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Old Crush Issues
I'm a 17/f and when I was 14, I went out on a limb and asked my crush to homecoming. I think I scared him away because I was overconfident and he ended up not talking to me and avoiding me. Which is understandable I guess. Now, a few years later, we have a few classes together, we've been lab partners lately, and we're starting to be... idk... like school friends I guess? Now, I have a boyfriend and everything and I'm happy, but I wouldn't mind being friends with this guy. I can't help but wonder if he thinks I'm a weirdo or if he thinks I still like him. Whenever we're having a conversation, even about homework, I can't help but think that we're both thinking about how stupid I was a few years back. Any ideas for conversation starters to avoid awkward moments?
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Hey,
Well you can talk like youre friends and just try to forget what you did when you were younger, but theres a good chance he still has that flicker of wonderment about whether or not you still like him.
See this same sort of thing happened to my friend. She use to liek this guy back in elementary school and she transfered schools (Not because of that lmao) and then she we all ended up going to the same high school and she sat between him and me in English and one day she was like hey, remember when I used to like you? and he was like HAHA yeah that was a long time ago eh? and she was like yeah I cant believe I used to like some of the guys I used to like, and she just played it really cool, careful to not insult him, but just to bring it up so he knew for sure she didnt like him anymore, but you dont want to make him think that you think likeing him was something stupid you did when you were a little kid. But you could bring up that you cant believe you had the courage to randomly ask crushes out to the dance and stuff, and you wish you were the same way now or something, thats kinda not the best example, but if you keep talking and building up your friendship and then casually throw that into the mix then you can reminis about all of those old times, and you can casually throw in how you liked some random guy and laugh about that or something. Just be casual and pretned you just remembered it.
As far as avoiding awkward moments in regular conversation, you can just bring up things that the teacher said that are stupid or funny, or switch the conversation back to a question you have about your homework, or try and find little things to bring up liek the movie you saw last weekend. And throw your bf's name into the mix sometime too, becuase that wil make it obvious that you are happy with him and dont like your old crush any more.
That should help with your problem, if its easier to just not bring up the old years then thats okay, but then you have to live with the thought that he may think that you stil like him, so isnt it better to just get it out in the open?
Its up to you, hope I helpped, love ya.
Angie91
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The same thing happened to me a while back. I actually don't even talk to the guy anymore, kinda avoid each other like you said.
But I guess you could talk about things you have in common. Mention your boyfriend and subtly that way he gets the hint that you have no feelings for him anymore. Maybe that'll relieve some of the "Does she still like me" akwardness.
-Katie
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