Ok, so theres this kid that says he likes me. He talks about to my friends like 24/7. He won't ask me out. What's he waiting for? What's he afraid of? Should I make the first move and ask him out? We already made out like 12 times but never dated. HELP ME PLEASE!!! ty
anonymous -
Lol, I don't mean to make fun, but golly, if you two have made out so many times and he says he likes you, what do you think he's thinking??? Put two and two together, and you got a completed puzzle pointing to YES, DUH, HE DEFINITELY LIKES YOU.
Maybe he's afraid of rejection, that's why he hasn't made the first move. You might as well do it if you want to pursue something with him!
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I have this job, it's pretty stupid, but I hold a sign that says "Hot-N-Ready $5" for a pizza place. Anyways, I'm starting to think that the people I work with don't really respect me enough.
For example, on Good Friday, I get a phonecall from them asking me if I can work from 4-6. I say okay, and I change my easter dinner plans with my family. Well, fifteen minutes before my shift starts, I got a phonecall from them telling me I don't need to come in. The fact that they don't respect me enough to let me know earlier or to just let me come in and work the two stupid hours like I planned really pissed me off.
I had been looking for reasons to quit, because after working there for two months, I was still always working outside, and I had expected to be working inside with more hours. So, the other day, I went in, and asked if my manager would be coming in today, and the other lady was like "No, why?" and I just said "well, I need to talk to her." The other woman kept on insisting that I tell her what I need to talk to her about, so I did, and I told her I was really pissed off, and so was my family. So, she went ahead and told me all this crap about how they love me there and think I'm a "great team member". So, I didn't end up quitting, and I'm waiting until my manager comes back. They kind of go through workers pretty quickly, but I've had it.
Do you think I should quit or what? Should I just forget about it and move on and hope things get better?
anonymous -
If it's only happened a few (1-3) times, you might be overreacting. Sometimes things like that happen in the workplace, and although it sucks, you'd probably call in and do the same if you had plans or were sick.
However, if it's been happening constantly (say 7+ incidents) and with the same people on top of that, go ahead and quit. You don't deserve to work in a place where people will walk all over you.
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i have this friend lets call her jay. jay liked this boy ((lets call him P)) her and P used to go out but he broke up with her because she was to slow. (well cuz she never kissed him) but he still loved her and she still loved him so they were just talking for a while and they kissed a few times to. he finally decided he wanted her back. but thats wen she went to a dance and started dancing with some boy ((lets call him E)) well she sorta got a crush on E i guess because wen she came to school the next day she had i love E on her hand. well that was the day P was gonna ask her out. but she made me tell P she sed no so i did and i could tell he was hurt. now she is obsesed with E and he is 11 and she is 13. how do i tell her that she made a big mistake and that she is dumb by choicing a 11 year old? how do i tell her that w.o hurting her feelings?
anonymous -
One thing I can tell you right now is that it was wrong of her to get you involved in all this drama. By telling her, you're only increasing the hostility and possibly jeoprodizing your friendship.
Trust me, she'll learn the hard way that choosing a 11 year old wasn't the right decision.
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ok....i like this guy and he likes another girl and the girl is some slut who cheats on every guy that she dates and i dont want him to get hurt.....i know i wouldnt hurt him...do u have any advice that i could win his heart over to me?
anonymous -
First, show him that you're girlfriend material without trying to push him into anything. Show that you're there for him and you're able to be a goofball around him. If he doesn't realize what a good girl he has on his hands, you have to respect his decision to be with that other girl even if you're not happy with it. Why, cuz you don't want to force him into a relationship with you. What you want is him to returning his feelings for you and willingly choosing to be with you.
Good luck.
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I'm 15 and I have never had a boyfriend while everyone else has!! Is this normal?!?!?! And please don't say I'm too young to even be thinking about this!! and also How do you flirt??? Sorry is this is stupid..
anonymous -
Yes, it's normal not to have a boyfriend at your age. Some people don't find one up until their college years so don't feel alone. I myself didn't find my boyfriend until i was 16-17.
As for how to flirt, don't make it fake and obvious first and foremost. Joke around a lot, playfully hang around the guy, just be a fun and spontaneous person. Even a "Heyyy, how you doin???" or "Hey sexy." would work.
Good luck.
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i am finding that my hair is taking longer and longer to do, with less of a result and usually dosent stay clean for more than a day... i have tried switching shampoos (i seem to do it weekly now) and cutting my hair, i let it grow, i died it, i put stuff in it! nothing seems to work!
anonymous -
One possible reason why your hair is dying out so easily is buildup on the scalp. If you have dyed it before and use hair products often, I suggest you get a shampoo that specializes in removing buildup. Cuz if there's buildup, your hair tends to fall limp more easily.
I heard another good way of removing buildup is fresh sqeeze some oranges and put it in a spritz bottle and spray it all over your hair when you're in the shower. Dunno if it works, but it's worth a try. Also, Neutrogena makes a good shampoo to remove product buildup. Unsure of the name, but I'm sure you can find it in your local supermarket.
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Ok this is a really stupid question...but please bare with me. I can't apply eyeliner! Whenever I do, it looks very fake, and it looks like I just drew a line around my eyes. How do you apply it properly so that it blens and looks my natural?
I rate 5's!!!!
anonymous -
Instead of using the typical eyeliner pencil or liquid liner, apply shadow as a liner. It's more soft and natural looking.
What you do is buy a good eyeliner brush. Next wet the brush and make an X in your eyeshadow to coat the wet brush. Make sure the eyeshadow on the brush is somewhat moist, and start lining your eyelid. I wouldn't recommend lining the bottom part of your eye, it looks fake on almost anyone. After lining your eyes with the shadow, if you're happy with how it looks, leave it, if you want it to look more dramatic, take a qtip and blend the eyeshadow liner upward for a cloudy/smoky effect.
Good luck!
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Does anyone know like any websites that you can go to to get like makeup tips and not google or anything cause i have tried!!thnx tonzzz
ps.i rate hiiiiigh
anonymous -
http://www.xanga.com/jomacjo
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what is the difference between foundation, concealer, and powder. and are u supposed to use all three at once (i have acne) and i rate 5's
anonymous -
Foundation is what you use to even the overall tone of your face.
Concealer is used to "conceal" undereye circles and blemishes.
Powder is what you use to "set" the foundation and concealer so it has staying power.
Since you have acne, I strongly advise you use minimal makeup. A lot of brands contain oil and chemicals that can irritate the skin.
But if you must, I'd advise you buy oil-free foundation that has sheer coverage that EXACTLY matches your skin tone, a concealer that is 1-2 shades lighter than your skin tone, and powder the same shade as your skin.
A foundation that I use which is great is Jane Stay Calm Foundation found at your local walmart for around 4 bucks. Apply with fingers for medium coverage, but I'd suggest those triangular sponges for a sheer application.
As far as concealer goes, I don't use it at all, but I hear that Cover Girl stick concealer works well.
As for powder, I like to use Sonia Kashuk's loose powder. It's found at target and is a little more pricey (around 7 dollars I think?).
If you want tips on how to "hide" blemishes, drop a note in my inbox.
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My eye makeup seems to get all greasy and crappy looking after a while. Is my face oily? What do I do to prevent this?
anonymous -
Here are some main causes for the problematic eye makeup:
1. You put foundation/concealer on your eyelid. Refrain from this, it causes your eyeshadow to crease and not last too long.
2. You don't wash your face before putting on makeup. Wash with a good soap.
3. You put moisterizer on before you apply makeup. Avoid putting around the eyes.
4. Cream based shadows tend to crease and look messy. Opt for powder shadows and use an eyeshadow brush to blend (those pad things don't work too well and don't have a lot of staying power).
5. If all else fails, after applying foundation/concealer, apply a generous amount of loose powder on the face, INCLUDING the eyelids. Brush off excess using a powder brush.
6. Eyeliner pencils never seem to work for me and don't last very long. A good trick is to line your eyes is with a good wet eyeliner brush with a dark powder eyeshadow. The wet shadow makes it stay put longer!
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Alright, this is a stupid question, but today I purchased a D.A.R.E. shirt at Hot Topic. Under it, it reads "To Keep Kids Off Drugs." Does this have deeper meaning? Because on the standard D.A.R.E. shirts (like the official ones) they read "To Resist Drugs And Violence." I was wondering if "To Keep Kids Off Drugs" has any deeper meaning? I don't want to go to school with people laughing or something. Thanks.
anonymous -
I don't know the meaning behind the t-shirt, but it's harmless.
One meaning can be literal, implying that the D.A.R.E program helps keep kids of drugs.
OR
Another meaning can be more sarcastic, implying that D.A.R.E doesn't work worth crap. Kinda like "Dare to keep kids off drugs? Good luck with that!"
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My boyfriend of over a year used to treat me really bad, he'd ignore me and barely talk to me in school, but when id threaten to break up with him he'd be like do it do it and i would and he'd be the one gettin mad.. i dont understand how he'll let me do that and he wont care but after he gets mad becuase i did it. A girl wrote i love you on his hand and he acted like it was nothing but he wont let me write something on his hand. I do get jealous fast and he knows it, and i feel like he takes advantage of it. What should i do to make him appreciate me and make him say sweet things like he used to. I tell him to just break up with me if he doesnt care but he doesnt b/c he says he cares. I wish he would show it more ut how?
anonymous -
Why do you put up with this?
Just break up with him. He's an ass for not considering your feelings when he behaves like this. I know you've been with him over a year and you're probably emotionally attached to this guy, but it's not worth it. If you stay with him you're only going to experience deja vu all over again.
And if he gets mad, kick him in the genitals. That oughtta show him. :)
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My boyfriend and i were in my aunts hot tub, and well i had my period so we couldnt do anything but neither of us knew if condoms still worked as well in water as they do out? and do they make ones for jsut water..i know its a dumb question but i dont know..pleeze let me know!!
anonymous -
Just to let you know having sex in water is dangerous because the water can travel up to the fallopian tubes which can have some pretty bad effects. Don't think I'm joking because I'm being completely serious. Call any sex specialist and they'll tell you!
"The concern would be if you are squirting water into your vagina. Hot tubs always have chemicals, such as chlorine, in the water. If this water enters the vagina under pressure, it could go up into the fallopian tubes, where it becomes lodged. The chemicals can be an irritant, and could cause irritation and potential scarring. This can lead to endometriosis. So, the bottom line is - no pressurized water going up the vagina, including intercourse underwater, since the penis acts as a 'pump' pushing water up into the interior."
-courtesy of Talk Sex With Sue Johansson website
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There's no way in explaining what happened without using a lot of words, so I apologize. I'm 16 and female by the way. I just don't want the people that read this and give me advice to get the wrong idea about things. I've been with this guy for almost 6 months, and recently he told me he doesn't feel the love anymore and that he wants to break up. Me, being stupid, begged him to stay with me. He said that he wanted to take a break to see if he missed me and such. Throughout our whole relationship he was so loving to me and we've both cried over eachother a lot. He's being completely contradictive right now like after he said he wasn't in love with me anymore, a day later he said he still loves me just not as much as he used to. The other day he said in the really pleading voice..."lay with me before you leave baby..please?"..and he cried when he told me he didn't wanna be with me so what the hell is he thinking? I have no idea whether he's just lying to me or if he really wants to work it out in the future. I talked to one of our mutual friends and she said he's afraid to break up with me cause he doesn't wanna hurt me but a few people say that we've just spent too much time together and he needs a break to really feel the love again. We were with eachother almost every day for the past 6 months...I don't know. Someone help me. I know he's good at heart..he really is and I didn't want anyone thinking he was an asshole for what he said.
anonymous -
Don't be hurt. He's probably not knowing what he really wants in life right now, and like you said, maybe you two spend too much time together and deserve a much needed break. Just respect his decision and live your life. If he'd cry over something like this, he'd realize that down the line he made a mistake. :)
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Okey, my friend told me to ask this question. She has been shaving her mustach for about a year now..and it looks really bad!! what can she do? she cant wax because she gets rashes and for some reason it doesnt even work..and she cant tweez because there's too much hair. And she cant colour cuz it still shows..any suggestions?
anonymous -
Try a hair removal cream like nair. If that doesn't go well, the only thing that guarantees success is laser hair removal. Consider that as an option :)
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I am going on a date tomorrow night...and I just broke out on my forehead and nose! The ones on my forehead aren't that bad, but I would still like to get rid of them. The one on my nose is pretty obvious, however. I have been using the clearasil ultra (that's supposed to get rid of acne in 3 days) about 5 times a day, but it isn't working! Help please I want to look good for my boyfriend (b/c I want to get my first kiss maybe tomorrow)!
anonymous -
I have a tip that may help although I'm uncertain of the results.
Obtain a couple pills of generic uncoated aspirin. Make a paste out of it with a few drops of water, moisterizer or honey (whichever you prefer). Put it on your face as a facial mask, leave it on for 20 minutes or until dry, and then rinse off.
Some girls have said it helps get rid of acne or acne scars, but either way, it helps exfoliate the skin and makes it super soft. Sorry if it doesn't help, but it's worth a try.
I've tried it and it helps rid of acne a little, not all that significant. But my skin isn't all that sensitive, so try it for yourself and see.
Sounds weird, but I got it off of a makeup forum of www.makeupalley.com. I'll see if I can get you a feedback link.
Tell me how it goes for you!
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Hey girl I gotta go for now but I would really like you to email me @ JSTlatelpa@hotmail.com, and by the way what is your name????? Hopr to hear from you
Hey, you'll get an email from me soon. The name is My-Linh.
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Hey! I my classmates make fun of me and talk behind my back cause of my weight limit i mean i am a little over weight and i try to keep in shape. Why is everyone so mean to me? I never do anything mean to them? I dont get it? why do kids have to be so mean.
anonymous -
The reason that they're mean is because you being overweight makes them feel skinny and good about themselves. For an added boost they make fun of you.
There really isn't any way to stop making them taunt you unless you either lose weight, or befriend them and come in good terms with them. Even then I don't think you'd want people like that for friends.
Just try and shrug it off. They're pathetic losers with nothing better to do but make fun of people for their insecure ego.
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Your exactly right. But sometimes I just cannot take it and I wanna talk to him asap, to resolve things but that does not make things better huh?
I wish I could turn back time and take back all the hurtful things weve said to each other. But life is not that easy. Its not suposed to be. I just never seem to know the right thing to say at the right time. I appreciate you hearing me out Your a sweetheart Good luck with everything.
[EDIT] Hey I just read the feedback on your answering my questions. Lol your marriage resembles our relationship so much!
My boyfriend curses and belittles me too. When I ask him about it (when he's happy), he says that he doesn't mean anything that he says. He says like your husband says, "you say things that make me yell at you." Really, I think that's bullshit!
Why because it is never acceptable to resort to name-calling. I mean, when I get really mad, I don't call him stupid or a jackass.
And since you two have known each other so long, I'm sure communication must be no problem, the only problem is communication during a fight, right? And seeing that the fights are mainly about nothing, I think either he's just stressed out over something and if you did something significantly wrong, you get consumed by his wrath.
When you two decide to talk to each other in the future (just happy talks), address the problems that you two have about each other and come up with ideas on how to improve upon them. Like when he gets so angry that his verbal abuse and cursing starts to kick in, maybe come up with a compromise that you two should stop, realize what you're doing, and if needed, continue later. Maybe you can go to the grocery store and run some errands for a little bit and maybe he'll have a night out with the guys to get your mind off of it. Later when you two are in better moods, don't pick up where you left off, but just come to a compromise about the fight itself. :)
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Yea, I know huh! I'm the same way you are that I'm bothered even if things are settled that there's still some unsolved issues that I can't help but bring up you know? I'd think that it'd make things better cuz we'll get it out of the way, but I guess the way guys work is that once it's dealt with, it's done.
I can understand it's hard to try and find the right thing to say, especially in arguments because your mind is just focused on anger, not love. Just try to keep in mind that this is your husband, and you love him.
Thanks for the compliment and good luck with you too! :)
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Hey Its me again. Ill be the first to admit that marriage is one the hardest things to be in. I just want to be able to communicate with him. But how do you communicate when the other doesnt let you say what you want without getting angry?
Hello again. Yea I can see how marriage could be really hard. I admit, I don't understand everything that goes along with being married cuz I'm not married myself, but relationships, married or not, go through the same but with marriage the bond is permanent which can make it harder, right?
In order to better understand the situation, I'd like to ask you a few questions so that I could offer more detailed advice that could be of service to you. I hope that's alright :)
1. How long have you two known each other (includes time span from dating until currently).
2. Has lack of communication always been an issue?
3. What are the motives of a lot of your arguments? Are they usually about the same thing? (Hopefully we'll try and see if we can find a pattern here.)
4. What does he do when he's angry (verbally, physically, etc.)?
5. How often do you two have intense arguments like these?
As for your communication problem, again, try to get him to calm down and keep things civil. I admit it really is hard to express yourself when the guy doesn't want to hear it, but really, he has to.
What you can try is first and foremost, be civil about everything (or at least put in a lot of effort, he has to try too), try to calm him down if he's really angry, and just calmly tell him that in order to keep this argument at a minimum, both sides have to take turns at expressing how they feel. Again, try not to point fingers because this tends to lead to interruptions from the other partner trying to defend what you're accusing him of. Tell him to tell you when he's done getting his point accross, so that you'll have a chance to speak because you're entitled to that right, and after all, you listened to him right? So it's his turn to listen to you.
And I know that during arguments that fights get really intense and emotions are up the yin-yang, but as hard as it may be, try to see where he's coming from and understand his point of view. I know with my boyfriend sometimes I don't want to listen to him because I think all he's saying is bullshit, but he's really trying to talk to me, and as a girlfriend, I'm going to listen to what he has to say and take it into consideration. I want him to do the same for me, so the least I could do is listen to him, even if he's telling me things that I don't want to hear.
I hope this helps! Good luck! :)
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