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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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whats this song called a guy sings it
it goes sumthin like

"sumbody wants you
sumbody need you
sumbody's dreaming of you
sumbody's me"

Okay, I have a problem. I wanted to know what guys mean when they say I wont look down on you or anything if you dont have sex with me?

They wouldn't think of you any differently than what they do now if you chose not to sleep with them.

That's what it means & that's a good thing.

How do you have a catfight?
Like I understand its a lot of pushing and like "clawing" at them but what if you were like completely dominating them, like sitting on top of them...what would you do?
Like how do you win a catfight against someone who is easy to beat?

A catfight is retarded.

It's a bunch of scratching, pinching & bitchslapping. That's not a real fight. A real fight is punching, kicking & stomping.

Catfights are for babies.

So I have this terrible case of jewfro, and I want a change. What can I do with my curlies?

Either get it shaved/relaxed or cut it off.

hmmm, not sure what subject to put this under..
but if you're seventeen, dont have a drivers license,
how do you get in a movie that requires you to be seventeen?

The state can issue you an ID that will work.

what are some funny, random things to say? hah. thanks

If you're looking to be random, it'll come out wrong & seem as if you're trying too hard.

what would cause a drug test to come back positive? medication? alcohol? weed? tell me everything. and how long does it take for weed to get out of your system

This could've easily been Googled. Here, let me "help."

Ok, so, a few days ago, my boyfriend tried to finger me, but it didn't work, which is good, because I didn't really want it too. And like, he really wants to have sex, but I'm not ready. Well, apparently, he told people he fingered me and stuff. I feel like he's using me to be able to tell his friends "oh my god i did this with a chick!" or something. Like, lets say we had sex. What if he told people? They're already thinking Im a slut, which Im not. I'm like, really shy, and I don't "confront" people, I guess you could say. what do I do? It's killing me.

He's obviously the "get nowhere but lie & say you did anyways" type.

Dump him. He'll say a whole bunch of shit & ruin your rep. Slander is bad & will get you nowhere, darling.

is it true if you do the splits you'll grow taller??

No. It'll just make you more flexible & strong.

where and what kind of vocab book can i get to improve my vocab when writing and for the SAT?

preferably something I can get at places like waldenbooks.

I've never taken the SAT seeing as I'm a highschool dropout, but to be honest; a dictionary & a thesaurus will work you wonders.

do you think it's too fast to be past second base after 3rd week of going out?

This really isn't something you should be asking us.

Everyone here will have a different opinion. Some will tell you no; & others like me will tell you yes. Three weeks isn't that long to be going out with someone & you shouldn't even be fingering/giving each other handjobs yet. Wait at least another month or two before that. And if you're thinking about oral after 3 weeks, then it's obvious you need to slow down or that relationship will go nowhere.

Honestly though, you're asking us so you're obviously not ready. So, your answer is yes it is & no you shouldn't go past 1st base. [I know you said 2nd, but you shouldn't be going past 1st.]

A guy I really like lives in a different province but im absolutely in love with him.
Should I try a long distance relationship or should I wait until he moves down here?

thanks
megan

It all depends. You never said when he's moving down to where you live, so I don't know what to tell you.

If he's moving down in less than 6 months, I'd try to wait it out for when he gets there; but if he's not coming for a while, a long distance relationship might be best.

Okay, so I need 2 costumes or 1 costume, depending on what you think will work.

At our school orchestra, we always have a Fall Festival Concert, which includes little kid games like cake walk and face painting and etc. This year, we decided that we'd do a "Haunted Strings Room" for the little kids. Morgan will make up a story line and someone will guide the little kids through the room that will be separated by large pieces of papers and tables and etc. In the process, we're going to have some strings kids jump out at the little kids to give them a little scare.

Well, I'm planning to be part of it but I don't know what scary-kid friendly thing I can wear. I really don't want to buy a costume because they're expensive and useless, seeing that I can't even go trick or treating anymore because I'm too old (15yrs old...our neighborhood says no one above age 12 can go trick or treating for safety reasons) Any suggestions? I have 2 black dresses & 1 red dress I wore to homecoming. Maybe I can wear one of the black dresses with ripped stockings and pretend to be a zombie lady or something. & I have this witch costume for long ago but it looks really crappy and childish for a 15yr old. I just basically need something to wear for the "haunted strings room" thing. And I could wear that while we're performing or I can change into something else quickly if you guys have good suggestions.

Bottom line--I need a costume I can construct out of the clothes and accessories I already have at home. . .or some cheap things I can buy for the "haunted strings room" & if possible, a 2nd one for the performances.

And I have already thought about wearing PJs...like I did last year. ..

I honestly think you should wear the witch costume. You said it looks childish - well isn't that what you're going for? Children don't need sexy costumes in their life, so be childish this Halloween. It's for kids, you need to be friendly & that costume will do just right.

My boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a month. We never have anything to talk about. It feels weird. Hes in 6 of my classes plus lunch.I need stuff to talk about.

please help me!!
stuck in a conversation

Talk about:

- School.
- Friends.
- Family.
- Music.
- Movies.
- TV Shows.
- Hobbies.
- Likes.
- Dislikes.

Anything is a topic.

you see I've always been able to fit in because im just one of those girls whose cool with everyone but thats because whoever im hangin out with at the tiem I become like that group, like i'll be hangin with the preps and ill catch myself say 'like omg' ALL THE TIME! and whenim with the blondes I become one of the dumb blondes like falling over the floor, and you know just acting stupid!
and when im by myself its like im not even there cause there's now one there for me to be like so im stuck being me, which is nothin, im all quiet smile and laugh never, and im just just empty! its like im an empty vessel who changes for the people around me, and i dont get to think of what i want to do because ive never gotten that option before in my lfe so i dont know who i really am. and ive tried finding out who i want to be or who i really am and ive been unsuccessful, its like im just someone whose there to do what everyone expects me to do!!!

does anyone know whats going on with me, adn why I cant seem to find the true me?

Usually when you do that, you're a follower & you're kind of fake. You don't think for yourself because you're too busy falling into the stereotypes others have placed on a certain group. When you hang with blondes, you act stupid. When you hang with preps, you act stuck up. When you hang with the puerto ricans, you catch yourself talking spanish.

Whatever group you may be, you need to stop falling into it. It's a plot to catch you in the act & make you look dumb. You need to spend time alone & find out who you really are. Once you figure that out, you won't act like someone you're not no matter who you hang out with. You'll be able to hang out freely without blending in & becoming one of them. You'll stand out.

I found this awesome site for perfume, and they have they best scents like milk chocolate, and cotton candy, marshmallow, pink lemonade... and the list goes on! but im usual not a perfume buyer so I dont know when somethings a good price and when somethings not! they have some EDP perfume roll-on 10ml for like 6.99, and some perfume oil roll-ons .3oz for like 7.75, and some silky body mist 4oz for like 7.00, and dry oil perfume 1oz for like 7.95! I have no idea if any of these are good buys or if there not can anyone help me out?!?

A 4oz is pretty small to pay for $7.00, but if you like it, price shouldn't matter. I usually pay $8.00 a bottle for Love Spell, but it's worth it.

Honestly, it's not that bad of a deal; but it's really not that great either.

Well my guy friend lets name him Tim well i asked Tim if he had any secrets and he said yes and he told me he wanted to tell me face to face on Saturday and i did the whole no tell me now blah he told my friend aswell i'll tell you the convo's with me and him and me and my friend lets call her sara

Me-give me a clue
Tim-Nop cause you'll know right away
Me-Is it funny ?
Tim-I hope not cause then i'll get embarrassed lol
Me-Arghh ! Saturday !

Now me and my other friend
Lily-Hii Tim is so hott YUMM ! he's perfect would you ever go out with him
Me-I duno
Lily-What would you say if he asked you out
Me-Yeh i guess
anyone havea clue on the secret xS

Probably that he's gonna tell you he likes you and ask you out.

He honestly has nothing to be embarassed over.

how do you delete your account here?

Email DangerNerd at dangernerd@gmail.com, I believe, and then you tell him you want your account deleted & he'll do that for you.

how would you know that your jeans are a perfect fit?

because im always buying jeans that are too baggy at my butt, and thigh. and i like it tight but when i tried them on at the store they seemed pretty tight.

and im not the whole "rock, boho fashiony typa chick" i dress in like bebe, a&f, aero, rocawear, babyphat stuff.

They shouldn't be too tight on your waist or your thighs. They need to be breathable & there should be no fat hanging over the top or sides of your jeans. You should be able to move in them easily, but comfortably as well.

Okay i have a question about this boy named Adam who i might like whos mad at me and everything.
Well.. okay theres a bon fire saturday at the feild and My X is going to be there and SO IS ADAM and my X is going out with 1 of my BFF's/ which isnt the strangest part she's telling me things things he told me... personly private things he said he never tld anyone else. What and im saposed to say hes macing on u dont believe a word he says!!! omfg what kind of friend would i be????
Shes never had real luck with guys shes complacated.
everyone wants me at the feild. how am i gunna explain i cant bare see Josh and Adam at the same place. at once. in the same feild OHH it sounds worse aloud.
HELP MEEEEE

You don't really have a question...

If you don't wanna go, then don't go. Who cares if people want you there? There's no need for you to be uncomfortable.

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