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losing my best friend..
15/f... if that helps?
lately it seems like i am losing my best friend.. she had liked this guy a lot for a long time and i knew for a fact that he liked her too, but he was too shy to ask her. i was friends with both of them so one day at a party i was sitting with the guy, lets call him BIll, and i was like SUZY [my friend] really likes you and i know for a fact that you like her so stop being stupid and just do something about it. needless to say, they ended up hooking up by the end of the night. it was all really good at first because it was good knowing that i helped them get together and they were both so happy. but now it seems like she has no time for me. me and my other best friend... me, suzy, and this other girl were all really close. well me and my other best friend, lets call her JAN, have noticed that she doesnt really hang out with us, and when she does she is very distant and always talking about BILL. i miss her so much and i just dont know what to do. everytime i call her and ask her to hang out she is always like well can BILL come. and i feel bad so i say yes, and then BILL ends up getting on my nerves majorly. i feel so crappy because it is my fault that they are together and i wish that i could be happy for my friend... but i just feel so left out.
i am sorry this is long, but i really just need some advice as to what to do. i keep telling myself that eventaully they will get sick of spending every second together, but it doesnt seem like that will ever happen. i dont know how much longer i can take him!
please help!
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They are in the 'honeymoon phase' where everything is perfect, and its just the two of them. They will get sick of hanging out with eachother, I do't know how long they've been going out, but usually after a month, or two of the most, that phase is over, and I mean just like ask her to sleep over or soemthing, and then tell her that you want to talk about other stuff besides bill. and tell her your really happy for her, its just you miss her.
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aha my name is suzy :D.
anyways, the best thing you can do is be straight up with your friend. tell her basically what you told us, that she's drifting away and that ever since she got a boyfriend, he's been her world. tell her that she needs to make some time for her friends, you guys miss her a lot. suggest a day once a week where you guys have a girls night in, or out whatever you prefer. this one day will bring you guys closer if you keep doing it every week. everyone has their own lives, but it's nice to have a day to catch up with your best friends.
hope this helps (:
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hey iv gone through the same thing. try talking to your friend explain how u feel to her and if u already have and things dont change just relax because eventually they will break up and she will really need a true friend to be there for her.
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well, i've gone through exactly the same thing! and i just told my friend i missed her! but if your not all that confident, then be subtle and ask her to stay at yours for a girly night in or something! then once she's at your house slip in to tthe conversation casually that you miss doing things just the two of you!!!!! x
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Its hard when your best friend gets a bf but you have to realize that she really cares about him and thxs to you there together i think you should tell her how you feel and im sure things will get better trust me on this ive gone through this before.
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