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bullying in new town/community
i have recently moved into a new town and the whole "community" is teasing me and my family.
someone even vandilised the house.
my whole family cannot even go outside without being beaten up, or teased.
my parents mow fell into depression.
what can i do to cope with this, and to make the "community" stop teasing and abusing us
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hey, my family and i moved to swampscott a few years ago. we are still currently living here and still not getting the respect we deserve. a few of the neighbors have caved but there is stilll a remaing few that will valdenlize our home. just give your family a lot of support.
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Hi There,
Body language: Bullies pick on easy targets, so poor posture and averted eye contact will attract unwanted attention. Stand proud with your shoulders back and your head up, and look people in the eye - you'll soon give out the message that you're not afraid.
Safety in numbers: This is particularly important when bullying is taking place outside of a regular establishment. Work out your safest and most public routes home and try to stick with others at all times.
Walk away: If you find yourself in a situation that is making you feel uncomfortable, calmly but quickly walk away. If you are near other people or a public place, head in that direction.
Speak up: This is exactly the thing that bullies expect you not to do, so you are already regaining some control by speaking up. If the bullying is taking place in an established setting like a workplace or university, approach a colleague or tutor you are comfortable with - or try a student counsellor, an NUS rep, or the human resources department - all of whom have a duty to take these issues seriously and offer their help and support. It can be difficult to know who to turn to when bullying is happening outside the boundaries of regular establishments. Telling friends and family may help you feel more protected, but if they feel unable to solve the problem, contact the police.
Explore your feelings: If there is no one you can tell, or you just don't feel ready to open up face-to-face, consider talking anonymously to an organisation such as Bullying Online. You can send an email (help@bullying.co.uk) at any time of day, offering you the support you need without having to pluck up the courage to speak in person. You may find that keeping a diary of your thoughts and feelings also helps you to start facing the issue.
Coping with childhood bullying as an adult
"Bullying is not a simple issue," explains John Quinn. "It can lead to stress, anxiety, depression and self harm, all of which can follow young people into adult life." Adults can find it particularly hard trying to come to terms with the problems they faced as a child. Dragging up all those old memories is a painful process, and it can seem easier to keep repressing them than face them now, but pushing problem deeper down doesn't make them go away.
Start by opening up to a close friend or family member - or even by writing your feelings down on paper. You may find that simply sharing your bad memories in a kind and supportive environment is enough to help you move on. Other times, opening up to a friend can help people to realise just how much support they need.
Takecare
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im sorry to hear that.
You need to stand up to them and show them you dont care what they think.
Try talking to them to make some sort of agreement.
If it gets worse you should most definetly contact the police.
Good luck
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Some ideas well that would involve you to go outside but sometimes you would have to take risks like one is try to make an agreement with them or make some homemade food for them to show your nice people or to go on strike.If those ideas don't work then extreme measures would have to be taken like to have the abuses filmed,reported to the police.As for you to cope I say to pray,stay confident,strong because your family will need someone to look up to,it is probably you.Good luck!
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I'm sorry to hear that.Try to talk to the people who are doing this and ask them why. Tell your parents to do the same. If it gets worse you can turn to police. If your parents are the ones getting beaten up act fast
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