I feel like my life is falling apart...it seems like every good step i take i fall behind another step...i come from a broken home and my step mom is the best thing that has happened since then but my parents fight and my real mom and i don't even speak.......and i just feel like the new family we have created is going to fall down the same path as my father's first marrige??????
There's no reason why it will. Let yourself enjoy it; not everything falls apart.
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Tell him that I'm on the verge of certainty and uncertainty on whether or not I like him and I don't want to go either way right now because either way I go, I'll probably end up hurting him or something terrible will happen because it's me & I come along with a 100lbs of trouble and misery. And that I'm just feeling really stupid saying/making you (as in you, Matt) do this for me. And that I'm not accepting or rejecting and that I'm a neutral little wanna be mosher.
Does that sound like a
"Yes, I like you back, but I don't want to hurt you"
"No, I don't like you and I'm making all this crap up."
"I'm neutral. And I can't decide."
???
Well, here's the story. Bob and Betty are really awesome friends. And from what Betty told me, Bob used to be (is still?) madly in love with her. But Bob's parents don't like Betty and Betty doesn't like Bob more than a friend would like a friend. Well, Betty & I were talking about this over summer & we both agreed that either of us could see Andrew as being more than a best friend. Well, I think my feelings for him have changed since then. I mean I get really happy when I think of him and I want to see him 24/7 (he goes to another school so I don't see him at all) but I think that I'm denying that I like him just so that I won't end up hurting him??? Does that make sense? Anyways, Bob told me like 10min ago that he likes me, like really likes me. And I was just like "Eek! what do I do?!?!" And I was just replying with stupid remarks that didn't really respond to his saying "I like you" just to avoid answering him (thank goodness for my ADD-ness) And so before I logged off, I IMed Matt with that little paragraph on top and told him to give that to Andrew as soon as I log off. And I logged off telling Andrew to wait 10seconds.
Not quite sure will happen until later on tonight or tomorrow. Umm, yeah.
Sooooo...what I told Matt to tell Bob ... what does it sound like I'm saying? Like from a guys perspective (and yes, you can be a girl to answer. I couldn't care less)
Thanks!
15/f
PS..if it helps, Bob and Betty are juniors and I'm a sophomore in high school???
OPTION 1:"Yes, I like you back, but I don't want to hurt you"
Not quite believeable. Telling someone you don't want to be with them out of fear of hurting them HURTS.
OPTION 2:"No, I don't like you and I'm making all this crap up."
Definately not believeable. Why would you put all that effort into lying to someone you don't even like?
OPTION 3:"I'm neutral. And I can't decide."
Sounds about right.
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hey im a girl
i just wnana kno
why guys do this
1:they like ignore you for a day and then the next they start talkin to you
2:they are so confusin sometiems uthink they like you beccacuse of thyre smile or something
and you neverrealy now
why do they give mixed signals??
Haha
thats all really
:P thanks
PEACE
1. They don't wanna talk to you one day, then later they feel like it. That's really all there is to it; it depends on the guy's mood or how starved they are for attention.
2. Girls give mixed signals too; everyone does. That's because no one trusts each other. No one wants to put all their eggs in one basket. They aren't sure if you're someone they can trust to be the girlfriend they want.
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So I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a month now. He says he loves me but we don't actually talk much, and I'm beginning to think it's more of a sexual relationship than anything else. I'm also getting really bored, and he lies to me a lot. Along with this, he cheated on me, but sticks to the stroy of it not being intentional.
I was with one of his good friends a while back. It ended pretty badly but we've both changed a lot. He says he has feelings for me, but I know he isn't over his ex. Maybe i like him back.
And so I'm really confused about what I should do. Things seem like they're going ok with guy #1 but it also seems like that's just a facade. Guy #2 is just trouble. And I kinda miss being on my own. I don't want to hurt 1 but I'm positive it's going to happen eventually at the rate things are going.
Dump guy #1, but don't go for guy #2. Neither one sounds like a good match for you.
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okay so me n my bf hav been goin out for the past two months n the thing is we like makin out n stuff but its totally taboo in our school...i mean there was this huge scandal when a guy n a girl frm our school ran away together and the school got a lotta bad publicity so now its like we get sent to the principal if we're caught holding hands and the teachers act suspicious if you talk to a guy for too long...so my bf really wants us to make out in the library...n its not lyk i dont want to...i totally do..just as much as him. n i'm ready n everything but isnt it a [HUGE] risk?? and also both our parents dont know so could we lyk hav sum suggestions on how to do this...cuz in a few days practice for our annual concert's gonna start and thats when almost everyone takes part and the school pretty much empties out and its quite deserted (i.e. minimum chance of being caught) so do you think we should do it then or if somewhere else then where? we're both 15...sorry this is so long. help plz!! :s
Try going to a park or something. It's fun to makeout in the bushes.
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One of my friend's brother or step-brother, I can't remember which, tries to rape her every night.
She first told me about it a week ago, and I told her that she has to tell someone that she can trust immediately. Well, she told me that she's told her parents and the school counselors, but no one is doing anything about it.
I really hate to see her like this because she deserves so much better, is there any way that I can help her out?
That is absolutley horrible and disgusting. Her brother deserves to be locked up. Call a helpline and ask if there's someone who can help your friend. Good luck.
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hi..lets call me jane...okay so im like obsessively in like with my best guy friend, lets call him chad. okay so my best girl friend lets call her...well her names sam. okay so i told sam that i told chad i liked him and she was like OMG RLY? YAY so then she messaged chad on myspace and was like "omg jane told you she liked you!?!?!?" but hes not on right now..the thing is I NEVER REALLY TOLD CHAD! what do i do?! do i lie and make up a story saying that i was joking or do i actually tell him? thing is-- im POSITIVE he doesnt like me.
Tell the truth. It's always better to, becides, you don't know he doesn't like you because guys lie. Even if he looks you straight in the face and tells you he thinks you're a hideous disease and he doesn't like you, he could be madly in love with you.
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Hey I am trying to become the ultimate player, boyfriend, whatever you wanna call it. I could use some advice and please spare no details. The more info you give the better. Try to cover all the bases like clothes, personality, and anything else you can think of. Thanks.
Someone who doesn't care what other people think. In other words, I think you're as far away from being the "ultimate" as it's possible to be.
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14/f
i think i'm gay.
i've been thinking about it a lot lately and really think i am. like ok when all the girls in like fifth grade started liking guys and getting "boyfriends" i was just never interested. i know that could be normal for a kid but still. and like when i'd play with barbies or some doll like that with my friend a long time ago she'd have the boy and girl kiss, ha i'd have the two girls kiss mostly. and now my friends always sit around saying how hot guys are and i just sit there you know? i'm normally thinking about the girl nowadays. i've gone out with guys but it just never felt right to me. i alwyays felt uncomfortable.
but what i don' get is how on the internet most lesbians say they knew when they were like 7 or 10. i'm just now starting to realize it. maybe it's hormones? but i think it's more than that. maybe everyones different? what do you think? what should i do?
-anyone who answers thanks. =]
Give yourself time to figure it out. You don't have to be absolutely positive right away.
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my boyfriend and i have been together a year and this past month has been really bad, we have stopped really talking and such(and yes we are intimate)but last night was homecoming and we just stood there it felt really weird, i was wondering if yall have any ideas on how we can rebuild our friendship.(breaking up is not an option) thanks :]
Tell him you want. Explain that you want to actually be friends with him, not just someone to have sex with. It's hurtful when your boyfriend doesn't spend time with you. Let him know that.
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I really like this boy. A LOT. But, I haven't even talked to him once. We're both shy. I cant stand not talking to him. How can i get over being shy and talk to him? I want to be his friend and hopefully his girlfriend
Stop being shy and go talk to him.
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i love gothic stuff but i am not gothic! i always wear it my parents and relatives get pissed at me. everyone at school says im gothic or emo it drives me crazy. or im a self manipulator but that used to be true i guess. i used to cut and band myself but im not anymore. i left all my old friends or they left me but i stayed with one he became my best friend then we loved eacother then it went to hell. then i went with all the punky gothic people but their not that extreme im probly the worse...they are true best friends to me. now that i write all this it does seem true about me but what can i do so they dont call me fuckin gothic or cutter or self manipulator?! i dont really care what people think of me but this draws the line. what can i do? i dont have many friends and their never in my classes only a few. how can i make and keep friends.
Try doing something. Join an activity or a club. No, not to meet like-minded people. Join something so you have something to accomplish, something so you can start thinking about things other than what other people think of you or about your problems. You have a lot going on and to be honest, it's too much for you to handle. Take a vacation from your problems and focus on something else. Set a goal.
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Okay, long story short, I have been dating this girl since the summer. she is the quiet type. I am not. That doesn't really bother me, because when we are together she can get very loud and fun. What does bother me is that my personality is something I like to call, playfully romantic. with all women, i am very flirtatious. since we started going out i have always initiated everything, always send texts with lovely messages, always get flowers that go unappreciated, always it's me. and always, i get nothing in return. At first i thought, okay, she is shy. she will get more playful and flirtatious with me over time, as she sees how much I do and how much she enjoys it. (Who doesn't love being called beautiful/lovely/gorgeous, etc etc) I don't go over the top with it. but i barely get anything in return. she picked up on it a little, and sometimes i get a nice reply. now, i don't want to sow picky or anything, i don't have such a big ego. it's just that every other girl i have even just been friends with is like this with me, and i miss that quality in her. it has bothered me enough that i want to tell her. like, "Hey, you know how when i constantly am playfully romantic and etc, (even though she doesn't really care), maybe you can be that way with me, because im not feminine or anything, but i enjoy flirting and its a fun way to become close with people." we have been going out for about 2 months, and i can never find the right moment to tell her, it effects everything from a simple afternoon, no a nite of sex. Not sure how to deal with this. I always am like this with her friends and they are like that with me, so it's weird. I don't want to her her feelings, but if i don't tell her soon, It might just bother me enough that i would break up with her. I wouldn't want to do that to her, although she never expresses her opinions which bothers the hell out of me, i have come to terms with that she really does like me, because she does do alot for me, so i can get past the quietness. but not being playful, and that clash with my personality is really hitting hard now. there isnt a moment in time i dont wish for someone more who i feel is my type of person, who i can have fun with, who can relate etc etc. I can't break up with this girl, but i just want her to change, I want her to realize how she is just, well it's just not attractive, and I don't really feel that close to her. If it continues, i will feel like i am just using her for material items and sex. pleas give some advice, ask questions, w/e u can. I am desperate, I can do so much better then this girl. she is tied in with me now though, always hanging out with my friends and her friends together, So if she doesn't change, It's gonna be hard as hell. I just either wanna forget about her completely and have nothign to o with her, or have her change into what i would be...i don't even know why I still go out with her, cars/sex/money.... I feel so bad for her, advice pleas
thanks, sorry its so long and convoluted
i just want to be able to like her the way any girlfriend deserves to be felt about by their boyfriends..
I wonder, cause she never really expresses it, like no text emssags at work and things i do for her. does she even like me or does she think of me as her boy to fling around...
Okay, first of all, you aren't using your girlfriend. You like her a lot as a person, you just feel unappreciated by her. I think you should tell her that. Tell her what you want.
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Ok, this summer/fall I decided to start working out more because i really want a toned body. I'm skinny and healthy, but i know i could look so much better. Yes, i am a perfectionist. lol anyway s i have been doing situps everyday and some other ctretches and excersises and now i can feel my abs (my bigest goal-to have abs and eliminate the fat on my hips but on the back/love handles) and muscle on my sides and stuff but you cant actually see them. there is a layer of flab covering my new muscles that iw orked very hard to get and i really want to know what will get rid of this. I've heard that situps don't get rid of the flab so what does??? And i eat very heathily so i cant change my diet. Thanks so much! And i will rate all helpful suggestions! :D
It's not good to be a "perfectionist". You need to relax. You are clearly already doing your best; no need to beat yourself over not being perfect.
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I have worked for my boss for 7 years and have always been loyal and devoted to her. I am also currently her senior employee. Over the past 2 years she has changed her attitude towards me. She has become almost bitter towards me. At first I thought she was going through menopause and then I thought she may be having financial problems. I confronted her not too long ago about our issues and we got into a huge argument, basically blaming each other for the "attitude" that each of us was being given.
I had requested a day off of work to deal with some personal isuues with my son a few months ago and was given a very hard time about taking off. I felt that since she had let my other co-workers off to see a concert, bring there dog to get x-rays, and go to Great Adventure I wouldn't have a problem taking off for my son. I had also given her 2 weeks notice prior to the day I needed off.
She gave me an attitude about it for weeks afterwards.
Now, I am asking to take off Halloween (a month in advance) in place of my birthday (having your birthday off is one of the perks and she had told us we could substitue another day if we wanted to).
Halloween is my biggest holiday of the year and I have finally moved into a house that I can decorate for the children that will be visiting us. It is also a big holiday for my son who is only 3. I usually work until 7pm on this particular day I need off and it takes me an hour to get home which is too late to do anything with my family.
My boss is giving me the hardest time about taking the day off.
My question to you is how do I go about this?I'm taking the day off whether she allows me to or not but do I just call in sick, do I confront her about it again and mention all the times she has let my co-workers off?
I had filled in a request form and had placed it on her desk last week. As soon as she looked at it the attitude came out. Questioning me why I wanted the day off. Telling me it wasn't a good day because I worked the late shift, etc. She even mumbled some things under her breath. After not giving me a yes or no answer she proceeded to approach my one co-worker and very good friend and told her how unhappy she was with my request to take off. My friend, who also works the late shift with me, told my boss that she was ok with working the late shift by herself. And just to let you know it would only be an 1 1/2 she would be working alone.
My boss proceeded to tell my friend "Well, its not ok with me!" and walked away.
I'm just not sure how to approach this situation. I know there is a larger underlying issue going on but I just want to deal with Halloween for right now, for my sons sake.
This shouldn't be a power-struggle,but if it is, you can't win; she's the boss. Stop trying to prove you deserve the night off and just ask as nicely as possible. If your boss feels you don't respect her authority, she's going to do whatever she can to prevent you from getting what you want. Just ask really nicely.
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Sorry if this is long.
So last year I met this boy. And I thought he was hot. But we weren't friends. But then as the year went on me and him became friends but he always had a g/f well he liked me and I liked him and during the summer we would talk all the time. And he was going to ask me out but then got to scared. Well I stopped taking to him for about a month. Then on the first day back to school he was like really happy to see me and same for me to see him. And well he expected that i'd go out with him in a blink of an eye. But I said no. So then he ended up going out with one of my new friends which pissed me off. after they broke up he still tried and go out with me but I still really like one of my friends so I wont go out with anyone because i'd dump anyone for him. well my friend came to be like IN LOVE with me and all this shit and i wouldnt go out with him cuz i stil like my friend and i sorta lost feelings for my other friend over the time that we didnt talk. plus him going out with my friend ruined alot. but i'm scared that if he gets a g/f...i have a feeling that i'll be jealous...i don't know if i still like him or whats going on :l
help?
*EDIT* Sorry about my misunderstanding of the situation before. I suggest you try and find people who don't regard relationships as something to use as a source of entertainement and drama.
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I'm 15/f, he's 15/m.
So I like this guy in my grade. Last year I also liked him, and he ended up asking me out. However, I turned him down because I no longer liked him. Yes, complicated. I know.
But this year, I like him again. He recently got over a girl that he never even dated. But he's been sending me mixed signals. He stares at me in school, but never says hi, almost as if he's too shy or something. But he waved to me from his homecoming car ( he was king ). We talk on AIM sometimes, and things go well, and then he signs off randomly and just says he's leaving. I already subtly told him I like him, he didn't say anything. I just DON'T KNOW what to do. He was supposed to dance with me at homecoming also, we discussed it, but he never approached me. We danced together last year. =(
I just don't get it.
Should I just give up and move on,
Or wait and stay strong?
Sincerely,
Crushed.
Waiting is obviously a bad idea, because you've been waiting and nothing's happened. However, letting go is also not the best idea because then you'll be wondering what might have happened. It's always better to be direct rather than subtle in these situations. Approach him and flat out tell him how you feel.
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My name's Kaity, and my best friend (who's a guy) is so sweet. There's only one problem: his friend. He hangs out with this girl named Marge who's a really mean person. She says some hurtful things because she really speaks her mind (I'm not saying there's anyting wrong with that, but I just wish she would be more sensitive to other peoples feelings). I wish I could tell him he shouldn't hang out with her, but i cant choose his friends for him, can I? What should i do?
You should enjoy the time you have left with your best friend, because this Marge person sounds like the kind of person who doesn't care about hurting people. That kind of person would also have no problem stealing your best friend away from you. I know that might seem far-fetched to you right now, but it isn't. Do your best to keep away from this Marge person.
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There is this sboy who loves me and he hates my bffs and they hate him but i kinda like him but when i hang out with him my bffs will get mad at me!!!! And when i just dont talk to him all my friendsd not bffs they get mad at me cause there friends with him idk help help
Your friends are being snobby and immature. Tell them you like him and go for what you want.
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How do I tell the guy in my class that I like him?
Just say it.
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