Hey everyone! The names Melissa and I'm just dying to help everyone out.
Sometimes i might be brutally honest but that's what people need!
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Ok, So the situtation goes like this. I started working at a store where I met this guy. Nice guy. The problem is that he is gonna be getting Married. Yet, he flirts with me all the time like seriously flirts. I.E. He goes through my line even though others are open and I have customers. Does favors for me if I ask. Playfully throws things at me. Anyway, he doesnt seem all that interested in his girlfriend either though. I don't feel like getting in to details. What I need to know is what should my next move be?
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You shouldn't have a next move. This man is getting married. He is engaged. You shouldn't be flirting with him even if hes flirting with you. Can you imagine how you would feel if you were engaged and you found out that your fiance was flirting with someone, and that someone was interested in him? That would hurt so badly.
So just ignore it. Be nice to him, you don't have to be rude. But don't flirt with him. And don't try anything more than being friends.
Im not trying to be mean here, but seriously, marriage is sacred. It shouldn't be messed with.
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I'd like to bequethe a substantial part of my estate to my two younger sisters but really DON'T want either of their spouses or children to inherit this down the line. Is it fair to insist in my Will that my sisters bequethe that inheritance to my choice of charities when they die?
I'm 63 and female. (link)
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It seems like your asking for an opinion...and my personal opinion is yes, that is rather wrong. I mean if your going to leave people money, what they do with it is up to them. Whether or not they leave it to charities or to there families shouldn't matter, but then again, its your money. Do with it what you will. Just remember, it may sound horrible, but when were all gone, what happens afterwords doesn;t matter, because we'll be in a better place.
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Ok me and my wife were making love I was having oral sex and i licked her but hole she said stop so were going at it and i get out the vibator and start giveing it to her doge style and i start to rud her but hole and she lets me this time so i want to know does she want me to play with her but the next time we have sex she tells me she dont like me playing with her but (link)
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If she says she doesnt like it then she doesnt like it. It really is that simple. She probably let you do it because she was involved in the moment and didnt want to make it awkward.
Respect what she wants, and leave her butt alone.
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Isnt Jesus technically a zombie since he rose from the dead???? (link)
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Now thats a saviour i can get behind!
But seriously, if you believe in religon thats a pretty offensive question...if not, than thats hilarious, and yes i do believe that would classify him as a zombie, as he was dead...and then he rose again.
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So tomorrow is my last day of senior classes (high school) and all of the sudden, I'm having problems with my best friend, Holly. Holly is by no means a perfect person by I have some of the best times in the world with her. She's like a sister to me we share all of our secrets and as a friend, I just love having her. There is a sense of friendship we have. She has some faults though and sometimes she doesn't treat her friends with the respect they deserve. That's why her bf broke up with her. So here's the short version of the saga. In march, I got mad at Holly and somehow we stopped talking for about a month and a half. It was one of the most miserable times in my life. Whether or not it was for a good reason , I still felt awkward around our circle of friends and awkward around her and it killed me. We started being friends again a little while later and I was happier than I'd been in months. Everything has been fine until up until a few days ago. She's been acting like she's above me and saying rude, snide things, and just taking advantage of me. We got into a few big arguments. Is Holly wrong? probably. Is it not a healthy relationship? maybe. I just feel so horrible that everything was perfect until the last day of senior year. I'm angry at her in so many different ways that I'm not even going to get into because the point is, I feel like our friendship might be ending THE LAST TWO WEEKS OF SR. YEAR. The LAST thing I want is to be miserable at prom, grad, yr. book, etc. because I KNOW I will be if we're in a fight. Should be mad at her for her crankiness and snide remarks? Should I apologize for "causing a fight?" I am honestly so upset because this is the worst time for something like this to be happening. I want to stick it out until the very end of the year, or else I'll be truly miserable. Help please (link)
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Im really sorry to hear about you and your friends problems.
It could be that she is mad at you, and if you can think of any reasons why i would approach her about them and try to talk to her.
OR it could be that your ending highschool. Imagine going to college and loosing your best friend. Maybe thats what she is afraid will happen and shes just trying to distance herself so that in the end it will feel like a choice to her instead of an inevitable.
College changes everything. I know that friendships in highschool seem like they will last forever, but the sad truth is, most of them dont. Im not saying dont try to salvage your relationship with her.
But remember, if it doesnt work out...its not the end of the world. You have your whole future ahead of you, dont let one person bring you down!
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I was suppose to start my period Sunday, June 6th. I did. Okay, I'm bleeding but not as heavy as I usually do. I'm not spotting I'm bleeding. Could I be pregnant? What are the chances? I'm having all my symptoms, cramping, using bathroom a lot, breast hurt. (link)
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Your not pregnant. You have your period.
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whats the point of soap? its scrubbing hands together that is important, isnt it? (link)
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Well...if you scrub your hands togeahter without soup...all your doing is rubbing the germs onto both of your hands. Water itself doesnt kill germs unless its at a certain temperature.
Soap is used to kill bacteria. Scrubbing ur hands togeather is what people do to make the soap foamy...
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Hi, I am ver confused about my sxuality. I am turned on by beautiful girls but also by hot boys. I also feel like a female on the inside. I feel like I'm a girl and I want a vagina and breasts but I sort of like my penis and masculinity. I'm so confused... I've made out with this girl at school who is way hot, but I fantasize about kissing boys too. Can someone staighten me out???? (link)
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Hun ur probably Bi. Or you could have a gender disorder. I have a friend who is a boy in a girls body who likes girls. But i also know people who are girls in boys body's who like both boys and girls.
Everyone is different. Just because you were born one way doesnt mean you cant like boys and girls. Either way, you might be bi. Deciding how you feel about your gender is a different thing.
Take the time to sit down and really evaluate yourself. It can be confusing and scary, so dont rush into anything.
If you need someone to talk to make sure you have someone you can really trust. A best friend or maybe a parent.
Let me know if you need any help!
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umm hii umm..! i need help because me nd my ex are still talkin and we both still like eachother cause i asked him and he said he did but like are we ever going to get back together i dont know what to do anymore can you help me..! :( (link)
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You have to think about the reasons you broke up before you think about the reasons you want to get back togeather. There had to be a reason one of you or even both of you wasnt happy.
If it was just a stupid arguement that got blown out of proportion, then just talk to him. Explain to him that you still like him, and that you would like to get back togeather some day. Dont put to much pressure on it or anything, just let him know that thats how you feel. If you tell him that you would like to be with him again then maybe he'll start to take some initiative.
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We both went off to differnt schools. We still talk to each other over the phone. We arrange to go round each other's houses. My friend said that he wants to kiss me. He told her because he was too shy to tell me. Which is fair enough!
I really wanna kiss him hold hands or something like that he's really shy and so am i.
Should i take charge or should i wait until he's said to ME he's ready...? (link)
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Go for it! Your both intrested in each other! Just think of it this way, if you kiss him first, it will break the ice and he'll go ahead and kiss you more often. Its just the initial awkward first kiss feeling. It'll pass and everything will be okay! Good luck!
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Yesterday, I went to this street festival where their was live music in Chicago. I was dancing and talking to this cute guy who looked 16-17. Later on we started grinding and just having fun. When I had to leave I kissed him and he gave me his number. We were texting and I decided to ask him his age. Turns out he's 21! So I lied and said I was 17 (I've been told I could pass for 17). He says he wants to see me again but I don't think that will happen since I was just in the city for the weekend. It was all in good fun but I feel kind of weird now.. I know we won't be like a thing and probably won't ever see each other again.
I know it's illegal since I'm a minor but what would you do if you were in my situation. I honestly though he was 16 or 17 but found out too late he was 21. (link)
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Dont worry about it. You dont live there. Just tell him that you wont be able to see him, that you dont live anywhere near there. Its not that big of a deal. I think the real question is why were you kissing random boys? haha, just next time be a little more careful when you are in a situation like that. Ask there age first?
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This guy and I have been going out for four months now. Before we were together I was a virgin, and i planned to stay that way until marriage. He forced me into having sex with him. I kept telling him no but he kept on doing things to turn me on. At times I would try to push him off and he would pretend to stop and then start back up again. I was so stupid not to walk away, I should have. I should have broken up with him,and the thing is I have tried many times. I prayed about it for help and i kept firm, but the thing is he won't give up on me (or lets say let me). I guess he says I'm his first real girlfriend because his past relationships were all just hit and quit. He never took any of the girls seriously. I feel that he is too controlling. I understand the situation I'm in, but I just want to get out of it. I told him before that what he did was wrong and he knew it was true and apologized and tried to show it, but it didn't last too long because each time he forced me. I could even run at times trying to get away, but he would chase me. And then everytime he would pull my pants down, i would pull them back up. Its just too much for me. I feel that he just wants me for sex..and that is the way it is. I told him this before but like anyone like him they will deny. I want out, but at the same time i'm scared..i'm not sure why...and then i feel like i love him..but then i feel like I don't...i just want my normal life back....and all the things he does for me like buying me three phones when mine broke or got stolen....or him being faithful to me and just being so clingy...its just too much for me...or walking over to my house everyday just to hang out (not do anything)....It just feels like he is doing it for something in return...i'm so sick of it...I know this is an unhealthy relationship...I just need to be strong and get out of it as soon as possible because he will keep on forcing me to do things I don't want to...and thats going to be unhappy for me....I just need some advice on how to get out...I do want to but i'm not sure what is holding me back....thank you for your advice (link)
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You arent happy. Break up with him. Its really that simple. If you break up with him, and dont listen to him trying to convince you not to, then its over. Some guys will beg or cry or make promises about how they will change, but you have to stay strong and just remember, that no matter what they say, it wont happen.
If he is forcing you to do things you dont want to do then he honestly doesnt care about you. He is using you.
Tell him you dont want to be with him and then stop talking to him.
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So, I have known this guy for the past four months...I had had a crush on him since I met him but was also crushing on another guy (his best friend and he knew that I liked him). Anyways, I stopped liking that guys because of other drama and had my full attention on this other guy... lets call him B. So, after finding out that I in fact liked him... it too him 2 months just to ask for my number... so now we are "dating"... nothing too serious. We have kissed twice and he has said that he is growing attached and wants to be with me exclusively. But he is hesitant and has concerns, he also broke up with his gf of two years just 6 months ago...
Problems:
-my friend and his friend I has a crush on tell me not to trust him because he is into politics and the students government
-we barely talk... he doesnt text or call much at all
-he is nervous to be with me because he is in student government and I am an officer of a club and he thinks that people will say he has a conflict of interest
Questions:
-I am totally into this guy and we would be really good together, but does he really like me if he is nervous to make our relationship official?
-Should I be worried about him not texting or calling me?
-I don't want to appear clingy, so I avoid texting or calling him... is that wrong?
-Is it worth waiting for him to clear his mind and make a decision or should I just move on?
-Should I be worried about him just breaking up with his gf?
thank you for all your help :) (link)
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- Being part of a club shouldnt matter.
- Some guys just dont text or call alot. My boyfriend doesnt, and hwe have a perfectly happy relationship.
-If he likes you he should have no reason to be nervous to be with you. Clubs shouldnt matter. Its how you feel about somebody. And i honestly dont think that anyone is going to care all that much. Its just highschool.
Its not wrong to "avoid" texting him. But that doesnt mean dont text him ever. Send him a message every now and then. Nothing annoying, just saying hey whats up bla bla stuf flike that.
He didnt JUST break up with his girlfriend, it has been 6 months. People do need time to heal, but the fact that he is talking to you and has told you hes into you is a good sign.
Just relax, and see where it goes. Stop over thinking everything.
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Okay, so im 18 years old and me and my boyfriend plan on staying virgins till we are married. Well, this is also mine and his first relationship so we are both figuring out stuff. Well the other night we both kinda got into the moment and we ended up kinda grinding up on each other, which is also known as dry sex. Well, I stopped it and it only lasted maybe 3 minutes...well, im getting all worried that there is a chance i could be pregnant even though he swears he didnt ejaculate. He was wearing underwear and jeans and i was wearing running shorts and underwear. So is there any possible way? And I know this is probably even stupid to ask but I still have about 3 weeks if not a little longer till my next period. (link)
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Your fine.
If you had clothing on there is no problem.
Dry humping is normal to alot of people do it, but just so you know, it does make things lead to sex alot faster. So only do what your ready for.
Again, your not pregnant. If you stress out about it to much then you might skip your period, so dont worry about it.
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How can I get real good revenge on my ex boyfriend? He dumped me b/c he got too horny and we started to do stuffthen "god" told him to break up with me... which is a load of shit... someone help plz.. thanx a lot.and nothing that will kill him or hurt him too too bad :D thanx (link)
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Grow Up, Revenge is for children.
If you cant respect him for deciding to break up with you then your not mature enough for a relationship.
Obviously this boy has a relationship with God that you cant understand. Its not a bad thing. Sorry that you got dumped, but move on.
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do girls think its gross(or nething) if a guy gets horny whith the gurl in there lap or nething (link)
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Personally I dont think its gross, I know its pretty inevitable. Especially for teenagers, its not like guys have much control over that kind of thing, if theres a girl wiggling around in there lap there probably going to get excited.
Some girls though might find it a little freaky. They probably dont know better, or dont want to recogonize that its hard for you to control.
If it happens it happens, and make a joke out of it. Theres really nothing else you can do
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okay so i am really weird i guess because i only like having sex with my boyfriend when i am on top. he wants to be on top every once in a while...but it just feels so uncomfortable....
any tips?? (link)
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Has he done you from behind yet? Also known as "doggy style". its not unusual to not enjoy missionary. Most people think its the most boring of all the positions.
Try a couple of other things. Doggy style, reverse cowgirl, or if he really wants to be on top, have him pull you to the edge of the bed and have him stand while you lay on your back on the bed. It might change your mind about him being "on top".
Also if you want to know a few other positions look around on the internet, theres alot that is out there :) Good luck!
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So i just started taking birthcontrol on Tuesday. It said to start within the first 24 hours of ur period which i did. Its now sunday night and Im still bleeding a lot. i thought it was suppose to make the bledding go away?
my friend said she bled for the first month on birthcontrol is that true? (link)
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All the birth control i know of your supposed to start taking 24 hours after your period ends...Ive never heard of taking it while your on your period.
And birth control doesn't automatically make your period lighter. It can take up to 6 months to start lightening your period.
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alright, i could write ALOT about this, so i'm going to try my best and be brief. me and my mom have always been on and off, fighting pretty good and then other times we're totally fine and happy.
but anyways, i'm going on 19 in the next couple of months, have been in college for about half a year now, have had a steady job for two years and some friends of mine (i commute) were thinking of all getting a place together and asked me (which makes me happy cause i really only get to see them when i go to school or stay after school and don't ride the bus home so i can hang with them). well i mentioned this to my mom and she was just flat-out no about it. other situations liek this have happened - i'm going to a concert a state away and she FREAKED out when she heard cause i didn't run it by her. a friend a couple hours away wants me to come visit at their college but i'd have to take a train - "no". i want tattoos/piercings, but i can't get any unless i want kicked out of the house, but i can get them when i get my own place. well i just TRIED to and i can't! i understand where she's coming from, she's my mom and everything, but i just feel like she's not realizing i'm going on 19. my brothers a couple years older and he just randomly'll go out come home at 4am sleep all day and yeah she blows up on him but it just seems like there's that "oh well that's typical him "attitude to it and when it's something i did it's like, "how could you"? the most rebellious thing i ever did was went behind her back a couple years ago and gauged my ears and they're not even that big.
i just don't know what to do. i've tried talking to her about it and it just seems like she doesn't want to listen and "she's right". it just pisses me off cause it's like i need to abide by all HER rules in her home until i get my own place, but then i TRY to and she still says no. its just driving me crazy cause i just have no idea what to do.
i don't even know if this is something anybody can really give me advice on (my mom really doesn't like hearing anything that would put HER in the wrong; she just likes her side of the story), this may have been just more of a rant type of situation but if anyone feels like they can give any input i'd much appreciate it. i can try to explain it more if there's even more to explain, really, haha. (link)
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Well, :) Your 19 dear. Do what you want. Your mom may think that she has control over your life, but unless shes footing the bill for this apartment, then she does have a say.
But it seems to me like she just has issues letting go. If you want to move out go ahead, your old enough to make your own choices about stuff like this.
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so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"
that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?
ps i am 21 female (link)
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If he acts like a child treat him like a child. If someone is treating you in such a way that it hurts your feelings, and then doing something "wonderful" to make it up to you, he is basically abusing you. Its the same as if a guy hit you, and then bought you flowers because he feels bad after words. It doesn't make it okay.
If this were me i would break up with him, but i dont know your situation and how much you love this guy.
But heres my opinion...Using Actions to cover up your hurtful Words do NOT make things okay.
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