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one of my best friends has a girlfriend that i think is fake. He wont answer any questions about her like if i say "How did you guys meet?" hell say "Bee quiet!" or if i say "I think i know her whats her last name?" hell say "NOne of your business shes form out of town". and you get the picture, i dont understand were really good friends. Also he hsant told any of his other friends about this. except me, so i dont know if hes lying or not. Because every time i bring her up, he either snaps at me, doesn't answer me, or changes the subject. Im really confused here. I know him, if he really had a girlfriend, everyone whould know about it!!
Tell me your theories

I think he may want some attention from you. He is probably wondering what you would do or say if he had a girlfriend and kept quiet about it. He probably wants to get something out of you. Any signs of jealously or having a crush on him sort of thing. If you're good friends and he didn't tell anyone else.. then something must be up. So he could like you or want you to get closer to him.. enough to dig that information out. Maybe he is dating someone elsewhere, different school or out of state. It could be online dating and he may be embarrassed about it. But the first one seems a bit more real. I would just wait it out and see what happens. A couple of my guy friends do online dating at a young age. Seems a bit unrealistic though.

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you know how in the old episodes spinner jimmy paige hazel ashley marco and ellie are all in 9th grade together? how come in the newer episodes paige marco and ellie are in college while jimmy ashley spinner and craig(?) are still in high school. i don't get it.

also, is manny, emma, toby, darcy, etc. in 11th now?

thanks

Jimmy got shot by Rick so he was in the hospital for most of the year. So he had to redo his senior year because he didn't have enough credits to pass. Spinner provoked Rick and got Jimmy in danger and the principal made Spinner redo his last year too. I don't think Ashley is still in high school. I remember she went on a trip to London [was it?] and came back to visit. But I'm not quite sure. I thought she was visiting and stayed around for Jimmy ..apparently they are dating again. Craig left elsewhere to pursue his career as a music artist, right? I haven't seen him in the new episodes.. Maybe I'm missing a couple.

I'm not sure what grade they are in. Weren't they always a grade or two behind of spinner, hazel, paige, jimmy, etc? I'm trying to catch up with these details..

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im 15 and wanna know like what size should be my penis and at what age does a penis stop growing

The average is around 5 inches. Usually when men stop growing [by height] is when the penis stops getting bigger. So i'll say around age 18 or 20. So there's still more years to come to grow.

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I'm 16 and a girl and need a little help...This 1 boy asked me out by a note and i didnt know what to say especially since i only liked him as a friend and nothing more. i would feel really bad if i told him no so i just didnt respond. now this year when he sees me he'll look at me and smile at me and i just dont know if he still likes me like that and if he does, what should i do?hes nice and sweet and stuff but i only want to be friends.

Did you get the note the previous year before or before the break? If you didn't respond to him, then he probably got the "message" that way. If you don't know if he likes you still, then don't bring it up or ask him especially if you two don't hang out. He may look at you through the halls but that's your only [?] interaction with him. If he starts talking to you or trying to get your attention again, then sure.. tell him you're not interested or that you don't want a relationship. You could put it simply and say you like him as a friend.

I'm sure he was hurt when you didn't know what to say. He could have understood your action to not reply but you probably still make him smile.. Who knows. You can ask him or just drop it until the right moment comes [when he speaks to you?]

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i found this myspace of a girl who says shes going out with dylan efroen, zac efrons younger brother. shes not famous, or a model or anything shes just a regular girl. she says she knows zac and dylan and ashley and vanessa and all them. she evn has a pic of her and zac. but i was wondering if thats really true...i mean, does dylan efron rlly hav a girlfriend? or is this all a lie? thanks.

You'll probably never know. A picture could be some sort of proof but I wouldn't take it seriously. Zac could have taken a picture with her as a fan photo, you know? There are famous people dating ordinary people.But It's so hard to believe "I know this famous person blah blah" coming from a regular person anyway. It's so easy to make things up.

*I haven't heard of Dylan Efron doing anything within the entertainment business. I'm sure once he's getting into things, the paparazzi will take notice of his personal life/relationships.*

For now, I wouldn't think it's true. A picture is great I guess. It could fool people into believing you know them personally. Maybe she does. You would only know, if you hear from zac, dylan, etc in person. Not from a fake myspace with a photo of Dylan or whoever.

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my friend told me that if your smaller or skinnier, you get drunk faster cause u have low tolerance.. is that true??

thanks in advance!

Well, I'm short [5'1] and small [100 pounds at the most]. I had to have about 6 or 7 drinks to get a buzz. But for my sister, it was way different. I think it just depends on the person. Maybe they do get drunk faster but in my experience.. it doesn't seem to apply.

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ok well my hair has been damaged by a hair straightener so today i went to this hairdresser and asked her for a treatment and she gave me something but then she told me to prevemnt hair damage to when u straighten your hair to put hairspray or some product first and then go over it with the hair straightener because instead of the straightener taking out the moisture and water out of your hair it is taking out the priduct do it protects your hair. I just want to make sure and know if it;s correct because the last thing i need is for my hair to be more damaged!! i'm sure she wouldn't lie to me but just incase! thanks in advance:)

Yeah you always need to use a heat protective spray. It would be less damaging. It would protect your hair to an extent but if you straightened your hair every day or every other. You need to buy some deep conditioning treatments or hot oil treatments. [http://pics.drugstore.com/prodimg/26976/200.jpg]

If not, try buying a conditioner by the brand Bedhead. I have curly hair so it keeps my hair in good condition. Also, a vitamin called Biotin makes your hair healthy as well as your skin and nails. I used to straighten and curl my hair a lot.. so I took the vitamin everyday for a few months.. I didn't get split ends or frizzy hair. It was pretty cool.

Try straightening your hair when it's barely damp. Try air drying your hair first with a towel and wait a while. You shouldn't see any steam, that's when you know you're damaging your hair. So showers at night and straightening in the morning. It would be less damaging. I think the less you wash your hair, it would straighten easier and hold longer. I'm not saying to go a week without washing your hair. Maybe just two days.

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I'm 23 years old and I've never worn make up. I use a little lip gloss here and there, but that really isn't considered 'makeup'. My mom never wore it and I guess I just wasn't interested in it. I am now. I don't even know where to begin! Any help would be appreciated!!

Go to a drugstore. The basics are eyeliner, mascara, lipgloss and possibly blush and/or eyeshadow.

Just because something is cheap, it doesn't mean it's bad. I wouldn't go into MAC or Sephora yet.

I use this eyeliner:
http://www.jordanacosmetics.com/easyeyeliner.htm

It comes out very dark instead of other eyeliners I've used. Maybe it's just from my experience but other eyeliners, I have to press hard to get it to show and it barely did.

What color eyes do you have?
Purple and green eyeliner OR eyeshadow really bring out brown eyes.

Light purple, pink or orange eyeshadow goes well with blue eyes.

Deep purple/lavender, dark browns or dark greens with copper/gold look great with green eyes. [I also think Silver looks good, IMO]


You can always go out with your friends and have them show you how to apply certain things. Learn a few tricks from them. They could also help you buy things. I did this for my friend.

maybelline is good for mascara.

http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/h/d/greatlash.JPG

http://smartweb005-admin.e2-media.com/attachment/00000000669fec0a1eef8d3bcf8ed3e0/000000000d68d4b1cd3c1d1fb67e128f/IntenseXXL_150x225.jpg

If you need foundation and powder. I think Loreal is good for coverage. I use a "natural" color though so it blends into my skin really well. I also use a powder to set it. It looks really natural and not so caked on. You probably need a friend with you when you're picking out foundation. If that's not an option, go to Macy's and find the makeup department. I'm sure someone working there can do your makeup for you or you can try things on your own. MAC can do your makeup for you but I've never been in there and I think it must cost a lot.

Good brands are Maybelline, Loreal, Covergirl and Revlon.

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i dont think this goes under this catigory
anyways
whats the diff betwenn shaving and waxing and hair removal
which is that best
i use hair removal because i heard that shaving makes hair gro thicker
is this true cause hair removal is kinda time consuming
could you give me the positves and negitives of each
im 16/f btw

Shaving is kind of hard to master. I don't like razor burn and ingrown hairs. It's okay for your legs though.. if you use good shaving cream [the ones made for men are really thick and it's great] and make sure you press gently. I don't think it grows thicker. I've shaved many times considering I have a hair pulling disorder. I used to dislike every hair on my body and I used to shave everything [arms, hair on my fingers, etc] and it never came out thicker. So i guess that just depends.

Waxing is good for the bikini area and eyebrows. You should go out and get it done professionally though. It's not easy to do by yourself. Especially eyebrows, it leaves that sticky gunk on it. You go in to a salon.. they wax, pluck and thread. So it's good. Make sure you don't let them wax your forehead completely [some women do this without asking, weird.. right?] My friends have gotten rashes from this. Itchy, red bumps. Otherwise, the forehead is a bit sore and is red for a few hours to a day.

The creams are good for legs.. it always comes out smooth. Armpits are okay, it's a bit hard to do sometimes because you may not get all the hair off. So shaving would be best for armpits. It's better to use a cream for your upperlip because waxing would hurt too much [you may have to grow out those hairs really long to actually to remove it] and shaving could leave bumps, ingrown hairs, pimples. A regular Nair is good but it can be irritating. Don't use any scented hair removals.. people usually get rashes from it.

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ok so today me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time in about 2 - 3 months . & it really hurt like bad . But it didnt hurt this bad when we did it for the first time , so i said maybe im just a little tight so he said well let me finger you & that hurt it ? i was weirded out about it because it didnt hurt before we had sex ? that was like about 12 . and its 5:30 now ?

any ideas why

oh and after its like my stomach hurst ?

Well yeah the less sex you have.. you sort of become more tight. Since the vaginal walls aren't being stretched out.. it seems to tighten up slightly. Especially if you don't stretch it out by fingering. This has happened to me. My first time didn't hurt at all.. but months later.. when we took like a three week break.. it hurt bad. The main reason is because you're tight and not wet enough.. which can cause your muscles to tense up.. and it just hurts more. If you're not completely relaxed and 'lubricated'.. you won't be in the mood for it completely. If he's being rough, your stomach will have cramps or it's either a warning sign of your period. My boyfriend's size hurts me a lot so maybe that could be a reason? If you haven't had sex in awhile, it's going to hurt a little if you don't use a lubriated condom. it's a lot easier than trying to wait for you to "warm up". it's not fun.

it hurt for me when i didn't have sex for less than a month so of course it's going to hurt a bit for you..

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Ok. So i'm not a virgin, but my boyfriend is, and I want to have sex with him and all, but I don't know how to start off. Like I don't want to have to tell him what to do ("ok, take your pants off", "Come here," "do this do that") you know?
So is there anything I can do to make him want to be in control. We talk about it and stuff and he tells me all that he WANTS to do, but it never happens. Does that mean he's scared of me? I like him and all and think hes overly sexy but he's not that experienced and stuff. I don't know how to get him to warm up to anything either. I've always gone out with more experienced guys.

Help?

If he knows you're not a virgin... then the idea of you having experience is somewhat intimating. He may not feel good enough or know what he's doing exactly.. So you're going to have to take control and show him that it's okay. It's so easy to talk about it. He's probably nervous about what he's doing or the size of his penis. If you happen to be alone one time, you should take advantage of it.. if you feel it's right. Also, since he's a virgin.. you have to be sure he's ready. Some guys out there really do.. want something special for their first time. My guy friend didn't want to have sex with his girlfriend too soon and she kinda forced him. He was kinda upset about the place and time.. so you should set up a date or a weekend planned together. He may think you want to wait if you're not direct about it. If he's nervous/afraid.. of course he's going to try to avoid it as long as possible. Make sure he's REALLY okay first.

Some guys are dominant while others aren't. So you should take control first and soon he should be too. If you want to make him take control, you should wear something a little revealing if you're alone.. Like booty shorts or something like that. That really gets to my boyfriend and he gets so dominant. Just make out and get on to of him. Let your hands wander to his jeans and unbutton it. He should get the message.. but look at him to see if it's okay. If he's not taking the hint, you should speak to him and see if he's the type of guy that "wants to wait when it's love or for the right place/time sort of thing"

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my hair has become so burnt from all the straigthening and highlights and product that ive put in it. i HAVETA strighten it now cause scrunching just poofs and its so discusting and frizzy. I dont know what to do with it! my mom says japeneeze straightening will just make it worse . frriizz stuff does not work. anything i can do or get done at the salon?

You need to go out and buy a couple of hot oil treatments.
http://www.prestoimages.net/store/graphics/648_pd467805_1.jpg

I have curly hair and I heat dry it most of the time.. so this one keeps it in good condition:

http://pics.drugstore.com/prodimg/26976/200.jpg

Also you need some deep conditioner treatments.
http://www.walgreens.com/dbimagecache/299804.jpg

If you go to a salon, ask for a hot oil or deep conditioning treatment.

My hair was fried about four years ago:
http://s77.photobucket.com/albums/j71/queenzombie/wheeeee.png

I got a hair treatment and it's amazing:
http://s77.photobucket.com/albums/j71/queenzombie/ehhh.png

Also for shampoos and conditioners, you need to look into TIGI/Bed head/Catwalk. They have conditioners designed for blondes, brunettes, leave in conditioners, ones with mega vitamins, etc. Shampoos are for volume, control and color. Also, look into the defrizz and smooth products.

If you can find these, it's amazing:

http://www1.epinions.com/beat-Hair_Care-Conditioner-All-TIGI_Deep_Reconstruct



You really need to stop with the heating and damage to your hair. Always use a heat protector for straightening. Try to blowdry hair on damp hair only. Highlights are okay, you just need to use a shampoo for "dyed hair" i suppose. I wouldn't leave product in your hair for more than two days.


For now just put your hair up so you can let it rest. If you attempt to cover up the poofs.. it's not going to look good. I've tried so much in my middle school years. If you're getting frizzy and poofy hair, it's time to get your hair thinned out and possibly a trim. It makes a huge difference.

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i'm 15, and yes im going to be having sex with my boyfriend in the next week. the problem is, i cant even imagine a penis going into my vagina because, well the hole is so small. no, i have the right hole. when i finger myself, i can barely get two fingers in! how is a penis supposed to fit? i need to know, so please help!

You should wait! If you can't get your own fingers in, then you shouldn't have sex because it will hurt pretty bad. Just a warning. Get your boyfriend to finger you with one finger and move up to two or three in some time. It may hurt but it's the best thing to do to avoid pain. I did that for weeks and my first time didn't hurt. Also the hole may seem small but the vaginal walls stretch. His penis isn't extremely hard, as you probably know.. it's soft. So you really need to go out and get lubricated condoms. Those are probably the best if you are nervous. Otherwise it will hurt.. if you are nervous and your muscles tighened up. it shouldn't be too hard to get it in if you have lube and if you have made yourself less tight by fingering.. Once you get past the head then it's easy. Just make sure he takes it slow.

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How long does it take hair to grow?
& Is there anyway to make it grow faster?

Thank youu :]

It really depends on the person. My friend's hair grew an inch every month.. she had to get it cut "all the time" I always thought hair grew half an inch each month. But it's different for everyone.

A vitamin Biotin gives you great results. It doesn't make your hair grow faster but healthier.. so you don't get split ends. So get monthly trims. I took the vitamin for three months every day. My hair was to my chin and then it came down to my shoulders. Get hair treatments like hot oil and deep conditioners. You want your hair in good condition, so lessen blow drying, straightening and curling.

It's also good for your skin and nails. My nails grew pretty fast.

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how do you do fisheye with a camera?

http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a163/nicky_fm/fdfgdsresize-1.jpg

Fisheye is actually a type of lens.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fisheye_lens

There's many types for it but it can be only used on a SLR camera.

http://images.encarta.msn.com/xrefmedia/aencmed/targets/illus/ilt/T045988A.gif

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Has anyone seen InuYasha Episode 17 Subbed that actually works? Veoh doesn't work--any other site that shows it? I repreat
InuYasha---Episode 17--Subbed
I would really appreciate it!

I used Myspace for a few episodes.

http://vidsearch.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=1020154

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just wondering but for anyone who watches degrassi or no's the characters, is Adamo Ruggiero gay in real life? his character on the show is Marco. I was just wondering. Thank you!

I don't think anyone could answer that but himself. He just plays a character on there. Since degrassi is about drama.. they need to mix things up in there to make it more real. He may be gay, bi or straight.. He may dress fashionable or casual in person. He probably won't say if he's gay or not... It just causes more drama. I'm sure people already accused him of being gay off set. It's unwanted attention if he's straight or gay either way.

I'm sure you could look up interviews.. if there's any. I wasn't that hooked to the show to actually search up anything.

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how did patsy cline die? it didnt say in wikipedia?? And why did it say 1990s new album of her when she died in 1963?


and what are some popular songs of her ?

and tell me if you really think she sounds like leann rimes cuz i dont think so


speaking of leann rimes, did she RE-release her song "blue" At some point in her life?

There's a whole section written about how she died in wikipedia. She died in a plane crash due to severe weather. they found recordings of her first concert and made a new album out of it. I've noticed that there were new albums out when artists died. It's like Emily Dickinson. None of her poetry was published until she died and somebody found it.


"Sweet Dreams," "Leavin' On Your Mind" and "Faded Love" are popular songs. But mostly after her death.



http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LeAnn_Rimes

"The single, "Blue" was also released in 1996"

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I'm 15 and I usually don't wear any makeup but when I do I only wear some eyeliner and mascara. I wanna get more though. What kinds of stuff should I buy? i was in sephora yesterday and there's so much nice stuff but I don't know what to get. I would like it if I could get some advice from girls about my age b/c I want to wear what's in style and nothing too crazy. I have dark brown hair, blue eyes, and a light complexion. If you could just give me some tips and tell me what you do and what brands to get, that would be great! Pictures would be nice too.

Well I use Loreal's balance foundation [combination skin though] and true match powder to set it. It looks really natural. My boyfriend keeps saying I look good since I'm not wearing makeup anymore XD Also, Covergirl is great brand for blush. Their eyeshadow is pretty good as well.

So orange eyeshadow looks great with blue eyes. It really brings it out. Almay has a set for blue eyes.

http://www.almay.com/Pg/Main/CatProdDet.aspx?catid=32&catnm=Eyes&subid=242&subnm=Shadow&prd=28616&osubnm=Blue

I've tried the one for brown eyes and it's amazing. My eyes are really dark.. so I'm sure you'll stand out twice as more.

I wouldn't buy anything in sephora yet. It's a bit too expensive and you should be familiar with affordable brands first. An eyeshadow set is like $30 something there. You could buy one at a drug store for like $7. Just make your way up so once you're familiar with makeup and what looks great on you.. it would be easy to go out and buy sephora or mac makeup without hesitation.


My favorite mascaras by covergirl:
Fantastic Lash
Triple Mascara

By Maybelline:
http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/Mascara/intense-xxl-volume-and-length-washable-microfiber-mascara.htm
http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/Mascara/lash-stylist-waterproof-mascara.htm [^ very intense and dark!]

Eyeshadows by Maybelline:
http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/Eyeshadow/expert-wear-eye-shadow-trios.htm
[They have more but it's more on the natural side]


So Covergirl and Maybelline are great brands. You could go to a makeup department and I'm sure they could do your makeup for you.

Just make it as natural as possible.. I've seen many girls with caked on makeup and it's just horrible. You shouldn't be able to see a powdery look from a few feet away. You should try a little blush and a light orange eyeshadow. I'm not sure what's in style where you live but over here.. it's bright eyeshadow colors and really dark eyeliner/long lashes to a natural look.

Something like this:
http://www.funnymos.com/funny-pictures/makeup1.jpg
http://www.makeup-artist-world.com/img/imagen_home.jpg
http://www.ebeautydaily.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/03/shu_uemura_spring_2006.jpg
http://www.herbtrader.com/images/categories/makeup.jpg


This may help if you're looking for what coverup you want:

[liquid, cream or powder]
http://www.xanga.com/ricebunny

She also has other makeup tutorials on the left column for brighter eyes, natural look and the smoky eyes look.


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So you know how everyone says sex usually sucks for the girl since it hurts her but feels good for the boy? How do you know when to stop? Does the girl orgasm or just the boy? Do you stop when the boy orgasms?

Usually the first time, the girl isn't ready so it hurts or either because she can't orgasm because it feels different/new. It didn't hurt me but I didn't orgasm until like the second or third time. You usually stop when the boy orgasms. Especially when you are wearing a condom so he doesn't lose his erection completely. Both are capable of having an orgasm but most likely a boy will. If it's his first time, then it's going to stop around 10 minutes. More or less, you know?

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