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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

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does nail polish removeor or nail polish get you high?well like i kno its not in metal health...but does it? my friends say it does but nvr to do it. Does it really. and what eles does?

I've never done that.. so I don't really know. If it does, its for like a second. Glue does, I used to do it in like 7th or 8th grade.. its literally only for a second. Literally. It's extremely extremely extremely dangerous. It kills your brain cells. It's honestly one of the most stupidest things you can ever do.

Exercising gives you a natural high. I don't know if you exercise or anything.. but at least for me, and most other people, it makes you feel really good afterward. So, if you really want to get a high feeling, that's probably the best way to do it, and to be safe.. haha.

Getting high is not what most people say it is at all.. it just makes you feel really mellow and chill. Not much fun.

I'm not going to lecture you, because, hopefully you already know how dangerous drugs are.. if you don't look it up on google.

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so im 15/f and i have never had not even 1 boyfriend!! im kinda shy which probbaly explains a bit. wondering how i can i guess get out of being shy? im only shy at skool but at home im jokeing and haveing fun!! i don't really no y? any thoughs about y?

Your only 15. Don't worry about it. Most girls that have boyfriends in high school/middle school [whatever your in] are just really big whores. if you really want a boyfriend then if you think any are cute in your classes or something & they sit by you, just talk to them casually. or meet some from your friends or at parties etc.

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how long should i wait untill i take a shower after i go tanning...



and i use the tingle lotion i dont know if u know what it is but it tingles while you tan but ya please let me know!

you go to tanning beds right? or is it spray on? i go to tanning beds.. i always wait like 6 hours.. i'm not sure if it matters though..

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People have always told me my whole life I was thin/ skinny/ had a great body.. etc. I was dating this guy and he was a real jerk and made me really insecure about my weight. He told me I wasnt as skinny as most girls he goes for and when I lost 10 lbs from the mono he gave me, he told me how much better I looked and how I shouldnt gain my weight back. That was summer, I've gained my weight back now. I don't know if it's because of him or what but I'm really insecure about my weight now. Is 113, c cup, and 5'5 normal? I swear I have a little fat on my stomach. It's sick. Do you know of any exercises I can do that target the lower stomach?(Crunches don't help!)

that's pretty skinny.. don't lose any weight. you're boyfriend was just a jerk. push ups & walking will help you lose weight though..

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ok my bf of like a yearish not really well ok in the summer time he went home (europe) for like three weeks and so on the last day he cheated on me he had sex with this girl and i knew it i had that gut feeling but i ignored it and by that time we stayed together for a good three months without breaking up and when he told me i was mad of course because he didnt tell me for the longest time then i was thinking why have sex with him now whats the point. then he told me it didnt mean anything and he didnt tell me becuase he didnt want to break up. so i feel all these feelings but i dont all at the same time. and i want to punch him in the face to think i should feel better if i did that so i am but i dont know if what i should do should i break up with him what like am i being dum about this or because it was so long ago i should let it go??? i want to do the right thing not to be stupid idk i need help . my heart hurts a little and i want to throw up but then it doesnt hurt and i dont want to throw up....

If I was in this situation.. I would break up with him. My reason why I would do this is because if I didn't break up with him, how could I trust him again? I would always be wondering, well is he lieing about where he was last night.. & so on.
Its up to you. How much do you trust him? If you don't trust him, the relationship will go no where. If you don't want to break up with him, don't. Who did he cheat on you with? Was it his ex girlfriend? or some one he once liked? If it was, I would.
If it was like someone random, then ehh. I don't know, your call. I hope you make a good descision that works best for you! :]

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well like last friday i met this boy who all my friends are friends with and ive never talked to him but i know who he was. well i went to lunch with my friend and we sat with him and started talking then last sunday he messaged me on myspace saying i was really cute and he couldnt wait to hang out. and everyday this week we would talk and he would call me sweetheart and stuff and yesterday i was with him for a block during school and he let me wear his hoodie so i took it home. and we were supposed to hang out this weekend, but now i cant but he hasnt asked me about it or anything. he like always talks to me and everything and he hasnt since yesterday..what do you tihnk

He likes you, its pretty obvious.

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HEY PEOPLE!
yeah, im 5'5 15 years old. And i weigh like 158, which i think is like really overweight, i would really like to be at 150, or 145. And I did this diet for 5 days like, 5 days. And it was kinda like the cabbage soup diet. It was where you could only eat all the soup and fruit you want. Well, i lost about 8lbs on it and i quit on the 5th day, because i passed out from not eating like anything, because where i was at, they didnt have anything, and i almost went to the hospital from lack of food and no sleep that night (i was with my friends the night before and got 3 hours of sleep) and now that im not on the diet. I feel extremely HUNGRY. Everytime I eat I want to eat like double of what i normally used to eat before i went on this diet. And I dont want to gain all the weight back. I really need some help. I dont know what to do really.

All you lost was water weight. Don't do diets like those. I used to do those, and it never did anything. Let me ask you a question, how much do you like meat? I'm a vegitarian, and if you be a vegetiaran correctly, you can lose a lotttt of weight. Its also better for you too..
But, I don't know if you like meat a lot, so if you want more details on that, leave a question about it in my inbox..

Try exercising. Do you like to dance? I love to dance. Where I live they play the radio non stop for an hour. I turn it on when they do that, and dance for an hour. Do you like to walk? Walking is really good excercise too. Try to eat healthy foods. Instead of chips, eat carrots. If you like love chips or something, and can't live without them, take a really small serving. Pretzels are a good snack that taste good, and are low in calorie. So is popcorn. (without the butter) Drink lotsss of water.

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so i used to have pretty bad acne, its almost all gone but ive noticed that its left these ugly looking red like scars. some of its kind of indented and i hate it! how can i get rid of this?

you have to go to a dermatologist..

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I love the whole idea of the world of fashion. And i would love to one day do something along those lines. However, I'm not extremely fashionable...i mean i am...like i can put 2 and 2 together, and i always look put together, and i do my best to look "fashionable" But i dont want to go to fashion school...b/c i can't design or anytthing like that. Is there any carreers that would suit me? (i'm a senior in high school and i'll be attending college next fall. Thanks so muchh!!

I forget what its called, but.. a person goes to fashion shows for like abercrombie or something, and then they take stuff from there and put it in certain stores and put outfits together.

So, maybe that would work for you?

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what are events people can do on halloween? has anyone been to "haunted house" parties? where theres a decorated haunted house and people just dancing inside? i have no idea what im talking about. someone mentioned it once..

Last year I had a huge halloween party at my house, I have woods behind my house, and we haunted them, and my cousins and stuff would scare us and stuff, and all my friends were really scared. it was really funny, and alot of fun. and then in my basement we like made it just like a big dance, it was like all black, and you couldn't see anyone, and it was alottttttt of fun. I think I had like over 200 people there? it was awesome.

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Ok i am 14 nd i have only had sex with one guy but 3 tmes 2 without a condom nd once with one i think i might be pregnat i have alot of the signs nd i am getting a prgnancy test in a couple days but what should i do ???

Well, thats not good. Anyways, get a few pregnancy test, just to make sure, and I would suggest first response..

If you find out your pregnant, I really really REALLY think you should tell your parents. They may be mad at first, but they will help you. They will help you make the best decision for you.

I hope your not pregnant.. next time, don't have sex without a condom..

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im 17 years old and pregnant. i just moved 900 miles away from my boyfriend and he came to visit me over the summer and thats when it happened. my mom doesnt want me to get an abortion because she doesnt believe in it. and my boyfriend and i know that were not ready to supply for a kid. so, my only option here would be adoption right? the thing is... i cant even imagene doing that. has anyone else been in my position? i mean i know i have to do whats best for me and the baby but giving up someone like that just seems impossible

I think you should consider open adoption. Have you talked to your mom about keeping it? Would she help you take care of it? If not, then open adoption would be a good idea. My one friend who is adopted always says how happy she is that she has people that care for her. She still sees her mom too. I think it would be incredibly hard giving away a baby too.

But, I would talk to your mom about it. Maybe their is something you can work out. You have like 9 months to think about it. Just slow down, and figure out whats best for you.

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Okay well im going into my freshmann year and im really nervous.But still exited,So like does anything happen in freshmann year? when is homecomeing?? And is freshmann year like really hard?? what goes on someone tell me??

Freshman year is AMAZING. Homecoming is in the fall, and most freshman just go with big groups of friends. You will most likly make alot of new friends throughout the year, and not keep any of the old ones, except maybe some of your best friends. (Depends how big your school is) Its alot different the middle school. The teachers are pretty easy on you. Its alot of fun. You gotta be outgoing though, because in my lunch, I didn't know ANYONE. and I was like freaking out, and then these girls came up to me, and were like wanna sit with us? And it was good.

Its fun, some people love it, others cant wait to get out.

Do not slack off freshman year! If you do your GPA will be sooooooo bad. Its really hard to bring up your cummalitive GPA. So, try hard! You'll regret it if you don't..

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School starts tomorrow and I'm exstreamly nervous. I always get nervous and I don't know why, I hate being nervous but thats just how I am, I was wondering is there a way to boost my confidence up from not being nervous about going to the eighth grade??? I'm so nervous it feels like I'm going to throw up. Please help me.

Just relax. Its not a big deal, you know people there right? You've got friends right? If you do, then it'll be fine. For freshman year I drove with my one friend to school.. so maybe you could do that? Or if your riding a bus, find someone in your grade, and walk in with them and stuff. You just gotta remember.. theres alot of other people just like you, who are nervous.

Be confident with who you are.

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im fifteen and my boyfriend and i have had a thing for a while and now he doesnt really bother making plans with me or starting any conversations. before we started going out he would try a lot harder and it seemed like he cared a lot more. and now its like he is taking me for granted. i dont know how to talk to him about it because he might not take me seriously and i dont want to seem ridiculous. i dont want to break up or anything but how can i change this?

That's because you were in the honey moon phase. Now, hes used to you, and used to talking to you, and knows all about you. Like most relationships, it gets boring.. if that was me, and I really wanted to stay with him, I would think of something fun we could do, something different, something we've never really tried before. Depending where you live, theres a lot of different things you guys could do. Like one time me and this one boyfriend went to his country club, and he taught me how to play golf. It was fun, and he taught me something, and it was just cool.

hope i helped!

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whats a reasonable amount of weight to lose in a month? im five three and weigh 121 pounds. im looking to get in a little better shape for a wedding im going to. thanks.

i lose a pound a day.. i feel fine. & have plenty of energy.. soo, i guess it depends on you. probably a pound or two a week is ok. and see how it affects you.

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My best friend who i used to like lies to me and blows me off half the time. Today during school i asked her to hang out and she told me she had to clean her house. Later on i went to the carnival in town and i see her there. Everytime i look in her direction she hides from me, i look over and she hides behind her friendsor turns around. Why does she do this?

She doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, for whatever reason. Find some new friends, she sucks if she ditchses you to hang out with other people, and doesn't invite you.

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I have this friend. She is amazing dont get me wrong, but she has another friend. I am not mentioning any names. She tries to hang out with both of us but when we are together her other friend always pushes me out of the way. Now everytime i want to hang out with her i have to hang out with her and her other friend or i dont hang out with her at all. What should i do? should i back off and let her other friend take over our friend ship? i dont know.. Help me!

No, no no. I think your friend is trying to get you guys all to be friends, because she likes you both so much, shes hoping you both will also become good friends. Her other best friend just probably doesn't want to lose your best friend as a friend. she probably feels in ways the same way you do. Try just getting to know her friend.

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15/f... if that helps?

lately it seems like i am losing my best friend.. she had liked this guy a lot for a long time and i knew for a fact that he liked her too, but he was too shy to ask her. i was friends with both of them so one day at a party i was sitting with the guy, lets call him BIll, and i was like SUZY [my friend] really likes you and i know for a fact that you like her so stop being stupid and just do something about it. needless to say, they ended up hooking up by the end of the night. it was all really good at first because it was good knowing that i helped them get together and they were both so happy. but now it seems like she has no time for me. me and my other best friend... me, suzy, and this other girl were all really close. well me and my other best friend, lets call her JAN, have noticed that she doesnt really hang out with us, and when she does she is very distant and always talking about BILL. i miss her so much and i just dont know what to do. everytime i call her and ask her to hang out she is always like well can BILL come. and i feel bad so i say yes, and then BILL ends up getting on my nerves majorly. i feel so crappy because it is my fault that they are together and i wish that i could be happy for my friend... but i just feel so left out.

i am sorry this is long, but i really just need some advice as to what to do. i keep telling myself that eventaully they will get sick of spending every second together, but it doesnt seem like that will ever happen. i dont know how much longer i can take him!

please help!

They are in the 'honeymoon phase' where everything is perfect, and its just the two of them. They will get sick of hanging out with eachother, I do't know how long they've been going out, but usually after a month, or two of the most, that phase is over, and I mean just like ask her to sleep over or soemthing, and then tell her that you want to talk about other stuff besides bill. and tell her your really happy for her, its just you miss her.

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i have this friend, lets call her A. we're pretty good friends, but shes's more um...open to guys than me. don't get me wrong i can flirt and be very friendly with guys but she like sits on their laps and hooks up alot. she's really pretty.

heres my problem:
i feel like whenever i go somewhere and meet a guy with my other friends he supposedly tells my friends he "likes" me and wanted to go on a date or something. when i hang out with her the guy told my friends he "likes" her and denied ever liking me. shes really nice to me but she hooks up with alot of guys and she has hooked up with one of our good friend's guy (they werent officially going out but she knew she liked him) im kinda scared cause i dont want her to do that with this guy i really like, i think he likes me too and im afraid she'll ruin it because shes really pretty and a bit more easier than me. what should i do?

17/f
incase you were wondering.

Tell her you really like him, and you think he likes you. and just tell her how you feel.

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