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Is my relationship falling apart?
Hi, I'm 19/f and my boyfriend is 18.
He is currently living with me and my parents. We have been together for a year and two months. He's been living with me for almost 4 or 5 months.
Since he's moved in. I've noticed a change in the way I act with him. I'm not as affectionate. We rarely have sex. I get so irriated in everything he says or does. I'm not even sure why. The littlest things he does, just irriates me. We have little agruements, and than we will kiss and make up. Sometimes I am affectionate, and whatnot.
I just don't get it.
I like to have my space. But sometimes he just leans all up on me and it drives me crazy. Am I loosing feelings for him or something? Should I end it?
I really don't want too. I mean despite everything, I love him very much. When he's gone to work, I miss him.
Does this mean, I just like the thought of someone being there, or what? He thinks I only like the thought of having someone there, but I know I love him. I can't even think about losing him, or it hurts. Silly sounding, I know. But its true.
I'm just so stresed. I feel so guilty for even asking this question. Any advice on what I should do?
I also think, that one reason why I'm not that affectionate, is because I don't want to come off disrespectful to my parents. They don't like to see us all over each other; it was one of the rules when he moved in, along with sex, or he'd get kicked out.
I dunno. I'm just torn.
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You're probably both frustrated because your not used to spending that amount of time together, and need more time spent alone or doing other things. This is not necessarily related to how much you love each other. No matter how awesome your relationship is, if you are spending all of your time together it is going to be frustrating.
Talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling or how things are going. Perhaps you are not ready to move in together yet, or perhaps you need to plan on spending more time alone or doing other things.
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My boyfriend and I are the same way. We don't live together but we like our space. Most people feel as though if you're in a relationship you need to be with the person 24/7 which isn't at all true. Maybe you guys need to spend less time apart maybe join a club. It doesn't mean you don't love him but you like to have your space. I like to have my own space, doesn't mean I don't love my boyfriend it just means I need 'me' time. Maybe make plans with friends. Suggest to him maybe he can get a hobbie or hang out with friends more. And then once a week have a date night in which you go see a movie or go get dinner. I wouldn't worry about it too much.
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This happens to a lot of people in relationships when they spend too much time together.When you see someone everyday allday long, you don't get excited like you would if you hadn't seen them for a week or a couple of days. Everyone needs space and time apart, especially since ye are both so young to be living together already it puts extra stress on the relationship.
I don't think it means you love him any less, I think you are probably just too used to having him around the whole time. Ye need to set boundaries so that ye both get time apart and that will make ye're relationship stronger. If you spend too much time with anyone, boyfriend, best friend, family- anyone- you end up getting annoyed at them.
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