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my friend gave a blowjob to one of her good old friend and she has a boyfriend. He kinda of pressured her into doing it and she wasnt going to. She really regrets and feels bad. What should she do?

I hate that DOWN LOW SHI* - She wasn't worried about it when she did it, and so NOW, she has to UNDO it, seriously or her conscious is going to eat her up-

She must tell her boyfriend, because it's going to get out- it is best to be big enough to admit wrong, and deal with it. Ask her boyfriend for forgiveness and tell him that she will never dog him again.

I am going to suggest that she learn to respect herself more too. The guy that she did that too has NO respect for her at all, he didn't respect her to even ask her or pressure her to do it, and he has less than that now that she did it. Tell her that she has to be stronger and not let some knuckle head boy get into her head which means she needs to work on her mind level.. real talk.

She and her boyfriend may break up but if they do, then that's the risk she took by doing this. If they are tighter than that, then he will understand and forgive her -I wouldn't count on it. But its best that she tell him so that he can respect her honesty. not telling him is being more deceitful on top of manipulative. I hope that they both realize that they have some work to do on their relationship and had work to do before she did that since she was able to go on and do that not wanting to do it. ALSO there is a difference is pressure and force.

this is going to sound crazy.. but when i'm laying down about to fall asleep. all of a sudden i cant move and i feel vibration in the upper part of me body, like a spirit is entering my body. when it enters i hear loud music.. like the kind i listen to. all of a sudden the music will stop and i hear someone say a quote in my ear. when that is over .. it goes back to the vibration in my upper body! like the spirit (or something?) is leaving my body now! last night when that was happening i tried to move and i felt the vibration coming back. i know this ca n not just be a bad dream being i feel this happening to me.(this is probably the 4th time). it does not let me move but i am still awake.
when someone else is in the room and i am sleeping, this does not happen.
i do believe in god i am a Christian. but i do not attend church.
does anyone have any idea at all, as to what this is happening to me. its really scary..

Please send me an email to sophia_pettus@yahoo.com
I will tell you what is going on and also help you to ensure that it stops.

There are some very wise people are this site, and some who don't even believe in God or Spirits - with that being said, I am not going to answer on this page for them to read and ATTEMPT to judge, criticize or say ignorant things due to their lack of knowledge in the area.
Should someone advise you that you are lying, or that this doesn't exist, please disregard their response and don't even continue reading it. and NO YOU ARE NOT crazy! please send the email to my yahoo address and we will take it from there.

Hey im 17/f my dad signed over his rights when i was about 2 years old. Then i had my moms husband adopt me, but its a long story. But anyways the last time i talked to my dad was when i was about 6. I want to send him a letter letting him know a little bit of stuff about me. But im not really sure exactly what to say or write. He's been in and out of jail a couple times but i think he cleaned up his act. I just need to know what to write in a letter. Please and thank u

Your dad most likely signed over his rights b/c he wanted you to have a better life than that in which he could provide at that time.

I am sure that you have had dreams about your dad in his absence. I am sure you wonder what type of person he is now, what his likes and his dislikes are too. Tell him what all you have accomplished in your life, what your goals are, what you like and dislike. Tell him about the dreams you have, if any. Tell him about your hobbies, or if you play sports or any instruments. Ask him questions that you want to know about him. Try not to be judgemental when writing him, such as drilling him or asking questions about why he signed over his rights, BECAUSE if he gets your letter and writes you back, he is going to tell you that on his own. Stay positive in your letter.

Hope this helps. I commend you for having the desire to write your dad.

so i told this guy who was crazy about me that we should be just friends. and i said in a VERY nice way. he said he was cool with it. i didnt feel like we were clicking as more then friends, you know? but later that day, i could tell he was not happy about my decision, and he was really bummed. now i feel really bad. and i cant keep my mind off of him. what the heck does this mean?
do i like him? or is this a normal thing to do?

You had a reason for telling him that you just wanted to be friends. Decipher if the reason you told him is still true or not. If you have had some time to determine that this wasn't what you wanted, tell him. ONLY if it is what YOU want. Don't change what you said initially ONLY because he seems bummed out.

You are feeling guilty as a result of hurting someone's feelings. Is it normal? Yeah, it's normal to feel bad for hurting someone's feelings only if you are a good person, and you seem to be a good person, which is why he was most likely crazy about you and he still is. If you want to date him because of your interest then talk to him., If you don't want to be more than friends, stick to your guns with what you said at first. Don't go inviting him out and all that if he has feeling for you that you don't have - until he can accept that you guys are going to be FRIENDS only - because you don't want to lead him on which would only cause him MORE hurt later on.

Good Luck in making your final decision, be sure to make a decision that jives with your desires and wants...

What should i do if a guy is obsessed with me?

When a guy is obsessed it can become dangerous, seriously. I hope he isn't stalking you and if he isn't stalking you, he could begin.

Tell him straight up that you don't like it, tell him why you don't like it and tell him that if he doesn't back off and leave you alone that you will seek legal action against him. Once you tell him, do tell someone close about his obsession so someone is aware of it.

It doesn't matter if you like it or not, it is still dangerous and must be handled carefully and cautiously.

Perhaps some of you have been in this situation. What is your opinion on how best to deal with friends who rarely make time to nuture the friendship? Sometimes it seems so one sided with me putting in the most effort. I have always been there for her through life's ups and downs, but when I am down, or when I simply want to get together it feels as if I am bothering her. This is a 30+ year friendship and there have been times when I just quit making contact because I was frustrated. I am about at that point again, but maybe I am in the wrong and should just keep trying, and inviting and calling etc. I tend to get dissapointed though because I look forward to getting together and usually she declines.

I have a best friend of who I have been best friends with for over 21 years. You have a 30 year friendship. I am going to be honest with you. I get tired of my best friend sometimes. Seriously. I have 3 teenagers, she has 1. I am an accountant, Office Manager. She is a housewife. I am tired, she isn't tired at all. Sometimes, I don't want to be bothered. I get tired of talking on the phone EVERYDAY. It's nothing about selfishness, or frustrations - it's about what you said "being an ADULT". We can't hang out like we used to. We are all getting older.

If I were you, I would be upfront - ask her. Simply ask, does she need some space? Is she going through something and is keeping to herself because of it? Are you getting on her nerves? I tell my bestfriend at any given point in time - "I am tired, I don't want to be bothered - Don't call me for about a week unless something is wrong - and she respects it, and she tells me too and I respect her when she does. A friendship is a relationship!

I have learned that sometimes, differences in lifestyles come in between friendships as you mature just as it does a husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I have actually had to cut some friends off b/c of it. It's all about having the same thing in common. I had a friend who wanted to go out to the club ALL the time, I didn't want to and it wasn't me - It was causing me to be someone I really wasn't. Our conversation was juvenile to me - so I cut that friendship off. We had been friends for 12 years.

I had another friend that was a straight up bum. She didn't want to work, she had 4 kids, she lived on welfare with no ambition to do better in her life, but I wanted things out of life and saw that she had no respect for the fact that I wanted to work, attend college, get out of the hood, etc. So, I had to cut that friendship off. We were friends for 15 years. I wasn't the same person I used to be. I matured she chose to stay in the same situation she was in and cry about it but do nothing about it, even with me reaching out my hand to help her and encourage her. If you are all going through something as of this nature - meaning differences with nothing in common, maybe she is cutting off the friendship silently. So, upon talking to her sit back and do some REAL Analyzation to this friendship. Is it worth it? Are you happy or left feeling stupid and used? What are you getting out of it? Is she there for you or you only there for her? you kind of hit on this in your ? - but reach deeper when you think of this. What do you have in common? Maybe it's time to move on and close that chapter yourself, as it seems your friend may be doing.

We have to also search our souls with soul mates, relationships and friendships too. Hope this sheds some light to help you as you open the corners of your mind and think...

How can you Love Yourself....but NOT be conceited?

Loving self and conceited are two different definitions all together. The differences are internal and external.

To love yourself is to cherish, respect, honor, appreciate, encourage, challenge, motivate, succeed, push yourself to the limits.. POSITIVE THINGS. Making sure that you look good to feel good internally about self is not being conceited,it's loving yourself. Not giving a D about anything or anyone else but how you look is conceited.

Thinking that no one in this world looks better than you is conceited and it's vain. Loving yourself is a beautiful thing but praising yourself is conceited.

I have added some links to show you how to love yourself- check em' out.. It's very interesting and upon doing this, you will see the difference in loving self and not being conceited.

http://www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself
http://www.kalimunro.com/tips_self-love.html

Hope this helps

someone on here said that i should send a thank you card to follow up with my job application. i really like the idea. i was wondering if many people do this because i have never heard of it. also i'm not exactly sure what to write. help? thanks.

Thank you cards are sent once you have had the interview. If you have only completed the application and had a phone interview, don't send a card. Below is a web link explaining the process, reason and examples of a thank you note for employment purposes. I hope this helps.

Good Luck in your job search!

http://jobsearch.about.com/cs/thankyouletters/qt/thankyou.htm

Lately my boyfriend has been really busy, which is a huge 360, because I was always the busy one. Now, I'M the one who has nothing to do and always wants to hang out, but he's always working.

Then, when he has a day off, he'll call me and we make plans, but when that day finally comes, he's sleeping in. I understand he's tired, but I'm tired too. I'm tired of the false promises he's making me and I can only put up with so much.

I call him up while I'm upset and flustered (I'm only human and I have the right to be), then he'll say something on the lines of, "See, this is why I don't want to hang out with you, because this is how you act."

I thought he'd be more understanding because he used to be in my position, but now, it's like he's taking advantage of it. I'm the only one who's being understanding because I keep taking his crap. I'm so tired of getting my hopes up and being letdown.

Now, he made plans with me again to hang out on his day off, and I don't know how to respond.

I want to decline because I feel like he doesn't deserve me, that I'm not some lightswitch he can turn on and off as he pleases, and that I've had it. I don't want to give him what he wants.

On the other hand, why should I be so spiteful? Because in the end, that's what I wanted.. to spend time with him, and I'm gonna pass it up? But I don't want to give in. Like I said, I don't wanna play on his terms and play whenever it's "convenient" for him.

What should I do about this? Any thoughts or help would be appreciated.

Girl, I feel you. First of all here's what's up.

You are right, you don't want him to think that you are going to be there at his beckoning call. You know he works, you understand that, but part of being in a relationship is making sacrifices (both of you). Don't beg him for jack. If you have no other friends, get some, start hanging with other people. If he is sleeping or seeing someone else while claiming to be sleep, that's on him, respect him and allow him to do his thing now do your own thing and see what happens, either he is going to get it together and spend more time with you or you will find other interest while not sitting at home looking crazy waiting on him.

If he asked you to do something, agree as plan A, but always have a plan B incase he backs out on you again and don't say anything about either. I don't know why we as women think we have to call a man out on his wrongs, or when we feel neglected BECAUSE THEY ALREADY KNOW BEFORE HAND. It's good to voice how you feel once or maybe even twice but to continue having the same conversation becomes cumbersome and worrisome which makes him say the things you said he said in your question, right? RIGHT! girl I was on here asking the same question to some extent), and then I woke up and realized that you know what? I am going to do me, and he can do him and we are much better now. For real. I started hanging out without him, and when I was out, and he would call, I'd tell him I am out with friends and would return his call at MY earliest convenience. You are not being spiteful, you want to be fair in it. I feel you. DON'T play when it's convenient for him, or yourself- hell, don't play at all, be real and up front and MAKE YOUR TIME CONVENIENT FOR YOU, and if it doesn't consist of sitting around, sleeping all the time, then it just doesn't. that's straight to the gate baby with no games.

Good Luck and you are right, not spiteful!

I got my period almost a YEAR AGO! But i can't seem to tell my mom about it! Shes always really weird about this stuff, almost as if shes mad about it. When i first started shaving, i didn't tell my mom (just like all my friends) then she found out and like started yelling at me! She said stuff like "why didn't you tell me, your to young to need to do that." Then she told my grandmother when we were walking down the street by wispering it to her. I heard because she said it kind of loud. So when i got my period it thought she is going to tell my grandmother, and oh shes going to keep talking to me about it just like she did with the shaving thing. So now every time i get it, i work up the courage to tell her and then i can't. So how do i tell her????????????

Tell her before she finds out and gets mad b/c you didn't tell her, not because you came on girl! You can not hide a period from a mother, OK? I have a daughter and am still my mom's daughter. "smile" It's Okay - it's a part of life and she knows this, she herself has or had one- she knows what's up? I was disappointed when my daughter came on too - not at the fact that she came on but at the fact that she was growing up too fast and I wasn't ready for it. seriously, but I had to accept it and so will your mom.

Sit her down and say mom, we need to talk about something. First I want you to know that I do understand what's going on and why it's going on and I am going to need your help, and support for some of things that I may not know about it, she is going to say what? and you say, I started my period, do you have any advice on handling the cramps? Your mom needs to still feel needed. You are at the age now that you are more independent now, and it hurts to know your child is growing up and will not need to cling on to mom as much. So, ask her for some help or advice on handling your period -even if you know the deal with it.

good luck!

my sister is having a problem, she came and moved down here to chicago with me and my mom from greenbay with her dad and she never really got told she was pretty and to me shes the pretty's girl ever and i always tell her that and so does alot of other people espesclly the boys, she dosent belive nobody though how can get her to belive that she beautiful

make her a card or buy her a card with meaningful saying inside of it and write her a little note telling her that she is beautiful on the inside and out - put the note in the card & tell her the card is a "just because she's your sister card".

It is important that she knows that beauty is from the inside and reflects on the outside. If she is really pretty, she already knows it and doesn't want to seem stuck up or conceited, could also be a fact too. If a girl is pretty and boys notice it, most of them will say something to her directly if not through a friend or sister. So, she is getting the compliments, so it's not a self esteem issue for her. Give her the card, it will provide a lil' extra attention!

Good Luck

Well lately i've been getting kind of mean toward my bf who i really do care about. but i dont know whats wrong with me! what are some good exercises to help me space myself from him so that he doesnt push himself away from me?

First of all determine WHY you are being mean to him? I am reading two things that stand out to me in your question.

The first is that you have mood swings - if it's b/c of something you can change, then change it. If it's b/c of something you can't change because you are bi-polar or need medication, go to the doctor and get the medicine needed. St. Johns Wort is also a type of suppliment or vitamin that will help with the different moods and being mean.

The second thing I noticed is that you are asking for advice to space yourself from him, so that he doesn't push himself away from me. Are you being mean because you are tired of him? Are you tired of your relationship and feel suffocated, like you need space? Distancing yourself could also push him away, just as being mean to him for no reason. So, what's really up with you? If you need some space, let him know that up front verbally. If you don't want space but want to be a little nicer, start relaxing more. If you can't control your ways then seek help to determine what's unbalanced to cause you to be mean. Are you mean to him only or are you just mean? that plays a fact also in this.

feel free to email me if you need more information or want to give me more information in order to get more information because there are things being left out of the question which makes me feel like my answer is incomplete.
sophia_pettus@yahoo.com

So heres the story i like this guy and he's completly amazing.[[thats the only way to decribe him]] but my problem or shall i say problems are one of my realli good friends likes him to, only she talks about him like she only wants him like in a sexual way. Other problems are he just got out of a relationship. he only dated her for like 2 months and she broke up with him for another guy and was a witch about it but hes still upset.
Anyway back to my friend she says she likes him more than just cause hes hot but it really doesnt seem like it to me. And he kinda acts like he likes me, such as he always wants to keep talking to me and wants to hangout and flirts with me alott. Thenn i found out my friend made-out with him so im super confused and i dont no if i should just forget about it or what....?

any advise?

First talk to your friend about this, to see where they stand and how she would feel if you tried getting with him, if he's interested in you and you in him. Regardless Never let a guy come in between a friendship and honestly, it seems a volcano waiting to erupt once you act on it, even if she says it's cool. It's about principality. Some people who will advise to you on this site, will view differently - trust me, but it depends on moral, ethic and principal. I DO NOT want ANY of my friends' left overs.

Don't set yourself up to be a rebound chic especially if he just got out of a relationship and was upset about it.

Good Luck in your decision. If it were me deciding I would forget it to prevent regretting it later.

15/f. So I have this friend, and previously shes been abused by her dad. Now this was a long time ago but i dont know what is happening right now. But lately I've been worried, she told my other friend (us two are the only ones who know about the situation with her dad), that she has thought about suicide before.

Now I know this sounds really mean, but I wasn't too worried before, because this friend likes to make people feel bad for her, and she usually exaggerates things a bit. And I know that is a terrible excuse but now I am starting to get really worried. What should I do? If I were to tell anyone who would I tell and how would I go about doing it? Should I tell a councilor or policeman or write a letter?

Any advice is helpful, thanks.

I hate to hear that your friend is being abused - being that she has told you this, she is asking you for intervention and help b/c she is afraid to get it for herself. Does her mother know what is going on and is her mother around?

Abuse is one hell of a thing, TRUST me-I know first hand and I KNOW what it is to NOT be taken seriously and I also know what it is to want to commit suicide because of it-

First, telling the police may not go to far, there is no evidence and my experience with the police first hand did NOTHING AT ALL, but start up a bunch of BS in the lil' country community, I lived in. So, I am advising you to contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD

I encourage you also go on line and read up on what to expect when placing this call and to gain more helpful information- I have posted the website address
thewww.childhelp.org/get_help

Before you do this, ask your friend to talk to you and tell you the TRUTH STRAIGHT UP b/c you are concerned, and tell her UP FRONT what it is that you are going to do b/c you love and care for her. If she objects to this, call them anyway and let her know that you are calling anyway so that she isn't abused anymore, and seeks the help that she needs.

i dont know where to begin or how to begin,
id say im bisexual. but i dont think i totally am
like the full on i like girls thing
but i have this bestfriend, and we've been
through a lot together, and i think i like her.
like, like like her. but then i know im not
totally gay because i have a crush
on this guy. i've known my bestfriend for about
2 years now, we hang out just about everyday!!
and we do just about everything together.
i've been so confused, and i dont want to tell
her because shes always saying how shes not bi
and what not, we talk about it too ( the whole i know im not bi or gay thing ). and i say
the same thing, buh then again she could be doing
what im doing. so i dont know how to find out
the truth without letting her know i like her...

Wow.. Well, first of all: There is a difference in actually being bi-sexual and bi-curious. At this time, you are bi-curious, until you have actually experienced a girl/girl relationship and decided if it is for you or if it's not for you. If it is for you, then yes you are bi-sexual. It is also based on when you felt an attraction for the same sex. If you felt it at a young age, then it is also possible. If you didn't and you just felt it while hanging with your friend, you are curious.

Secondly: You are correct, your friend could be playing it off b/c she may also be bi-curious OR based on the signals you are sending her she could be telling you in advance that she is not bi-sexual or gay and has no desires or interest in being with a girl.

I honestly think that ALL girls/ladies/women have been curious at one point, as to what bi-sexuality and gay life is really about. Most deny it b/c of the way society has outcast the preference in the past;however, it is much more discussed, and shown in public, even on tv now than it was back in the day - which also causes curiosity. Honestly, the only thing that you can do is tell her what you are feeling and be sure to let her know that you respect her opinion and feelings she isn't curious. OR you can keep your feelings and just tell her that you are bi-curious and see if she has any curiosities too.

If she expresses that she doesn't then don't tell her how you feel about her and keep those feelings to yourself for your own safety. Either way, be prepared in case she shuns you because you told her you are bi-curious or have feelings for her. If she is really a true friend and your best friend, honesty shouldn't come into play in damaging the friendship.

Good Luck

uhm,
the first two are girls......

i mean like.
#1.
she has a boyfriend,
and he's like.
my best friend.
even before i knew they were dating.
and she was going out with him before i even met her.
&&we both fell for eachother.
and he knows.

#2,
she's a girl.
and she doesn't know i like her
and she's in total deep like with someone.

A couple of things - He is your best friend, right and you don't want anything to come in between that. Friends are hard to find. If he was only like an associate then so what, tell her how you feel but since he is your best friend, it could start some mess.

You said you both fell for eachother (you and him) or (you and her). that part kind of confuses me a little bit.

Send me an email to sophia_pettus@yahoo.com and tell me the whole story and then we can take it from there so that we can get to the bottom of every thing together.

hey i like this boy who is 16. does he likes me. he calls me , he talks to me on the computer. he texts my cell. it doesnt seem he does. he told me he likes me a lil...he wanted me to go to the powerhouse with him but my dad is not letting me go. i told him that and all he said was ok.. but i want to know does he like me ..... i will be on aol if u want to talk...bbj394 is my sn... please help and i will rate u

like - there are different types of like. He could like you as a friend, he could like you as more. I will say that his communications are a form of some type of like combined with interest or he flat out wouldn't bother communicating with you.

Now, to get to the facts of the type of like he has, ask him. Do you like him? email me and let's figure out what's really going on.

sophia_pettus@yahoo.com

I have been extremely stressed lately and it doesn't seem like i have a good way of dealing with it. i have finals, homework, deaths, friends, work, and so much more. i just seem to have a way to balance it and i know i have to otherwise i'm screwed at the end of the year.

Understood!

First before balance can be acheived, it takes prioritizing. You already know what you have to balance, now get a tablet list these things and number them according to what's precident according to your life's goals. Now, identify things that you have control of and things you have NO control of and take it from there and it will all seem so much clearer. Once you have accomplished step one, relax and then jump in and start getting things done according to what you came up with in writing. Also, determine if there are some things that don't really apply to you. Cut those off and keep what pertains to YOU.

Now, try looking at the paper and determining a time frame of handling each thing you need to get done (time management), as soon as you accomplish one thing- reward yourself and move on to the next thing. Hope this helps.. if not and you want more specifics - email me sophia_pettus@yahoo.com or hit me up in the inbox. "I got your back"

well. f/13. and i'm totally confused.
i like three people,
well, i'm pretty sure i do.
like.
one of them, i know i like, actually i love them.
but said person, lets call them E.
well. E is dating someone.
and that someone knows i like E
and that person is cool with it.

well.
onto the next person.
i kinda like that person
but.
i don't knwo
i don't wanna tell that person
because then when we hang out,
it would be wierd
and i don't want that
but i'm pretty sure i like them.

and then there's the loser.
i've liked him for a longgg time
we've gone out a couple of times.
and be through alot together
but i'm starting to hate him.
but there's something about him
that i just can't resist.
ilove him.
and that's just the end of it.

WHAT DO I DO?????

Take your time and be selective. You are 13 and you have plenty of time. Right now you are confused because you are experiencing so many different emotions and other things involved with your age.

The first guy has someone, so count him out. He isn't capable of having a relationship with you while he is seeing someone and if he did dog her with you, he'd also be considered a loser so, don't even mix with that mess- cause, that's what it is, simply mess.

The Second Guy- seems like a cool friend. Lesson: if you are going to like anyone or try having some type of relationship deeper than friendship -it's best to always have that with someone who was a friend first. If you wanna know why, email me at sophia_pettus@yahoo.com and I will tell you why.

The Third person - you called him a loser yourself. So, what is the point in dealing with some loser who you already KNOW is a loser? Only you know why he is a loser, but I will say this - Leopards don't change their spots - if he is a loser now, he will be a loser later. Also, if he is a loser then he knows that there is something about him that you can't resist which gives him the opportunity to take advantage of you and not appreciate you as you should be appreciate because he knows you can't resist as you tell yourself but guess what? you are stronger than that and can resist a loser so that you aren't the one who loses in the end. You feel me?

Good Luck Miss Lady and work that thing out with yourself first to determine what you want, how you want it and from who you want it from. Again, be careful, caution and always be a lady!

good luck

A couple months ago, I kissed this guy that I liked at a little hang out place.And the rest of the night, he didn't talk to me.I thought it was verryy rude of him to do that.Now he WANTED to kiss me!!I had no idea he was going to ask me to kiss him.No one saw us kissing so we had no proof except for the two of us.I only saw him twice after the kiss.Like two weeks later, people came up to me and said that i didn't kiss him[they found out from the one person I told].I knew that I wasn't lying because I remember the whole deal of him asking and us kissing.Was that wrong or was he just being shy of who he kissed??

Never kiss and tell..

I don't think he's ashamed of who he kissed, I just think that he may feel that your business and his business are you 2's business only and no one else's which is true.

You would be surprised at how people talk, even those sworn to secrecy and besides you don't want any lies or reputatation to get started over a kiss- they start over the smallest things and turn into huge giants. Don't trip on that or worry about that -let it go. & So what if people are telling saying you didn't kiss him. You know the truth right? and he knows the truth right? So forget what everyone else has to say, you have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself.

Hope this helped a little.

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