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i don't know if he likes me
hey, i'm back again. i asked you a couple questions earlier about my crush ;; how we were taking this dancing class and he asked me to be his partner and stuff, do you remember?
okay, well. he and i are okay friends now. he says hi to me in the halls at school and smiles at me a lot. i catch him staring at me sometimes too. he flirts with other girls in front of me sometimes, but idk if he's trying to make me jealous or not, because sometimes i talk to other guys in front of him?
well, i've had a couple friends of mine ask him who he likes, and he's told every single one of them that he doesn't like anyone. the thing is, i have a feeling he likes this one girl, we'll call her zoey. he liked zoey earlier this year, but she was going out with this other boy at the time. well zoey and the other boy have broken up now, and my crush is commenting her myspace and talking to her a lot again, which is kinda upsetting, you know? i mean, i've liked this guy for a while and i'm pretty sure he knows i like him, too, because one of my friends sort of hinted at it when she asked him if he liked this slut that goes to my school, let's call her marie.
the conversation went something like,
my friend - "do you like marie?"
crush - "no, she's tight and all, but i don't like her"
friend - "oh, good"
crush - "why?"
friend - "i'm just looking out for some of my friends, like *my name*"
so, i'm pretty sure he knows i like him. i guess my question to you is :
what should be my next move with him?
am i wasting my time, since he might like zoey?
how should i let him know i want to go out with him?
sorry this is so long, and thank you for your amazing advice, it really means a lot to me.
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Hey!
Yeah I totally remember that, mostly because the same thing happened to me. Well I'm glad you're back, but it sucks nothing has happened since last time.
Okay, well first thing you said was you thought he flirts with other girls to make you jealous. Well thats definitely a possibility. But more likely than not he is just flirting with them because you flirt with other guys. Like, he's not really thinking about it too much. As far as I know, with most guys, flirting isnt a complicated thing to them. They just flirt to flirt you know? But he could be killing to birds with one stone.
K, then you talked about how you got your friends to ask him who he likes, now that works well at times. But unless they are really tight with him, then he isnt going to just announce that he likes you because they are just going to report it back to you. Then that leads to possible embarrassment. See guys are smarter than we give them credit for, but they often take the easy way out so that they dont have to come off as smart. At least most do. :P. Also, if your crush's friend came up and said hey, who do you like? Would you automatically say his name? You might and thats cool,but most people dont make their crushes publically known, so its not uncommon for him to say "I dont like anyone" lots of girls do that too. (Ie me lmao). And I guess theres that tiny possibility that he doesnt like anyone. But thats probably not the case.
Kay, well there are two possibilities of things that could be happening now. Theres the chance that he likes you, but doesnt want to make the first move, and theres the chance that he isnt interested.
Now depending on the type of guy that he is, there are two different things that you can do. You can make an obvious move and flirt with him and hope that he sees it as your last attempt to get him to notice you, or you can take a real step. Taking a real step eliminates the chance of him not wanting to make the first move, and that leaves you with the only other one that he isnt interested.
So to answer your other question, you arent wasting your time. Just because he's flirting with Zoey or whatever, you still have that one try left. You can try and get his attention, but if that doesnt work, then move on because then yeah you're wasting your time.
K so what do you do? Well you can try the less obvious approach (aka flirting,) but take it to the next level. Hmm.. You have to say something that is obvious flirting, but makes your point, because if you just continue what youre doing now, well it wont work right? So talk to your friends abit and ask them what kinds of things you can say that are obvious and hot. I really cant think of an example sorry, but basically just flirting. Don't worry about sounding like a slut, just make it obvious. Like too obvious, a dog could figure it out obvious. It doesnt make you sound desperate dont worry, just show him thats what you want if he wants it to let you know kind of thing, but if you arent prepared to do that type of thing, no worries, you can do the other one. This one is more going out and telling him. So far your friends have done a bit of the dirty work for you, which is nice, but its your turn. Now it's awkward to go up to a guy and tell him you like him, but thats all you have left. So which is more awkward saying, "Hey I like you wanna go out sometime" (I know easier than it sounds) or flirting with him insanely. So pick one of the two and go for it. But really if you chose the second one, dont make it sound like you're desperate for a guy, just say it calmly and casually, and smile and pretend you totally arent nervous at all, have a date and time and place in your mind, and a back up too. (for your back up pick something different say 1 was dinner and a movie, then 2 should be a little different, but not durastic, like a movie and hanging out with friends) then ask him and see what he says, if he says well... then dont jump to conclusions, and dont feel down try to make it easy for him to say no if thats what he wants but not too easy. Like say well I was just trying to plan my friday night, and I was wondering if you'd like to go to a movie with me. Then go by his answer, if it sounds likehes not interested dont bring up the back up but if he sounds enthused but busy, then try it. If he has two excuses hes not interested.
Never give up on a guy because he's interested in another girl, you never know whats going through his mind unless you ask. And never worry about long questions, I dont mind at all. I hope this works out for you, and let me know if you need any more help. I'm glad my advice means so much to you! :D. Good luck, and I really hope I helped. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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