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I like a Guy and I don't know what to do
Okay well i'm a 13/f and i'm in 7th grade and i was wondering how to tell a guy you like them w/o getting your feelings hurt? I have already went to a guy and told him through text messages straight up i like you and it was really awkward and now we barely talk especially bc i only have his number and hes a grade older in a different school. An I would also like to know if a guy likes me because (i warn you this may be long) one day i got called to the Guidance counselors office and we were almost about to switch classes and i walked down and the bell rang and the guy i liked brought my stuff to my next class for me without me telling him to. he just went up to me and asked what my next class was, and took it there.
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You know what I learned when growing up the only way you are going to find things out is if you ask. That's the only way to get an answer. And there is no way to ask without getting hurt. By asking or by stating you like someone is taking a risk and that's what we all do. Wouldn't you rather take a risk of asking and finding out then being silent and always wondering what if?
What's the worse he could say? No? It's not the end of the world, you had a life before he came along and your life will continue even afterwards. I had a lot of trouble when I was younger with rejection if I had a crush on a guy and he said no I didn't take it so well. I learned from it and I moved on. I realize that if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. The saying goes 'rejection is god's protection' meaning it wasn't suppose to happen for a reason. Another way of looking at it is that they are missing out of you, have a bit more confidence in yourself and know your worth. The best advice I can give you is to just tell him because by saying nothing at this point it's only hurting you. And so what if he doesn't talk to you anymore? That's his loss not yours. If he says 'no' then dust yourself off and move on to the next guy. There are plenty fish in the sea!
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The only way you can tell a guy you like him without getting your feelings hurt is by actually getting to know him and seeing how he reacts around you. You don't want to go up to a guy who barely knows you and tell him you like him; that may scare him away because you caught him off guard.
If there is a particular guy you like, focuse on him. Talk to him at school, build a friendship first. Exchange numbers, and than talk as friends.
Start to flirt with him, and if he flirts back than you can see yourself if he likes you or not.
Honestly though, there isn't a way to prevent yourself from getting rejected. It's just something you have to be prepared for no matter what. You'll never know, if you don't try.
As of the guy who took your stuff to your next class, I wouldn't think too much into it.
I've done it for plenty of guys before because I'm a nice person, and/or the teacher asked me to do it.
If you believe this situation is different and his intentions weren't those than I'd definietly try to grow a connection with him.
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