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Hey everyone Im a 15 year old girl in highschool and I need some advice. My used to be best friend recently started getting drunk about a month into our freshman year. At first she started talking about it and I got really mad at her for even thinking about it. I made her promise not to go drinking and promised me she wouldn't. Then I here on homecomming that she drank before the dance with some of my other friends but I just assumed that she was acting crazy at the dance, not actually drunk. I had to hear from SOMEONE ELSE that she drank. So indtead of confronting her I gave her a complete silent treatment for 3 weeks. She finally wrote me a note saying how she was sorry how she messed up our friendship, how we used to be best friends, how shes an idiot, how shell never drink again and stuff like that. I decided to forgive her a few days later. So time went on and we were cool, but then like 4 days ago i found out she FOR SURE was drinking over the weekend. Then today I found out shes planning to go get drunk this weekend. Ive stopped talking to her since i found out she drank last weekend. Am I doing something wrong? How do I handle this? Do i talk to her? I care about her soooooo much. she also has a problem with being taken advantage of by boys. Her mom has cancer, her dads an ex meth user. She keeps trying to work things out with me but I always brush her off. Sometimes im pretty nasty w/ her. Theres more sides to the story, but i think im running out of room so i'll stop. Thanks for taking the time to read this...
BHKchick
Your friend has a drinking problem. She isnt drinking just for fun, its more than that it sounds like. A drinking problem is not somethign you can control without help, I truly beeleive she values your friendship, but shes caught up in bad stuff right now at a young age. She could be depressed, desperate to become 'popular' maybe there is a family history of alcoholism, i dont know. if i were you, i would try talkig to her. dont yell or give her silent treatments because like i said before, its not in her control. she has to seek help, talk to a counselor, etc. i heard a story a couple weeks ago about 3 freshman who overdosed on painkillers in school and had to go to the hospitol. there are so many girls like them making stupid choices, desperate for attention.
honestly people,
i hate everything. my family. my friends. my school. my cheerleading team. i cant take anything anymore..someone please help me.
to be honest with you , you might want to see a therapist. *this is NOT an insult!* pretty much everyone will need to see a therapist sometime(s) throughout their life. you arent itnerested in the main parts of your life, it may be a sign of depression.
so, theres this boy i like a lot and we might even date. but the pronlem is that all the relationships i've been in before weren't that serious, maybe a hug or a kiss sometimes but not much really. and now that im older im kinda worried because i know when your older and in a relashionship you make out or go further, and i've always worrid about that kinda stuff. i really want to do this stuff but im scared ill mess up and embaress myself, help!!!!
hey, i wouldnt be scared, you just dont do anything you arent comfortable with. if you guys really click, maybe someday down the road you will do something more, but its completely up to you. dont worry about anything, it all comes naturally and as long as you wait to do things until you are totally ready, there is nothing to worry about :)
15/f
dating my boyfriend for a year && a half; hes 15 too. were serious about our relationship, dont doubt our age. anyways i really have no idea what to make/get him for xmas. i just bought him a shirt && made him a pillow that said i love you. hes not really into jewlery, has plenty of shoes, doesn't play video games.. he wrestles. but i have no idea what to make/get himm! ah help? =)
i love the pillow idea! i think that making a photo album of the two of you, a romantic sweet card listing what you love about him, hm..does he like cologne? nautica blue smells amazing, my boyfriend loves it! any cds he might want? maybe give him a gift card if you get really stuck.
theres one teacher who yells at kids for fun. when i stood up to him with out being rude because he yelled at me and my friends for no reason (seriously) he said he would send me to the principals office. and he is a bad teacher. how can i avoid this guy even though hes my teacher?
how long has he been a teacher? if hes been around for a long time, it will be hard to get him fired. are your pinciples nice? Maybe if you and as much of the class as you can go complain, something can be done. parents complaining is another great idea. i think it would be hilarious if you and the whole class team up and just have fun being sarcastic back to him. like being extra nice , giving fake smiles, etc.
ok i know its gonna be kinda confusing but i don't know exactly how to start,... i had a boydfriend, we were together for 2 years and a half, but everything started to destroy from the 1 anyversary, we started to have lots of problems with trust, becuase the 1 year i was so confortable with him, i was so sure that he would never ever do anything to hurt me and that i was the only one, but then i discover he started to like attention, cause usually not many girls will like him, but all of a sudden a lot of girls started to be interested on him, and the first time smoething like this happen i forgave him because i thought oh maybe he is not used to girls comming onto him so now he knows hes handsome and gets attention...cause there was this girl that was suppose to be his new friend and she was like saying lots of things like "hey do you like someone at school? knowing he has a girlfriend. and asking things like ..do oyyou think im pretty cause i think im sooo ugly ...so he would say something like of course your not ugly i think your really pretty and things like this, she used to make lots of comments like if she was so insecure about herself just for him to say nice things to her..when i found out about him i told him, and he was like oh sorry its just that i felt bad that shes so insecure about her looks (of course i was like "how can she be so insecure about her looks if she uploads hundreds! of pictures of herself in her blog?") and then he kinda understood that ,,,then ,..another thing like this happen, this super firendly girl started to receive comments from him like "you look soooo pretty in that picture ;)" things like this ,,and i found out and got so mad at him,..since then i haven't been able to trust in him again..now i found out he was receiving messages from a random girl on myspace like "oh your so hot your soo handsome" things like this ...and i was so mad i was like ok its not his fault that she wrote that ..but then he aswer! like "hey thnx whats your email?" and i got so mad and told him i couldn't trust in him and i wasnt' confortable with this ..his kinda popular in my city cause he has a band and things like this so that made easier for girls to approach to him, ...he used to be so insecure about his lokks while we were together ...but then ,,now with all this girl things he is so secure about his looks.....then another thing came.. i looked at his email account and he had this email from a girl like ohh baby how are you haven't talk to you please answer you know i love you please lets be friends again cutie please write me back....and i told him i saw that ...and he was like ...that doensn't mean anything its one simple email someone sent me and this girl is not even from our city so who cares if i answer ..i told him what was bothering me was not the mail ...was that he was answering back!...we broke up...but still when i log into his msn i saw like 50 new girls i didn't knew he had in his list...and im soo insecure now cause i wanna get back with him and hes constantly begging for me to come back with him...but i told him i just dont trust in him..for several things that happen...i know he wants me back,,and me too...but i don't like that kind of things :S like having hundreds of pretty girls on her list that they added him just to get to know him cause they are interested in him! please help!! im soooo confuse cause i wanna go back with him...but...im sick of having to be spying his email acount his msn his facebook, his myspace and worse finding things like this!! do you think i should just not go back with him??cause also i think that if he cared enough like he says he wouldn't be doing this kind of things over and over again :S ...im so confused please help hes become very flirty =S!! and i hate that !!!
i totally feel your pain! i can tell you stories that go along the same lines as your stories, but even more painful. it totally sucks, i know. the one thing i do like is that he is begging for you even though he has tons of girls wanting him. if you had no doubt in the world he would cheat on you, it would actually be kind of nice to know hes yours and the others cant have him. from what i read it seems like you are insecure and afraid he will leave you, which i TOTALLY can relate to trustttt me. so you have to make a choice: you can have a long talk with him and make some comprimises the two of you can work out, or you can stay single. If you know there is no way this can be worked out, why be with him if you will be miserable? I should probably take my own advice :X haha, but i hope everythign works out. if you tell him about your insecutities and how you feel threatened, maybe he will stop flirting with girls. tell him to immagine him in your situation, maybe that will help too!
i went out with this girl and she broke up with me..after we broke up she said she stilled cared about me but didnt want a tilte....couple weeks later she now goes out with a nother boy...he doesnt treat her like i did and is mean to her most of the time and she told me that she doesnt want me to move on from her as a gf...i dont want to wait that long i think about her alot and i tell her that dont no what to do...does she still like me??
i think she still likes you, but if she liked you a lot, she wouldnt be with this new guy. ask her why shes with him if hes mean to her. let her know you arent going to wait around while she dates someone else, because thats not right to you. tell her its either you or him, leave the choice up to her and if she cant make up her mind i would move on
okay everytime me and my boyfriend have sex i get this really weird feeling down there thats kind of uncomfortable and idk what it is does this ever go away?
is the weird feeling more like you feel dry and it doesnt feel good? if so engage in foreplay before, use lube. maybe if you try a different position it will feel better. if you feel your skin around the vagina is getting in the way that mgiht be uncomfortsable, a way to help this problem is to have your legs higher in the air or over his shoulder. you can inbox me if you want with more detail so i get a better idea of what you mean
My BF of three years says I am too needy. I really do not understand how I am too needy! Any ideas how I could possibly get to be any less needy/clingy?
let him come to you for affection. let him be the one to call you first more often. i would also make plans with friends more frequently. hang out with them on a friday night, then see your bf on a saturday.if you see each other all the time, try not hanging out until the evening like maybe around 6 and stay with him until about 12. little things like that could do the trick
i have a HUGE problem with binging on food. i eat tons and tons at a time until i feel sick. how do i stop myself from doing this? i am trying to lose 10 pounds and could easily do it but this binging gets in the way..
i think you should eat 5 meals a day, but make them healthy meals and try to cut down on portions. during the day snack on fruits and veggies. make them your new best friends lol. instead of constantly stuffing up on carbs and fats, munch on carrots or fruits instead.
I have been going out with him for about 3 months. I feel obligated to him. I feel that I can't leave him, but I want to. I see him at school, so that would be weird. He makes me so so mad, then so happy. I just want to not do this anymore. He is not confident in himself, so he uses me as a feel-good agent in his life. I don't want to do that. It's so draining and I don't have time and energy to do that!
How can I break-up with him so his feelings are not too hurt?
Thanks.
there is no easy way to break up, he will probably be hurt no matter how gentle you let him down, but you need to keep in mind what is best for you. just tell him exactly how you feel so he knows why you broke up with him. you know him better than we do so you would know if it is best to do this online, on the phone, or in person.good luck with everything!
okay, so me and my bf were having sex with a condom on then he took it off anddd, like he "cumed" but not all the wayy, he wiped his penis off andd asked me to stick it back in, one more time w/o the condom, so he did & we put a condom BACK on and had sex tell he fully came, my period was supposed to start friday, the 7 but now its the 11 and i havent started, i took a test and it said no, but i took that sunday, could i be pregnant?
its possible, but my prediction will be that you will be ok . this time anyway. some things to look into is getting on birth control somehow. if you are too scared to go to your parents, maybe a friend who drives, your bf, or your bfs mom can help you get it. if you are sexually active its a good idea because trust me i know how it is to not want the condom. definitely be careful for the future though, because pregnancy is possible
Sometimes I just really feel like having sex...15f, what do i do to satisfy my cravings?!!! Help please!
its completely normal, its all the hormones trust me! well i dont know if you are into masturbating, but maybe try that to respond to your urges. if you already are into masturbating, maybe do something different, watch sexy videos, get a toy or two, something to change things up. its definitely not weird, its totally normal!
So there's this boy and he is so adorable. we had a talent show thing at our school and he was in it and played guiatr and sang amazingly and had to do his dream pruposal and it was amazing and soo sweet and every girl there melted inside well i know i def did. and i told myself i couldn't fall for him even though i already maybe liked him a little before. every girl now likes him and itll never happen especially since ive never even talked to him. i told myself i couuldn't fall for him but i think i did... what should i do?
dont doubt yourself, i think you should make small talk with him because who knows it might go somewhere! if you see him comment him on how great his performance was. do you have any classes with him? maybe ask him for his notes, ask a couple questions about the class, and maybe even mention you want to learn guitar and would love for him to give you lessons. this could be a great opportunity for you to get to knwo each other :)
i know this is gross so i will just come out and say it. when you have anal sex or are being fingered analy, wont the guys dick or finger get all shitty??? how would you clean something like the inside of your anal?
thanks in advance and sorry for such a gross question.
oh. btw. im female
lets say i know of people and this didnt happen to them. if you feel like you have to go, just dont do anything.
wat cani do to make our relationship have the love in it again i am 20 a female and have one 6 month old child.
try and find a babysitter and plan a night for just the two of you. if possible, maybe the grandma can watch the child for the weekend while you guys go away for a couple of days. even if you just spend one night together, it can be the perfect medicine. go out shopping and pick out some sexy lingerie, make his favorite meal in candle light or take him to his favorite restaurant. a romantic evening can really get the sparks going again, and i think you should try to do this once a month at least. have fun!
There is this guy I've been crushing on for about a year. We are friends, but everytime we are like, "Let's hang out." it kind of just never happens, because there is nothing to do around here. Well, people have been telling me to just tell him I like him, but I'm scared. So for Christmas, I was thinking of doing something like getting him a hersey kiss and putting it on a piece of paper saying, "I don't have the guts to give you a real one, so I guess this chocolate kiss will have to do. Merry Christmas." Is that too cheesy? What other things can I do that will make him smile?
thats adorable! i love that idea. next time the two if you are talking about hanging out, suggest a movie night at your house or his house. other things to do to make you smile is to do simple things like compliment him. maybe he has gorgeous eyes, etc. let him know and give a flirtacious giggle with it ;)
I need serious help
Im always sad and i havent stopped crying in like 3 weeks
i have thought of suicide alot before
and im thinking of it agian
there is so much stress in my life right now
i feel worthless
useless
unloved
lonely
and incredibly empty
im missing something in my life
and i dont know what it is
im afraid of myself because of my constant upsetting thoughts
i keep having horrible nightmares and i cant stop thinking that i have no future
i dont know what to do
my parents dont seem to care
and they made everything worse when i told them how i felt
please help me
im desperate and really afraid
you are nott alone, trust me. everyone has felt depression before, but your symptoms are pretty strong. you have been feeling down for a long period of time, so i think what you need to do really try and go for some therapy. it does nott mean you are crazy..so many people think that. im taking psychology in college right now, and i see a lot of people are telling you it will get better, that doesnt really help sometimes. sometimes you need to talk to a professional therapist who is highly trained and can help you. so0o many people report they feel so much better after seeing a counselor. there is nothing wrong with it, and it will help you. just remember everyone goes through it and you need to seek help, it will be extremely beneficial and you can get back to living life happy again. if you are too afraid to go to your parents for help, definitely talk to a school counselor. maybe they can arrange for a meeting with your parents which would make them take this seriously. trust me, you arent alone, and going to a therapist for a couple of months does not make you weird or crazy at all, so dont think that sweetie. any more questions please inbox me. :)
i have a slight fear of judgement. ok, make that a BIG fear. so, i really like to sing and dance, and its been my dream for a long time to be famous like ashley tisdale, or another disney star. but i have the biggest fear, that someone is going to make fun of me, or judge me or something. i dont want to let that get in the way of my dreams, so how do i get over that fear?
sorry if its a stupid question....
its not a dumb question, i think you need to have confidence in yourself. think of the most popular and successful singers out there like justin timberlake, etc. he has a lot of fans, but a lot of people dont like his music. with every famous person you have the fans, and the people who dont like them. just accept it and be yourself, do your thing,and keep in mind you will have fans, but not the whole world. thats how it is with the most rich and famous singers in the world! so be confident in yourself, work hard, and you can do anything :)
Me and my boyfriend have a good past together.
well, he moved and now he said it feels like we're not together.
it doesn't feel the same like it use to, since he's so busy now.
how do i make this work?
i can't lose him, i can't.
i love this guy so much..and it hurts to hear that, and i just hafe to try to fix this.
help me please..
well i dont know a lot about your options. does he drive? do you drive? how far away are you? i know someoen who originally was from florida, moved to virginia to be with her boyfriend, and finally moved to ny so he can be with her. so they moved for each other. is that possible for you? is he close enough where your mom or his parents can drive him over for the weekend a couple times a month? does he drive? write me a question with more info so i can help you better please..if i helped you enough then great i hope it works out!