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problems getting along with boss
I have worked for my boss for 7 years and have always been loyal and devoted to her. I am also currently her senior employee. Over the past 2 years she has changed her attitude towards me. She has become almost bitter towards me. At first I thought she was going through menopause and then I thought she may be having financial problems. I confronted her not too long ago about our issues and we got into a huge argument, basically blaming each other for the "attitude" that each of us was being given.
I had requested a day off of work to deal with some personal isuues with my son a few months ago and was given a very hard time about taking off. I felt that since she had let my other co-workers off to see a concert, bring there dog to get x-rays, and go to Great Adventure I wouldn't have a problem taking off for my son. I had also given her 2 weeks notice prior to the day I needed off.
She gave me an attitude about it for weeks afterwards.
Now, I am asking to take off Halloween (a month in advance) in place of my birthday (having your birthday off is one of the perks and she had told us we could substitue another day if we wanted to).
Halloween is my biggest holiday of the year and I have finally moved into a house that I can decorate for the children that will be visiting us. It is also a big holiday for my son who is only 3. I usually work until 7pm on this particular day I need off and it takes me an hour to get home which is too late to do anything with my family.
My boss is giving me the hardest time about taking the day off.
My question to you is how do I go about this?I'm taking the day off whether she allows me to or not but do I just call in sick, do I confront her about it again and mention all the times she has let my co-workers off?
I had filled in a request form and had placed it on her desk last week. As soon as she looked at it the attitude came out. Questioning me why I wanted the day off. Telling me it wasn't a good day because I worked the late shift, etc. She even mumbled some things under her breath. After not giving me a yes or no answer she proceeded to approach my one co-worker and very good friend and told her how unhappy she was with my request to take off. My friend, who also works the late shift with me, told my boss that she was ok with working the late shift by herself. And just to let you know it would only be an 1 1/2 she would be working alone.
My boss proceeded to tell my friend "Well, its not ok with me!" and walked away.
I'm just not sure how to approach this situation. I know there is a larger underlying issue going on but I just want to deal with Halloween for right now, for my sons sake.
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This shouldn't be a power-struggle,but if it is, you can't win; she's the boss. Stop trying to prove you deserve the night off and just ask as nicely as possible. If your boss feels you don't respect her authority, she's going to do whatever she can to prevent you from getting what you want. Just ask really nicely.
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Take a deep breath and sit tight for now.
It seems likely to me, after she bitches and moans and get all the venom out of her system, you will be given the day off. You have a little while for to fight over this, so for the next week I would suggest you just sit back and let her stew in her own juices unless she brings it up.
This *shouldn't* be a fight, right? This should just be something that happens. Frankly how busy is any business at 6-7pm on Halloween? You and your co-workers know that you will not be missed; your boss probably does as well.
YOU have already made up your mind. There is nothing to argue with her about. She can either give you the day off, or you will take it off. You know the consequences and have accepted them yes? So, this problem has been solved, as far as you concerned.
When the week of calm is up (if she doesn't bring it up) ask her what her decision is. If she says no, you still have 2-3 weeks to take it up with her superior and I would encourage you too. If nothing else a mediated conversation between the two of you with HER boss present might allow the real problem to be brought to light.
If she comes around, which without any real reason to deny your request, she likely will, Great! If not, take it up with her boss, and call in sick if that is what it comes too.
You can try to play it cool and calm until you get the day off you need, but frankly, no matter how this plays out, it’s high time this be brought up with her superiors. If she has no superiors, I’d start looking for another job.
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