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there is this guy...his name is max and he lives a few streets away from me and i really like him. I have a feeling he likes me too because he always talks to me, and is so sweet and generous to me. I need some advise on how to make him notice and how to get him to ask me out. HELP!!!
hey, well make a lot of eye contact. let him know that you are interested in him without actually telling him. of course you can tell him if you want to. whjen i like a guy, i usually tell him. but thats me. thats jsut the easier thing to do for me. everyone is different tho. here is a site that i think might help you http://www.links2love.com also on http://www.buddy4u.com and go to where it says top profiles. then go to the one that says fell in love again. then there are flirting tips on her buddy4u under reads.
-caitt
I saw on other advicenators colums their backgrounds. How do you get backgrouds on there? I dont want to pay anything. I read that you can upload pictures? am i right? Well how do you do that??? Somebody please help me! I really want a nice background. I saw some really cool background on the advicenators website, i just dont know how to get them on my column. Can somebody help me?
-volleyball2150
hey, if you go under the column that says "welcome [your name]" then go to advice column settings there will be some layouts that you can pick from. those are the free ones. personally i dont use a background on advicenators. because where here to give advice not make a cool profile.
-caitt
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I'm f/13 and almost everyone aroungd where I live isn't virgin from age 11/up My friends and I are witch includes 2 boys- I was wondering, since alot of people(except parents) think we are wierd, Do you think it's wrong to be virgin?
hey, being a virgin isnt weird. im a virgin and im 13 female. other people might think it is because they arent. but when they have diseases and you dont they will be sorry.
-caitt
Me and my friends are hanging out tommorow since we havent seen eachother in a while. We want to go to the mall and buy a couple of things (not like 10 outfits because I just bought tons of clothes last week.) I will mostly just buy 1 cheap shirt & a few bracelets and accessories like that. And then we are eating at the mall probably at Subway. Then we are seeing a movie which is $10 and I might want to buy a popcorn or a drink. I don't know how much money to bring with me. If I bring too much money, I end up spending the extra money on junk that I don't need and if I bring too little, then it screws everything up. About how much money should I bring tomorrow?
hey, i think you should bring 80$. better to be safe then sorry. you could always have your friend hold your money once you use lets say 65$. explain to her that you havea spending problem and only want the money if you need it.
-caitt
please please help me. my hair has been horrible my whole life and i absolutely hate it. it is extremely thick frizzy wavy and coarse. i try straightning it and it gets straight but then it just gets frizzy. i think its damaged. i dont know. ive tried all kinds of frizz control and shampoo and conditioner that makes your hair smoother but it doesnt work.do you know of anything that will help my hair? i dont want to go to a hairdresser or anything but is there just really good hair products that you could get at like walmart or something? please help me. i really need your help.
hey, thats my hair. i use garnier fructis smoothing milk. its works wonder and its not too expensive.
-caitt
i'm 15/f, and opinions are very much apprectiated on this even though it's long. here's the sitch:
i'm going into the 10th grade in a month. my mom lives in one town, and my dad in another, about 10 minutes apart.
so i live with my mom now, but i'm thinking of maybe moving to my dad's house, but i need your help in making the decision. all of my friends are near my mom's house, that go to the high school in her town, but if i were to move with my dad, he would take me to see them and let me have them over and everything that i would normally do with them--but i don't know anyone that would go to the high school in my dad's town. my mom is supposed to give me allowance for the chores i do, but she never does, and i can't get a job yet, so i have no money. if i were to move with my dad, i have 4 cousins that live near him that i could babysit and make some money and then later get a job, and he also said that he would give me allowance. i sometimes get along with my mom, but she puts her boyfriend before me and is always asking me to do stuff for her and she's always on my case. i get along with my dad most of the time, and his girlfriend is like a mom to me. my room at my mom's house is small and cramped, i have no closet doors, a broken fan, no bed frame and my mom says she can't make renovations bc she doesnt have the money, but she spends her money(including the child support money from my dad) on my little sister(has a diff. dad), tanning, and diet everything. i'm so frustrated, and i'm so nervous about making this decision and i've no clue what to do. so a huge thank you goes out to anyone who answers this.
hey, my parents dont live together either. about 3 years ago i had to mkae the same descison. what i learned about this whole process is that you shouldnt make your living descision on who has better stuff at there homes or whos house is closer to your friends. make your descision on whos nicer to you and whos going to care for you. so think about that when your making the descision. also if your not happy with yoru descison in the long run you can always move back with whoever you choose. i hope all works out. if you ever want to talk send me a message or i/m me.
-caitt
Ok so if my brother is always being stupid like always in my stuff he wont leave me alone he's younger than me and how or what do i do too get him to stop please help me he's driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hey, lock your door when your in your room. also dont give him the time of day. once he dosnt get the attention he wants and the satisfaction of you being annoyed hge will stop.
-caitt
i've been told that if you don't eat enough your body will go into starvation mode, and it will actually cause you to gain weight.
is this true? because i was thinking and then how do people with anorexia (not that i'm going to become anorexic or anything) lose weight. because if they hardly eat anything, won't their bodies go into starvation mode and cause them to gain weight?
THANKS!
hey, well when your body is n starvation mode it does slow donw your metabolsim. it usualy does cause you to gain more weight but on some people it doesnt. also most celebs you see that ae turning anorexic [ mary kate ] she was on drugs too, so being on drugs amkes you skinner too.
-caitt
I help out with the band Iceland [www.myspace.com/icelandicband] and they asked me to advertise over myspace and in person. For myspace bulletins - how can I make them really creative & appealing? I want people to add them, and it's my resposibility. Help?
thanks in advance
hey, put a picture of all the members of the band on the bulletin. they make the text bigger and in a different color. to make it bigger do TEXT HERE for color do TEXT HERE of course you can change the colors and numbers.
-caitt
well, my friend is hosting this party, which is kind of cool but kind of weird. everyone has to leave the house. we can't use a car and i can't ride a bike. and we have to find like a place away from home for a few days. kind of like running away or something and the winner is the one that picks the most they find last. it's really fun. she did it one year and it was awsome. but back then, we all like ran to her sister's house and her sister wouldn't say anything. but now, the rules are different. because if someone knows us, they have to spill. it can only go on for 2 days so it's not like we're going to be somewhere forever and never be found lol. so,after two days, whoever they don't find is called and gets a prize and stuff. but, where would i go? i mean, we can't drive. i don't know how to ride a bike. i can skate! lol so, do you guys have any cool ideas or tips of where we can go? i live in miami, florida if that helps
hey, i cant a ride a bike either. you could travel on roller blades or a scooter tho. maybe if someone you know has a dirtbike you can use it. if you can ride it that is lol. anyways this is kinda a weird idea but it might work. well you could make some sort of a house somewhere. like you know how people make a tree house. so yhea dont make it in a tree or anywhere obv. lol
-caitt
i have this cousin who is 15 and im 13 and he is so hot and he has been checking me out and i was wondering (we are blood related) what would happen if we made out or worse.
hey, if you makeout nothing will happen. if you have kids theres a chance that something bad will happen. like defects in a kid, such as being mentally retarded etc. i believe its also called insest if you have sex with a person that is blood related.
-caitt
i was wondering what are some good songs that i can put on my ipod.. i listen to everything, so it doesnt really matter to me what times i just need suggestions, thanks.
hey, if you use i-tunes go to the top 100 songs and look around there.
-caitt
I've been seeing a lot of myspace's that are private and their age is like 16 or 18 or something like that, how in the world are they making them private?
i thought private accounts were only for like 14-15 or something?
hey, go to account settings. then privacy settings. you can change it there.
-caitt
how do u make the little hearts thing where you can actually see the heart???
thanks in advance
hey, the code is &/hearts/;. just take out the / then write it and it will work.
-caitt
this may be long, i don't know.
but its important so pleaase help
this kid i know, he told me hes a drug dealer, & told me if i told anyone, he'd be really mad. hes only 15 years old. so im like worried. cuz i didnt see it coming, like hes really poor. so he needs the money, like sometimes they go with days without like electricity, or whatever. nobody knows about it but me, & a few other people. when i started to ask about it, like pretended i wanted to do it.. [sell it] he wouldnt give me any information. so im hoping hes lieing. therefore, i dont think i wanna tell anyone.. cuz he could go to jail & then it will turn out he doesnt even sell it or something. what will happen if they find out? what should i do? i just want to help him. hes my best friend.
hey, well dont tell anyone because it mihgt not be true. find out the facts first. if you know its 100% true i think you should report it. he might not like you for a little while because you reported him, but in the long run it will help him out.
-caitt
are there any signs youre going to get your period for the first time? and ifso how long after you get the sign will you get your period?
hey, i started getting cramps the week before i got mine. also you will be vey moody.
-caitt
My boyrfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years known each other for over 5. He is my best friend. We have to cats and a new puppy and live in our first house together. He says marriage is in the ans but not till later. That drives me crazy. Just recently he stated that he's been thinking about our future more often. And wondering if he's letting time past by. Was that a hint. Is he coming around or going through a man period. I need help. How does this sound to you?
hey, well i think you should ask him what his plans our for the future instead of asking us. see whats on his mind.
-caitt
My 6 year old daughter recently started saying she wants to meet her real dad (he hasn't seen her since she was two years old except for a brief chance meeting at a friends house a two years ago.) I'm not sure what brought this on, except that I just had another baby with a different man, and he and I share custody, so maybe she's feeling a little jealous that her baby brother's dad is around but hers isn't. I'm no longer involved with my son's father, but we are civil for our child's sake so it isn't like he could be a father to her. But I need to know- do I call my daughter's father and make him have a relationship with his daughter? I don't know what to do, or what to say to her.
hey, well i have the same problem. except in this situation im the daughter. im 13 now but my parents separted when i was 8. my father had another daughter with a different mother. i dont think that you should force a relationship between the two because if my mom forced a relationship on us i dont think we would have gotten anywhere. i think you should wait until your daughter is old enough to decide herself if she wants to see her real father or not.
-caitt
i have recently moved into a new town and the whole "community" is teasing me and my family.
someone even vandilised the house.
my whole family cannot even go outside without being beaten up, or teased.
my parents mow fell into depression.
what can i do to cope with this, and to make the "community" stop teasing and abusing us
hey, my family and i moved to swampscott a few years ago. we are still currently living here and still not getting the respect we deserve. a few of the neighbors have caved but there is stilll a remaing few that will valdenlize our home. just give your family a lot of support.
-caitt
13 Female.
School starts in 10 day's, and I want to come back with a splash. I'm getting braces tomorrow (finally) my hair's grown and taken an adorable shape, and my boob's have gone from being a 34B to a 36C. I've done alot of shopping and my face has cleared up.
Now I want that personality to go with it. You know, friendly, outgoing, confident, cute, and flirty. I'm sick of being too loud, or too obnoxious. How do I tone myself done, to be the calmer, cooler, collected girl I am? Thanks!
hey, well to start off i dont think you should change for anyone but yourself. if you want to try for a differnet personality then go for it! but dont be something your not.
-caitt