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I can't get him out of my head
This guy persued me and before that, I never thought of him in that way at all. After a while I began looking at him that way and now I've found myself always wanting to talk to him. He's gone off the grid a little and has been distant. Why is it that he out this idea into my head only to turn away? Now I'm stuck always thinking about him and it's driving me crazy. I just want to go back to how it was before and not see him that way anymore but I don't know how. Someone please help
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Be honest with him. Does he know you like him? That's the only way things will get done. The reason he is being distant is because he felt rejection from you which in turn made him walk away. He maybe be defensive because he doesn't want to get hurt or what have you. Talk to him about it and see. What's the worst he could say? Good luck!
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If you like that person, why not simply go and ask him out?
If you don't want to like that person, well,
1.STOP thinking about him: Whenever a thought pops up in your head about him, REPLACE that thought with something else. It can be anything positive.
2. Now Say to yourself that 'you are better than this and so you deserve much better!' Mantras REALLY work, trust me. If you say it aloud whenever a thought pops up about him, and repeat everytime the thought pops up, slowly you will start believing in it, and you will get over him!
3. Meet more people and open up your option window. Try joining a new class, gym, or anyhting you like. If you are in school, a class of a new discipline and interacting with more people will definitely work.
4. Involve yourlself in something else, something productive, like reading, or playing guitar, or listening to good music, some hobby, some sport or doing your homework/ some work that you like to do, so that you remain active and your mind busy.
5. Isolate yourslef from him completely. No texts, no calls, no catching up, no meeting him.
6. You are the guardian of your mind. You decide what thoughts will remain and what will not. You are the master, not your mind. Don't let it tell you what to do.
7. Stop that mental chatter in your head. It is not you but the mind talking, stop it, catch that one single thought about him and throw it out of your mind. If you don't one thought will lead to another, and you will not be able to get over him.
8. Practice meditation and breathing exercises. Yes, It works! It will help you gain calmness of mind, strength and mental discipline.
9. Find another crush ;)
10. Think about your dream guy and compare it to this guy. You don't want to settle for someone less than the best! Think about things you DO NOT like in this guy. Do you really want a guy who does not match your expectations? NO!
I hope you decide the right thing.
If you really like that person, I say go for it! Else, try the above tips!
Wish you the best in life :)
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