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Your exactly right. But sometimes I just cannot take it and I wanna talk to him asap, to resolve things but that does not make things better huh?
I wish I could turn back time and take back all the hurtful things weve said to each other. But life is not that easy. Its not suposed to be. I just never seem to know the right thing to say at the right time. I appreciate you hearing me out Your a sweetheart Good luck with everything.
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[EDIT] Hey I just read the feedback on your answering my questions. Lol your marriage resembles our relationship so much!
My boyfriend curses and belittles me too. When I ask him about it (when he's happy), he says that he doesn't mean anything that he says. He says like your husband says, "you say things that make me yell at you." Really, I think that's bullshit!
Why because it is never acceptable to resort to name-calling. I mean, when I get really mad, I don't call him stupid or a jackass.
And since you two have known each other so long, I'm sure communication must be no problem, the only problem is communication during a fight, right? And seeing that the fights are mainly about nothing, I think either he's just stressed out over something and if you did something significantly wrong, you get consumed by his wrath.
When you two decide to talk to each other in the future (just happy talks), address the problems that you two have about each other and come up with ideas on how to improve upon them. Like when he gets so angry that his verbal abuse and cursing starts to kick in, maybe come up with a compromise that you two should stop, realize what you're doing, and if needed, continue later. Maybe you can go to the grocery store and run some errands for a little bit and maybe he'll have a night out with the guys to get your mind off of it. Later when you two are in better moods, don't pick up where you left off, but just come to a compromise about the fight itself. :)
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Yea, I know huh! I'm the same way you are that I'm bothered even if things are settled that there's still some unsolved issues that I can't help but bring up you know? I'd think that it'd make things better cuz we'll get it out of the way, but I guess the way guys work is that once it's dealt with, it's done.
I can understand it's hard to try and find the right thing to say, especially in arguments because your mind is just focused on anger, not love. Just try to keep in mind that this is your husband, and you love him.
Thanks for the compliment and good luck with you too! :)
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