it.
WEll there are two paths here. Theres the one where you attempt to get him to commit to you, or the one where you quit and move on.
K so path one, well first things first talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. He'll tell you either that he doesnt want a girlfriend right now (move to path b) or that he wants a girlfriend and you are the one he wants. then theres no more problems right.
K path b, well it's time to move on. I dont think you shoudl go back to the guy you ditched (one of the above.) I think maybe you should move onto another guy. Seeing as that wasnt your question I wont bore you with move on tips. But I am the queen of move on tips, so if you choose path b then let me know.
As far as getting guys who have commitment problems thats hard, but from what i can tell you already went out with him, so why did you break up with him before? Commitment problems? Maybe you shouldn't get back into it. But if it wasnt that big of a deal, then talk to him about it. Tell him you really want to be with him. And see what he says. I think that if you talk to him, then you should know where to go from there. If not let me know tho!
Lots of love, and I hope I helpped.
Angie91
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okay i like this boy jeremy one day in class i decided 2 tell his friend timothy that i liked him so timothy told Z and the next day was like timothy told me u like jeremy and i was like sooooo and then i said what did you tell jeremy and he was like i told him that you liked him and i said why did you do that and he said he likes you i was like no he doesnt so z said i swear to god he said that and i was like you still lying because he told me he doesent want a girlfriend right now when i asked him did he like this other girl then z said he lying because he be telling me and hakim to hook him up with girls and i said other girls ?like who?and he saisd none of your business !!! but do u want to go with him and i did not respond (link)
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Hey!
Well this is a toughy, you want to convey your answer and say yes, but you're afraid. We all get afair in this position, because we are putting ourselves out there. But in order to get a guy you have to put yourself out there soemtimes. So this is the time. Tomorrow tell Z that you thought about his propostion, and you have given it a great deal of thought, and you think that if the situation arose, you'd go out with him. Then walk away. Do it then. No questions can be asked that way. Like go to the washroom or something. Then He can go gossip to timothy or jeremy or whoever.
Now if for some reason all this stuff is confusing and jeremy has a girl he wants to ask out or whatever, then maybe you should try to move on, because that means the gusy are playing you, and you dont really want to be caught in the middle of that. So if it works out thats awesome, but if it doesnt, then ditch early. dont hang on and get hurt. But hopefully that wont happen.:D
So I hope I answered your question, but oh! You wanted to know whether or not to date him.. oh well thats up to you. If you liek the guy, and you think he's nice then do it. LIke only you can make that decision. I hope I answered your question anyway though. Good luck, love ya,
Angie91
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any suggestions as to how i can get over a guy???
i have/had a big crush on my friend but he basically regected me so im trying to get over it. how mite i do that exactly. i keep saying to myself: i dont like him. and if anyone asks then i'll say i dont. but i still do a lil. and imagine if wen i get over him, he decides to like me?
thanx ppl
SAM (link)
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Hey Sam!
Wow well you've got a "move on" expert here! I totally get where you are right now, I've been there before. Don't you hate how people keep asking, and usually they just dont believe you eh? And you're like I DON"T LIKE HIM!!! but then its all a lie eh?.
Okay well first thing, you are getting a good mind set, thats awesome its a great start. So heres how to follow up on it. First thing pick a hot celebrity. Hmm who would I pick? I dunno, but just pick one, and when ever anyone is like do you like him? be like no, actually I've moved on. And then describe this amazing guy. Let them try and figure out who it is. It'll be quite hilarious once they realize that he doesnt go to your school and lives in los angeles or whatever.
Then pick a new dude. A guy who actually goes to your school. And don't tell anyone you like him. I know you think they're my friends if I cant tell them, who can I tell? But they'll keep asking and turn this one into an epic drama again. K so with this guy, he's not nessicarily mr rught. You probably wont ever go out with him, he's just the hotty in math class you like to stare at and everytime you start to think about your friend, think about this guy in math (or whatever subject lol)
I hate to crush your dreams sweetie, but chances of him likeing you after you quit liking him are very slim, and see you thinking that is one of those things that we don't want you doing, we want you to start working on other guys. If you have that longated wish that one day he may sweep you off your feet, then you'll never move on (think of that. EWWW! Never move on?!?). And we want the opposite right?
K so how else can you move on? Well you can try write down everything about him that drives you crazy. Like his hair is disgusting or an even better one he rejected me. jerk.
Everyones always like k crushes are way easier to get over than actually breaking up with someone, but sometimes its the opposite, becase there are so few ways to get over a crush other than those ones mentioned above, but liek I said, I'm the queen of moving on tips. So try those, but let me know if you need some more. Good luck, and I hope you get over this, we've all been there before. At least I hope we all have, because I've been there a few times. lol. Lot of love,
Angie91
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Okay so i herd that walking is better then running for loosing weight. So if you take a walk for 30 minutes everyday and then do 10 sit ups 5 crunches and 100 that excercise thing for your abs... and eat heathy can you loos weight or do i have to exercise more or less eat less or more?
my eating
Breakfast - nothing (most of the time) sometimes cereal)
Lunch- Apples&sandwich
Dinner-Rice or somethingelse.. a dinner meal (all sorts of things)
Is that okay and plus my excersising? or should i excersise and eat less please help?
Thanks,
15/f (link)
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Hey!
Okay, well I'm not sure if walking is beter, but it's easier, and its more likely than you'll do it. So if you're like hmm, run or not run? And you choose not run because well lets facing running really isnt any fun. Then choose walking.
K heres the thing. Awesome excersize regiment, but its alittle off. You choose 10 sit ups because they're hard right? Well thats okay, but what you should do is go do your excersize of situps, but go until you cannot go anymore. You'll be surprised. You can do way more than ten probably. But if not, thats fine. Say you do twenty. Then tomorrow when you do your excersize do twenty again. Then the next day do 21. And increase it by one every two days. This will help. As far as crunches, do the same thing, go until you cant, then add every second day. But one warning, don't lock your feet under a table or couch or anything, it wont do anything helpful. it'll just make your legs work, and not your stomache.
I have no idea what the other thing you're talking about is. But if you can do 100 great. If you cant go until you can and do the adding one every second day thing.
K now onto the eating thing, first of all don't skip breakfast. Never ever skip a meal. We have three meals a day for a reason. So eata healthy breakfast, juice or milk, a peice of toast with a LIGHT layer of butter, and a fruit. But nothing much more than that. Or cereal substituted for toast. Now lunch, thats pretty good. Sandwichs are common, but unless the;re on whole wheat bread or with like lettuce and maybe a slice of meat they arent really doing anygood. In other words peanut butter sandwich on white bread. No. instead try making a salad. But I get it that doesnt always happen, so sandwichs arent bad. A fruit is good. Apples are always good. Other fruits are great though too if you get tired of apples. The get a veggie k? You're not getting enough vegetables and fruits. So Get some sugar peas or some celery. (The green the vegetable the better) and celerey actually burns calories. Drink some water with lunch. And if you find that half way through the day you're hungry pack up a baggy of cereal and try and eat that in break or during cla if your aloud. If you get ceerios thats a good one or some other ones try and get one that says on the side of the box less that 100 calories dry.
For dinner, when you're a teenager, thats hard because usually our parents make dinner, but try this, instead of thinking, hey those ______'s are way high in calories, I shouldnt eat them, think okay, those are alittle bit fatty, so maybe I should take only one scoop of those, and instead take two scoops of salad. Try and get your parents to make salad every night. But if they dont want to, make yourself a small one each night. Most people don't get enough vegetables. So if you try and get more then thats great. USe a table spoon of salad dressing and thats plenty. But dont only eat salad! Eat some other things as well. Meat, rice, thats great. Make sure to keep up the balanced meals.
Now I mentioned earlier about water, drink lots of it. Not only is it a good calorie-less substitue for high sugar drinks, but it also flushes your system and gets out the bad things.
I try to drink one full bottle before lunch and a second one by dinner. Dont drink anymore after that though, or you'll be up al night.
Also try to get 8-10 hours of sleep each night. You burn more calories asleep then you do playing some sports. Believe it!
Other than that, I think you'll be fine. You should loose a bit of weight. If not, try talking to a nutritionist. Try and opt for gym class in school if you have a choice, and try and join a team of some kind.
I hope that answered your question, let me know if you have anymore. Love ya,
angie91
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