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what to talk about with my dad
Hey im 17/f my dad signed over his rights when i was about 2 years old. Then i had my moms husband adopt me, but its a long story. But anyways the last time i talked to my dad was when i was about 6. I want to send him a letter letting him know a little bit of stuff about me. But im not really sure exactly what to say or write. He's been in and out of jail a couple times but i think he cleaned up his act. I just need to know what to write in a letter. Please and thank u
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Your dad most likely signed over his rights b/c he wanted you to have a better life than that in which he could provide at that time.
I am sure that you have had dreams about your dad in his absence. I am sure you wonder what type of person he is now, what his likes and his dislikes are too. Tell him what all you have accomplished in your life, what your goals are, what you like and dislike. Tell him about the dreams you have, if any. Tell him about your hobbies, or if you play sports or any instruments. Ask him questions that you want to know about him. Try not to be judgemental when writing him, such as drilling him or asking questions about why he signed over his rights, BECAUSE if he gets your letter and writes you back, he is going to tell you that on his own. Stay positive in your letter.
Hope this helps. I commend you for having the desire to write your dad.
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He might have seen that as the best choice for you and him at the time, for ‘many’ different reasons. Go ahead and find out who he is. Just be careful, don’t get to involved to quick. You are 17, so you are who you are, but still a little sheltered, from adult issues that can influence the rest of your life. Do this for your own piece of mind. Lots of people are in and out of jail, but for what reasons. Tell him what you want to do (your goals). Tell him what you want from him/ not sure what he wants. Tell him what colleges your considering and what you want to go to school for (even if your not sure yet). Make it an inviting letter, not to shun him for his choices. I have known a few men who have signed over rights for many reasons, main reason being: better life for there child without confrontation/ or out of complete shock…wanting a better life for there child, kind of like a mother who chooses adoption. They are young and not ready, or just plain not stable.
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Just tell him basic things that are going on in your life...that's what he'll want to hear about, how school has been going, stuff like that. Include pictures that show what you're doing too...they provide more of a visual aid, and when you can't figure out what to say they just seem to say it for you. Just talk about how life has been and if you want to hear from him ask him to write back and talk about how he's been doing and stuff. The simple things matter most in the end.
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