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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

Does Old Navy have their flip flops in right now?

No.. sorry.

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HI! :) im someone that asked you about my best friend likin two guys and how i thought one of them was hott but i didnt know what to do.but i found somethin out and wanted to kno what i should do noW!

Well last night my best friend called me and we talked for a bit...and i was like soo who do you liKe noW? and shes like i actually dont think i like anyone..and i was thinkin *YESSS* then i can like flirt with that one kid if i ever meet him..but the problem is how do i get her to ask him to hang out with us?! she is super shy! or just to be like yeah i want you to meet my friend..or my friend wants to meet you. because ive tried bringin up the subject like oh yeah you needa hang out with him (hoping id be there too) and then she just changed the subject tho or she just goes yeaa..so i dont know how i could get to meetin hiM! because we go to different schools so i couldnt try and meet him myself..and then like my friend has his s/n but then i dont wanna talk to him on there..so i was thinkin maybe one time i was over at my friends house she could talk to him on there for me or something? but what would she say! how do i bring up the subject with her about askin him to hang out. ahhhh! ANY SuGGESTIONS GORGEOUS?!

She is your best friend, so you shouldn't be afraid to ask her. I mean you just want to meet this guy and hopefully become friends with him and that's no big deal. Just be like heyy what's that one guy's ? screen name? He seems really nice & I wanna talk to him. Ask her with confidence. When you talk to him, just ask him to hang out. Don't be shy about it because he would be just like Okay?? You know what I mean? If you don't talk to him, bring up the subject about him. Say well I think that guy was really nice & I think we all should hang out since it would be fun. :D

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0MG - I just got STUPiD braces on yesterday -- and I have an over-bite. The thing is .. everytime I bite down i bite on the bottom braces ;; and it will not let me chew or bite down! I have been trying soft foods such as scrambled eggs, soup, etc. but that STiLL makes me have to bite down .. I even try to drink milkshakes, but I when I swallow, my teeth are sorta loose from the rubberbands, and it KiLLS! I cant EAT or DRiNK absolutely ANYTHiNG at all! nd' I can't talk good either, I have like a lisp! I can't stand this -- it makes me so depressed, and I am starving to death! I have to have them on for A YEAR AND A HALF! I'd rather be dead than starving, and in HORRiBLE pain! And not being able to bite down correctly for A YEAR AND A HALF! I can't stand it, I can't talk correctly, I can't eat/drink, and I caNT DO anything almost! MY LiFE SUCKS! :'( I cry EVERY NiGHT NOW! Do you know what I should do!? Since I cant eat, talk, or be comfortable! :'( :'( :'( UGH! i HATE ME!

Signed - STARViNG, DEPRESSED, VERY UNCOMFORTABLE!

Since you just got them on, it will hurt for a little while, not forever so don't worry. You will be able to eat, talk & be comftrable again. For now if you are super hungry, you need to eat something even if it hurts. Drink from a straw. It should help. Just let your mouth heal for now & then you won't be in that much pain.

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Mi friend jus gave me a hickey. She was suckin' on mi neck and kinda bittin' it, I wanted to give her one bacc, but I don't kno how to. Can someone please tell me, what do I need to kno about hickeys? Please Help

What you do is put your mouth against the side of their neck, in a kissing shape. You leave your mouth slightly open in the middle, like you're saying the letter "O". Now you suck in! You suck the skin into your mouth, in essence hurting it, and causing the blood vessels to break. This turns that circular area bright red. It doesn't take long, maybe 30 seconds.

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ok. i dont know how to make out. and i need help. dont try to pull off that, use your hand/or go with the flow crap. becuase i need to know what the flow is first. give me the full out instruction of this. i rate HIGH.

--lover939

I'll give you basic tips you need to know.

1. Brush your teeth, get a good bath, nicely groomed and clean and fresh, before meeting the other person. There's nothing worse than kissing the rear end of a garbage truck.

2. Get into a comfortable position - you can't kiss if your back feels like it's gonna break.

3. Hold your partner , firmly but gently - don't cause pain. Hold the shoulders, the neck or gently on the side of the face, one side or both sides.

4. Move your faces closer. Don't bump noses. Suggestion would be the guy angle his face slightly so you don't bump noses.

5. Kiss gently, normal closed lips kissing, and close your eyes. Closing your eyes increases the sensations you feel, and also sets the mood.

6. Continue kissing gently. Get comfortable with simple closed lips, lip-to-lip kissing before going anywhere else.

7. If fine till here, tentatively, slowly and lightly draw your tongue across the other person's lips.

8. Chances are from here, if the other person lightly parts their tongue, slowly explore the other person's tongue in a light licking motion.

9. The tongue has a very sensitive surface, which is why tongue to tongue is the essence of french kissing.

10. After you've tried lightly licking the other person's tongue, you can try sucking on it, wrestling with it. Lol

11. Explore the other areas of the mouth. Especially the roof of the mouth. Lightly lick, or tickle the area with your tongue.

12. Don't bite. whatever you do, don't bite.

13. Don't swing your tongue round and round like a windmill. Explore lightly, don't drill your way through.

14. Breathe through your nose.

15. Follow so far? You can lightly use your hands too, lightly rubbing the other person. Suggestions, along the waist, along the back, the arms, especially the inside of the arm, the neck, maybe running your fingers through their hair. Again, don't cause pain.

16. Continue kissing & have fun. :D

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when people say "freak in the sheets" does it only refer to girls or can it refer to boys too? thank u

Both.

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ok my girlfriend and i have been going out for 4 months and her dad never talks to me just gives me evil stares. i talked to my girlfreind about it and she says its because her sister was raped at the age of 14 and became pregnant. he doesnt trust me. is there anyway i can get him to trust me more?

After he had something like that happen, it will be hard for him to accept anyones trust. It might take a while and don't take it so personaly. If you were a dad, you would understand what he is going through. Just give it some time & let him get to know you better.

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hey i'm a guy. this girl i know is starting to scare me. we used to talk about everything and always have a blast, but a few months ago we started to talk less. i noticed she wasn't as active as she was before, and asked her about it. just as it seemed to be, she told me she was depressed and didn't like the kind of life she was living. she went on about all the bad things in her life with family, school, friends, herself, etc. i tried to point out good things to her, but she always came back at me with something to disprove it. after not talking for a week or so, she said she just wanted to end her life and to get away from everything. i didn't take this too serious at first, but lately she hasn't been eating, barely talks, and hasn't been looking too healthy. if she is thinking about suicide, what should i do? i asked her about it and she didn't want to talk. should i tell her parents? please help

You defenetlly need to tell someone. Her parents, counslor, your parents. She might be mad at you for doing that.. which she probablly will, but that doesn't matter. What she is going through is really bad and she shouldn't be doing that to herself. Life is too short to be depressed. You need to tell someone before it's too late. She needs help and in the future she will thank you for being a great friend. You're not telling someone because you want to, but you need to be a good friend and help her out even if it's against her will.

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ok well im 15 and im pretty tall maybe 5'8ish maybe a lil shorteR?!
anyways..
i havent weighed myself in awhile but im guessing i weigh about 120 pounds. i mean i feel FAT tho. i know im not but i always feel like i have to be working out or something..or like i shouldnt eat alot!! i feel really bad about doin this because i know im not fat! even people think i should gain weight but i dont want to - my stomach already seems to be gettin a lil chubbier but i dont know if its just me?!
ahhh im really messed up right now.. =[

I don't know exactly what you want me to help you with because you bascilly answered your own question. If you feel like you are normal then don't gain weight. If you exercise then that's fine too. It's good. Stay your size and if you feel like you need to do sit ups or whatever, do it for yourself.

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TeZA!
Okay.. soo my friend kinda likes this kid. but she also likes another kid too haha its kinda confusing. and like ive seen one of the guys she likes and he is super HOTT and seems really funny. and i wanna meet him but my friend is wayyy to shy and i dont wanna be like yeah lets hang out with him and she'll be like why? and i'll be like i dunno..i mean she knows i think he is cute! but she wont have the nerve to hang out with him. i dont wanna wait to meet this kid he is sucha cutie! and then i will feel bad if i do meet him that we will start to flirt or something or he will look at me (sorry i dont wanna sound like selfish or anything) but then IF he does do that what do i do? i would sooo wanna flirt back but then i dont want her to get mad..but ugh i dont want to wait for her forever to make a move you know? i dont even know if she would get mad! and i dont wanna ask her..like what if he flirts with me or something because i dont wanna sound conceited. well i hope you know where im coming from
xoxo

Sometimes when friends don't really want you to meet someone they like, they will make exuses. Sounds stupid and weird but it's true. Anyways, if she likes this guy she should make a move and try to talk to him because he won't always be available. If she is afraid to talk to him, you should. Just be friends with him and don't do anything that would make her jelous or mad because that would be just rude. If he flirts with you then fine. You can't do anything about that and if you seem to like him, oh well. ♥

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Am I good to go with a tampon and a thong?

Yes that's fine. You can wear it with a swim suit, anything really. :D

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What do people mean when they say "opposites attract"? Is this statement true?

It can be true. It just means when two different people are attracted to each other.

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ohk well in one of your things you said dont you 2 condoms but you can.. why not? i mean i would think that it would be better .. less risk of something going through.. just wondering lol

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What do you mean? It isn't better because it could break.

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hi um well i need help. im a girl age 15 and i weigh 100 and 5 pounds, i know that is not alot but im only 4,11. and i look very big not in my tummy area but my theighs. I wanna know how to lose weight and keep it off. i also need to grow! any ideas' people alwAys say _ _ _ _ _ _ _ you need to grow or they will look at me and say wow your short. i get really upset about this. i like being short but i want to grow a little bit! thank u

I hate being short & I'm 5'1. :( Lol anyways, there really isn't any way that you can grow taller. As you get older you probablly will, but for now you just have to get your proteins & calcium. That's what all the doctors say. Sorry though.. there isn't anything else.

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i wanna get bear share to download songs for my ipod does anyone know if it gives you viruses or anything?

I had it before & it gave me a virus. It goes slow & I don't think it's very good. Limewire or Ares are the best.

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aww your pretty.. i'ma gonna add you as my one of my favorite columnists!

Thanks babe. What's your column so I can add you back??

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hey Teza! how do you rip jeans? like ive tried before and it didnt work .. ( i probably wasnt doing it right ) ! thanks !

Google it. I never did it before but rip it and then take a knife or a razor and then scrach it where you want it.

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ohk well im a 15 year old girl and me and my boyfriend (if you can call him that) have been dating for a month.. were not really dating or friends were just sexual partners and thats all ok well i am a whore i lost my virginity at 11 and well me and my "boyf" had sex over 15 times since the first hook up and now im kinda into girls my bestf since 2nd grade had sex 56 times but now im ready to try something new.. i want a 3 some.. but im not sure how to bring up the subject.. i mean my boyf and me have had the best sex and so have me and my bestf and i know he will be up for anything (keep in mind my friend is very open i can usaully tell her ANYTHING!!)


A lot of guys enjoy 3 somes when there is 2 girls. Just bring up the subject. If you want you can pretend you are just kidding around & then when he says something or when he agrees say that you guys should do it. Then just talk to your friend. I don't think that would be a big deal. Have fun guys.

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ive been goin out with this kid for like 3 months, hes in love with the WVU mountaineers (college football team, incase you werent sure) - i dont wanna spend TOO much on him, so i was thinking of getting him a WVU fleece blanket, it looks really cute and its about $25. do you think that's a good gift, or no? there's really not much to get a guy! thanks for your advice!

Since you guys have been dating for only 3 months, that's a perfect gift. It;s the right amount of money & it seems like he would like it.

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what are 10 good SAD songs

Whiskey Lullaby
Skin
Here We Go Again
When I'm Gone
I'll Be
For You I Will
Everything
Fly Away
I'm Sprung
Photograph

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