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i took a test for bipolar and another for depression online. the bipolar one was positive and depressions one was severe depression. i went to the doctor today but was to afraid to ask so i didnt. i really want to get checked out i need to.
my mom is against me and against my friends how we dress and are very outgoing we just have fun. outa my friends im the worst, i always wear black i just feel like a total hypacrite if i dont and im unhappy and feel like shit all if i dont wear black. my friends are not like this but shes against them saying they turned me like this. ive ben like this since beginning of 6th grade then i lost all my old friends they were just bitches to me. Then i made these new friends i love so much and they understand me but my mom hates them. if i ask her for me to get tested shed go off to me about them and thats when i just loose it we start screaming. thats the one thing if you make fun of me aout, your dead. so i cant ask my mom but ill ask the doctor. but i chickend out she brought me to the doctor because im having really bad stomach and head aches and just feel like shit. how can i ask the doctor, i was just gona ask directly today but i just started crying so i didnt. ive ben planning to ask since 6th grade its now the end of 8th and its getting so much worse.
i went to a retreat this weekend and some people told their stories and most had to do with depression and how it screwed up their life. i made 2 really good friends, one was a junior a guy he was hit with severe depression in 8th grade and he could tell something was wrong with me the face i made so he was just hugging me alot and helped so much. one was freshman girl didnt give a speech but helped me by talking. this gave me the courage to go to the docter but i couldnt ask i just told them the symtoms of depression i felt but never said depression or bipolar or anything i couldnt.
what do i do? im 14/f very long sorry

Well, online test don't really have all the answers.
But if your said all the time and this has been going on for two years now, you really should tell someone how your feeling. I have mild depression. I've had it for two years two and to make a long story short, it can lead to other things...I never talked about my feelings and what was bothering me to other people. I just delt with my feelings in my own secret way. I thought it was helping, but it only makes things worse. Long story short. Maybe you just need to talk to someone about things. It helps with the depression A LOT. Talk to your school counselor, a friend, someone. You can even talk to me about your problems if ya want! haha Just message back for my screen name or something. Hope everything works out for you! :)

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hi ok well im tamil and when you start your period you have a ceremony and then wear a bra im 14 and i haven't had mine this girl whos 13 has and hers is coming in 3 weeks she shows off and im embarassed to go also my old friends will be there boys and girls they will all know i havent started itand all the girls will wear half saris and im here with a childish skirt and blouse im embarassed and upset HELP!!!! thank you so much in advance

Okay girl below me is a friggin idiot!
Well she's right about the whole "it's normal to not have it yet"
BUT it's not painful at all! She's a moron.

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me and my best friends bro started dating and i accedently broke his necklace and he broke up with me an i love him every time i call my bff he ansers and i cant breath but weve been broken up for 2 months i say im sorry over and over again but he wont forgive me what do i do?

He's gay. No I'm serious. He's literally gay.
Look at all the signs.
You broke his NECKLACE.

What kind of guy wears a necklace?

He dumbed you over his broken necklace.

Over senstive? Gay guys are over sensitive ;]

Find someone new. Don't dwell on a gay guy. But if you honestly don't think he's gay, then buy him a new necklace.

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is this close friend or just friends?
-talk to each other a lot
-talk to each other in AIM and myspace
-tell each other secrets
-comes to me when she have a problem
-talks about deep stuff
-used to call& text each other
-we talk in class
-we walk together after class
-we know each other a lot

but we dont
-we never went to their house
-we dont hang out like going somewhere like movies and etc.
-we dont hang out at lunch
-we never saw both of our parents
-we dont get invite from eachother's bday party

are we close friend or just friends? we both knew eachother for 2 years.

I'd say your more close friends than just friends because you tell each other deep secrets. Maybe it's time to take your friendship to the next level and ask them to hang out at your house or something.

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i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything?

uh that guys an asshole!
He's just stupid.
Your going to get stupid people on this site who will rate you bad because their dumb.
Just ignore it.
Keep giving good advice and don't let stupid jerks like that ruin your time on this site trying to help others will their problems. That guy seems like he needs more help than what he can get on this site. He needs to work on his social skills. :]

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I think I could have an infection in my underarms. Lately, since it's been summer, I can't fall asleep at night because of the irritation in my armpits.
I use "Certain Dri" night deodorant, which has always caused an irritation. The label said stop use if irritation or rash occurs, and I've always had an irritation/rash there, but never too bad. However, despite this I continued to use it because it was the only thing that stopped my sweating. Its pretty wierd, because now that its summer, my arm pits feel really itchy when I'm trying to go to sleep (Certain Dri is a night deodorant, which while you sleep, it shrinks the pores to limit prespiration). This past week, its been HORRIBLE, and every morning when I wake up, my underarms are so sensitive I can barely move my arms because ottherwise it sort of "chafes" (sp?) but in my armpit area.
It keeps me awake every night for about 2 hours, and then causes me pain in the morning. I don't think that I can stop using it though, because its summer and I hang out with a lot of boyyss =]
SO PLEAASE help me I have no idea what to do!

Okay trust me on this STOP USING IT. If theres anyone with a sweating problem, it's me. Ask Bexers haha. Mine is sooooo bad. I'm 15/f and I've had a severe sweating problem under the arms sence I was 10. It sucks soooo bad I know. There are pills you can take to make the sweating stop. Doctor's usually never write prescriptions for the pills and always say "let's try this instead" Trust me, nothing else will work. Don't let him convince you that theres no pill or you should try something else first.

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u know if you want to use tampax do u have to be a certain age?

If your old enough to have a period, your old enough to use tampons.

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ok so last year i gave this guy head (bad i know and i regret it) but anyways the next day i got a really bad sore throat. is this normal or could it be an std? i'm really worried about it and i was also wondering since i am 18 if i can get tested and treated confidentially without my parents knowing. thanks.

Yeh you can get tested at any age confidentially.

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do i give a gift to the person who is graduating from high school? even if i dont know them that well

Give them $10 in a card.

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Well, I just got my period a couple of months ago. And like a week ago, I used a tampon. Well, anyway, I had a lot of trouble with it, and it was actually pretty painful. Is it supposed to hurt your first time? %% Thanks %%

um those people are wrong.
it shouldn't hurt your first time if you put it up far enough.

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About a month or two ago I made a promise to God that I would not masturbate until I turned 14. Several months ago, probably like 3 or 4 maybe 5, I turned 13. But, I broke that promise. And I know it's really bad to do that, and I'm a Catholic! But the really bad thing is, that I keep telling God I won't do it again, but I do! Sometimes when I cross my legs my clitoris throbs and it feels good, does that count? A part of me feels like he forgives me, partly because it was the time of my period when you're in heat, but part of me feels like he won't forgive me and I don't deserve to go to Heaven. I feel like I've broken my promise, God never breaks a promise and I feel unworthy. I talk to God a lot, I pray a lot, and praise him a lot. But sometimes I'm not nice to others like I should be. Like lying, or making fun of someone and not apologizing, although most of the time I do, yet I do it again! I truly, truly, truly need help to keep my promise and stay un-horny. Will I go to hell for this? Will he forgive me? I feel so scared, I want to go to Heaven! I worship God with all my heart, I really do. And I believe in Jesus and his commandments and in the beatitudes. But one night a while back, I wanted to sort of have my own way of getting an immediate answer with him. Years ago, I bought a statue of Jesus from Canada and the hands broke off accidentally. So I took one hand and fell alseep with it in my hand and asked him to have me wake up with it on the right side of my bed if the answer was "Yes, you will go to Heaven." and it go to the left side if the answer was no. It landed on the left side underneath me! I'm scared. I've done this before, and I asked him if I would meet my sisters in Heaven (I never met them) and it landed on the right side. Is this kind of witch craft or something? Well I'm really scared, so please answer this question!

I'm Catholic. Masturbating is against our religion no matter how old you are. Sorry :[ But it's true...

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how old were you when you lost your virginity? and how far along were you into a relationship if you were into one? also when do you think is okay to lose it? thanks!

Here's the way I look at it.
Save your self for your husband.
That way you can share something that special with him.

If you wait, you won't regret it :]

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i am

13/f

5"1

and 104 pounds am i over weight?

Nope
Not at all

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Whenever I go out in public.. I kiss my boyfriend, like a few pecks and hug him. People always tell us to get a room..
but it's only a kiss!

Why are they saying that? It's making us look bad around everyone else. It's not like we are having sex right in front of them or anything sexual like that.

Has this happened to anyone else?

It's one of those things that everyone wants to say because they seen it in a movie.

Don't take it personal.

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okay, i have a wart on my foot and it hurts really really bad. i have an appt. with a dermatologist in a month to get it removed..it was the closest time they had. my question is..is there anything i can do with it to make it not so painful now? and how will they remove it?
thanks!

I guess just wear comfortable socks.
They freeze it off.
It stings a little.

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This is a bit random but is it ok to chew gum? I dont mean instead of a meal but between meals and etc.

Im wondering because since they're sugar-free they have sucralose (sp) and aspartame in them. I have heard both good and bad things about those sweetners. Is it ok for your health to chew 1-2 pieces a day (like Orbit), they wont make you gain weight or anything?

Thanks in advanced.

Gain weight? No. Unhealthy? No.
Infact. Chewing gum inbetween will make you loose weight because instead of snacking on a bunch of junk food, your chewing gum.

That's why when people try to quite smoking, they chew gum constantly.

1-2 pcs is fine. I got through a half pack of Orbit in a day haha.

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I just bought a tankini top (I have so much trouble finding one that fits but this one fit nicely and was cute so I had to get it) but the bottoms that went with it were pretty ugly lol. So I was wondering what would go with it if I just decided to mix and match with another bottom? There is a picture of it here:

http://img459.imageshack.us/img459/5042/...

The only thing I'm not really open to is something that is really revealing. I would appreciate your suggestions!

Thanks =]

No one can see that image. Sorry
Try photobucket
It's free and simple

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sorry i couldnt get the category.
ok so i consider myself punk/emo. and theirs this girl in my school she called me a poser! and i dont kow why. i listen to rock music, and i thought i had my sense of style. i really dont think i am a poser. she told me jsut cuz i dress that way doesnt amke a rocker.
so i am asking what makes people rockers? i listen to rock. heavy metal so i dont get it? what should i do like make up sheos and clothes. thanks. iwant to improve my style

She's dumb. Theres no such thing as a poser. You are what you are. Tell her if your a poser, then she's a dumb bitch.

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Does a text message cost if you never open it?

No.

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how many of you girls shave 'down there'? what age did you start and why?


thanks!

I do. I started shaving "down there" at around 12.

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