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abortion: I killed my baby and now I want to kill myself so I can be with my baby again! Someone please help me!
i had an abortion about 8 months ago an i wish i hadn't. i cry all the time because i want my baby but its too late. i have been thinking about killing myself so i can be with my baby but i dont know if i should. i just feel like a monster for doing it but im only 17 and my mom kinda forced me to get the abortion. i just want my baby back i cant keep feeling depressed all the time.
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Everyone else hasn't been where you have been, but I have. I got pregnant. I knew the instant I was pregnant, I got a test at 5 weeks. I called my boyfriend at the time the same week and he didn't say we could keep it. He assumed I would make the "smart" decision, I had school, a job, a career ahead of me. BUT I WANTED MY BABY. I WANTED HIM TO SAY TO ME THAT I SHOULD KEEP IT. I blamed him for a year -- WHY didn't he make me stop. WHY did I do it. Why did I kill my baby. In less than a week I KNEW she knew me, she understood my pain, she listened to me.
THE IMPORTANT THING IS -- you can't hurt yourself. SHE / HE would never want that. THEY STILL WANT THEIR PARENT. you WILL be that parent someday. A BETTER day when you can GIVE THEM everything they deserve. Sometimes good people are put in bad situations, tough situations, where the only way out seems to cut yourself down, but at the end of the day YOU HAVE TO KNOW that their spirit guided you. That you will give them life one day. Just not today.
WHO ever the father is, you have to put them behind you. you have to pray. you have to know, that your baby will come back -- pray every day, light a candle. Wish her spirit well and know that at the right time, the next time GOD GIVES YOU HER/HIM, you will be ready and able to GIVE them what they DESERVE.
All of that goes away if you do anything to yourself. you have made a pact w/ god. complete it by sending prayers and knowing that one day you will deliver your baby.
Many many hugs and emotions that no one can ever know if they havent made this choice.
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why you guys every time try to suicide, don't ever think about that if you kill yourself that's also bad only soul is yours this body belongs to your parents and god not to you and for abortion you don't have to worry because you are to young to give birth to a baby
just think if you had given birth to that child where were you gonna take that child and how were you gonna care of a baby
then child's future would be more worse than the abortion. don't worry
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My dear, clearly this abortion was not your fault, it is your mother who should feel bad for forcing you to do it instead of looking at the other options such as help if you decided to keep the baby or foster care or adoption if not.
I can imagine how hard it is for you if you believe that it makes you a monster but I doubt the baby was fully formed when you had the abortion, so try and think of it as cells if it helps.
It is unlikely that killing yourself will bring you back together with your baby, also you are very young, there is time for you to move on, find a good man to spend your life with and maybe have your own family without your mother's input.
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I came across your question while scrolling through past pages of advicenators and was drawn to try and respond tp you. I also had an abortion 28 years ago for medical reasons, the baby was badly deformed and would probably have died anyway.
Anyine who thinks abortion is an easy way out of pregnancy has never had to deal with the emotional roller-coaster that happens afterwards.
Even after all these years with a son of 26, I can still feel the pain of the loss like a raw burning inside. I know my husband feels the same way.At the time, I felt SO guilty, for a week before the abortion itself I knew what was coming. Could the baby sense my intentions?
This is no answer to your torment I know, but it does show that there is life after an abortion.
Would your baby want you to die? I don't think so, it would be such a waste of your life. Instead, live your life as well as you possibly can. An abortion should never be the death of two people.
Hope this helps, please let me know how you get on? Take care of yourself with some pampering and love.
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I'm sorry!
I don't know what you're going through I can only imagine how you feel. I believe things happen for a reason and we make choices for a reason. You said you are 17, you are young and you still have so much to do with your life. I know if you had that baby things wouldn't have been so easy. I understand however that you wish you did have the baby and that you regret the decision you made. I think the best way to handle this is to talk to a professional. I think you maybe experiencing depression which can happen when things like this happen. The best way to get through this to talk to someone who can help and point you in the right direction.
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You can't undo what has been done, and killing yourself is not a solution. This was a traumatic thing for you, so it is natural that it is very emotional for you. It's a good thing that you loved your baby, even though it hurts now. It's time to look ahead, though. Your unborn child is safe in God's hands. Learn from this experience and manage your life and relationships so that your next child will be born into a stable environment where he or she can be properly cared for and raised; one where you are old enough and mature enough to make the decisions about your child yourself (ideally, along with the child's father who would be your spouse and not some guy that shows up once in a while to play daddy).
You will get through this, and you can redeem this situation by making wise decisions in life and by being an awesome mother to your future children. In due time, if you have faith in God, you will get to see your unborn child and it will be all the sweeter.
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For starters, I am against abortion unless used for saving the mother or in other circumstances. I mean things happen, and abortion happened to be in your path.I have no idea how bad you must feel about all of this. Your baby is in heaven now, and that is where it belongs. Killing yourself won't bring your baby back. It is tough to lose a child of any age, but be strong. Don't cause yourself anymore harm. If you need help, talk to a trusted adult, friends, family etc. Please, this is not the soloution. Stay strong for your little angel. Best of luck!
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