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i had an abortion about 8 months ago an i wish i hadn't. i cry all the time because i want my baby but its too late. i have been thinking about killing myself so i can be with my baby but i dont know if i should. i just feel like a monster for doing it but im only 17 and my mom kinda forced me to get the abortion. i just want my baby back i cant keep feeling depressed all the time. (link)
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I'm sorry!
I don't know what you're going through I can only imagine how you feel. I believe things happen for a reason and we make choices for a reason. You said you are 17, you are young and you still have so much to do with your life. I know if you had that baby things wouldn't have been so easy. I understand however that you wish you did have the baby and that you regret the decision you made. I think the best way to handle this is to talk to a professional. I think you maybe experiencing depression which can happen when things like this happen. The best way to get through this to talk to someone who can help and point you in the right direction.
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I'm sixteen. It's junior year, and it's time to get cracking on looking for colleges and everything.
I'm so upset because I feel like I will never ever be happy, or good enough for myself. I try so hard. I am lazy and unmotivated, and lately I've been getting yelled at by my parents. "You're sixteen, you should know how to do this!" It really upsets me because I feel so let down and stupid. I'm sixteen and I don't know how to do certain things. My parents have never taught me to be independent, and not that I'm putting the blame on them, but when I was a kid, they babied me, and now that I'm grown, I know nothing. They barely talk to me about this stuff, and I'm so scared of amounting to nothing when I go out into the real world.
I make decent grades, but they're not good enough for my parents. I try my best, but I constantly feel like shit all the time. Any advice? (link)
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I like to call this the bird's nest syndrome.
I went through and I'm still going through it at this point. It's almost as if you have been in this nest for your whole life and you haven't gone anywhere but staye din the nest. Now your parents want you to get up and fly the funny thing is, is that they never taught you. I feel the same way with my parents. What I realized is that I needed to start doing things myself and take responsibility for myself. It stinks but that's the only true way to handle it and it maybe hard but you will get through it. Get the support of your friends and do the best you can. If you need help talk to maybe your parents, a guidance counselor, or maybe a teacher at school. Good luck!
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15/f
Hi everybody, lately I've been feeling kinda down about myself. I'm empty and aching and I don't know why, to quote Simon & Garfunkel... Usually during the day I'm happy, but at night I feel hollow and foolish and almost depressed. It's like all my dreams I know will never come true, every bad memory and every mistake I made hover over my heart and haunt me. I feel alone and unaccomplished, like I'm stuck in a rut and life is meaningless. I've been single my whole life, and a shy person without much of a social life, but I've always been content with my position. I don't like fitting in, I want to be different, and do something amazing with my best friends so we'll be remembered long after we're gone, like George Washington or John Lennon. But I know that it'll be hard and probably won't happen. I really don't understand my emotions, what should I do? Also, I DO NOT want to kill myself, and I've never self-harmed, smoked, done any drugs, etc. I'm just a student, really, it's my main priority. What should I do? Who should I talk to? Thank you for reading my ramble, I appreciate any answers.
Note: I am on an antibiotic for acne but the doctor didn't mention any side-affects. (link)
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'It's like all my dreams I know will never come true...'
Well by making that statement you're not putting yourself off to a good start are you? Sometimes people get into a funk when they feel that there's nothing left as if there is a box and you can't reahc outside of the box. I've had those moment and I still do to this day. It's hard think of anything other than being negative and looking at all the stuff in your life that's not going right. What I try to do is focus on the things I am doing right and listen to the people who are being positive and support me. I don't listen to people that put me down or have something to criticize. I'm not interested in what people ahve to say about me. It's about feeling comfortable in my own skin and being able to feel good about myself. You need to start thinking positive. Start setting goals that can lead up to your dream. Try accomplishing the goals every year and do your best. Try your best and that is the only thing anyone can ask for. The sky is the limit. You are the only person that is holding yourself back from your goals and dreams.
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NOTE: This seriously is NOT my personal question.
One of my closest friend was talking to me about a problem she has been having lately. She admits she is bisexual (attracted to both sexes) but says she does not want to be that way. She knows her parents won't accept the fact that she is bisexual, as it is FORBIDDEN in her house. She wishes she could just come out and expose the real her, but fears judgement, and her parents. Note: She has had a secret relationship with a girl. What advice should I give her? Should she tell her parents? Expose the real her? Please, I really don't know what to tell her. (link)
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No one should ever be ashamed of who they are! You can't hide who you are or hwo you feel because you aren't being true to yourself. Her parents might not understand or they might be afraid. People are afraid of what they don't understand. I would support her and tell her to not be afraid of who she is. She is trying find out who she is and if you support her and are there for her that is the best thing you can do as a friend. The fact they you are coming on this site and asking a question on behalf of your friend shows me how much you really care about her. Tell her to not be afraid and that she shouldn't hide anything about herself.
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OKay well I am in 7th grade (Middle School) and ALL of my friends have boyfriends and i don't and I feel really left out. I am taller than most of my friends and some of the guys but My friend who is a little bit taller than me, still manages to get all the guys she wants. (link)
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You remind me of myself when I was young. I was the girl that felt left out because all my friends who were shorter than I had boyfriends. I hated hanging out with them because I always felt like the fifth wheel. PDA 24/7 while hanging out with them and it made me think that I needed a boyfriend. I could not have been more wrong. If I could go back in time and change it I would. I should have concentrated on more important things and worry about my school work. Boys come and go. And you will find a boyfriend it may not seem like it now but you will. Just because everyone else has one doesn't mean you need to too. You want to find a guy that likes you for you and you want to find the right guy. Be patient and it will happen. I've heard from a lot of people that a guy will come around when you least expect it. I can honestly say that I believe that statement. I stopped looking for awhile and I met a guy through a friend. We hit it off and we've been together for 4 years and still going strong. I love him and he's my best friend. Keep your head up and think about what's important right now!
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Okay well i'm a 13/f and i'm in 7th grade and i was wondering how to tell a guy you like them w/o getting your feelings hurt? I have already went to a guy and told him through text messages straight up i like you and it was really awkward and now we barely talk especially bc i only have his number and hes a grade older in a different school. An I would also like to know if a guy likes me because (i warn you this may be long) one day i got called to the Guidance counselors office and we were almost about to switch classes and i walked down and the bell rang and the guy i liked brought my stuff to my next class for me without me telling him to. he just went up to me and asked what my next class was, and took it there. (link)
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You know what I learned when growing up the only way you are going to find things out is if you ask. That's the only way to get an answer. And there is no way to ask without getting hurt. By asking or by stating you like someone is taking a risk and that's what we all do. Wouldn't you rather take a risk of asking and finding out then being silent and always wondering what if?
What's the worse he could say? No? It's not the end of the world, you had a life before he came along and your life will continue even afterwards. I had a lot of trouble when I was younger with rejection if I had a crush on a guy and he said no I didn't take it so well. I learned from it and I moved on. I realize that if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. The saying goes 'rejection is god's protection' meaning it wasn't suppose to happen for a reason. Another way of looking at it is that they are missing out of you, have a bit more confidence in yourself and know your worth. The best advice I can give you is to just tell him because by saying nothing at this point it's only hurting you. And so what if he doesn't talk to you anymore? That's his loss not yours. If he says 'no' then dust yourself off and move on to the next guy. There are plenty fish in the sea!
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im feelind down about things. Feeling like i dont belong maybe there just too much goin on in my life and is not lilke i can just explain it all cus it probably wont be enough space. Maybe im just too different or maybe im just with the wrong person. Too much hurt to erase and even when tried no communication with me so i have to figure him all out on my own. Babygirl just stares loves me and runs after me. She wants to play with me. And i hide my pain and put on a smile. Then i go to the bathroom feel so angry i think i have anger issues when i get mad i want to fight. But then i can give the best advice . Advice i wish he can take from me but he just keeps hurting me till theres no more of me. And im tryin for her and for us its getting hard though wish there was more communication more love and even if there is love im tired of talking tired of living. Mayb i just dont belong here. I wana go. (link)
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Whenever we're feeling down we always have a negative outlook on things. Sometimes it looks like nothing can be fixed and we give up easily. Don't give up. Whatever you're going through it will get better. I don't know who this guy is that you speak of but maybe you need time for yourself to concentrate on you and your baby girl. Don't give up. Think of your baby girl. I know as a mom you want whats best for her. I don't have a child but if I did I would go to the ends of the earth to give my child the best. I know you love her and care for her. I'm sure she is your world and that you are the BEST mom! Keep holding on and you'll make it through. Think of what's important in your life and what you need to do. I hope this helps and keep your head up!
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Hey,
okay so me and my ex broke up over a year ago.
Since then he went back to his ex,then broke up again. Then got another gf and split up. Now he fancies some other girl.
However, we met up the other day at college and he seemed into me. But on fb it's obvious he likes this new girl. Basically there is an agreement we are 'friends' and he gave me a christmas card.
Should I delete him off facebook? Because basically I keep on getting hurt-but then I don't want to look like a cow :/
Any advice much appriciated :) (link)
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Do you want to be in contact with him anymore? I say delete him! What's the point of being friends with him when you are driving yourself crazy just looking at his profile. I deleted my recent ex off of facebook because we aren't friends anymore and why torture myself? Get rid of him on facebook there is no point in keeping a person like that on. Who cares what everyone else says. Good luck!
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Hi, I am 24 and love one girl I want to marry her but my parents are not allowing us to do. We were in the relationship from more than two years but we never did Sex she want a promise from my side but I cannot give a promise to her because I cannot leave my parents too. and according to me I prefer family first. I told her everything about us and now we are not in the relationship and she value my decision but I really miss her a lot, I tried to forget her but not any other girl is taking her position in my mind.
Please advice me am I on the right direction or not should I forget her and give a priority to my parents or should I accept her after leaving my parents, This is not possible that my parents will agree with this relationship. (link)
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You're 24 you are an adult. Therefore you need to make your own decisions. You need to think about whether or not you love his girl. How much do you love her? Do you see a future with her? You need to go with your heart and think about what you want. Forget about your parents for right now. What is it that you want? Is marrying this girl and living the rest of your life with her going to make you happy? Is this what you really want? Forget what everyone else wants for you, this is your future and you need to choose what you want! Good luck!
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I'm M/16. I feel l like I should give up on my plans and ideas for life. There is no point in trying to reach my goals. It seems like most of the people I know are fake, friends, girls I've liked, even my parents. At this point all I do is stay home and play games, and l'm starting to lose interest in games just like everything else. Then I walk around pretending everything is okay. I wasn't always like this. My grades have been dropping too. I've lost will power & motivation, I'm stuck. I try to make progress enjoy my life, but it seems like no one cares and no one understands. Am I too naive? It seems like there's no such thing as "Normal Life" It seems like I have no meaning, I have no life. I regret stupid little things. I repeat the same mistakes. Its like people have no feelings. I don't exist to anyone, I'm not important to anything. I'm just dust existing on a big ball of dust with 7billion other pieces of dust with some type of energy hidden within us. I wonder abou this life. 8( (link)
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Well I can tell you now that, that attitude will get you no where. Thinking like that is only going to make you feel worse and you're not accomplishing anything in the meantime. We have goals we want to accomplish, realistically it takes baby steps. I still have not achieved my goals but that doesn't mean I'm a failure or that I stink. I'm working on it and I'm working on me. There's always room for improvement. Think of the things you are doing, pat yourself on the back for what you are doing well and stop putting yourself down for what you're not doing. Take your time. As one of my favorite teachers always said, "Life is a journey not a race". She couldn't have been more right. Enjoy life and try not to focus on the negative. It's so easy to be negative. Try your best and thats all anyone can ask for!
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I'm having a hard time deciding wether or not my boyfriend is too controlling or if I'm my own worst enemy causing my problems. The problem is that I'm torn. On one hand, y boyfriend is super sweet, he's a stand up guy - one of the few, and I trust and love him. On the other, he's got a very strong personality and has non violent anger issues - his words not mine. He gets mad and annoyed over every little thing. It was never directed at me at first but after the first few months it started and now I feel like I'm always doing things so delicately, trying not to annoy him. And even when he misinterprets situations and gets annoyed with me for no reason, he never apologizes because he thinks he is always right. That's how he is and to me those are signs of a controlling person. He's very smart but dare I ever disagree or say something that he doesn't think is smart, he won't fail to point it out and make me feel bad. Again, not good.
Bu then returning to the good stuff he is sweet and does nice things for me and treats me well. Just that I want to go out and I like to dance and he doesn't anymore even though he did when we met and he repeats that he goes for me he continues to see friends and so social things for me but then when we do go he gets bored/mad and even though there's a reason for it (he has back issues and is in pain) it jus ends up putting me down. But then when I go without him with his friends it bothers him too even though he rarely admits it because he says that he was once able to do those things too but now he just can't anymore. We are both 20 and too young to stop having funbut he acts like he is 28. I don't know what to do because I loved him from way before he was like this and now I have this guy that swears were going to end up together and is amazing to me except for the fact that I am always tryi g to please him because his anger is inappropriate... Advice? (link)
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It sounds more like he's very opinionated and has a lot of jealousy issues. A controlling boyfriend would be someone that doesn't let you speak to anyone or someone that doesn't let you ahve a life. If he has a problem with you going out too abd he needs to respect and let you go out. If he's going to complain all the time maybe he needs to look at himself and fix somethings. As for the anger maybe he should just get help for it maybe going to see a therapist or something. If you're both unhappy in the relationship then I suggest moving on. My advice though is to remember why you got together in the first place and don't sweat the small stuff!
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I'm really good friends with this girl who I want to ask out. She is going away to study abroad for a few months, but before she goes I'm taking her out to dinner. I want to give her a sentimental gift of some sort while we are on our date.
I'm not going to ask her out until she comes back, since starting a relationship right before she leaves would be tough. I just want something that can soften her up for when she comes back.
Ive already given her a teddy bear for valentines day, so doing that again would be redundant. I don't want to give her something practical or anything like that. Just something that will make her smile, and that will keep me close to her, and make her think about me while she is gone.
Any suggestions would be appreciated :) (link)
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A necklace :) maybe a necklace with a heart. Maybe even tell her to wear it everyday and it will remind her of you! That is really sweet! Heck maybe try the old fashioned snail mail while she is studying abroad :)
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about five months. He is my best friend. He showers me with love, makes me laugh constantly, and is my personal diary. I could talk to him for hours and never get bored. It's like I have everything I could ever ask for in him. He always makes me feel so happy. We spend most of our time together, but we've given each other space since the holidays are around and I need to spend some time with my family.
Lately, I have been feeling very down about the whole relationship. I feel like I'm bringing him down. I'm very sensitive and I get very touchy about some of the things he says, even if it's just a joke. I get upset over stupid things, like when he came over early as a surprise. I was really mad and I got very bitchy. Most of the time recently, the things he does that I'd usually find funny or touching, I suddenly find it unappealing. I don't even know why. I know for a fact I would go insane without him, because he's pretty much everything to me. My family is very hard on me and I don't have a lot of friends, so he is basically my world. Last night I called him and told him to break up with me because I feel horrible. He does everything he can to please me and goes out of his way just for me, yet I get upset and bitchy over EVERYTHING. I hate this feeling. I know he deserves better. But every time I tell him that, he's like, "No, I love you and I'm going to fight for you, and I will fix this. You deserve me, I bet there's not any other girl that treats me as nice as you do, you're out of my league..blah blah blah." I'm very touched by this and my tears all fade but then the next day I feel like complete shit because I am taking him for granted. I want out because of it, but at the same time, he tries so hard to fix things and I just don't have the will to make it work. I'm just confused and emotional and scared. I feel like one day he'll reach his breaking point because I'm so neurotic. He is always assuring me because I've been hurt so badly by guys in my past. Why can't I just ever sit back and enjoy this? I say I'd fight for him but when it all comes down, I just don't want to. I just want him to give up on me. I love him with all my heart but I just think things are crashing down fast for us. He believes in me, but I don't believe in myself. I can't break from this depression.
I'm sorry if I seem like a selfish idiot to you. I'm just a teenager, I'm only sixteen and I've never had such a good relationship before like I have now, and I don't know what to do about it. I'm happy one day, then depressed the next day. Am I just being emotional or is something really wrong? What do you think I should do? I'm not myself at all. (link)
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It sounds like you have low self-esteem and possibly depression!
Your boyfriend is very similar to mine in which he jokes a lot and it seems everything is a joke. Even when I'm trying to be serious he still somehow makes a joke. I have to remind him when I'm serious that he needs to listen. Does he do it everytime? No! It's who he is and I accept it but at the end of the day when I mean business I mean business. And my boyfriend understands that. Have you talked to your boyfriend to tell you exactly what you are thinking? If you haven't he isn't going to know what's going on or how to deal with it. Communication is key in a relationship you need to be honest and open or else the problem won't get fixed it'll get worse!
You need to realize your worth and you need to realize there is something special about you that he sees. I went through this I didn't realize how special I was until my boyfriend kept repeating himself over and over. There are times when I'm in doubt but he always reassures me. I'm not trying to boost my own ego but I know my worth. It's time you motivate yourself and start believing in yourself because doubting yourself is only going to make you and this relaitonship feel worse. Think if you were to dump your boyfriend today how would it make you feel? I think you would feel worse then you do now and that's just my opinion. Really think about what you want because there are consequences to your choices that you make. Be positive, listen to up beat music do something you love everyday. Maybe don't spend as much time together maybe try and spend sometime apart 'distance makes the heart grow fonder'. Hang in there and I hope everything works out! Happy Holidays!
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20/M
My whole life I've been very sheltered. I have very few friends and I'm not that close to my family. I had 4 girlfriends before I was 18. The longest relationship I had lasted almost a year. I've been single for 2 years now.
I'm a virgin, even though I'm great at pleasuring girls sexually in all other ways.
I've been told a lot that I'm quite attractive, with an athletic body. My family is very wealthy, and I have plenty of money. I have a genius IQ and am going to a university (still living at home) and studying in cognitive neurochemistry and biotechnology. I have traveled the world, and have great social skills, and can make people laugh really easily. But I just don't have any close friends. The friends I do have are all nerdy guys who have never touched women.
I don't really have any friends at college. I tried online dating, but it made me kinda feel like a loser because I cant find a girl in real life to be with, plus meeting in person for the first time might be awkward. The women I go out with have all been emotionally abusive as well, which makes me even more reluctant to really try to get into a relationship because I feel like I'm just going to be treated like I'm worthless for the 10th time.
I just don't know how or where to meet people to be honest. Would you consider online dating to be kind of pathetic? I don't like parties, not that I know enough people to be invited to them. I'm too young to go to bars. And I'm not interested in any school or community clubs.
People always tell me "just go out and meet people go to parties and stuff lol", but I'm just not built that way. Is there something wrong with me? All the girlfriends I have had I met in high school or driving school. Now that I'm not around girls that often, I have no chance of getting a girlfriend, never mind a good one.
What do I do? The only time I really feel happy and satisfied is when I have been in relationships, even bad ones. I'm happy with myself, I just hate being so alone all the time. (link)
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Well it sounds like you are limiting yourself. You can't really blame anyone but yourself. To me its as if you are stuck inside your comfort bubble and staying there isn't going to get you a girlfriend.
You don't like online dating and I understand why but it is a way to meet people now a days. I met a guy on there and we dated for a bit but it didn't work out. Sometimes you have to give it a try before you can really make a judgement. Now I'm not talking about an role play site where you meet someone off a 'Harry Potter' site or something. Why not try okcupid.com? It's a great site where you can try tests to match yourself with girls who maybe your type.
You're too young for clubs I understand that then why not go hang out with some friends or friends of friends. By networking you meet people heck that's how I met my boyfriend, I met him through a friend. Networking is a great way to meet people and you never know what you might find.
You're not interested in school or community clubs? Again you're limiting your options here. Do you like sports? Try a sport or something! I think you need to stop making excuses and stop feeling bad pick yourself back up and get out there and meet people. By not socializing you're not helping yourself in finding a girlfriend.
The fact that you only feel happy when you're in a relationship isn't good either, you need to be happy with yourself and you need to be comfortable with you. A girl isn't going to 'fix' anything and relationships cause a lot of 'ups' and 'downs'. Good luck and hope it all works out!
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This guy persued me and before that, I never thought of him in that way at all. After a while I began looking at him that way and now I've found myself always wanting to talk to him. He's gone off the grid a little and has been distant. Why is it that he out this idea into my head only to turn away? Now I'm stuck always thinking about him and it's driving me crazy. I just want to go back to how it was before and not see him that way anymore but I don't know how. Someone please help (link)
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Be honest with him. Does he know you like him? That's the only way things will get done. The reason he is being distant is because he felt rejection from you which in turn made him walk away. He maybe be defensive because he doesn't want to get hurt or what have you. Talk to him about it and see. What's the worst he could say? Good luck!
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Now i am 18 years old. I want to die now with painless. (link)
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I always wonder why people post on here wanting to kill themselves and thinking that someone is going to tell you how. You're 18 years old, you're young and you're going to make mistakes. Everyone does we are all human. Suicide isn't the answer for anything. If anything it creates pain for your friends and family. I knwo you're going pain at the moment but you need to realize that you killing yourself won't solve your problem. Get some help talk to someone, maybe a therapist or a doctor about how you are feeling. Life isn't all that bad you have to think positive. I know it's hard but you have to try.
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(26 year old female)
What does it means when a man tells you that he need to open up to the woman more? (link)
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I'm not sure in what context you mean but what I get from it he needs to share what he's feeling and just be honest about his feelings. Some guys tend to stray away from feelings and instead of expressing hwo they feel they become angry. It's a good sign if the man notices he needs to be a little bit more open about how he really feels.
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Hi, I'm 19/f and my boyfriend is 18.
He is currently living with me and my parents. We have been together for a year and two months. He's been living with me for almost 4 or 5 months.
Since he's moved in. I've noticed a change in the way I act with him. I'm not as affectionate. We rarely have sex. I get so irriated in everything he says or does. I'm not even sure why. The littlest things he does, just irriates me. We have little agruements, and than we will kiss and make up. Sometimes I am affectionate, and whatnot.
I just don't get it.
I like to have my space. But sometimes he just leans all up on me and it drives me crazy. Am I loosing feelings for him or something? Should I end it?
I really don't want too. I mean despite everything, I love him very much. When he's gone to work, I miss him.
Does this mean, I just like the thought of someone being there, or what? He thinks I only like the thought of having someone there, but I know I love him. I can't even think about losing him, or it hurts. Silly sounding, I know. But its true.
I'm just so stresed. I feel so guilty for even asking this question. Any advice on what I should do?
I also think, that one reason why I'm not that affectionate, is because I don't want to come off disrespectful to my parents. They don't like to see us all over each other; it was one of the rules when he moved in, along with sex, or he'd get kicked out.
I dunno. I'm just torn. (link)
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My boyfriend and I are the same way. We don't live together but we like our space. Most people feel as though if you're in a relationship you need to be with the person 24/7 which isn't at all true. Maybe you guys need to spend less time apart maybe join a club. It doesn't mean you don't love him but you like to have your space. I like to have my own space, doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend it just means I need 'me' time. Maybe make plans with friends. Suggest to him maybe he can get a hobbie or hang out with friends more. And then once a week have a date night in which you go see a movie or go get dinner. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
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I like this boy at my school and we have been bestfriends for 6years. When we got to the eighth grade I started liking him. But he already has a girlfriend but I think he kind of likes me too because when she is not around he starts to flirt with me. And then a teacher sees what I see and she said we make a better couple then him and his girlfriend do. So what should I do. We are both 13 but he doesn't want nobody to know his age but he told me instead of his girlfriend. (link)
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The fact that any guy flirts with a girl never means that he likes you. The guy may just be friendly. If he is with his girlfriend then it is best to leave him alone. He is happy and if he wasn't he would be with her. You guys have been best friends for 6 years, if you care about him that much than you need to let him be happy.
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Hi!
I'm 13 and I have my eye teeth missing due to removal and there's two big gaps where they should grow in. Does it make me unattractive to girls? I also have braces, and my smile looks stupid. Any help appreciated! (link)
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Looks aren't everything you know! It's who you are as a person and how you treat people. I don't understand the whole thing about looks because looks can fade. It's the personality that stays. I could be on a date with a jock who looks great but has a crumby attitude and a lame personality. Or I could go out with a regular guy who treats me well and can have a conversation and not look like Brad Pitt. It doesn't matter what a person looks like it matters who they are inside. And the fact that you are putting yourself down because you think your smile is stupid isn't helping you. Be confident in you, and don't worry what other people think.
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